Do you need more courage in your life?
Is your business not getting you where you want to be?
One of the most profound ideas I learned in college was that the events in our lives are the result of inner energy and thought. Without getting too spiritual or new age, what we believe really becomes true. If you think you can...I mean TRULY believe that things will happen...they will.
Or so it has in my life.
So here's what I do when I feel scared and lacking courage.
1. Live the Failure Before It Happens...
I basically live the nightmare scenario of the task/idea going totally to hell. If I can deal with it...and can push through the fear barriers...I take the action.
This prevents you from analyzing things. If you imagine the worst and can deal...then minor problems just don't bother you anymore.
I did this with my online biz...could I succeed? What if I failed? What if I spent 2k or 20k and lost ALL of it? I decided I could pick up and come back from the failure...so I started my business.
2. Talk to People Who Believe in You
These people will psych you up and provide strength through adversity. These are the people you call if you're life is on the line...and who you know will save your ass in a pinch.
Don't have these people? Be open to finding these people anywhere. It takes trust but if you trust people...you'll get burned. However, you'll also find that people come through in ways you'd never imagine.
I met all my mentors and partners this way. I trusted them before they earned it. Most people turned out to be alright. Therefore I had a glut of partners (a good glut to have ).
So give people a chance and they will be there for you. Find the courage to share your feelings, anxiety, and problems and you'll have no trouble taking a new risk on business.
3. Take a Break
Big decisions shouldn't be made on impulse. That's a formula for failure. However, when you're in analysis mode for too long...it's easy to develop tunnel vision. So get out of there and take a break.
Go for a beer.
Go for a movie out with your spouse or significant other.
Anything to clear your mind.
Then come back and make a choice. You've taken the time to think and gotten a clear mode. You're in decision mode. So MAKE IT! Courage comes when you make a decision and see it through.
4. Make Success the Only Option
Usually, if you work your ass off and pour your blood, sweat, and tears into something...you'll have success.
Now, it might not be wealth, time, or both of those. It might be experience. However, that experience is priceless. Therefore, even the biggest "failures" can be the biggest sucesses, when seen through the lens of a long time horizon and some perspective.
I failed at a network marketing business my first year of college. I failed again at it my junior year of college.
Why did I fail? I didn't put enough trust in myself to implement the system. Who knows if it worked or not. I'll never know because I didn't truly give it a shot.
Sure I "tried," made a few calls, attended meetings and conferences...
But I didn't eat, sleep, breathe, and LIVE my business...
In short, I didn't make success the only option.
However, I got the most valuable "success" through these failures. I learned that to truly be sucessful at something, you have to LIVE it. The heartache, missed opportunities, mistakes, failures, successes, tears, and ultimately, toasting your success with a nice stiff drink and cigar (haha...I was getting a bit too serious there...this isn't a movie)
5. Lighten up Sometimes
Wow, this one is the hardest so I saved it for last. I fail at this one too much. One could consider me an overachiever. I work hard. I focus on something to the point of excluding other things...even those things that are important to me.
So, last week, I went to the beach. No business...no computer...no lists...no ANYTHING.
I laid on the beach with my girlfriend, got a nice tan, and had all you can eat crab legs and some tropical drinks.
It was just the refresher I needed.
Any time you are lacking courage, it is either one of two things. Either you're not risking enough...or you're tired.
When you're tired...lighten up and go have fun. Business will always be there to be had. If you can't do this, then you're a slave to your business. End of story. So, catch it before it's a problem.
So there you go Warrior. If you follow these tips, I'm sure they will help you find the courage to succeed.
I want to extend an invitation to ANY reader of this post to send me an email (bjs380 at gmail.com) or PM me with your thoughts. Or feel free to simply post your thoughts below.
To Becoming Everything You Can Be,