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Bulletproof Mind- 3 Secrets To Mental Toughness

by Jonathan Peykar
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"If You're Going Through Hell, Keep Going" - Winston Churchill.

While the question "How to get mentally tough" can be a bit confusing, there are a couple of principles which can demystify this for you...

Be sure to check all 3- they complete each other to one big picture:

1.Emotional health precedes mental toughness-

This is the foundation of everything if you ask me. And I don't mean just depression or mood swings.

If you constantly feel bad about yourself, you'll have a "bad" mind as well.

You'll hate challenges and uncomfortable situations, and it'll be harder to develop a strong self-image because you're mostly passive.

Get the fundamentals right first:

-Do you sleep well?

-Eat well (REALL food)?

-Do you engage in physical activity?

Then, think about these:

-Do I feel good most of the time? How's my mood?

-Do I have unresolved emotions?

-Am I running away from certain issues/ ignoring challenges in my life?

Your goal is to make sure you build a strong foundation of emotional wellness.

Feeling good about yourself means you have positive self-image and generally loving your life.

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2. Realizing failure is part of the process- Hear me out on this one.

I'm not telling you to go and fail until you get it right. That would be stupid.

But... odds are you will experience some type of "failure" sooner or later.

Almost everybody does.

It's a lot like playing new video game. At first you're likely going to suck at it and maybe even want to quit.

But if you stick around and keep trying- you'll eventually get good at it...

When something isn't going according to plan, our mind perceives these unpredictable events as failures.

Sometimes it doesn't even qualify as a failure, but it just feels this way for YOU...

Realizing these will help you put things in perspective and stay calmer.

"Failures" and mistake are part of the game.
They are OK.

Learn from them and keep going.

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3. Focus on What IS instead of "What if"-

This one really changed everything for me.

When facing a big/new challenge,focus only on solving the 1 problem you're facing at the moment.

Forget "What if the sky falls down" kinda things.

For example if you're trying to build a new business, focus first on selling and getting clients.

Don't worry too much about providing the service at this point or massing up somehow in the future.

Now I'm not saying go sell websites development services if you've never wrote code in your life before.

That would be a hasty thing to do.

You need to know what you're doing and actually gain some skills.

But don't freeze there and do nothing just because you don't have a complete plan of action or you don't have 4 years experience in your field.

What if this, what if that... it never ends.

Can you see what's your CURRENT problem is? Good.
Focus on that.

What's the 1 thing that made you mentally tougher?
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  • Profile picture of the author cearionmarie
    Thanks for sharing! Some people keep on hustling without the proper fundamentals which burn them out in the long run.
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  • Profile picture of the author Master Blake
    NLP can help tremendously. In combo with hypnosis you'll form an outstanding character who's mentally tough as nails.The one that wins, takes the cake and does a home-run.

    Everyday I feel like walking an inch above the ground;
    feel superb just by making it for another day.

    I have to admit that I am programmed though and that led to a cornucopia.

    Drilled my way inside the gateways of the universe and embraced a new self.
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  • Profile picture of the author oppyeaunome
    Surely there are some really good points in this post. Sleep is a big one that I see you pointing out in this post. If there is one thing that has helped me to be better in my business is focusing on getting more sleep.

    I know these days many people like to talk about hustling hard and staying up longer to get more done, but to me I think that it actually hurts your business more than help it.

    Getting enough sleep is critical to the growth of you as a person and to your business as a whole.

    Overall I loved the tips that you've shared in this post. Thank you for them.
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  • Profile picture of the author Just Curious 66
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    You're all put to sleep under my mesmeric spell.
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  • Profile picture of the author OptedIn
    I volunteered for Vietnam when I was 16, went in the service at 17 and served in Vietnam for the entire year of 1968, including the Tet Offensive. I swore to myself that if I survived I would never fear anything for the rest of my life.

