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When You Have A Dream

by Ken Leatherman
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There are times when we get up in the morning and we just don't feel like doing anything. We are tired, we are bored, and we don't want to go anywhere. So what do we do? Do we sit around and complain about how bad our day was or do we take action? You might be thinking that you can't make any difference. But you can! You can make a difference in your life by starting with a simple task such as writing down one thing that you would like to accomplish in the next year.

One of my favorite quotes is from Napoleon Hill: "Whatever the mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve." This is true for everyone. It doesn't matter if you are a millionaire or a homeless person. The only thing that matters is that you believe in yourself and in your abilities. If you believe that you can do something then you will.

The first step is to write down everything that you want to accomplish in the next year on a piece of paper. Don't think about it too much because this will not work. Just let it flow out. You may have a lot of things to write down but that's okay. Just start writing. Once you have all of your items written down, you need to organize them. You can organize them into different categories or you can organize them according to how much time they will take to accomplish. You can also group similar items together.

Once you have organized your list, you can start making a plan. For example, you may decide that you want to spend more time with your family. You can create a plan to accomplish this goal by spending less time at work so that you can spend more time with your family, you can take classes in school or you can find a job that will allow you to spend more time with your kids. There are many ways that you can accomplish this goal.

You can accomplish anything that you put your mind to. You have to believe in yourself and in your ability to do the things that you want to do. If you believe that you are capable of accomplishing your goals then you will.
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  • Profile picture of the author Artkantos
    Excellent post, I took the habit of free flow writing each morning and it has been really therapeutic...Writing can heal you, inspire you, clear your mind but overall is a way of materialize ideas, knowledge, dreams, feelings and also letting go stuff that no longer serve you
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  • Profile picture of the author tagiscom
    Originally Posted by Ken Leatherman View Post

    There are times when we get up in the morning and we just don't feel like doing anything. We are tired, we are bored, and we don't want to go anywhere. So what do we do? Do we sit around and complain about how bad our day was or do we take action? You might be thinking that you can't make any difference. But you can! You can make a difference in your life by starting with a simple task such as writing down one thing that you would like to accomplish in the next year.
    We do,..ok.

    One of my favorite quotes is from Napoleon Hill: "Whatever the mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve." This is true for everyone. It doesn't matter if you are a millionaire or a homeless person. The only thing that matters is that you believe in yourself and in your abilities. If you believe that you can do something then you will.
    That is true to a point, but a Grandma may not be able to go to NASA and train to be an astronaut, but she can still go into space for a few minutes, (as long as she has the money).

    Sure, l have learned a lot about the stock market the last 5 years or enough to know if l lose a lot l can get it back, just as long as l learn something in the process and don't repeat the mistake.

    The first step is to write down everything that you want to accomplish in the next year on a piece of paper. Don't think about it too much because this will not work. Just let it flow out. You may have a lot of things to write down but that's okay. Just start writing. Once you have all of your items written down, you need to organize them. You can organize them into different categories or you can organize them according to how much time they will take to accomplish. You can also group similar items together.
    Yes, Vision boards, been there done that, and will never do it again.

    Once you have organized your list, you can start making a plan. For example, you may decide that you want to spend more time with your family. You can create a plan to accomplish this goal by spending less time at work so that you can spend more time with your family, you can take classes in school or you can find a job that will allow you to spend more time with your kids. There are many ways that you can accomplish this goal.

    You can accomplish anything that you put your mind to. You have to believe in yourself and in your ability to do the things that you want to do. If you believe that you are capable of accomplishing your goals then you will.
    You will but the current path may not be the right one, and it may take a lot of switching to find it.

    And when you find the right one, then it has to be a fanatical belief, or no matter how hard it gets or how impossible it seems you have to keep trying.
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  • Profile picture of the author Jonathan 2.0
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    Hey Ken ― thanks for the empowering post. : )

    Yeah I think Belief in one's Self ― and abilities etc. ― is half the battle. As Chris Gardner would say: "Start where you are." Sometimes it's good the build Confidence and Self-Belief by starting off accomplish smaller goals ― and then use that "momentum" and Belief for the bigger goals. If you set your mind to it, you can accomplish almost anything.

