Mindset: How to Forget your Past Yourself and Apply to new One which works in IM

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If you want to achieve new results you have to be a new person.

No shortucts.

And if you belong like most of us from a family of employee, you're surrounded of friends who complain about daily jobs, and who have poverty mindset...

...you have a problem

So you need to do 2 critical changes and improvements:

1) Change your Identity
2) Overcome Social Pressure

Change Your Identity

Yes, your identity is not fixed. It's something you have built through your entire life and it can and shall be changes.
You need to acquire the identity of Entrepeneur

Which is drastically different from the employee.

How to change it?

Use the 30/30 Rule: Read for 30 minutes every day "Think and Grow Rich" of Wallace. And for 30 minutes listen to a good entrepeneur podcast, like Anthony RObbyns.
For 30 days. If you fail, count again from the beginning.

Use auto-hypnosis: for 11 minutes before sleeping, repeat a positive statement, in present tense, while breathing, inhaling from nose, and exhaling from mouth.

Write a realistic goal and read it everyday. write on paper, not in smartphone.

How to Overcome Social Pressure

There's no way to do that, i'm sorry. Noone can cope with social pressure.

You have to choose the ISOLATION : expecially in the beginning of your starting internet marketing business, you must not to go out to disco, to bar, with friends who are not successful entrepeneurs.

And if you live with parents and you're not underage: go away, or don't talk to them about work, politics, etc.

You have to pay the price: how can you become a successful entrepeneur if you stay all the time with people who advice you to go slow, dont take risk etc? It cannot be possible.

You have to isolate and DONT' WASTE MONEY in stupid things like go out for dinner, cofee at thebar, etc.

Every penny can be used for ads: which will make you richer, the ads or the coffee?

Think of it.
#apply #forget #mindset #past #works
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  • Profile picture of the author Kay King
    And if you belong like most of us from a family of employee, you're surrounded of friends who complain about daily jobs, and who have poverty mindset...
    What if you belong to a family of professionals who are employees who make a lot of money? Not everyone with a job has a poverty mindset or complains daily.

    Use the 30/30 Rule: Read for 30 minutes every day "Think and Grow Rich" of Wallace. And for 30 minutes listen to a good entrepeneur podcast, like Anthony RObbyns.For 30 days. If you fail, count again from the beginning.
    Honestly, I think I would die of boredom long before 30 days was up. By all means, read TAGR - and then move on to more current information. If you need 'motivational speeches', watch a Robbins video or seminar...and then get busy on YOUR stuff. The actual '30 30 rule' is based on lightning.... I've known many successful people who (at one time) read through TAGR - I don't know of any successful people who read it day after day or refer to it consistently as 'an answer'.

    Use auto-hypnosis: for 11 minutes before sleeping, repeat a positive statement, in present tense, while breathing, inhaling from nose, and exhaling from mouth.
    If you are going to recommend self hypnosis - should understand it better than that.

    DONT' WASTE MONEY in stupid things like go out for dinner, cofee at thebar, etc.
    I believe you can build and maintain a profitable business AND have a fulfilling life. IF you have to isolate yourself, put every penny into the business and have no fun at all....what is the point in the first place?
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    • Profile picture of the author Odahh
      Originally Posted by Kay King View Post

      What if you belong to a family of professionals who are employees who make a lot of money? Not everyone with a job has a poverty mindset or complains daily.

      Honestly, I think I would die of boredom long before 30 days was up. By all means, read TAGR - and then move on to more current information. If you need 'motivational speeches', watch a Robbins video or seminar...and then get busy on YOUR stuff. The actual '30 30 rule' is based on lightning.... I've known many successful people who (at one time) read through TAGR - I don't know of any successful people who read it day after day or refer to it consistently as 'an answer'.

      If you are going to recommend self hypnosis - should understand it better than that.