    While I did not survive totally unscathed, the experience created in me, an indomitable will and an indefatigable spirit which has allowed me to face major challenges during my long and eventful life, totally devoid of fear. It's the main reason I'm alive and comfortably retired.

    I do realize that fear is a genetically coded emotion meant to help us avoid situations that could bring us physical harm. That said, I never set-out to be a cliff diver, so a majority of the things that most people would normally fear in life, simply because they are 'supposed to,' have never occurred to me. Of course, what I perceive as a lack of fear, others may view as rank stupidity. I get that.

    Fear, though, is a crippling emotion and in the instances where I have have asked myself, "Should I be afraid of what I'm facing," the answer has always been, "No." That's because, in the end, as it pertains to most of what we face in life, the question you need to answer for yourself, is,"What's the absolute worst thing that can happen?" Embarrassment? Financial pitfall? Having to start over from scratch? Really??? If that's as bad as it gets, what's the issue? You're not really planning on becoming a cliff diver, are you?

    OK, now that we've cleared that up, go tackle something you have been hesitant to pursue, because of your fear. I promise you, you will wake up tomorrow morning and the Earth will still be spinning. You may be rewarded with an entirely new perspective on life and your valid pursuit to squeeze as much out of it as you possibly can. You only get one shot. Go for it.

    "No power so effectually robs the mind of all its powers of acting and reasoning as fear."― Edmund Burke
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  • Profile picture of the author Odahh
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    I'm lazy and not going to quote your post ..haha.. but what i am finding through life is when you go trough the stuff most people fear and come survive and come out better ..or with skills to rebuild .. the minor fears that stop people .. become personally silly ..
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    • Profile picture of the author OptedIn
      Originally Posted by Odahh View Post

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      I'm lazy and not going to quote your post ..haha.. but what i am finding through life is when you go trough the stuff most people fear and come survive and come out better ..or with skills to rebuild .. the minor fears that stop people .. become personally silly ..
      Agreed. Even the things that you attempt that could kill you, you generally survive. When I was young and thin, I used to road race motorcycles. I had absolutely no skill at this, but since I couldn't play in a band, it was the next best way for me to get chicks. (Apologies #MeToo).

      I think I finished one race in my entire career, in last place, no less. I crashed, constantly. Much of life is preparing for what might kill you. Full body racing leathers, Bell Star helmet and lots of pot - not so much to ease the pain, but rather to not have you thinking about it.

      Hell, I SCUBA dived almost every day that I lived in Key West. The bad news. I can't swim. No fear. :-)
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      • Profile picture of the author Odahh
        Originally Posted by OptedIn View Post

        Agreed. Even the things that you attempt that could kill you, you generally survive. When I was young and thin, I used to road race motorcycles. I had absolutely no skill at this, but since I couldn't play in a band, it was the next best way for me to get chicks. (Apologies #MeToo).

        I think I finished one race in my entire career, in last place, no less. I crashed, constantly. Much of life is preparing for what might kill you. Full body racing leathers, Bell Star helmet and lots of pot - not so much to ease the pain, but rather to not have you thinking about it.

        Hell, I SCUBA dived almost every day that I lived in Key West. The bad news. I can't swim. No fear. :-)
        well i think the fears of what may kill you matter.. but then the fears of discomfort or loss of level of comfort ..stop to many people..

        while many people who brush up against things that may kill them and survive .. will willingly go into situations that are more risky ..but that they have instincts that are active and make them feel alive ..

        I don't know how to word it correctly .
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        • Profile picture of the author OptedIn
          Originally Posted by Odahh View Post

          I don't know how to word it correctly .
          Most people live lives of quiet desperation and many would rather fancy themselves as thrill seekers, than be a slave to their banal and somnambulistic existence, regardless of the risks, involved.

          Something along those lines??? lol

          Emergency rooms are filled with those people, every weekend.

          Do you know what a hillbilly's last words on Earth are, generally?

