What Is Your PERFECT Day?

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I had a mentor a few years ago give me an exercise to do because I felt I needed more focused direction in my life. Here was the exercise, followed by a question:

Write out your PERFECT day, which you would intend to repeat every day. It needs to be written because it allows the brain to feel out the story better. It allows a much stronger connection to the story.

When I ask this question to people close to me, they think for a second and come up with something short like "binge watch netflix and eat junk food". I can tell you that this might sound fun for one day, but do this for a few months or years and you'll be in serious trouble - think: no money, fat and alone.

The perfect day is 24hr long. It should include as much vivid detail as possible, answering these type of questions:

Part A: Write the Story

- what time do you wake up?
- where are you waking up? country? city? town? big house? small cabin? tent?
- how much sleep did you get the night before?
- what kind of bed are you sleeping on? windows open? crisp air?
- first smells and sounds as you wake up?
- who is beside you (if anyone)?
- pets? Kids?
- what's for breakfast? (food and drink)
- gym workout?
- quality time with family? friends?
- what work (paid or volunteer) is done to pass the day
- what's for lunch? (food and drink) where?
- different work in the afternoon? hobbies? recreation?
- what's for dinner? (food and drink) what time? with who? where?
- quality time with friends/family in the evening? doing what?
- bed time? reading? writing? listening?

This is called lifestyle design. Some people let life happen to them and they're ok with that. Others just take things one day at a time and that's ok as well. But...if you're someone who wants more out of life and believes in designing the future, I recommend writing out your day and answering all of those questions above and more if you can.

Part B: The kicker

What are you doing TODAY that moves your closer to achieving that perfect day/lifestyle?

This has stuck with me for the last few years. Everything I do is either taking me closer or moving me away from my perfect day. The decisions I make to pass the time are directly influenced by my desire to create a perfect day for myself. Of course that doesn't mean all work and no play. It's a process and a journey. I ensure to have balance and patience, but I always act with intent.

I'd love to hear from those who have done something like this or put their own twists on it. If you're living your perfect day now, please share what you did to achieve that!
#day #perfect
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  • Profile picture of the author senupal
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    totally you have write all of the part of hobby. generally half and more people not follow these rules. a lot of people is running to earning money. they forget the importance of life and running.
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  • Profile picture of the author Odahh
    well i got a lot of this in my head as visuals.. and the time waking up ..

    When i'm done sleeping of course .
    then depending on the weather morning cardio either walking a few miles just after waking up..or some time on an indoor rowing machine . (morning before you eat is the best time to do cardio)

    breakfast sweet potato pancakes from sweet potatoes i grow..and egg from either ducks i own or chickens or a combination of both .

    then a lot of the rest of the questions depend on the time of the year..even in the tropics ..and whats ready to harvest from my large home garden

    tight now i'm in the desert though instead of being near the ocean living in the tropics or the sub tropic like i dealy would want to .. but there is stuff i am working on here .

    and actually you are moving sideways in life more than you are moving forward or backward .. you can draw a straight line from New York city to San Francisco .. but even if you get on a jet airplane.. it will probably not take you straight their .. but the most fun route sometime is a road trip ..that can go all over the map .
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    • Profile picture of the author Odahh
      Originally Posted by Princess Balestra View Post

      The guy I hired to squirt cream all ovah my boobies says, "there's no extra fee for cleaning your carpet."
      is this decades in the future.. by the way you make it sound you would have a line of volunteers and no need to pay .. and that is just when your shopping in the produce section of the grocery store
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  • Profile picture of the author Daniel Evans
    I'd wake up, fall out of bed, drag a comb across my head, find my way downstairs, drink a cup, look up and notice I'm late, grab my coat and grab my hat, make the bus in seconds flat and find my way upstairs...and have a smoke.

    Either that, or feed animals in the zoo, then later a movie too..and then home to listen to some music.
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    • Profile picture of the author hardraysnight
      Originally Posted by Daniel Evans View Post

      I'd wake up, fall out of bed, drag a comb across my head, find my way downstairs, drink a cup, look up and notice I'm late, grab my coat and grab my hat, make the bus in seconds flat and find my way upstairs...and have a smoke.

      Either that, or feed animals in the zoo, then later a movie too..and then home to listen to some music.
      so poetic

      you should put it to music

      i would go into a dream
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  • Profile picture of the author tagiscom
    As I was walking down the street one day
    A man came up to me and asked me what the time was that was on my watch, yeah

    And I said
    Does anybody really know what time it is
    Does anybody really care (care about time)
    If so I can't imagine why (no, no)
    We've all got time enough to cry

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  • Profile picture of the author Charlie Ashton
    The Cosmic Master says that every Saturday is the day to manifest, so it makes perfect sense to listen to his fabulous recordings that awaken me and as a result, built a thriving business just by being a daredevil.
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  • Profile picture of the author hardraysnight
    So much to do
    If I only had time, if I only had time
    Dreams to pursue
    If I only had time, they'd be mine
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  • Profile picture of the author Master Blake
    Everyday is a perfect day, the instant you realize your potential.
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    The day i immersed in the matrix and saw the virtual horizon unfold before my very eyes.
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  • Profile picture of the author oppyeaunome
    My perfect day....

    My eyes open, I spend some time staring at the roof. I'm in no rush as I lay comfortably in my fluffy white sheets.

    This is bliss...

    My sheets surround me as if I'm sleeping in the clouds. My wife is sleeping sound on the right of me and the feeling of inner peace saturates my body.

    I get out of bed head down to the kitchen and get some coffee and something to eat.

    I have a few client calls today and some content to write that when finished would amount to about $500. The content I write is on topics that I like for clients who I love.

    This is the life and I'm in no rush.

    I have a meeting in Hawai a few weeks later and the trip is taken care of by one of my clients. My wife, son and I will be going.