      I believe you can build and maintain a profitable business AND have a fulfilling life. IF you have to isolate yourself, put every penny into the business and have no fun at all....what is the point in the first place?
      i don't usually fully agree with anyones post.. but there is a first time for everything ..

      i'm convinced the read 30 minutes a day advice .. is used my self improvment advice just to get people to buy more self improvment books ..

      as you said.. read tagar..then read current information..or listen to podcast or watch you tube by the hundreds of successfull people interviewing each other

      and isolation can be deadly .. or very damaging in the long term ..
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        Originally Posted by Odahh View Post

        i don't usually fully agree with anyones post.. but there is a first time for everything ..
        Agreed. I need whatever Kay's smoking.
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      Originally Posted by Kay King View Post

      Honestly, I think I would die of boredom long before 30 days was up. By all means, read TAGR - and then move on to more current information. If you need 'motivational speeches', watch a Robbins video or seminar...and then get busy on YOUR stuff. The actual '30 30 rule' is based on lightning.... I've known many successful people who (at one time) read through TAGR - I don't know of any successful people who read it day after day or refer to it consistently as 'an answer'.
      What's this TAGR...searched for it online but could not locate. Any chance you can link me to it?
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    I might need a disco intervention.
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  • Profile picture of the author Odahh
    Why is the IM concept stuck in the mindset of 2003 internet .. focused on building email lists and buying adwords ..adds ..

    with this really horrible formula for success online .. lock yourself in a room with the computer stop talking to all your friends .. stop eating anything that tastes good stop sleeping eight hours a night ..and commit yourself to suck ..i mean success ..then take on a general view of humanity as a bunch of lazy losers .. everyone you know .. is a looser ..because they are not a billionaire or something .. or work at a job .. and have the nerve to complain ..

    while the person following this forula ..is chasing the dream of finding that automated way to internet riched so they can make money while they sleep and live the laptop lifestyle ...

    the path to suck not success

    it is 2018.. so many more ways to make money online and offline and most businesses are marketing online in some fashion.. so you are not a special butterfly wit this internet marketing thing ..
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  • Profile picture of the author Jonathan 2.0
    Hi John

    You have some good concepts in action ... Including the 30/30 rule and Hypnosis. That's an awesome start (IMO). Remember to balance your Social Life with your Business Life.
    Thanks for the insightful post.
    : )

    If you ever want to chat about IM/Business just PM me

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    For me it has always been this: when I face a deep fear, and feel it, and let it go, I let go the past and focus on having fun and helping people in the present. Focusing on that inspires me to create helpful content and meet new folks, and also helps me not be addicted to outcomes, which accelerates my success.

    Amazing how just feeling fear - however unpleasant - and really sitting with it, clears the fear and changes your life.

    Your routine with reading and soaking up TSOGR can definitely unearth some energies to help you feel and release fears.
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    Originally Posted by JohnVianny View Post

    If you want to achieve new results you have to be a new person.

    No shortucts.

    And if you belong like most of us from a family of employee, you're surrounded of friends who complain about daily jobs, and who have poverty mindset...

    ...you have a problem

    So you need to do 2 critical changes and improvements:

    1) Change your Identity
    2) Overcome Social Pressure

    Change Your Identity

    Yes, your identity is not fixed. It's something you have built through your entire life and it can and shall be changes.
    You need to acquire the identity of Entrepeneur

    Which is drastically different from the employee.

    How to change it?

    Use the 30/30 Rule: Read for 30 minutes every day "Think and Grow Rich" of Wallace. And for 30 minutes listen to a good entrepeneur podcast, like Anthony RObbyns.
    For 30 days. If you fail, count again from the beginning.

    Use auto-hypnosis: for 11 minutes before sleeping, repeat a positive statement, in present tense, while breathing, inhaling from nose, and exhaling from mouth.

    Write a realistic goal and read it everyday. write on paper, not in smartphone.

    How to Overcome Social Pressure

    There's no way to do that, i'm sorry. Noone can cope with social pressure.

    You have to choose the ISOLATION : expecially in the beginning of your starting internet marketing business, you must not to go out to disco, to bar, with friends who are not successful entrepeneurs.

    And if you live with parents and you're not underage: go away, or don't talk to them about work, politics, etc.