    Originally Posted by Ken Leatherman View Post

    One of my favorite quotes is from Napoleon Hill: "Whatever the mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve." This is true for everyone. It doesn't matter if you are a millionaire or a homeless person. The only thing that matters is that you believe in yourself and in your abilities. If you believe that you can do something then you will.
    Yup. I love that quotation. : ) Thanks.

    [Note=] People if you haven't read it yet ― definitely check out "Think And Grow Rich" on Amazon.com. Because you will also learn the "Whatever it takes" Attitude ... (I won't go into detail because I've mentioned it before.)

    HTH
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  • Profile picture of the author Princess Balestra
    Benedict returns from the kitchen, an' smiles *that* smile.

    "I can't find my boxers anywhere. Seriously, Princess -- have you hidden them?"

    I purse my lips to make all snarky, but then Chris shows, Cumberbatch apparel atop head.

    "She never hid them, you absurd buffoon! I merely purloined them while you were away."

    Next stahp in the dream scenario is where I rise from the silkityoore of my inner boodwaahrre to prevent both the Marvel Stoodios industry an' the Royule Shakespeare Cumpenny gowin' down the proverbyool Proverbial bcs I pulled a classic Hemsworth while the Dictster was watchin'.

    So I guess that is the deal with dreams.

    When you step on the elevatah of the cloudsily perfect, you gaht no ideah what gonna happen next.

    Chris an' Benedict.

    Togethah.

    With Moi.

    I don't recall writin' this out evah as a potential dream scenario bcs I prolly too busy workin' out with platinum tiarae to tone muh physique beyond the adventurously svelte, but I will take a perfect communion of hitherto unforeseen absolutes an' random movie hotsters as a gift steada a pain tyvm.

    Hey, so next there's an actshwl fistfight.

    Suddenly it is like Hollywood in my own private areah!

    Chris says, "I don't need a hammer for this, you Irish twat. Arm yourself if you like. I'll just ripple. It will be more than a fair contest!"

    I gaht my bra on by now, so I can intervene without seemin' merely no sex object. "Why the frick you figure I gaht a toolkit, babe? I jus' a helpliss princess."

    Benedict applauds. "Quite right. Humanity in a nutshell. Brain over brawn." (It is at this point you coulda cut the air with a cheese knife an' still be holdin' no actschwl biscuits.) "So, Princess: where's my bloody underwear? We're shooting at 11 for Dr Strange 3, and, quite frankly, this ruffian's barbs are no more than a momentary inconsequence."
    "11?" wails Chris, nipples kinda PURPLE. "I'm in that scene too -- and my hair simply isn't ready!"

    Deal is, I guess, bein' a princess, that I should be worshipped, honored, fulfilled (an' seriously smoochied) from dawn till dusk -- but THAT Sunday mornin' I hadta skip my regulah online yogah flopout sesh with top inflooencah Hillary Stillury to get a coupla lameass movie stars prepared for battlin' evil in a fantasy capacity.

    Dream or whaht?

    So, Hassle Incarnate is then kinda ...

    Helicoptah across town for both bcs speshl contacts.

    Noo lingerie for Benedict bcs where I am measured for most stuffs.

    An' Chris is comin' back soon as filmin' is ovah to put up a Mondrian.

    (K, so raise yr eyebrow at Moi real crool; I ain't complainin'.)

    Concloosion?

    So it is like both Disney an' Attilla the Hun said:

    There are dreams.

    An' there is reality.

    Naht zackly poignant, I know, an' evrywan prolly knows that already.

    Hey, but jus' sayin' ...
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    • Profile picture of the author Jonathan 2.0
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      Originally Posted by Princess Balestra View Post


      There are dreams.

