I see so many posts and comments from people expressing their frustration about how long they've been trying without seeing any success.
Totally normal human reaction, but it's also sabotaging you. Let me share what I realized today and see if it helps.
Some of you know that I grew up thin and then ballooned into Jabba the Hutt for about the past 15 years. I've tried every program (like you've tried courses) and I'd hit a wall, get stuck and quit, hoping to try something else.
I got fatter and you maybe got a little more broke.
Both of us are sitting here pissed off wondering what the secret to longevity and success is with our two problems - mine being blubber, yours being lack of success.
So I decided a short while back (I can't remember the exact date but not too long ago) to give it everything I've got until I couldn't go anymore - like a final fireworks scene or something.
I did the following all at once:
1. Signed up for personal paid training at my gym and a 60-day weight loss challenge.
2. Started seeing a counselor specifically for my food issues.
3. Started reading mindset hardening inspiration (David Goggins to be exact - I Fing love him)
Goggins had the biggest impact so far because he's helped me train my mind to "go cold." Emotionless almost. He taught me that the past and future don't matter. Only today. Only right now. This moment.
Is this the moment where I hit snooze and don't go to the gym or smirk at my exhaustion like a psycho who enjoys the pain?
Well I've finally decided to smirk like a psycho so to speak. I NOW, after implementing this mindset, finally understand that looking back all the time at how many years I'd failed, or looking forward to see how long it would take BOTH sabotaged me.
Who the F cares how long it took or how long it will take from here? All that matters is right now, I'm at the gym doing what needs to be done, period.
I wasted so much time on that - not being present.
All I focus on now is enjoying the pain of my struggle. Once you can find fulfillment in that, you win. Small example... the other night I was heading off to bed and there was some fudge sitting there and my mind instantly went, "Get a sliver - just a sliver, to take the edge off."
Immediately, I got that weak mindset in my sights and shot it down. I literally felt an evil smile creep across my face as I went to bed with my mouth convulsing like Linda Blair in the Exorcist because it didn't get its way.
If I'm on the stationary bike at the gym and my ass starts hurting because I'm on mile 13? I smirk and enjoy that pain because it means progress.
The feeling of finally being in control is exhilarating.
All the Navy SEAL mindset stuff Goggins shares and the hardness he possesses mentally is what's making this whole process different this time around.
If you can let your head hit the pillow every night knowing you gave it 110% (and no less) in this business - you worked SMART, you worked HARD and you worked a LOT, then you won't be wallowing in these feelings of worthlessness and worry.
I take the stairs at the gym now even though it's easier to take the elevator due to a torn meniscus. I'm capable. So I'm enjoying that pain.
Might not be advice that helps everyone, but it might helps a couple of you who need that specific click in the mind. I've had this mindset with business forEVER. I go to bed after exhausting my efforts every day. And the results are worth it.
What plan of attack can you use to succeed in your business? Goggins says you have to do a live autopsy to see where you're screwing up and then fix it.
Push yourself HARD and adopt that insane mindset and be unstoppable.