    You have to pay the price: how can you become a successful entrepeneur if you stay all the time with people who advice you to go slow, dont take risk etc? It cannot be possible.

    You have to isolate and DONT' WASTE MONEY in stupid things like go out for dinner, cofee at thebar, etc.

    Every penny can be used for ads: which will make you richer, the ads or the coffee?

    Think of it.
    Funny l just thought that working hard, ignoring others, keeping away from pet ownership and cattle prodding yourself to do what needs to be done would do it?

    Read 30 minutes, lol, l have already read a box of those sorts of books, and with the exception of Rich Dad, and Think and Grow Rich, pretty useless, (l won't read Wallace and Gromit, lol).

    Same with listening, l would get seriously p**** off if l wasted an hour a day doing that.

    Auto hypnoses, same done that and then some, (reading a list twice a day, vision boards, looking at pictures, etc) and it motivates, and may help you with a good idea or two, but that is about it.

    It is also self defeating as if you read a long list every night, your subconscious will figure out after several months of not getting substantially closer to that BMW, that it is a lie.

    I drool over a tropical beach in the paper, and occasionally watch something similar, and see a luxery car thinking that it is mine, but that is about it, any more and it wastes time and will self implode on itself.

    Vision boards, etc are self help author candy, and may help, but not long term.

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    "One who takes control of his mind, takes control of the direction of his life" This has always been something I hold on to firmly. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
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    IT seems that NOONE HAS UNDERSTOOD the SENSE OF THE POST.

    Just 2 points:

    1) ISOLATION is for the BEGINNING: i mean, you have to shift your mentality and the people you were with reflect the mentality you had, once you shifted you will find new people.
    And you have to focus, so no distraction or demotivation coming from others.

    2) MONEY in disco, bar etc: ok, it's a struggle to not have fun like before. But if it was easy, everyone will succeed. You need to save your money for what it has to do: ads, course, etc.

    2) MIND AND BRAINWASH: The motivational audios, podcast, etc is for STICK TO THE PLAN, they does not do anything by themselves, they work only if you take action to make you focused, more involved and motivated.
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      Originally Posted by JohnVianny View Post

      IT seems that NOONE HAS UNDERSTOOD the SENSE OF THE POST.

      Just 2 points:

      1) ISOLATION is for the BEGINNING: i mean, you have to shift your mentality and the people you were with reflect the mentality you had, once you shifted you will find new people.
      And you have to focus, so no distraction or demotivation coming from others.

      2) MONEY in disco, bar etc: ok, it's a struggle to not have fun like before. But if it was easy, everyone will succeed. You need to save your money for what it has to do: ads, course, etc.

      2) MIND AND BRAINWASH: The motivational audios, podcast, etc is for STICK TO THE PLAN, they does not do anything by themselves, they work only if you take action to make you focused, more involved and motivated.
      Ok, that is getting closer to reality.

      Nothing wrong with living in a cave for up to 5 years, but not forever.

      The two kids that created Doom, spent a few months locked in an apartment, living off pizzas, and yeah, one bought a Ferrari, with Doom written on it, lol.

      Similar stories of kids slaving away and sleeping near their computers to create wealth online, for years on end, also happen.


      Yeah, money, don't waste money on upgrading phones, or anything else for that matter, it just p*** away money like nothing else.

      An example is my watch, which l bought in 1997 or around the year 2000, and has been constantly running for almost 20 years. It recently broke or broke beyond repair, (it was digital and the chip is acting up).

      And my phone, 5 years and still working, (apart from the headpnones).

      A smartphone, probably $700 or more to buy or twice that every 2 years to buy as a plan, and update that every few years. Not including the cost of connecting to the internet.


      Motivation, ok, there is that, but it still is a dog chasing its tail.

      You get up, look at the beach house you want, and before going to bed. It does motivate you, and such, but it also p***s you off when months roll by and you don't cover much ground.

      Then months turn into years, and one project is history and you have begun something new.

      Then after enough time and enough failure you think screw this, ditch the images, and Aniks motivational videos, and just work hard!