      An' there is reality.
      Great point Princess B. ... However (IMO) "Success" often means turning Dreams into Reality.
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      • Profile picture of the author Artkantos
        Originally Posted by Jonathan 2.0 View Post

        Great point Princess B. ... However (IMO) "Success" often means turning Dreams into Reality.
        Success is an interesting concept... Some say that success is achieving what you set out to achieve in life, but what if as a result of a very low self-esteem, success for that person is a totally mediocre life? It's still a success? Or is he/she lying to herself because he/she never healed his/her emotional wounds?
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        • Profile picture of the author GordonJ
          Originally Posted by Artkantos View Post

          Success is an interesting concept... Some say that success is achieving what you set out to achieve in life, but what if as a result of a very low self-esteem, success for that person is a totally mediocre life? It's still a success? Or is he/she lying to herself because he/she never healed his/her emotional wounds?
          As far as concepts go, what is a totally MEDIOCRE life? Isn't this a perspective, and success is also, as you say, an interesting concept.

          I don't know of one, maybe someone can elucidate me, but what is or where can I find the definitive measurement that says, this is a successful person who has lived a stellar, not mediocre life?

          I'll work on one, and introduce it as a WSO, iffin no one can point me to one, fair enough?

          As I read Ken's OP, it was about having a dream. Doesn't a dream, by its very nature, come with a metric that only the dreamer can apply to determine if it came true, or was a success?

          So I have a lot of problems brandishing about the sword of success.

          Some, would have monetary metrics making guys like Jeffrey Epstein wildly successful at that part of life.

          The adivce is solid, the writing down so as to clarify the goal, then being able to examine it for different paths to get to it. It is when we get into the area of judging others' lives and rendering a personal opinion on whether or not it was just "mediocre" is where I get off the train.

          Maybe, and we have them here, folks with low self esteem, deem themselves successful by even being able to get out of bed in the morning to be able to write down their dreams, goals and future...even if some of us think it is aiming too low.

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          • Profile picture of the author Artkantos
            Originally Posted by GordonJ View Post

            As far as concepts go, what is a totally MEDIOCRE life? Isn't this a perspective, and success is also, as you say, an interesting concept.

            I don't know of one, maybe someone can elucidate me, but what is or where can I find the definitive measurement that says, this is a successful person who has lived a stellar, not mediocre life?

            I'll work on one, and introduce it as a WSO, iffin no one can point me to one, fair enough?

            As I read Ken's OP, it was about having a dream. Doesn't a dream, by its very nature, come with a metric that only the dreamer can apply to determine if it came true, or was a success?

            So I have a lot of problems brandishing about the sword of success.

            Some, would have monetary metrics making guys like Jeffrey Epstein wildly successful at that part of life.

            The adivce is solid, the writing down so as to clarify the goal, then being able to examine it for different paths to get to it. It is when we get into the area of judging others' lives and rendering a personal opinion on whether or not it was just "mediocre" is where I get off the train.

            Maybe, and we have them here, folks with low self esteem, deem themselves successful by even being able to get out of bed in the morning to be able to write down their dreams, goals and future...even if some of us think it is aiming too low.

            GordonJ
            Let's see the literal definition of mediocre: "of only average quality; not very good" does not get us out of a lot of doubts, does it?

            Epstein is successful? Financially successful, but that's like saying that you're healthy because you have a perfect eyesight, but you can't barely walk or move.

            Success is a personal metric, because you can be successful in the eyes of society and end up hanging yourself as a result of dissatisfaction and emptiness or...the complete opposite!
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            • Profile picture of the author GordonJ
              Originally Posted by Artkantos View Post

              Let's see the literal definition of mediocre: "of only average quality; not very good" does not get us out of a lot of doubts, does it?
              Epstein is successful? Financially successful, but that's like saying that you're healthy because you have a perfect eyesight, but you can't barely walk or move.
              Success is a personal metric, because you can be successful in the eyes of society and end up hanging yourself as a result of dissatisfaction and emptiness or...the complete opposite!
              Well, Jeffrey may have (or may not have) hung himself, but he did not live a mediocre life did he?

