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Hello fellow Warriors!

If you are reading this post, I want to let know you are not alone in being stuck in business and/or life. I'm sure you've read countless articles and watched hours of videos on tactics to being productive. The key word in that sentence was tactics, which suggests those are all surface level ways for those with a healthy personality. Being stuck right now means there's a misfire in your cognitive processing, which then means you do not have a healthy personality. How are all those tactics suppose to effectively work? They can't, at least not for the long term.

So, what is cognitive processing in relation to your personality? In short, I'm referencing your personality type (MBTI) and the respective cognitive functions. We're all familiar with what the 16 personality types are, and you may even know your type; however, what most of us don't know is that there's a cognition processing order that creates each specific type. We're like cars, and like cars there's a specific wiring order for the engine to run properly. There are 8 cognitive functions, specifically arranged, and are identified as introverted or extroverted and perceiving or judgement. Of the 8, we have a 4 primary set and a 4 shadow set; in other terms, think of a the first 4 as processors and the shadow 4 as cogs that move the information.

Okay, now to get into the science of how the cognitive process is causing you to become stuck. Think of a car and in this car you have the Driver, Parent 2, 2 yr old (behind driver) and a teen behind parent 2. In a normal healthy personality, the flow of data processing starts with the driver -> parent 2 -> 2yr old -> teenager. The driver is dominate and the teenager is inferior (less attention). In an unhealthy process, the 2 yr old starts throwing a temper and starts to distract the driver instead of playing with the teenager. And so, less communication is going to parent 2 and no communication is going to the teenager. In fact, the teenager is tuning everything out! And now you are stuck in a loop from Driver to 2 year old with parent 2 trying to manage.

How do you break this loop? Earlier I mentioned 4 shadow processes and of the 4 the 7th position is the communicator from 2yr old to teenager (position 3 to 4). The 7th position is a very weak position because a 2 yr old is trying to communicate to an unenthused teenager. All you have to do is become consciously aware of your blind spot and intentionally build that communicator up. And as a secondary, the parent 2 position should be strengthen to help better mitigate any future loops.
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  • Profile picture of the author DABK
    Nah, man. I'm stuck coz I want mutually exclusive things: fast money and no work. That's what most people will tell you, if they were honest.


    Originally Posted by Wi11iam View Post

    Hello fellow Warriors!

    If you are reading this post, I want to let know you are not alone in being stuck in business and/or life. I'm sure you've read countless articles and watched hours of videos on tactics to being productive. The key word in that sentence was tactics, which suggests those are all surface level ways for those with a healthy personality. Being stuck right now means there's a misfire in your cognitive processing, which then means you do not have a healthy personality. How are all those tactics suppose to effectively work? They can't, at least not for the long term.

    So, what is cognitive processing in relation to your personality? In short, I'm referencing your personality type (MBTI) and the respective cognitive functions. We're all familiar with what the 16 personality types are, and you may even know your type; however, what most of us don't know is that there's a cognition processing order that creates each specific type. We're like cars, and like cars there's a specific wiring order for the engine to run properly. There are 8 cognitive functions, specifically arranged, and are identified as introverted or extroverted and perceiving or judgement. Of the 8, we have a 4 primary set and a 4 shadow set; in other terms, think of a the first 4 as processors and the shadow 4 as cogs that move the information.

    Okay, now to get into the science of how the cognitive process is causing you to become stuck. Think of a car and in this car you have the Driver, Parent 2, 2 yr old (behind driver) and a teen behind parent 2. In a normal healthy personality, the flow of data processing starts with the driver -> parent 2 -> 2yr old -> teenager. The driver is dominate and the teenager is inferior (less attention). In an unhealthy process, the 2 yr old starts throwing a temper and starts to distract the driver instead of playing with the teenager. And so, less communication is going to parent 2 and no communication is going to the teenager. In fact, the teenager is tuning everything out! And now you are stuck in a loop from Driver to 2 year old with parent 2 trying to manage.

    How do you break this loop? Earlier I mentioned 4 shadow processes and of the 4 the 7th position is the communicator from 2yr old to teenager (position 3 to 4). The 7th position is a very weak position because a 2 yr old is trying to communicate to an unenthused teenager. All you have to do is become consciously aware of your blind spot and intentionally build that communicator up. And as a secondary, the parent 2 position should be strengthen to help better mitigate any future loops.
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  • Profile picture of the author Odahh
    It takes a decade of education and many times hundreds of thousands spent or borrowed to pay for that education for most who make over 100 k to make that much .

