Are Goals More Important Than Habits To Warriors ? What's Your Take ?

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I'm new to the warrior forum and although I have been in the helping profession as a coach and a counselor for a long time...
I'm interested in knowing your take on the topic of goals and habits. There has been some debate about which is more effective for people over the past several years especially by bloggers and by folks in the self help field and while I'm an advocate of both, I'm curious to see what some of the internet marketers rely on to help them to continue to create momentum in their online business.
Thanks for your thoughts and of your opinions are greatly appreciated and welcome.

Best,

Greg
#goals #habits #important #warriors
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  • Profile picture of the author Kay King
    If goals lead to good habits - both are important.


    If neither leads to 'results' - what's the point?
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  • Profile picture of the author Jonathan 2.0
    Many times, if a Person wants to reach their goal(s) ... They have to change their habits.
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  • Profile picture of the author Odahh
    i wonder if there is just a lack of new topics to put on this section..

    someone always asking for the most important factor.. goals , habits, mindset , talents , handwork, this that or some other thing .. must be the one most important thing or at least more important than this other thing ..how much sleep you get , getting rid of friend .. not watching tv , blah blah blahh .

    the only reason there is any debate .. is to for bolggers and motivation talking heads to have something to talk about .

    what matters to you to have in your life in the areas of health, wealth and happiness or relationships .

    you can have write the goals of weight loss but if you are eating food from the time you wake up to the time you go to bed and only getting 6 hours sleep ,,

    the goals of the behaviors you actually have most likely will put weight on after the age of 25 ..

    blahh .. which part of my car or what ever car i chose to get somewhere is more important the tires..the engine.. the seats.. the gps or maps.. ..the road i take..the time of day .. the friends i have .. do i need a mentor .. how do i find a mentor.. oh hell now i'm listening to motivational speakers and i should chose somewhere else .. far nicer to go.. that i really don't want to go to ..but i must have been thinking way to low anyway .

    blah blahh blah ..

    what do people really want.. verse what are they being taugh they should want .. to get this success thing..

    when they are aware of what they really want and what matter to them to have..then all the other parts become the vehicle to get there .. habits goal ,skills , workethic , mindset .. all of that
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    • Profile picture of the author GreggWellz
      Sounds like the topic of goals and habits makes you feel very agitated or frustrated ?

      How do you think it will feel when you reach the next level in your life ?And. how would you go about that ?
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  • Profile picture of the author Kay King
    i wonder if there is just a lack of new topics to put on this section..

    I think that's a good point - and as we are on a marketing forum, most seems to be aimed at 'making yourself do something...'


    Too often people are stuck on getting ready to get ready to prepare to start to begin to do something....
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    • Profile picture of the author Odahh
      Originally Posted by Kay King View Post

      I think that's a good point - and as we are on a marketing forum, most seems to be aimed at 'making yourself do something...'


      Too often people are stuck on getting ready to get ready to prepare to start to begin to do something....
      well looking for that one something that is the most important to do .. in order to get success .. once they figure out once success is.. or that will guarantee they get success ..

      or something they can show other people to say look i'm a success .. because at the point they are at they are not ..and may never look like a success .

      blah .. i don't care about that anymore ..use to ..but i have had to rip a lot of that out in the last year. as much of it was pointing away from doing what i want.. but i have still been able to achieve personal goals that i don't have to really explain..

      habits are easy ..a person may have a habitual path they drive to work.. but if they change jobs .. even if they had the same job 15 years.. they don't keep driving the old way to work.. if they have to go a completely different path..

      much of this motivation stuff and success stuff .. turns things that should be simple into very complex things .. because to feel like an accomplishment it needs to be a struggle .

      to wear the struggle like a badge of honor to to explain whatever accomplishment they have .

      when someone basically is already better of and has more than 6-7 billion other people on this planet ..it is counter productive to make someone fail like a failure ..and get all upset about what they don't have ..

      but i am where i am.. and i can reach for the next level of better stuff.. then the next ..
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      • Profile picture of the author Odahh
        Originally Posted by GreggWellz View Post

        Sounds like the topic of goals and habits makes you feel very agitated or frustrated ?
        Originally Posted by GreggWellz View Post

        How do you think it will feel when you reach the next level in your life ?And. how would you go about that ?
        the frustrating element is when people try to point at one thing in a dozen or more things that are important and try to make one more important.

        to answer the second question self awareness and situational awareness are vital as there is no answer to how one will feel getting to a the next level or what to do to get there..

