How to persue yourself to do something more important?

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Hello,
I am new here, I do not know if this is right place to get answers for problems, but I will try.
Recently I caught myself that I can not persue myself to do something more than sitting in home, watching netflix, in short - procrasting in all ways. In the past I found myself that I was very active person, I worked besides my studies, involved myself in various activities, was doing volunteer work, worked-out from time to time, was reading books (especially inspirational or motivational books) and other things that were important to me.
In recent months, I have not been able to force myself to do something more important than watching Netflix, playing console and other procrasting activities. This pandemic time is very good for self-improvement but on the contrary, I am degrading myself. I do not seek answers why this happens to me, but I would like to know how is possible to get out from that loop?
This is not appropriate time to wasting my time, because I am senior year student and I have to do final assignment to get degree, but I can not persue myself to do important things.
#important #persue
  • Profile picture of the author cheese1688
    Originally Posted by daredevil007 View Post

    Hello,
    I am new here, I do not know if this is right place to get answers for problems, but I will try.
    Recently I caught myself that I can not persue myself to do something more than sitting in home, watching netflix, in short - procrasting in all ways. In the past I found myself that I was very active person, I worked besides my studies, involved myself in various activities, was doing volunteer work, worked-out from time to time, was reading books (especially inspirational or motivational books) and other things that were important to me.
    In recent months, I have not been able to force myself to do something more important than watching Netflix, playing console and other procrasting activities. This pandemic time is very good for self-improvement but on the contrary, I am degrading myself. I do not seek answers why this happens to me, but I would like to know how is possible to get out from that loop?
    This is not appropriate time to wasting my time, because I am senior year student and I have to do final assignment to get degree, but I can not persue myself to do important things.
    Hello, mate

    I totally understand you and your issue, I was also in your shoes and feel the same.
    I have written a short article about your issue and how to solve it and hopefully, it can help you.

    https://www.warriorforum.com/mind-wa...-you-want.html
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  • Profile picture of the author athomegrind
    I think developing self-discipline is very important for anyone who wants to achieve great things. I definitely understand what it's like to procrastinate (I used to do it a lot).

    Half the battle is convincing yourself that you can do something. If you have self-belief then you can pretty much conquer anything, in my opinion.

    A good way to motivate yourself is by setting goals. For example, challenge yourself to run a mile every day. If you hit this goal then you can reward yourself by watching half an hour of netflix afterwards.

    Here's another tip. Find something that you enjoy doing and then work hard at it. If you have a passion for a particular subject then you are more likely to stick at it.

    It's good that you are reading books. I tend to read a lot of non-fiction so that I can learn new skills. Keep it up
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  • Profile picture of the author GordonJ
    You are experiencing GROUND HOG DAY effect, from the movie with Bill Murray, where he lived the same day over and over again.

    You are not alone. First thing to DO, check your email. Are you getting more? I've noticed a dramatic increase in my email. Mostly spam. Or gurus.

    Have you signed up for anything and get daily or weekly emails from them?

    See, these guru guys are MOTIVATED, to get out of bed and send you email,

    BECAUSE

    they have a good REASON to do so. Mostly, a monetary one.

    So, how do you create a reason to get going and be productive? I'll give you a couple of ideas. The first one is to spend some money...which is like WTF?? but bear with me.

    Search Amazon or Google for MMFB Arts and Crafts, then whiteboards. For aboiut 15 bux you can buy a roll of stick on the wall DRY ERASE board material, and it comes with four markers. I cut it in half, and have a wall (White Board) of about 3.5 feet by 3'

    OK. This is your TO DO, or goal board, dream board, future wall of success...whatever you want to call it. It will be the last thing you look at before bed time, and the first thing you see when you wake up.

    But if it remains blank, you'll get nothing out of it. You want to start immediately writing on it, and don't forget, you can easily wipe it clean, but put something, anything on it, a goal for a year from now, in dollars, like 40K dollars from IM.

    Or maybe 10 pushups today. It doesn't matter in the start, but WRITE something down where you can SEE it, staring at you day after day.

    What do you want? WRITE some goals, some dreams, some desires...knowing today could be very much like yesterday, be like Bill Murray (make watching the movie GROUNDHOG DAY one of the TO DO lists) and every day add something new to your day. Use the REPETITION to improve yourself.