          Hey, ya'll. watch this!
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          • Profile picture of the author Odahh
            Originally Posted by OptedIn View Post

            Most people live lives of quiet desperation and many would rather fancy themselves as thrill seekers, than be a slave to their banal and somnambulistic existence, regardless of the risks, involved.

            Something along those lines??? lol

            Emergency rooms are filled with those people, every weekend.

            Do you know what a hillbilly's last words on Earth are, generally?

            Hey, ya'll. watch this!
            the darker thing i am discovering.. is that it is not reality that people give up on dreaming .. it is that people will give up on going after things they dream about after getting a few things they really want and getting let down ..so it become better to cope with the misery of life with dreaming and wishing ..

            but not go after the dreams or the things they imagine.. because actually getting the thing tend to fall short of imagining the thing ..

            but it's the getting of the thing that is usually the sweetest part of the having of the thing .. but if one take short cuts or cheats.. or doest something that removes the getting part .. then the reward is lost ..

            it is very clear most of the time the little things or the next best things one can do to make their lives better .. but it seems small and not significant.. not massive or huge or life changing enough ....

            but wins stack up and so do losses .. and there are diminishing returns in life and doing the same thing over and over..will eventually start leading to worse and worse results.. in todays world returns diminish a lot faster
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  • Profile picture of the author ryanbiddulph
    I totally changed my approach a while back Jonathan. Versus being mentally tough, I softened my energy and opened my heart, then I saw fear as being more and more of an illusion. I also saw folks who acted more from anger and skepticism - right on this very forum - as buying into the illusion of fear. So I did not choose to kick these beaten dogs when they were down, smiled, and released.

    Best move of my life, taking this approach. I appear to be tough or machine-like or brutally persistent but it is the absence of the illusion of fear in action.

    Works for me. But different strokes, for different folks.

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  • Profile picture of the author Just Curious 66
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    To be brutally honest here, mental toughness is a tough nut to crack.

    It ain't over till the fat lady sings.
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  • Profile picture of the author tagiscom
    Originally Posted by ryanbiddulph View Post

    I totally changed my approach a while back Jonathan. Versus being mentally tough, I softened my energy and opened my heart, then I saw fear as being more and more of an illusion. I also saw folks who acted more from anger and skepticism - right on this very forum - as buying into the illusion of fear. So I did not choose to kick these beaten dogs when they were down, smiled, and released.

    Ryan
    Yes, l occasionally see that also elsewhere, very recently, show them something that is obvious but mind blowing and they won't accept it.

    I have been through a couple of para grim shifts in my life, so don't have any issues with recent findings.

    And sure some fear is there, but it is more being stocked than anything else.

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      Originally Posted by tagiscom View Post

      Yes, l occasionally see that also elsewhere, very recently, show them something that is obvious but mind blowing and they won't accept it.

      I have been through a couple of para grim shifts in my life, so don't have any issues with recent findings.

      And sure some fear is there, but it is more being stocked than anything else.
      The main thing to fear in life is having your rational thought polluted by obtuse, meaningless drivel, disguised as new-age enlightenment in order for the person spouting it to attempt to feel superior to others, when in reality all they are doing is displaying an infantile insecurity rooted in fear and self-doubt.

      I don't know how much of that is being "stocked," but there a few people that spend an inordinate amount of time stoking it. They possess so little self-awareness that they don't even realize that they expose themselves with each incredibly repetitious post, that communicates nothing of value, to anyone. lol
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      • Profile picture of the author Odahh
        Originally Posted by OptedIn View Post

        The main thing to fear in life is having your rational thought polluted by obtuse, meaningless drivel, disguised as new-age enlightenment in order for the person spouting it to attempt to feel superior to others, when in reality all they are doing is displaying an infantile insecurity rooted in fear and self-doubt.