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        Originally Posted by tagiscom View Post

        Nothing wrong with living in a cave for up to 5 years, but not forever.
        Really? Does that mean you envision leaving yours, someday. :-)
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          • Profile picture of the author Richard Essi
            People evolve, people change. Character evolves and changes through the development and implementation of new habits.

            Personality??

            That's a different story. You can keep your personality and change your character. You can keep your personality and change your perspective on things.

            If you have a funny personality, why should you stop being funny if you need to be an entrepreneur? why not be a "funny entrepreneur" who has fun! : )

            Seriously though, I understand the OP.

            It is your pathway, it is what works for you.

            Some people need to listen to people like Tony Robbins, Robin Sharma, Jim Rohn etc...
            I personally listen to lots of audio and read a lot when I travel, as I travel quite a bit.

            What I have discovered is that it changes my inner dialogue, and just keeps my mind stimulated and thinking.

            Whether you listen to a podcast or a video or you are reading TAGR, the truth is you ARE listening to SOMETHING, you are THINKING about something and you are acting on those beliefs.

            Rather than Isolation I would say FOCUS.

            Focus for me would be the ability to set aside blocks of time where I do "income producing activities".

            Listening to audio while exercising, standing in line, driving etc, I find more appropriate in terms of use of my time.

            Action....ACTION and MORE ACTION is what is needed.

            Action will allow you to make mistakes, from those mistakes you will learn things that will make the theories in your mind very practical.

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      Originally Posted by JohnVianny View Post

      IT seems that NOONE HAS UNDERSTOOD the SENSE OF THE POST.

      Just 2 points:

      1) ISOLATION is for the BEGINNING: i mean, you have to shift your mentality and the people you were with reflect the mentality you had, once you shifted you will find new people.
      And you have to focus, so no distraction or demotivation coming from others.

      2) MONEY in disco, bar etc: ok, it's a struggle to not have fun like before. But if it was easy, everyone will succeed. You need to save your money for what it has to do: ads, course, etc.

      2) MIND AND BRAINWASH: The motivational audios, podcast, etc is for STICK TO THE PLAN, they does not do anything by themselves, they work only if you take action to make you focused, more involved and motivated.
      i understand what you where saying .. heard it many times before but i know the formula you are preaching is not the best formula or the one who ever sold you that idea used if they have success ..

      how you market what you sell is not the business you are in.. if you get good selling product using internet marketing..then you have a shot of making money doing the marketing for others .. sure some people can pull off skipping straight to being an internet marketer ..but the path you are saying people need to take is flat out dangerous and can lead to isolation and suicide in more cases than great wealth ..

      I understand what you where saying and know the downside ..along with 20 or more better paths to building skills in online marketing ..
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  • Profile picture of the author Kay King
    I understand what you are saying - just don't agree with it.

    1. I set my goals and I follow my schedule. What I do doesn't depend on other people and I don't need to isolate myself from friends and family to start, pursue or succeed in an online project. I don't expect others to motivate me - and I close the door on distractions when I'm working.

    Too often, new marketers use "they don't believe in me" as a misdirection - easier to find something to blame or complain about than to settle in and do the work required.

    2. Of course you need to set a budget - money management is part of real life. (Disco in 2018 doesn't resonate.) It's not only allocating money to spend on ads, etc - but having the discipline to reinvest profits back into your business.

    3. If your time to work online is limited - spend it on work that can get results....not on 'motivational' tools (crutches) that spend time getting ready to get ready to get something done....

    Work - is work. It is not your life. It should be part of what you do in your daily life - not the definition of who you are. A different viewpoint - there is no right or wrong.
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    Remember your past so you don't forget your future.
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      Originally Posted by Net 700 View Post

      Remember your past so you don't forget your future.
      Is it me???
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    Originally Posted by JohnVianny View Post

    If you want to achieve new results you have to be a new person.
    No, you can be the same person you have always been. What you need to do is approach life and business from a different direction.

    No shortucts.
    Learning better, faster ways to do things are not shortcuts.

    And if you belong like most of us from a family of employee, you're surrounded of friends who complain about daily jobs, and who have poverty mindset...