    Now you don't have to use your wall, but if you do, and you see this GIANT white board every day, and you write on it, then also have the achiever's helpers written on it, maybe across the top. Who, what, why, when and how??

    Ask yourself what will be doing, why, for what reason. REASON. It is where you want to get to, to have a reason to get out of bed and get going.

    Similar activities can be done with to do lists, or using timers to do things for short periods of time, but if you stick it in your face, BIG LETTERS, every day, then maybe it will be enough for you to get your life rolling again.

    It could be the best 15 dollars you ever spend in your life, and you'll have something to do too, first put it on the wall, second write on it. THEN, go from there.

    GordonJ


    Originally Posted by daredevil007 View Post

    Hello,
    I am new here, I do not know if this is right place to get answers for problems, but I will try.
    Recently I caught myself that I can not persue myself to do something more than sitting in home, watching netflix, in short - procrasting in all ways. In the past I found myself that I was very active person, I worked besides my studies, involved myself in various activities, was doing volunteer work, worked-out from time to time, was reading books (especially inspirational or motivational books) and other things that were important to me.
    In recent months, I have not been able to force myself to do something more important than watching Netflix, playing console and other procrasting activities. This pandemic time is very good for self-improvement but on the contrary, I am degrading myself. I do not seek answers why this happens to me, but I would like to know how is possible to get out from that loop?
    This is not appropriate time to wasting my time, because I am senior year student and I have to do final assignment to get degree, but I can not persue myself to do important things.
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    • Originally Posted by GordonJ View Post

      You are experiencing GROUND HOG DAY effect, from the movie with Bill Murray, where he lived the same day over and over again.

      You are not alone. First thing to DO, check your email. Are you getting more? I've noticed a dramatic increase in my email. Mostly spam. Or gurus.

      Have you signed up for anything and get daily or weekly emails from them?

      See, these guru guys are MOTIVATED, to get out of bed and send you email,

      BECAUSE

      they have a good REASON to do so. Mostly, a monetary one.

      So, how do you create a reason to get going and be productive? I'll give you a couple of ideas. The first one is to spend some money...which is like WTF?? but bear with me.

      Search Amazon or Google for MMFB Arts and Crafts, then whiteboards. For aboiut 15 bux you can buy a roll of stick on the wall DRY ERASE board material, and it comes with four markers. I cut it in half, and have a wall (White Board) of about 3.5 feet by 3'

      OK. This is your TO DO, or goal board, dream board, future wall of success...whatever you want to call it. It will be the last thing you look at before bed time, and the first thing you see when you wake up.

      But if it remains blank, you'll get nothing out of it. You want to start immediately writing on it, and don't forget, you can easily wipe it clean, but put something, anything on it, a goal for a year from now, in dollars, like 40K dollars from IM.

      Or maybe 10 pushups today. It doesn't matter in the start, but WRITE something down where you can SEE it, staring at you day after day.

      What do you want? WRITE some goals, some dreams, some desires...knowing today could be very much like yesterday, be like Bill Murray (make watching the movie GROUNDHOG DAY one of the TO DO lists) and every day add something new to your day. Use the REPETITION to improve yourself.

      Now you don't have to use your wall, but if you do, and you see this GIANT white board every day, and you write on it, then also have the achiever's helpers written on it, maybe across the top. Who, what, why, when and how??

      Ask yourself what will be doing, why, for what reason. REASON. It is where you want to get to, to have a reason to get out of bed and get going.

      Similar activities can be done with to do lists, or using timers to do things for short periods of time, but if you stick it in your face, BIG LETTERS, every day, then maybe it will be enough for you to get your life rolling again.

      It could be the best 15 dollars you ever spend in your life, and you'll have something to do too, first put it on the wall, second write on it. THEN, go from there.

      GordonJ

      Gold!

      I would just add to get in your head and hack it. Get some Anthony Robbins stuff if you have to. But you have to know how to get yourself fired up on achieving what you really want and focus on the end game how you would feel once you are there and what can you do today to take one step in that direction.

      All that procraststuff is your nemesis in a video game.....defeat it.
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  • Profile picture of the author socialentry
    posting on the mind warrior forum on how to solve procrastination is procrastinating


    reading bricks about motivating yourself to stop procrastinating is major procrastation
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    • Originally Posted by socialentry View Post

      posting on the mind warrior forum on how to solve procrastination is procrastinating


      reading bricks about motivating yourself to stop procrastinating is major procrastation
      I can get highly motivated by reading a good motivation brick.