        I don't know how much of that is being "stocked," but there a few people that spend an inordinate amount of time stoking it. They possess so little self-awareness that they don't even realize that they expose themselves with each incredibly repetitious post, that communicates nothing of value, to anyone. lol
        I'm being sarcastic here ..to say in advance

        but you do know that you show signs of deep seated negativity and being unenlightened.. the lack of understanding of the meaningless drive.. er um steam of higher consciousness ..is just your problem ..

        blah blah blah.. require that people be able to explain these concept in basic normal english that can lead to some practical understand .. is out of the quest as you can't expect or ask a enlightened person to come down to your 3d human dense level.. it is up to you to ascend and enlighten and grow in awareness ..until you understand ..

        there is drivel in everything.. but the problem with newagy stuff is to sound newagy, advancd and enlightened.. it has to sound like mystic drivel.. if you put things in basic term.. thats not spiritual or enlightened enough
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        • Profile picture of the author OptedIn
          Originally Posted by Odahh View Post

          but you do know that you show signs of deep seated negativity and being unenlightened.
          The negativity is at surface level as there is no need for deep thinking on this forum. What you view as negativity is what I call, "presenting cold, hard facts."

          As far as enlightenment goes, what do you truly know about me and in reality, who are you to judge anyone else? Where I come from, we refer to that as, 'negativity and not being very enlightened.'

          See what I did, there?

          I present myself as I choose. It's called an, "online persona." You get to decide what's real and what's an act, as you see fit, but the bottom line is, you'll never really know.

          I do this to amuse myself. You get to come along for the ride, or not - whichever you choose. You ain't paying anything, so no complaints. If anything I say is to much for your delicate sensibilities, just use the "Ignore" function. I have come to be most appreciative of it. It may be just what you're looking for.

          Of course, no one EVER puts me on ignore. They love to complain about my attitude, but they wouldn't miss my posts for the world, because whether you agree with my way of thinking or not, they always give you something to think about.

          Cheers.
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  • Profile picture of the author Odahh
    my sensibilities are not easy to offend .. now if you actually believe i think you are negative ....i fail at being sarcastic in writing and such .. thats why i tried to point out the attempt ..

    in any case .. i have advanced believefs or many new agish views .. but it annoys the piss out of me when someone has to put everything in mystic sounding language .. it really doesn't help .

    in any case .. you mention forum persona ..to a point i have to tone done my persona here .. as i can get into very interesting new age discussion face to face with people .. who are actually searching and not trying to be the guru ..

    nothing against guru types .. i just don't follow anyone .. or toe the line .. of a believer ..no do i really want to be a guru or have followers as i achieve my enlightenment ...

    the times we are in people don't need more spiritual sounding mysic stuff they can sit in deep thought abut for the next 15 life times.. they need teachers who can give them things they can do and practice today that solve the problem permanently
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    • Profile picture of the author OptedIn
      Originally Posted by Odahh View Post

      i fail at being sarcastic in writing and such
      No. I got it - although I wasn't quite sure where the sarcasm ended. lol

      I guess that all looked like it was aimed directly at you, as if you had offended me. No. It was generic and meant for those who believe I am as you said I might be regarded by some - or many. lol

      That was me not being clear. Sorry. I was in a rush to pick my Honey up at doggie-daycare.
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  • Profile picture of the author tagiscom
    Originally Posted by OptedIn View Post

    The main thing to fear in life is having your rational thought polluted by obtuse, meaningless drivel, disguised as new-age enlightenment in order for the person spouting it to attempt to feel superior to others, when in reality all they are doing is displaying an infantile insecurity rooted in fear and self-doubt.

    I don't know how much of that is being "stocked," but there a few people that spend an inordinate amount of time stoking it. They possess so little self-awareness that they don't even realize that they expose themselves with each incredibly repetitious post, that communicates nothing of value, to anyone. lol
    I wasn't referring to anything New Age.

    I know that it must have taken you a day or so to put that together, but in this case no new age and no stocking, lol.

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    • Profile picture of the author OptedIn
      Originally Posted by tagiscom View Post

      I wasn't referring to anything New Age.
      And I wasn't referring to you. That should have been obvious. :-)
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