Forget About How Long You've Been at This: Start Enjoying the Struggle

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Hi Warriors!

I see so many posts and comments from people expressing their frustration about how long they've been trying without seeing any success.

Totally normal human reaction, but it's also sabotaging you. Let me share what I realized today and see if it helps.

Some of you know that I grew up thin and then ballooned into Jabba the Hutt for about the past 15 years. I've tried every program (like you've tried courses) and I'd hit a wall, get stuck and quit, hoping to try something else.

I got fatter and you maybe got a little more broke.

Both of us are sitting here pissed off wondering what the secret to longevity and success is with our two problems - mine being blubber, yours being lack of success.

So I decided a short while back (I can't remember the exact date but not too long ago) to give it everything I've got until I couldn't go anymore - like a final fireworks scene or something.

I did the following all at once:

1. Signed up for personal paid training at my gym and a 60-day weight loss challenge.
2. Started seeing a counselor specifically for my food issues.
3. Started reading mindset hardening inspiration (David Goggins to be exact - I Fing love him)

Goggins had the biggest impact so far because he's helped me train my mind to "go cold." Emotionless almost. He taught me that the past and future don't matter. Only today. Only right now. This moment.

Is this the moment where I hit snooze and don't go to the gym or smirk at my exhaustion like a psycho who enjoys the pain?

Well I've finally decided to smirk like a psycho so to speak. I NOW, after implementing this mindset, finally understand that looking back all the time at how many years I'd failed, or looking forward to see how long it would take BOTH sabotaged me.

Who the F cares how long it took or how long it will take from here? All that matters is right now, I'm at the gym doing what needs to be done, period.

I wasted so much time on that - not being present.

All I focus on now is enjoying the pain of my struggle. Once you can find fulfillment in that, you win. Small example... the other night I was heading off to bed and there was some fudge sitting there and my mind instantly went, "Get a sliver - just a sliver, to take the edge off."

Immediately, I got that weak mindset in my sights and shot it down. I literally felt an evil smile creep across my face as I went to bed with my mouth convulsing like Linda Blair in the Exorcist because it didn't get its way.

If I'm on the stationary bike at the gym and my ass starts hurting because I'm on mile 13? I smirk and enjoy that pain because it means progress.

The feeling of finally being in control is exhilarating.

All the Navy SEAL mindset stuff Goggins shares and the hardness he possesses mentally is what's making this whole process different this time around.

If you can let your head hit the pillow every night knowing you gave it 110% (and no less) in this business - you worked SMART, you worked HARD and you worked a LOT, then you won't be wallowing in these feelings of worthlessness and worry.

I take the stairs at the gym now even though it's easier to take the elevator due to a torn meniscus. I'm capable. So I'm enjoying that pain.

Might not be advice that helps everyone, but it might helps a couple of you who need that specific click in the mind. I've had this mindset with business forEVER. I go to bed after exhausting my efforts every day. And the results are worth it.

What plan of attack can you use to succeed in your business? Goggins says you have to do a live autopsy to see where you're screwing up and then fix it.

Push yourself HARD and adopt that insane mindset and be unstoppable.

Tiff
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  • Profile picture of the author laurencewins
    Thank you very much for writing starting this thread, Tiff.
    I have a lot of hurdles (health among them) and I admit that there are days when I feel like I'm on one of those circular things mice run on but get nowhere fast.

    I needed a good kick in the guts to do things I should do to become a better person and you have just done that.

    I'm going to make some changes, starting today!!!
    The first step is to get my notepad and make a list.
    I have been doing that but I need to treat it more seriously.

    While there are things that may slow me down, I won't let them stop me!

    Thank you Tiff!!!
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  • Profile picture of the author tagiscom
    Yes, Tiff, nice one.

    It took me 9 years to find something online that actually works.

    And l have setbacks and other things happening, but l keep ploughing on, knowing that l will be better off in the end.

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  • Profile picture of the author TrickyDick
    Tiffany,

    I appreciate your honesty...

    In my experience, the most difficult thing is being honest with yourself...

    Are you focusing on finishing one thing.... or jumping from "shiny object" to "shiny object?"

    Are you doing whatever it takes... or are you giving it a 1/2 assed "try?"

    Are you "gaining" real skills (Copywriting, Writing, etc.)... or chasing "loopholes?"

    Are you focused on learning.... or earning?

    Answering these questions honestly will help you see where you really are...

    TD
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  • Profile picture of the author ryanbiddulph
    Maintaining presence is huge Tiff. Good stuff.

    For me, diving into and feeling my fears, and clearing out these energies, helped me do stuff from a place of love and fun and presence, so I stopped making so many excuses and connecting to so many outcomes and simply gave free, digging deeper, having more fun, and the requisite success flowed in - over time - but I don't care much about the outcomes.

    This is the power of being present; the moment is where all your power is, and folks regretting the past and worrying about the future will wonder how in the heck you do it. You do it by being in the moment.

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  • Profile picture of the author BradKasten
    Way to go Tiff!

    What an awesome inspirational post. I love your honesty and your kick-ass attitude.

    Mindset and perseverance are everything. I haven't heard of David Goggins but I'm going to check him out, he sounds like a badass.

    I've been doing a lot of mental and physical training the last several months and love where I'm currently at.

    There were many many times I wanted to cheat, like hit the snooze or eat something bad. Sometimes I did, (I didn't beat myself up about it, I just made a commitment to try harder) but the more I focused and worked at it the less I cheated and after a while, I found that I don't want to cheat anymore.

    It takes focused persistant action to do anything worthwhile. Great job getting started and following through.

    Congratulations,
    Brad
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  • Profile picture of the author Tradedog
    It's the working 'smart' thing thats missing with me.
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    • Profile picture of the author TiffanyLambert
      Originally Posted by Tradedog View Post

      It's the working 'smart' thing thats missing with me.
      That's a good point. So what does that mean to you?

      For me, I'll share my thoughts on working smart...

      Working smart means not just showing up to my computer and randomly working. I sit down to jot down plans and tasks before every project and every night.

      It means getting my important tasks done first - customer service above all else (any emails that need to be answered, etc.) then money tasks.

      It means investing time and money into my education about a few things - strategies, tools, and my niches. Smart buying means I first see if I can spend the money without hesitation. If I can't afford for it to be a loss, I don't buy from someone I don't know. If I can, I might risk it. I do research on the person before spending - a quick peek at who they are, what kind of reputation they have, etc. I also don't spend until I know I can implement soon, if not that very second.

      Working smart means I do things on a bite sized scale, to keep overwhelm down. I don't every stress about buying and not using courses because I go through them - a page or module at a time if I'm in a time crunch. But I follow through on it.

      Working smart means I pursue things that I enjoy because if there's one lesson I learned the hard way years ago, it's that if I hate it, I will do everything in my power to avoid it.

      Working smart also means doing things I am nervous about - whether it's technical, networking, whatever. I put myself out there and do it afraid.

      Tiff
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  • Gotta say, as a hapless wraith, prolly I would smoke neat cellulite if'n it didn't steam my apartment out tossin' it in no hookah.

    But I appreciate yr diligence regardin' achievable landmarks & small successes.

    Evry self-levitatin' plateau rises only by degrees-at-a-time, I guess, an' prolly here in Mind Warriors, evrywan wants superstratospheric action aheada actshwlly steppin' out anyplace pre-plateau .. or even kinda level.

    Was it Walt Whitman said, "from the minusculest attainable tasks may mighty imponderables be lassoed the f*ck to the ground?"

    No ... waitaminute -- mebbe that was Beethoven.
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