      By the way, has anyone asked the original poster if they mean "Persuade" instead of "Persue"?
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  • Profile picture of the author joaquin112
    Look into setting goals, and achieve them on a daily basis. Start small, and keep improving your goals gradually. Set a big 6-month goal. Then just start working on it with all you've got. It's easy man.
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  • Profile picture of the author Master Blake
    It's a tough nut to crack. It will demand a solid dose of guts.

    Listen to an external voice that programs your subconscious like 5-9 times per month.

    The transformation usually takes six months after consistent mind programming.

    Then try your hand at new opportunities (you'd otherwise wouldn't see).

    Watch what happens.
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  • Self discipline and time management/awareness. You need to sit down and figure out your goals in life so that you have something to focus on and work towards. Everytime you want to watch Netflix, ask yourself if that's what is going to help you reach your goal or get you where you want to be in life. Be aware that there are only 24 hours in a day. How are you going to use that time to get you to where you want to be in life. Think of your family and/or friends. Make yourself a better version of yourself so you can be the best for the people who love and support you. Make yourself and those people proud because you deserve it. Understand WHY you want to be a better version of yourself first. Then set goals and tasks to HOW you're going to accomplish that. Also guided meditation and exercise helps your positive mindset and focus.
    I hope this helps!
    -Ty
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    • Profile picture of the author GordonJ
      Originally Posted by manifestsuccess View Post


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      figure out your goals in life
      And there is stumbling block number one.

      HOW? The advice, like so much advice, lacks the how. Like in writing copy, we see test, test and test, but seldom the how to test.

      If people could figure out their goals for their life, would they really need much more than that? Don't goals come with a built in blueprint, or at least a sketched out MAP of getting there.

      The HOW to figure out goals is the missing GO square on many people's game board.

      GordonJ
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      • Profile picture of the author Odahh
        Originally Posted by GordonJ View Post

        And there is stumbling block number one.

        HOW? The advice, like so much advice, lacks the how. Like in writing copy, we see test, test and test, but seldom the how to test.

        If people could figure out their goals for their life, would they really need much more than that? Don't goals come with a built in blueprint, or at least a sketched out MAP of getting there.

        The HOW to figure out goals is the missing GO square on many people's game board.

        GordonJ
        it is really easy to set goals .. for someone who has internal motivation and drive .. or someone who feels adequate threat to their survival.

        it just does not work the other way
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      • Originally Posted by GordonJ View Post

        And there is stumbling block number one.

        HOW? The advice, like so much advice, lacks the how. Like in writing copy, we see test, test and test, but seldom the how to test.

        If people could figure out their goals for their life, would they really need much more than that? Don't goals come with a built in blueprint, or at least a sketched out MAP of getting there.

        The HOW to figure out goals is the missing GO square on many people's game board.

        GordonJ
        I never set goals. (especially income goals)

        I have a schedule. It's by the week. It starts on Saturday. If I get ahead of my scheduled income, I may slack off..I may not. But if I get behind by Monday night, I change what I'm doing to at least meet my scheduled income.

        I've done that for decades.

        And if my income grows too far ahead of my schedule...well, now I have a new comfort level, and I adjust my schedule.
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        • Profile picture of the author GordonJ
          Originally Posted by Claude Whitacre View Post

          I never set goals. (especially income goals)

          I have a schedule. It's by the week. It starts on Saturday. If I get ahead of my scheduled income, I may slack off..I may not. But if I get behind by Monday night, I change what I'm doing to at least meet my scheduled income.

          I've done that for decades.

          And if my income grows too far ahead of my schedule...well, now I have a new comfort level, and I adjust my schedule.
          Thanks Claude,

          It would be great to come across 1,000 Claudes or others here, life would be much simpler.

          And I take the responsibility for not having my day filled with people who have their stuff together, unfortunately, I have too often chosen to help the little guy, stuck in the mud, wheels spinning and going nowhere fast...in other words...

          most Warriors. HA!

          Whether we call it our schedule, daily to-do list, or blueprint...success usually has a PLAN of Action they follow. They know what their day should be like, on average. I remember reading a book by Mark McCormack, the great sports agent, and he said his calendar was filled out almost two years in advance. YIKES, that is long term scheduling.

