You are where you want to be right now.
On the surface, that statement prob'ly doesn't set off alarm bells in your noggin.
But it should.,
Everyone (more or less) is exactly where they want to be.
A lot of people out here are trying to create an Internet business.
They could be doing this for 5 years and are still struggling.
What is the reason for this?
Is it because they are not talented enough; or smart enough?
It's not, right?
In fact, the reason their business is not growing, is because they are getting exactly what they want.
Instead of writing every day, they'll read.
Instead of creating videos, they'll watch videos on YouTube.
Instead of taking action, they study some more.
The latter in all these cases is a WANT; not a NEED.
Almost everyone is where they are right now because they do what they WANT to do, rather than doing what they NEED to do.
You, me, everyone else, are masters at what we do.
We are ALL successful.
Overweight people are successful at getting fat.
Broke people are successful at being broke.
Overwhelmed people are successful at studying.
So today, just take a little time out to congratulate yourself for getting EXACTLY what you wanted out of life.
If you're not happy with your progress, then ask yourself why you chose to not do the things that will move you forward, and instead chose to do the things that didn't.
I know the reason.
So do you.
You chose the path of non growth because that path is easier and less stressful.
That's what procrastination is; a way for your brain to help you avoid stress.
So understand that you ARE a master at what you do.
If that's avoiding doing the work, giving into fear, or just pissing about on validationbook and YouTube, then congrats, you're doing a smashing job of it.
You're getting out of life exactly what you WANT.
It might not be what you NEED.
But it is what you WANT.
Denying this changes nothing.
Ever hear the saying that you should never sell people what they need, because people ONLY buy what they want?
Well don't fool yourself into thinking that it JUST applies to sales.
If people buy what they want, and not what they need, it also means they do what they want, and not what they need.
Accept it right now, that you are exactly where you want to be.
What does that say about your character?
I'm not judging here, believe me. There are many things I want to do that doesn't help me grow, and sometimes I just can't resist.
All I'm pointing out here is that excuses are rarely justified.
Because like it or not, you ARE getting what you want, and usually it's because you push the hard and uncomfortable tasks out into the future. I'll do it later, tomorrow, next week, whatever.
I honestly couldn't tell you how many times I've planned on quitting cigarettes over the years. Usually (nearly always) it'd be a Friday, and I'd make the pledge that "This Coming Monday, I'm off the damn things for good".
Ever been there?
Maybe you haven't with cigarettes, but you have with other bad habits, right?
Anyway, one Friday, I turned to the other half and said, "this time, come Monday, I'm off the smokes, no question".
Inevitably, I was 100% convinced I was going to do it, EVERY SINGLE TIME, because in that moment, that's how I felt.
Optimistic and determined.
Tina (my good half), hearing me babble this nonsense so many times, said, "if you really want to give them up, why not do it right now?"
You know what happened to that optimism, right then, in that very moment?
It vanished, and was replaced with dread; with the feeling I was being deprived of something I have become dependent on; a crux if you will.
"No", I'd usually say, "I'll do it Monday, I need to prepare myself first".
What complete and utter nonsense!
The fact is, how you feel when you say you're going to do something THAT ISN'T RIGHT NOW, is NOT how you'll feel when the time comes around to actually doing it.
In fact, that feeling of being deprived - of feeling a sense of dread if I was to give up the smokes right then - is the same feeling I felt when Monday came around.
After all, when Monday comes, it's still going to be RIGHT NOW, isn't it?
It's just a neat little trick our minds play on us to justify our current situation.
My brain came up with the perfect way for me to get the feeling of giving up smoking, making me feel good, feel motivated, feel like I was going to accomplish something, WITHOUT doing a damn thing.
The little trickster had been doing it for years without me even noticing that I was being tricked.
And always, Monday would turn into Tuesday, or Wednesday, or any bloody day that wasn't TODAY.
Crafty little bugger.
Next time you say you're going to start a new routine, or give up a bad habit on a Monday, or tomorrow, or any time that ISN'T RIGHT NOW, monitor how you feel.
You'll feel good.
Like you are going to accomplish something useful.
That's the lie that keeps many stuck in their lives.
Now, if you stop in that moment, and ask yourself, "what if I was to start this new habit, or whatever it is, right now?"
Then monitor how you feel.
You'll notice that you DO NOT feel as good. You don't feel in control. You don't feel optimistic.
That, my friend, is how you REALLY feel about the situation.
All else is just a trick you're playing on yourself.
A devious trick almost everyone falls for.
This is why new years resolutions don't stick.
Why would they?
If you can't make the changes right now, it's because you don't feel like it, right now. And if you don't feel like it right now, what makes you think it'll be any different when tomorrow comes round?
After all, when tomorrow comes, it'll still be RIGHT NOW, which you have already established is NOT THE RIGHT TIME.
The future doesn't exist and it's a fantastic, absolutely brilliant trick our minds play on us so we can feel good while still doing nothing.
You get me?
You will ALWAYS think you'll be better off tomorrow, or next week, or next month, or in 5 - 10 years time.
You were born into a world where "time" existed as a real thing.
We made it up to help us categorize and organize things.
If I believe tomorrow (the future) is a separate event to right now, then isn't it plausible to think that when tomorrow comes, things will, or at least can, be better?
And isn't it also plausible to believe that if I don't feel like doing something now, then chances are that come tomorrow, I prob'ly "will" feel like doing it?
That right there, is the illusion.
After all, the future always looks brighter until it inevitably turns back into the NOW.
And let's not forget, it's the NOW that's the problem.
It's the NOW in which you don't want to put the work in.
It's the NOW that gets pushed forward.
"Tomorrow is another day" - we hear people say this all the bloody time. But we never, ever question whether this is true, and because we never question it, we make "automatic" decisions on an almost daily basis to put off things we don't feel like doing, until a later time.
Right now, and the future, are the same event, not separate events.
Tomorrow is a word, a concept, it doesn't mean anything.
It's can be quite silly to put things off now, until later, simply because "later" only exists as a placeholder for when it occupies the "now" again. And funnily enough you actually end up in the same place you so desperately tried to get away from.
The future doesn't exist. The only thing that exists is now and our memory of what happened in the past. But because we invented the idea of a future, we're the only animal that realized we can affect the future by what we do today - David Suzuki