    What else can you ask for. Good clients. Lots of Money and nothing to worry about.

    That's sort of what the perfect day or life looks like in my mind right now.
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    • Profile picture of the author palmtreelife
      I like it! You covered a lot of different aspects of what should be considered in the perfect day. I'd still try and take it a step farther...do you have a chef cooking your meals? What kind of car are you driving? Do you have a driver? Are you doing anything with friends? Are you living in your perfect city? House? What are you eating throughout the day? Exercising? Charity work? Volunteering? Really open your mind up and ask yourself more questions, let it flow. As I said, you don't need to share it here, but I think it's important to think about every second of the day as much as possible. It helps make me more aware of what I'm doing and how much time I'm wasting each day on useless things that don't get me any closer to that dream...

      And now the rhetorical question...what are you doing today and tomorrow to get you closer to living that perfect day? Do you think you'll be living this life you described this year? Next? In 5 years?
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  • Profile picture of the author Kay King
    Two perfect days in a row - I'm on a roll.

    Up early - quick walk - check the WF and then work an hour.

    Off to the farm - to spend a beautiful day working with and riding horses, playing with dogs and baby goats, talking to friends there.

    I've had times in my life when the work I accomplished made my day perfect - others where things done with family made it perfect. What is perfection changes as my life changes.

    Now I do what I love to do - when the weather permits - and do things that need to be done when the weather (rain) isn't conducive to perfect days. Those in between days make the perfect days possible.
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    • Profile picture of the author palmtreelife
      What is perfection changes as my life changes
      Agreed...there have been times I wanted something so bad in my life, and felt it would make me so happy. I had the goal on the wall. I worked hard every day to achieve it.

      When the time came that I was actually able to buy it, travel there, drive it, fly it, play it, eat it etc., I was no longer interested in it. My priorities changed. My wants and needs changed.

      Many valuable lessons learned on those journeys. I'm sure my perfect day, as I've drawn it out to be at the moment, will change and evolve more along the way.

      The key is to not be at the end of my life and still chasing that perfect day. It's to realize that although I'm working toward goals every day, a day that I have good food and clean water, surrounded by the ones I love with a roof over my head is a perfect day.
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      • Profile picture of the author Odahh
        Originally Posted by palmtreelife View Post

        I like it! You covered a lot of different aspects of what should be considered in the perfect day. I'd still try and take it a step farther...do you have a chef cooking your meals? What kind of car are you driving? Do you have a driver? Are you doing anything with friends? Are you living in your perfect city? House? What are you eating throughout the day? Exercising? Charity work? Volunteering? Really open your mind up and ask yourself more questions, let it flow. As I said, you don't need to share it here, but I think it's important to think about every second of the day as much as possible. It helps make me more aware of what I'm doing and how much time I'm wasting each day on useless things that don't get me any closer to that dream...

        And now the rhetorical question...what are you doing today and tomorrow to get you closer to living that perfect day? Do you think you'll be living this life you described this year? Next? In 5 years?
        Originally Posted by palmtreelife View Post

        Agreed...there have been times I wanted something so bad in my life, and felt it would make me so happy. I had the goal on the wall. I worked hard every day to achieve it.

        When the time came that I was actually able to buy it, travel there, drive it, fly it, play it, eat it etc., I was no longer interested in it. My priorities changed. My wants and needs changed.

        Many valuable lessons learned on those journeys. I'm sure my perfect day, as I've drawn it out to be at the moment, will change and evolve more along the way.

        The key is to not be at the end of my life and still chasing that perfect day. It's to realize that although I'm working toward goals every day, a day that I have good food and clean water, surrounded by the ones I love with a roof over my head is a perfect day.
        so in essence .. you have a perfect day planned out.. including work for future goals.. then a few freinds of you or you significant other show up.. and you drop the plans .. run to the store buy steaks .. chicken or whatever food you fancy.. or adult beverage..

        and spend the afternoon enjoying yourself with friend having a cook out and the great food to go along with it .. and it no a weekend day or a holiday ..

        I have grown a little or more than a lot dismissive of the success /self improvement .. attempt turn life into a constant striving for achievement .. and not really enjoying what you have .. not really enjoying anything once you have achieved it .

        sort of always working toward something but only getting to the point of working for the next thing and next thing .. but never stopping to enjoy it.. or as you put it by the time you get it you where a different person and could not really enjoy the stuff once you got it ..

        the scary thing about death.. is that it will probably come before you get to where you think you are working tword ..

        you can live another 30 40 or 50 years.. and always be working to get somewhere you never get . or you can die tomorrow and all those long term goals will not get achieved by you .
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        • Profile picture of the author Claude Whitacre
          Originally Posted by Odahh View Post

          the scary thing about death.. is that it will probably come before you get to where you think you are working tword ..
          And the great thing about death is that it doesn't matter if you've achieved every goal, and led a great life...or failed at every turn. You'll feel exactly the same thing.

          I think "perfect" is an odd word....but a great life? For me, waking up next to my wife, in a home I like, and knowing she's happy... not having to worry much about getting food or paying the bills. And talking to people I enjoy....and not having to talk to people I don't enjoy.

          Not a bad life.
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    "The greatest happiness is to vanquish your enemies, to chase them before you, to rob them of their wealth, to see those dear to them bathed in tears, to clasp to your bosom their wives and daughters."
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  • Profile picture of the author Kay King
    Not sure what that has to do with a perfect day - but if you want to sit in that lap, go for it.
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    The key is to not be at the end of my life and still chasing that perfect day.

    The goal is be at the end of life and look back on dozens of 'perfect' days - and my guess is that not one of the 'perfect days I remember' will have anything to do with working or earning money.... Those might be 'good days' but 'perfect' is more than 'look what i did'....
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