          I've helped people for over 25 years set goals, but always, or ALMOST always, we had to get the WANT clear in mind. And my opinion is, most (80%) of non professional people don't know what they want, just some fuzzy idea of what life would be like IF...

          IF they had the money...

          to do whatever they wanted to do. Few people who think like this ever get the money, have the time or have a plan to get what they want.

          But, it mostly isn't their fault, it is the way our educational systems work, designed to turn out few thinkers and many followers, because our society needs worker bees, much more than Queen bees. But anyhow, it could be why SELF-HELP

          SELF-IMPROVEMENT market is huge and evergreen.

          People are not taught how to set goals, or why they should, IF they should even. And fewer still find their passion, or even their competency, as in being a good salesperson.

          I'm speaking of the non-professional here, the vast majority, most of the Warriors who visit here, looking for something and most of them cash strapped on the edge of desperation. Not all, of course.

          We can easily go back here the last 5 years, and we can see those that had a PLAN (OR A SCHEDULE) AND executed it, adjusted and today are closer to where they wanted to be five years ago, heck, I don't think we need to look outside this subforum to find 5 year Warriors who were GOING TO, and yet, here and now....still miles away from their goals.

          GordonJ
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          • Profile picture of the author myob
            Originally Posted by GordonJ View Post

            SELF-IMPROVEMENT market is huge and evergreen.

            People are not taught how to set goals, or why they should, IF they should even. And fewer still find their passion, or even their competency, as in being a good salesperson.
            If buyers of self-improvement books actually read and study them, I would have been out of business long ago.

            "Improvement begins with I."
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            • Profile picture of the author Frank Donovan
              Originally Posted by myob View Post

              If buyers of self-improvement books actually read and study them, I would have been out of business long ago.

              Exactly this. The self-help market is evergreen because the same people keep buying self-help books and courses on average once every 18 months.


              https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/sham-scam/
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              • Originally Posted by Frank Donovan View Post

                Exactly this. The self-help market is evergreen because the same people keep buying self-help books and courses on average once every 18 months.


                https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/sham-scam/

                "The most likely customer for a book on any given topic was someone who had bought a similar book within the preceding eighteen months."

                Yup. In fact, if you took the people who bought a similar book within the last 3 months, you would have a list of self help addicts......highly profitable.

                But...about the self help crowd. This doesn't apply to all of them, but it may be a rule of thumb...

                They keep buying new books, taking new courses...and seeing new gurus...

                because they are looking for something outside themselves to improve their lives......they are not looking to improve their lives themselves, they believe that this next course could be the one that has all the secrets that have been kept from them.

                When they inevitably say "This program didn't work" what they mean is "This program didn't solve my problems for me".


                The problem is....the problem is them. And when they are done with the new program/book/seminar...they are the same person. And that person isn't going to do the work necessary to make their lives better.

                How do I know that? Because they never have done the work necessary before.

                About goals. Once someone states their income goal, a few days later, I can tell if they are going to hit it. How? I ask "Are you ahead of schedule?".

                Invariably, the answer is something like "Well no, but I have the whole year to attain my goal".

                A person who is going to attain their goal, is always ahead of schedule. What if your car won't start? What if you get sick? What if there is a flood? What if there is a pandemic?

                That's why your always ahead of schedule.

                I'll get off of my soapbox now.
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  • Hey Hi,

    It all leads to if you're awakened or not.

    If you're awakened, you'll go ahead and do it.

    You get awakened with hypnotic triggers that hone the mind,
    in order to realize The Truth. Then you would 'know'.
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  • Profile picture of the author Frank Donovan
    So, daredevil007 starts this thread in April and disappears.

    Must have found something more important.
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    • Profile picture of the author Odahh
      Originally Posted by Frank Donovan View Post

      So, daredevil007 starts this thread in April and disappears.

      Must have found something more important.
      i ignored the thread until gordons post on goals .. the original post was put up 7 week into lockdown .. and that factor was not anterd in to any of the response..i be a billion people around the world stuck in their homes felt like they where wasting their time ..
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  • Profile picture of the author myob
    Originally Posted by Just Curious 66 View Post

    It all leads to if you're awakened or not.

    If you're awakened, you'll go ahead and do it.