              And if it (success) is, as you say, a "personal metric", then the person you referred to;

              what if as a result of a very low self-esteem, success for that person is a totally mediocre life? It's still a success? Or is he/she lying to herself because he/she never healed his/her emotional wounds?

              Then YES, by their own metrics they are successful. And it may have or certainly could have been his dream to overcome some disability, even mental illness perhaps, and achieving an "average quality" of life can be viewed as wildly successful too.

              As for lying to our selves, welcome to humanity. The often quoted Nap Hill, and even Tony Robbins would have people talking to their subconscious mind as if the thing they wanted, the dream, the goal, the result...self talk is often about believing the thing already exists...and it is awaiting for us down the road. That is the whole idea of a dream board, or writing down in detail the WANT/GOAL.

              And bias, another self lie, may play as big a part as low self esteem, or even Narcissism, albeit, they tend to be successful by many standards...in one's living a mediocre life.

              To the dictionary, AVERAGE QUALITY, as a goal, would only look good, to just a few billion people around the globe, or on the flat earth if you prefer.

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              • Profile picture of the author Artkantos
                Originally Posted by GordonJ View Post

                Well, Jeffrey may have (or may not have) hung himself, but he did not live a mediocre life did he?

                And if it (success) is, as you say, a "personal metric", then the person you referred to;

                what if as a result of a very low self-esteem, success for that person is a totally mediocre life? It's still a success? Or is he/she lying to herself because he/she never healed his/her emotional wounds?

                Then YES, by their own metrics they are successful. And it may have or certainly could have been his dream to overcome some disability, even mental illness perhaps, and achieving an "average quality" of life can be viewed as wildly successful too.

                As for lying to our selves, welcome to humanity. The often quoted Nap Hill, and even Tony Robbins would have people talking to their subconscious mind as if the thing they wanted, the dream, the goal, the result...self talk is often about believing the thing already exists...and it is awaiting for us down the road. That is the whole idea of a dream board, or writing down in detail the WANT/GOAL.

                And bias, another self lie, may play as big a part as low self esteem, or even Narcissism, albeit, they tend to be successful by many standards...in one's living a mediocre life.

                To the dictionary, AVERAGE QUALITY, as a goal, would only look good, to just a few billion people around the globe, or on the flat earth if you prefer.

                GordonJ
                Regarding Epstein I agree, he may or may not...and definitely not a mediocre life, successful? IDK, I haven't met him, I can only have an opinion about his personal history

                I think success is progress, if someone is with a huge depression and he/she is able to get out of that and live a "mediocre" life, then is clearly a progress, but progress can only be marked and measured by oneself, what does it means? That success for someone can be to be the biggest junkie on Earth and to die at 25 of an overdose!(?)

                Now, even I like all the dream/reality talk, metaphysics, etcetera and I consider them important, I like to keep some objectivity so we can understand each other and not to fall in the absurd like this (ie): I defend that the right way to cook pasta is completely raw and my pasta is "successful" and you can't say the opposite because it's a personal metric!
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        • Profile picture of the author Jonathan 2.0
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          Originally Posted by Artkantos View Post

          Success is an interesting concept... Some say that success is achieving what you set out to achieve in life, but what if as a result of a very low self-esteem, success for that person is a totally mediocre life? It's still a success? Or is he/she lying to herself because he/she never healed his/her emotional wounds?
          Hi Artkantos: Excellent question.
          : )

          I don't have all the answers .... However I think "Personal Success" is important. (Essentially ... High Self-Esteem, Self-Confidence, a positive Self-Image, peace of mind, Freedom from the past etc ...) I know from experience that without all that ― Life can be kind of miserable. Anyway all that said, I think the most important aspect would be: Character.