    And someone buying a 39 dollar I'm product online thinks a few goal and the right 39 dollar product and they will go from making 10$ bucks an hour to 1000 a day in a few months or weeks .

    And as dbak said with little or no work .

    Dreaming and chasing a dream is not being stuck.

    This simple reason most people get stuck .is they refuse do do what is needed to fixed the problem or even figure out what the problem is . That really needs to be fixed in their lives .

    Then turn to some form of numbing the pain from the problem or escapism .unwilling to go through the pain needed to fix the problem .and why.

    Generally people believe it can't be fixed and It is not worth putting the effort in .

    I will say it again people are not stuck they just don't believe any effort they put in can fix the problem. So they turn to addictions to numb the pain or escapism .
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  • Profile picture of the author tryinhere
    https://www.process.st/cognitive-functions/

    It would seem your article is spun from this page?
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  • Prob'ly easier to do the actual work than to spend time working through all that babble.
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  • Profile picture of the author abbe77
    Most people stuck due to lack of focus and distracted by the shiny promises of "quick money". They become impatience and lose motivation. Fear is another factor which stops people to take steps in life.
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  • Profile picture of the author GordonJ
    Originally Posted by Wi11iam View Post

    Hello fellow Warriors!
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    Fellow Warriors, if you ARE stuck, then...

    what cha gonna DO?

    OR, go ahead, get further bogged down with this sort of tripe. YOU choose.

    GordonJ
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    Banned
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  • Profile picture of the author brucespot
    I hear what you are saying about being stuck,but it can be plenty reason
    A person is stuck. In alot of cases in business, people are stuck because of
    Procrastination. I'm guilty of doing this, one is when Redbox franchise came Out,
    I received a letter and then I talk with a coach to buy a few boxes, it was only
    $3500 to become a franchise only. I told him I would wait to see what blockbuster
    Does even through I had the money to buy 3 Redbox machines. Long story short,
    Blockbuster was going out of business be of Redbox, I called Redbox personal to
    Become a franchise owner, the prize had gotten so high that I couldn't even afford
    to buy one box.

    From that experience, I realize that procrastination on great ideas can leave you
    With regrets. We only live once so why not take risk to enhance our short stay
    on earth.
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    • Profile picture of the author abbe77
      Originally Posted by brucespot View Post

      I hear what you are saying about being stuck,but it can be plenty reason
      A person is stuck. In alot of cases in business, people are stuck because of
      Procrastination. I'm guilty of doing this, one is when Redbox franchise came Out,
      I received a letter and then I talk with a coach to buy a few boxes, it was only
      $3500 to become a franchise only. I told him I would wait to see what blockbuster
      Does even through I had the money to buy 3 Redbox machines. Long story short,
      Blockbuster was going out of business be of Redbox, I called Redbox personal to
      Become a franchise owner, the prize had gotten so high that I couldn't even afford
      to buy one box.

      From that experience, I realize that procrastination on great ideas can leave you
      With regrets. We only live once so why not take risk to enhance our short stay
      on earth.


      I think this may be the DIFFERENCE between Entrepreneur / Investor and Procrastinator. First one takes the RISK and HOPE FOR THE FUTURE while the other wants to see the RESULTS first.
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  • Profile picture of the author DomMitton
    How 95% people make decisions:

    Feeling > Action > Decision

    How 5% people make decisions:

    Decision > Action > Feeling
    Just saw this in one video and it's totally true. If you don't feel like going to gym, you'll probably make some lame excuse how you need to rest your muscle...

    Instead, turn off your emotions and do what you said you were going to do.

    I'm still making some of my decisions based on feelings, but I've improved a lot.
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    • Profile picture of the author Odahh
      Originally Posted by DomMitton View Post

      Just saw this in one video and it's totally true. If you don't feel like going to gym, you'll probably make some lame excuse how you need to rest your muscle...

      Instead, turn off your emotions and do what you said you were going to do.

      I'm still making some of my decisions based on feelings, but I've improved a lot.
      And there is the problem .why where you going to the gym in the first place.

      And was going to the gym the only way to get that thing you wanted.

      If I believe I need to eat more salad and vegetables to have a healthier diet .

      I will learn to make a salad that I find tastes real good .so prefer eating the salad over something else.

      And I will learn how to cook and prepare vegatables so they taste really good ..verse boiling a the flavor out if them or steaming them to a flavor death .

      And don't bother with the bran muffins at the coffee shop . The chocolate covered cream filled doughnut you will enjoy eating more has less sugar and calories .

      People have been so missed about what they need to do by so called experts .that many are not stuck the have given up trying .
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