    You get awakened with hypnotic triggers that hone the mind,
    in order to realize The Truth. Then you would 'know'.
    In some ancient wisdom there is talk of meditation as an act of awakening, and in order to realize "The Truth" one must be asleep, for the eye sees a thing more clearly in dreams than the imagination when awake. You must dream intentionally. Most people dream a dream when they are asleep. But those who "know" can dream while awake, intentionally. And "The Truth" will make you free so you'll go ahead and just do "it", whatever your "it" is, that is.

    "I had a dream that I was awake and I woke up to find myself asleep."
    - Stan Laurel
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  • Profile picture of the author Jonathan 2.0
    Hi daredevil007

    Like Claude suggested, the the power to change your Life is on your hands. It's your responsibility. There are many, many Personal Development/Personal Advancement books that can definitely empower you and help you on your journey ― by giving you the mindsets, tools, etc. to change ... Nothing wrong with that.

    However ultimately it's up to you to do the work. I've been through the worst of it so I understand where you coming from. Many People won't understand because they either A) Haven't been there/understand or B) They're just critical.

    Unfortunately online many People just don't want People to succeed: They would rather just argue their point without much thought into it. Maybe they had a negative experience with ( X) and to that all examples of (X) are "wrong."

    I honestly believe that no matter how "hopeless" a Person's situation is ― they can turn it all around and live an amazing Life.

    2C
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    • Originally Posted by Jonathan 2.0 View Post


      Unfortunately online many People just don't want People to succeed:
      Who are these people that don't want someone else to succeed?

      I've never known anyone that tried to keep someone else from succeeding.
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      • Profile picture of the author Jonathan 2.0
        Originally Posted by Claude Whitacre View Post

        Who are these people that don't want someone else to succeed?

        I've never known anyone that tried to keep someone else from succeeding.
        Lol. No? I wish I lived in your World (Seriously though, it happens a lot.)
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        • Originally Posted by Jonathan 2.0 View Post

          Lol. No? I wish I lived in your World (Seriously though, it happens a lot.)
          How do you know someone doesn't want you to succeed at something? What would they say to you?
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          • Profile picture of the author Jonathan 2.0
            Originally Posted by Claude Whitacre View Post

            How do you know someone doesn't want you to succeed at something? What would they say to you?
            Hi Claude.

            It was just a Person I'm living with that didn't want be to succeed as an Entrepreneur. Thankfully it should all be resolved now. When it comes to People online ― and something I don't want to do ― is being "passive aggressive".
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            • Profile picture of the author GordonJ
              Originally Posted by Jonathan 2.0 View Post

              Hi Claude.

              It was just a Person I'm living with that didn't want be to succeed as an Entrepreneur. Thankfully it should all be resolved now. When it comes to People online ― and something I don't want to do ― is being "passive aggressive".
              I had a recent experience, within the last month, at a popular copywriting group on Facebook, where someone asked a question, and my response said to "learn" how to do it, they should study a certain magazine.

              YIKES. Next thing I know, I have "insulted" the guy, by calling him a "beginner", and he issued me a warning, then said we should not cross paths (an idea I quickly vetoed, not one for being told who or what I can post).

              Somewhere in my reply, he INFERRED an insult. I wrote a statement, if you want to learn how to, then....blah, blah, blah. There was NO implication there, a STATEMENT.

              And we see this quite often, even right here on this mind forum, where strong opinions on how other peope should live come home to roost.

              Many of us are busy, use the WF, and other online sites for a little break, or maybe to share or even learn a thing or two.

              So, we may respond off the top of our heads. With what we may believe to be HELPFUL ADVICE, or suggestions...and yet, again and again, the person we respond to takes it the wrong way...

              THEY, I N F E R, the passive/aggressive because that is what they bring with them, insecurity, or defensiveness about their thoughs.

              I don't see a lot of ATTACKING, and especially not from some of these very successful guys who surrender a little of their time to make a contribution, and maybe from their wisdom and experience, a struggling person can grab hold of a lifeline or two.

              I suspect there are many people who FEEL they are under attack, and as often as not, it is they have found what they brought with them to the table.

              GordonJ
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              • Profile picture of the author Jonathan 2.0
                Thanks GordonJ.

                I don't agree with everything you said ― and some of it definitely applies to some People ― however ultimately just because one situation means X doesn't mean all other situations mean X. Sometimes (many times?) when a Person is claiming People as being "passive aggressive" ...