          As for the "definition" of "Success" ... I remember this quotation from Bob Dylan: "A Person is a success if they get up in the morning and get to bed at night ― and in between does what they want to do."

          Also as others have mentioned, your definition of "Success'' can be different that other Peoples'. (I love the example of the Boy with a learning disability who only gets to see his Dad occasionally where they meet up for pizza ... And then he decides to become a Pizza Delivery Boy) ... And I suppose that's similar to Earl Nightingale's definition ... "The progressive realization of a worthy ideal."
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          • Profile picture of the author Odahh
            Originally Posted by Jonathan 2.0 View Post

            Hi Artkantos: Excellent question.


            Also as others have mentioned, your definition of "Success'' can be different that other Peoples'. (I love the example of the Boy with a learning disability who only gets to see his Dad occasionally where they meet up for pizza ... And then he decides to become a Pizza Delivery Boy) ... And I suppose that's similar to Earl Nightingale's definition ... "The progressive realization of a worthy ideal."
            Pulling this back to dreams and turning dreams into reality.

            Dreams and visualization are fine. Then there is turning those dreams into goals we can work on and hope to achieve in a period of time.

            There are actions we can take to achieve the goals but there are also many things we might have to stop doing to achieve the goals as well.

            To turn a dream into a reality.

            The critical pare of the whatever the mind can conceive and believe. Can be achieved. Is the belief part. Sometimes you have to prime the pump and aim for dreams that you should be able to manage quite easily while having a small number of others the are stretch goals.
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            • Profile picture of the author Jonathan 2.0
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              Thanks Odahh.

              I think "Success" means a Person deciding what's important to them ― then doing everything they can to make it a "Reality." And it can be anything ... Another example that I really love is the Single Mother who has decided to be a World-Class Mom. Basically ― choose something that you really care about ― something that you realty believe in ... And then make it happen.

              HTH
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              • Profile picture of the author Odahh
                Originally Posted by Jonathan 2.0 View Post

                Thanks Odahh.

                I think "Success" means a Person deciding what's important to them ― then doing everything they can to make it a "Reality." And it can be anything ... Another example that I really love is the Single Mother who has decided to be a World-Class Mom. Basically ― choose something that you really care about ― something that you realty believe in ... And then make it happen.

                HTH
                The thread is about dreams . So in the realm of the thread success is judged based on did someone achieve a dream or improve their lives while working to achieve a dream.

                And for the sake of the thread I believe the timescale of the dream was a year or two. So if success is a personal metric then. Here are the things people set out to achieve. Do they achieve them or did working to achieve them lead to measurable improvement in their lives.

                I'm trying to adapt to the new forum format of keeping the discussion in the thread relevant to the first post in the thread.

                Rather than trying to figure out if someone is or is not a success. How can they improve their chances of turning a dream into a reality.

                So let's I have recently started to dream about being down at or below 15 percent body where I might currently be over 40 percent body fat. Even if I get down to 20 percent body fat. I will still greatly improve my physical body and my health .
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      • Profile picture of the author Frank Donovan
        Originally Posted by Jonathan 2.0 View Post

        Great point Princess B. ... However (IMO) "Success" often means turning Dreams into Reality.
        I think the point is that in many cases, the dreams are the reality.
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  • Profile picture of the author savidge4
    It may be a bit of semantics I am sure.... I am not a big fan of "Vision Boards" per se. A picture of some fancy car or a house or whatever else - tends to be physical in nature. And lets say that you over an amount of time get what it is thats on your "Vision Board" and this is where I have an issue... what exactly got you to what you wanted? Its not that there was no work to getting there... its just getting the thing... make sense?

    I have a "Idea Board" again be it the house or the car or whatever it is - I dont have those kinds of things on my list - but im different I guess.

    I then have a number of "Goal Boards". An item moves from the Idea Board, over to the Goal board when I am actively doing something that will make the idea a reality. In some cases, I will have multiple Ideas on a single Goal board.