    ...you have a problem
    No - THEY have a problem, which I in no way allow to affect my life other then to look at their sorry asses and have that motivate me to stay the course so I never wind-up like them.

    So you need to do 2 critical changes and improvements:

    1) Change your Identity
    2) Overcome Social Pressure

    Change Your Identity

    Yes, your identity is not fixed. It's something you have built through your entire life and it can and shall be changes.
    You need to acquire the identity of Entrepeneur

    Which is drastically different from the employee.
    You are right. I have spent a lifetime developing my identity and wouldn't change it for any reason on the planet, regardless of how other may view it. I love me. Who do you love?

    How to change it?

    Use the 30/30 Rule: Read for 30 minutes every day "Think and Grow Rich" of Wallace.
    Uh, isn't that actually a book by Napoleon Hill???

    And for 30 minutes listen to a good entrepeneur podcast, like Anthony RObbyns.
    Epic fail - using "good" and "Tony Robbins" in the same sentence.

    For 30 days. If you fail, count again from the beginning.
    If you fail at those simple task it's time to consider hemlock.

    Use auto-hypnosis: for 11 minutes before sleeping, repeat a positive statement, in present tense, while breathing, inhaling from nose, and exhaling from mouth.
    There's your problem. Your life would change drastically if you would just increase the duration from 11 minutes, to 12.

    Write a realistic goal and read it everyday. write on paper, not in smartphone.
    What is this thing you speak of called, "paper?"

    How to Overcome Social Pressure

    There's no way to do that, i'm sorry. Noone can cope with social pressure.
    Social pressure? Is that really a things. Well, OK. I guess maybe if you consider yourself, "social." I eliminated that from my list of distractions, decades ago.

    You have to choose the ISOLATION : expecially in the beginning of your starting internet marketing business, you must not to go out to disco, to bar, with friends who are not successful entrepeneurs.
    Disco? Really? Are you enjoying the 1970's?

    And if you live with parents and you're not underage: go away, or don't talk to them about work, politics, etc.
    If you're living with your parents you're a loser and probably a coder.

    You have to pay the price: how can you become a successful entrepeneur if you stay all the time with people who advice you to go slow, dont take risk etc? It cannot be possible.
    Of course it can. Just ignore them. They're entitled to their opinion but no one says you have to listen to it. Do the things people say really have that much influence over you? Do you alter your life based on what people say to you?

    You have to isolate and DONT' WASTE MONEY in stupid things like go out for dinner, cofee at thebar, etc.
    I work hard so I can go out to dinner and never worry about what it costs. I drink the most expensive coffees in the world and did so when I was struggling, too. I am not an animal.

    Every penny can be used for ads: which will make you richer, the ads or the coffee?
    Why do you believe that they are mutually exclusive? You can have both.

    Think of it.
    I've given all you said serious consideration. All your post proves is that life and business are different for everyone and that we all need to discover our path, replete with the mistakes, successes, joyful events and tragedies we may encounter along the way. What you have proposed may be good for you, but would probably have no value to those that have had any life experience to speak of.

    Tony Robbins? That's funny!!!

    Cheers.
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    Originally Posted by JohnVianny View Post

    Yes, your identity is not fixed. It's something you have built through your entire life and it can and shall be changes.
    You need to acquire the identity of Entrepeneur.
    Great point. : ) In my experience that best way to "change" your identity is through taking action. Choose to take all of the actions of a successful Entrepreneur and that will contribute to the identity of an Entrepreneur

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      Originally Posted by Jonathan 2.0 View Post

      Great point. : ) In my experience that best way to "change" your identity is through taking action. Choose to take all of the actions of a successful Entrepreneur and that will contribute to the identity of an Entrepreneur

      2C
      There's nothing sadder than believing that you need to change your identity. If you're not successful you need to consider changing your attitude, skill level, work ethic and self-confidence.

      "Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life. Don't be trapped by dogma - which is living with the results of other people's thinking. Don't let the noise of others' opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary." - Steve Jobs

      To thine own self be true.
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