                They're completely right. And that's a fact. : )

                P.S.
                If People are responding negatively to your posts/advice/etc ... Then it would probably be more beneficial to consider changing your communication ― rather than just blaming other People.

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                • Profile picture of the author GordonJ
                  Originally Posted by Jonathan 2.0 View Post

                  Thanks GordonJ.

                  I don't agree with everything you said ― and some of it definitely applies to some People ― however ultimately just because one situation means X doesn't mean all other situations mean X. Sometimes (many times?) when a Person is claiming People as being "passive aggressive" ...

                  They're completely right. And that's a fact. : )

                  P.S.
                  If People are responding negatively to your posts/advice/etc ... Then it would probably be more beneficial to consider changing your communication ― rather than just blaming other People.

                  2C
                  How sweet it would be, if we did less blaming, on passive aggressive people and assumed responsibilty. This may be P/A? Whatcha think?

                  GordonJ
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              • Profile picture of the author myob
                Originally Posted by Jonathan 2.0 View Post

                If People are responding negatively to your posts/advice/etc ... Then it would probably be more beneficial to consider changing your communication ― rather than just blaming other People.
                "If you are the smartest person in the room, then you are in the wrong room."

                ― Cornfucius
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        P.S.
        Something that may be helpful for OP and People similar is working on their self-esteem. (There's a good book titled: "The 6 Pillars Of Self-Esteem") Many, many things in Life work much better when a Person feels good about themselves/their Life ... Rather than coming from a place of "lack"/"limitation."
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    • Profile picture of the author Odahh
      Originally Posted by Jonathan 2.0 View Post

      Hi daredevil007


      Unfortunately online many People just don't want People to succeed: They would rather just argue their point without much thought into it. Maybe they had a negative experience with ( X) and to that all examples of (X) are "wrong."

      I honestly believe that no matter how "hopeless" a Person's situation is ― they can turn it all around and live an amazing Life.

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      i will say you are pretty much wrong .. .. there is nothing i can do online to prevent anyone else from succeeding .. nothing i can say do or imply .. as long as you follw the rules of the platform or service you use .. they want you to succeed

      but there are plenty of people who drink the kool aid of success and come online to formulate some post .. looking for a that a boy.. or pat on the back .. or some really worthless pep talk

      if they where really trying to succeed online they wouldn't be her writing snibvliling woe is me pos .. they would be trying to figure out how to spend 1 dollar on their im or digital marketing effort.. and earn 2 $ in profits ..

      some people who post here acttual could you a kick in the bottom to really get moving ..

      all the hollow self esstem crap used in schools .. falls apart in the real world .. can causes people to be a mess until the learn to take real criticism and keep moving ..

      unless someone is very lucky eventually the real world will grab them up .. and they later that happens the harder it is to recover from ..

      no one is getting stopped by anyone online ..what you are seeing .. is people looking for permission to succeed ..not getting it from total strangers ..

      blah blah blah ..

      the world just got very real .. and the only permission you need to succeed .. is from the people who will pay you money ..and gain from your success ..
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      • Profile picture of the author Jonathan 2.0
        Originally Posted by Odahh View Post

        i will say you are pretty much wrong .. .. there is nothing i can do online to prevent anyone else from succeeding .. nothing i can say do or imply .. .
        Of course. Ultimately the Person can still be successful. However when they have (many times well-meaning) People are telling them they can't do this or do that or whatever because of ____________. It's gets very annoying after a while.
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        • Profile picture of the author Odahh
          Originally Posted by Jonathan 2.0 View Post

          Of course. Ultimately the Person can still be successful. However when they have (many times well-meaning) People are telling them they can't do this or do that or whatever because of ____________. It's gets very annoying after a while.
          that is just part of life ..

          i want to get on a plain to the philippines and live on borakay beach with the girl who want me to marry her for a few months .. then take her to india so i can spend a few month as a vegetarian and learn a hundred tasty vegetarian recipes .. and maybe start a company to import spices from india to the US and sell them online .

          there is a very long list of 30-50 because ofs at leat between me and actually doing it .. that are quite annoying ..

          but the easy wins are never the wins people talk about ..unless they are just arogent sun of.. trying to crush you
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          • Profile picture of the author myob
            Originally Posted by Odahh View Post