    My goal boards will have the primary idea on the top, and any secondary ideas on the bottom. In the middle in the progress to reaching that goal.

    An example would be in my eBay thread where my son decided he wants t sell mugs.. he then had the idea to make own designs on mugs. So an image of a mug press went on the idea board. Not much later a goal board was created with the Mug press on top, and then mugs, and a sublimation printer, and paper and ink etc on the bottom. We then had little printouts of weekly sales put on the goal board to show the effort to get to the goal - he sold Mugs to buy the equipment to make his own mugs. - hope that makes sense.

    So when I say boards I use pine 1x6 boards that are 4 ft tall... Once a Goal is met I have this like story board of idea to fruition laid out. I personally have probably100 of these. My son now has like 10 of them. An "idea" I have is to have like a 20ft tall wall with all of these hung up... its been an idea for a while - and some day ( i hope ) I will fall into a office project that I can make this happen - a wall full of ideas that became reality would be a not so subtle reminder of the PATH - the Journey if you will... what I consider the most important part... its not the thing for me - its the getting there.
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  • Profile picture of the author Ken Leatherman
    You know I had no idea when I started this thread where it would lead. Frankly I'm really impressed with the views and thoughts expressed here. Thanks to you all for sharing.

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  • Profile picture of the author Odahh
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    Let's assume that it isn't wildly successful. But the goals that seem mediocre have bigger goals to be achieved once those mediocre goals get achieved. Because those goals provide a base.

    Say a person wants to learn how to make the best pizza at home from scratch. Instead of putting a vision board together with a wood fireplace pizza oven. An expensive dough mixer then the equipment to make a great pizza sauce.

    Their process it to buy a countertop pizza oven off Amazon. And when that arrives buy pizza dough from the grocery store along with sauce in a jar and so on. And learn to make pizza that at least taste better than frozen pizza.

    Then over time and depending on actual level of interest learning to make the ingredients from scratch and getting better equipment to cook the pizza.

    So the big dream broken down into achievable steps. While only opting to list the first few steps as goals in public.

    So say someone average a half a pound of weight loss a week and can easily maintain that so if they have 50 pounds to lose they are looking at a timeframe of almost 2 years. Which seems like aiming low but if the goal is to be at that lower weight instead of just losing weight. Then getting there and staying there is success
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    • Profile picture of the author tagiscom
      Originally Posted by Odahh View Post

      Gordon

      Let's assume that it isn't wildly successful. But the goals that seem mediocre have bigger goals to be achieved once those mediocre goals get achieved. Because those goals provide a base.

      Say a person wants to learn how to make the best pizza at home from scratch. Instead of putting a vision board together with a wood fireplace pizza oven. An expensive dough mixer then the equipment to make a great pizza sauce.

      Their process it to buy a countertop pizza oven off Amazon. And when that arrives buy pizza dough from the grocery store along with sauce in a jar and so on. And learn to make pizza that at least taste better than frozen pizza.

      Then over time and depending on actual level of interest learning to make the ingredients from scratch and getting better equipment to cook the pizza.

      So the big dream broken down into achievable steps. While only opting to list the first few steps as goals in public.

      So say someone average a half a pound of weight loss a week and can easily maintain that so if they have 50 pounds to lose they are looking at a timeframe of almost 2 years. Which seems like aiming low but if the goal is to be at that lower weight instead of just losing weight. Then getting there and staying there is success
      Agreed, Colonial Sanders created the best tasting chicken on the planet but was effectively broke after his restaurant collapse, and had to sleep in his car and rely on a measly pension to push his chicken.

      And now it is a successful worldwide franchise,...but could he see that in his car being harassed by the cops, and countless failures?

      Obviously for the most part Yes.

      There are plenty of things with very humble beginnings that are now worldwide and very successful, and all it takes is belief and a lot of time.
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  • Profile picture of the author savidge4
    I absolutely believe "Success" is over rated... I mean what is success? and guess what I dont have the answer to that.

    do I judge success based on my own experience or that of someone elses..Success is Elon Musk lets say... the other 99.9999999% of the world is then a failure.