        2 years ago i was in chronic pain in much of my body and 30 pounds heavier than now for many different reasons ..now i am down to some slight soreness in my back unless i do to much lifting and carrying stuff.. and after figuring how to apply and practice intermittent fasting on a daily basis. and walking nearly 6 miles a day ..without shifting to eating a healthy diet .

        so i have lost 30 pounds in a year and eliminated 90 percent of the pain i was in constantly..and greatly improved my mood and added to lean muscle mass..just eating within an 8-10 hour period every day fasting for 14 to 16 hour a day..and 1 or two days a week ..it is a 4 hour window with a 20 hour fasting ..

        the next level is when i can move to a more tropical environment and buy a good chunk of land and start growing much of my own food..or at least my high mineral content foods ..when i get where i want to settle permanently .

        that the next level for me or within the next few levels and when i get there .. there will be a next level for me ..that i will have to map out and change behaviors to achieve ..

        but there are thousands of different levels to chose from.. and the feeling is more about the next most exciting level to achieve ...because boredom is a killer . and if you stay on any level to long it gets boring and frustrating .. and leads to all kinds of bad things .

        people in happy but boring marriages end up cheating ..
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  • Profile picture of the author Hannah Mans
    If you had asked me this a year ago, I would have been quick to respond 'goals'. And well they are important, how you going to get there if you don't know where you are going? But its the day to day, the habits that will keep you on track to hitting your goals.
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  • I'd go with habits. Maintaining habits is difficult and requires some good discipline, but it's more like a skill that needs practice. I like having a schedule because it allows me to keep track of my habits (work and not work related). Goals can change over time and evolve depending on a situation, but good habits should stay consistent.
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    • Profile picture of the author GreggWellz
      Thanks for you response.
      I think that you aren't alone in that viewpoint.
      There have been lots of books published on habits for exactly the reason that you talked about in this post.
      Habits are indeed difficult to maintain because they require some degree of willpower and like you put it daily practice.
      Goals definitely can change over time and evolve depending on all of our situations in life. However, I would say that some habits can change over time as we evolve into more of what we want to become in our lives . Thank you very much for your thoughts and opinions. Much appreciated, very good insight.
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  • Profile picture of the author gnugent
    I would argue for habits over goals. Goals are a bit airy-fairy - things to aspire to. I had a goal of losing weight in January. I didn't achieve my goal because I didn't develop (and stick to) my habit of going for a 30-minute walk each day.

    The goal is your desired destination. Habits are the transportation mechanism that get you there.

    And when you have a case of the blues and don't feel like working, habits will kick in and move you forward.
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    • Profile picture of the author GreggWellz
      Okay ... That makes sense I can understand that perspective for sure... So your saying that goals are more out of reach and that focusing on the habit is easier to do instead of focusing on the goal because focusing on the habit is more concrete and easier to see yourself doing.

      Thank you and nicely put.
      Appreciate that insightfulness .
      It's very true.
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  • Profile picture of the author ERIC BLACKWOOD
    I received the programming and I turned a deaf ear to exterior influences.


    I'm very grateful I did that.
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  • Profile picture of the author ryanbiddulph
    Hi Gregg,

    Holding an intent works for me. No goals to aim for, no habits to develop, no discipline. My intent: have fun generously helping people with blogging. I hold that, have fun putting in the work, and also spend a great deal of time daily managing my energy.
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    • Profile picture of the author GreggWellz
      Nice that's awesome.... So it's also a different perspective and intent is so important.

      Being intentional in our daily lives with our energy and with our focus can be a major force.

      So if intention is working for you then that's awesome.

      No matter if you use goals or habits or both in some capacity I think you need to be intentional with your actions so if you only use intent as your one thing so to speak, then that is really cool because it seems like you simplified something with your own type of modification...

      But what's important I think is that intentuon used how you describe, can serve as a type of framework from which to be consistent with.

      Which builds momentum and although that is a kind of a different topic I think your still probably, if I'm reading you right... Are getting some pretty consistent momentum which is awesome which means you should be seeing some results in your life and you are future focused which is a really positive place to work from.

      Am I getting this right ?


      Best

      Gregg

      P.S. Sorry for the run on sentence i.e. paragraph.
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  • Profile picture of the author Ngockieu
    Both. If you have a goal you would do everything to get that and it becomes your habit
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    • Profile picture of the author GreggWellz
      Thanks for the response ...