            ... and maybe start a company to import spices from india to the US and sell them online .

            there is a very long list of 30-50 because ofs at leat between me and actually doing it .. that are quite annoying ..
            What is keeping you from doing that now? I can't imagine how there would be anywhere near 30-50 excuses not to start.

            https://www.amazon.com/indian-spices/s?k=indian+spices
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            • Profile picture of the author Odahh
              Originally Posted by myob View Post

              What is keeping you from doing that now? I can't imagine how there would be anywhere near 30-50 excuses not to start.

              https://www.amazon.com/indian-spices/s?k=indian+spices
              the lockdown ..has me in limbo on many things ..and the spice company has only been an idea for a week or so . at this point i am just trying tofocus on the other side of this lockdown instead of on the crap going on now ..

              that post may have been the first or second time i put that idea in writing
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              • Originally Posted by Odahh View Post

                the lockdown ..has me in limbo on many things ..and the spice company has only been an idea for a week or so . at this point i am just trying tofocus on the other side of this lockdown instead of on the crap going on now ..

                that post may have been the first or second time i put that idea in writing
                If you are selling online. I think it would be easier to come up with a list of offers that would be affected by the virus. Online buying is at an all time high...and the virus prompted that increase.

                My guess is that it will continue, because by now, it's a habit.
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                • Profile picture of the author Odahh
                  Originally Posted by Claude Whitacre View Post

                  If you are selling online. I think it would be easier to come up with a list of offers that would be affected by the virus. Online buying is at an all time high...and the virus prompted that increase.

                  My guess is that it will continue, because by now, it's a habit.
                  I need new state id before i can do much right now ..i move to massachusetts to help my brother ..2 weeks before the shutdown began .. and my passport expired a week after i moved as well .

                  at this point without a valid id there is not much i can do ..and if i go to get a new passport or renew the beat up old on wait time is 4 months or more now ..

                  i'm non essential .. and what i need done is non essential .. and i am waiting for some government agency to send me mail after finely getting through to a few a week ago .. to establish residency .. where i am staying.. so i can get an id when the rmv finally opens .. so i can open a bank account . ..

                  but my brother got word he can get surgery on his other ankle which in the next month .. which will give me three more month here after that helping him ..

                  i actually want something up and running by then even if it is not making much money ..or if in a way it is just the social media aspect of the business to do the marketing ..
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  • Profile picture of the author talfighel
    You kind of formed a new bad habit. To get out of it, force yourself to do something else instead of just watching netflix.

    Each night write your goals for the next day that you think will move you forward and then do them. This is a must and if you do this everyday, it will become a new habit after a while.

    Now don't get rid of netflix if this is a must have but you must write these daily goals and commit to them and do them.
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  • Profile picture of the author spartan14
    Before you go to sleep and when you wake up spend 30 minutes visualizing how you are productive ,work hard ,achieve the traffic you desire ,you are disciplined .Every habit its in our subconstient mind and if you do what i told you you will impregnate the habit of being productive in your subconstient mind .Also watch Eric Thomas channel it has some powerful motivational videos to motivate you achieve your dreams
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  • I think there are a lot of steps out there for long-term fixes. Here are some quick fixes that I absolutely love and use on a regular basis:

    Create rewards for myself every time I achieve a small goal, e.g. if i plan my report in the next 40 minutes, I can have the coffee I've been craving;

    At the beginning of the day, write down 3 intentions that you absolutely need to have achieved by the end of the day - this is much less daunting than a to-do list;

    If i'm feeling the urge to procrastinate (e.g. watch some Netflix), I make myself wait 20 minutes before doing it - usually I'll get bored during these 20 minutes and then end up continuing what needs to be done.

    Hope these help!
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  • Profile picture of the author Jamell
    Somewhere along the way your priorities got screwed up .Actions create habit and only by doing can one break bad habits. You have to ask yourself what activities are going to get you to achieve your goals. After you answer that you need to decide what is more important.
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  • Profile picture of the author Radcliff
    It is normal to act the way you have been acting. We all go through this at some point in our lives. I think the best thing to do to get out of this phase is to develop a routine for yourself, think about what you want to do, the things you want to work on during this free time and then allocate different times of the day for each activity. You can also decide at which part of the day you want to watch Netflix, so that you won't be watching it the whole day.
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