    I personally do not focus on success..i focus on completion.. starting something, and finishing something. and even then, thats not really what I look at... its all the steps in the middle that I am concerned about... the actions and thoughts that can be replicated over and over and over when you start something, that allows you to complete that something.

    If I had to label "Success" it would be the pattern that is between starting something and finishing, and the ability to repeat it over and over - and better yet repeat those steps over and over regardless of the situation - think about that one for a moment?!

    Success is NOT the thing...success is the ability to repeat.

    Beginners luck.. or can you do it over and over?
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    • Profile picture of the author DABK
      Success is me being in a better spot (better being defined by me alone) today than I was yesterday.


      The thing is that often what I want on May 16, 2008 is different than what I want on May 16, 2010 or June 8th, 2022.


      I.e., even for me, success is a fluid thing.


      What if you have a setback? Are you a failure till you overcome it or, since you're still going, are you still a success?


      I really really truly and truly really do not think that talking about success is a useful proposition, except if you define it in relation to you alone... There are so many idyosincrasies (most of whom remain unknown to an outsider) in people's life that it's pointless to talk about success outside of your own life.



      And you succeed at things if you carry them out to completion (as you say), as long as you still want the same outcome. You're successful if you do not carry to completion things you no longer want.



      Originally Posted by savidge4 View Post

      I absolutely believe "Success" is over rated... I mean what is success? and guess what I dont have the answer to that.

      do I judge success based on my own experience or that of someone elses..Success is Elon Musk lets say... the other 99.9999999% of the world is then a failure.

      I personally do not focus on success..i focus on completion.. starting something, and finishing something. and even then, thats not really what I look at... its all the steps in the middle that I am concerned about... the actions and thoughts that can be replicated over and over and over when you start something, that allows you to complete that something.

      If I had to label "Success" it would be the pattern that is between starting something and finishing, and the ability to repeat it over and over - and better yet repeat those steps over and over regardless of the situation - think about that one for a moment?!

      Success is NOT the thing...success is the ability to repeat.

      Beginners luck.. or can you do it over and over?
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    The reason success is a 'personal matrix' is becuase you can't define it for someone else. Looking at or discussing someone else's success doesn't affect your level of success.


    Epstein is successful? Financially successful, but

    When you use 'but' it means 'no, he wasn't'...and you cannot define another person's success -only give your opinion of it.


    Ever wonder how many 'important' people quickly and quietly took down framed photos of themselves with Epstein or Weinstein or Anthony Weiner, for that matter?


    Importance by association....
    Success by definition....


    Neither really works.
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    • Profile picture of the author Odahh
      Originally Posted by Kay King View Post

      The reason success is a 'personal matrix' is becuase you can't define it for someone


      Importance by association....
      Success by definition....


      Neither really works.
      Well it works for the people like Weinstein or who see the service Epstein provide as a perk of power and privilege.

      From the repeated advice of both Gordon and savage. Success is less a destination or point on a map. But more along the line of enjoying what you do. Just enjoying life in general. Because from personal choices their daily lives are enjoyable.
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    From the repeated advice of both Gordon and savage. Success is less a destination or point on a map. But more along the line of enjoying what you do. Just enjoying life in general. Because from personal choices their daily lives are enjoyable.

    Not sure what you are arguing with - I maintain the only success YOU can measure is your own....if you are measuring the success of others you are applying YOUR personal measuring stick to someone else's reality.
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      Originally Posted by Kay King View Post

      Not sure what you are arguing with - I maintain the only success YOU can measure is your own....if you are measuring the success of others you are applying YOUR personal measuring stick to someone else's reality.
      I wasn't arguing this time I swear.
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    Discipline passion Strategy and most importantly my Son keeps me motivated and encouraged .
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