      Having both I believe are important.

      However, habits are very specific so they wouldn't include everything.

      I am guessing that you are meaning that you would find the most powerful thing to do and then do that every day ?

      Thank you for sharing.

      Your thoughts and your opinions are valued.

      Best

      Greg
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  • Profile picture of the author RyanFox11
    Goals for sure
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  • For me habits. Simply because I can work on building healthy habits to use to better and more effectively reach goals.

    But there's an interesting phenomenon called habit boredom. People excited by a challenge will only go so far with what they do. They need to change up their habits to grow and achieve their next goals.

    I think that is directly related to creating momentum in business.
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  • Profile picture of the author Master Blake
    Habits forge reality. Take care of your daily rituals and everything will be smooth sailing. I find this message highly deliberating like a glimpse from the future.
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  • Profile picture of the author DABK
    OP, Let me ask you a similar question: What part of the car is more important, the engine or the transmission system.


    If you're good at setting goals but never get anywhere, work on habits, if the choice is only habits of goals.



    If your habits get you to work but you're not getting where you want to be, work on goals, if the choice is habits or goals.


    Keep in mind that you can have both down pat and still fail. Because, as others have pointed out, there's more to it than goals and habits.


    I am now in one of my executive time slot (yup, Trump is not the only one who deserves executive time), so I can do anything I want, including wasting time answering unhelpful questions (in a helpful way, of course, I am nothing if not helpful). Were you in one of your well deserved executive time slots when you came up with this question?



    If you have some left over executive time, ponder this question: What sound does one hand clapping make? (Because it's just as useful to you and me.)


    If you've used up your executive time, ponder this question (among the many available): What can you change to increase your first conversion step by 1% by the end of the week?
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    • Profile picture of the author Jonathan 2.0
      Great advice: Thanks DABK.

      For those of you who are interested, there's a wealth of Productivity info. on Eben Pagan's (WakeUpProductive Founder's) YouTube page.

      https://www.youtube.com/results?sear...ty++eben+pagan

      Enjoy.
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    • Profile picture of the author GreggWellz
      Hi DABK,

      Thanks for your response to the post on habits and goals.

      It seems that you have been triggered by the question about habits and goals and I am sorry for that.

      I didn't think that the post was offensive.

      But I digress, to answer your question which illustrates the point of the topic on this post.

      Let me ask you a similar question: What part of the car is more important, the engine or the transmission system.

      It it were my car the engine is definitely worth more and also is much much more valuable than the transmission, so I would definitely say engine (especially in a Dodge) .

      However, we all drive different cars and for that reason the answer to your question will vary from person to person.

      I kind of get where you are going with your argument with regard to habits and goals but I'm not so sure why you seem to feel so very angry about the topic.

      It seems as though you think that goals and habits are the same thing and you are assuming that you need both a goal and a habit together to work in concert much like an engine and a transmission is needed in order for the car to move.

      However this is not the case. Anyone can set a goal but to complete one and complete one on time takes work, but to set and achieve a goal does not require a habit it only takes action.

      The action that a person can take to complete a goal can be done in big or little spurts. Habits are consistently done on a routine basis.

      So... To set and work towards a habit does not require a goal.

      A habit doesn't have to represent the action of the goal that's why most people who set goals work off of plans that are weekly and monthly and yearly etc.

      My purpose in asking this question was to see what works for people in this area. If habits are working for most people and goals are not then we can all learn from that.

      I really think that you kind of took this question out of context and I'm sorry that it seemed to anger you.

      Best Greg,

      P.S. If your goal is to increase your first conversion step by 1% at the end of the week, that would be a goal. However, if you had a habit of trying to increase every conversion that you had every week then you wouldn't need to set that goal it would already become automatic. See how this works ?
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  • Profile picture of the author luciesmazanska
    if you dont develop a good habits you will never achieve a good goals
    First u need to teach your brain to create a good habit and then things will come by itself
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  • Profile picture of the author Arya Saleh
    It depends on each individual, because each of us is different. Some people may have goals and succeed, other people have goals but didn't succeed. Other people may have good habit i.e. focus and working hard - then they succeed. Others may have habits but the habits do not support them to succeed.
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    Your habits are those tiny fragments that will lead you to your goals.
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  • Profile picture of the author Monica8297
    Many times, if a Person wants to reach their goal. But, They don't change there habit.
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