After failing, what did you change?

"Success" is not just a thing that happens... its a string of events - the Good, the Bad, and the Ugly - failure is a baked in element of "Success" ANYONE... that says they had success and never failed is straight up lying. Just not how the world works.

There are only 2 - 3 ish failures you need to be concerned with #1 "I Cant" #2 "I Quit" and #3 ish is "I Wont" and I include this one as an "Ish" because in the right context "I wont" is indeed a valid option, but is generally followed up with hiring someone that will

Success in a business? Measured by_______?? My most profitable business, more moolah than brains, top of the heap at the time...nearly killed me. Didn't make me stronger either, but man I was loved at the bank. One of the most miserable times of my life.

Failure> I like savidge4's thinking along the lines of a process.

It may seem climbing a mountain, but once at the top, the view may be a bit obstructed and life may even be better in the valley.

Also, one kind of a business may have very different challenges and we need new, different solutions, but I think your gist has to do with mind set and attitude about what one does after not reaching a goal.

Allow me to compare it to a round of golf. For me to shoot a 67 on a decent public course would be success, but Tiger or Jack or Arnie...that same score on THEIR card meant they had a bad day. See?

So first thing, is to know your own definition of what a success looks like, how would you define it, so you recognize it when you do see it?

Within a round of golf, everyone, even those legends I mentioned are going to make mistakes, FAIL, at hitting the shot they intended.

You want a great metaphor for success and why so many fail? Visit any local course and watch the amateurs (and some hothead pros too)...throw and cuss and swear when they hit a bad shot, and then go and do it again and again as they scrape that ball around the course.

A successful pro, may have instant disgust with what happened, but they don't carry that into the next shot, they have to focus on the task right in front of them, not how they screwed up the one behind.

I think this is part of that process, when one comes to understand that failure is, more often than not, either an event along the path, or a mistake which can be made up for.

Failure doesn't learn.
Failure repeats mistakes. Relives negative events.

If you were to read a 1000 biographies of successful people, like I have, you would find story after story of men and women who just kept at it, without REPEATING their mistakes and learning from their failures.

Now, back to my Golf Metaphor. GOLF - LIFE, both four letter words.

A professional begins his round (business start up) with a PLAN. How to approach each hole, the challenges, the penalties, and then, that plan gets disrupted and he has to scramble to get back on plan.

So, how many steps (shots) are there in your business to be a success?

Each hole of Golf could present you with one of the four.

Tee. Approach. RECOVERY (FAILURE) Putting.

It is a framework for the game. So many businesses are started just like the golfer at your local course, without a grasp or command of the tools needed to be successful, they are, like most newer business people, their own worst enemy.

When a golfer misses a Tee shot or an Approach, and needs to Recover:

Tendencies. Averages. Repeatability. Patience.

In business, what would be your tendency when something goes wrong? What is your lifetime batting average doing such things, can you repeat an earlier success to recover and do you have the patience with your self to pick back up and carry on?

Anyhow, see, in GOLF, the ball gives you the best feedback. It tells you exactly what you did wrong. THE RESULT, of where the ball lands after you hit it or try to, has to be analyzed without emotion.

And this is where FAILURE comes into business so heavily, take the emotion of failure away from it, and see what you need to do, or redo, to make it successful.

Then, when faced with a similar situation ( an uphill lie on a dog leg right) then you will know what NOT to do.

Failure doesn't remember, and believes this time it will be different.

Well, my two cents. FOUR!!!

GordonJ

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Easy adopt Will Smiths approach of succeed or die.

But having to succeed since there is nothing else left to try works just as well for me.

well , i changed the targets , as we know u target the clients ! and i was targeting the wrong people

If you don't quit, failures are stepping stones to your success... Either you win or you learn, every day I am more and more sure that success in business depends above all on your mentality. At least that was my main change 6 years ago, after "failing" miserably in my business for years

The light bulb went off when I transitioned from the typical programming to a cosmic one.

Now everything is so lucid.

I am one with light. hehe.

The most common answer with facing my (2) favorite teachers (*humility and failure) was a change in thinking and mindset.

The irony with failure is it creates a sense of humility, and often people steer clear of admitting their failures, most sweep those experiences under the rug, hide them in their closets, or ignore the reality that without failure (and humility) we'd learn absolutely nothing.

I like Gordon's example, as one man's failure is another man's (or women's) success, and in many cases the harder the climb the lonelier it gets as you gain altitude! *Some may even prefer NOT to CLIMB at all after a tumble or two.

For years, I've made a satire of failure and humility, I like to make fun of my failures and treat humility with a side dish of humility, as the notion becomes; "Flying is easy, it's the landing that'll kill you!" - So, for anybody who has attempted to "escape" the proverbial "Cabbage Patch" (or the valley" and reach new heights - it's the bumps, bruises, and missing skin that often haunts us NOT to try again... because failure sucks!

BUT... just like a toddler standing up and starting those first few steps, they're going to tumble, and all-the-while "IF" every time we skinned a knee or took a tumble we chose not to stand back up, we'd be crawling on all fours to this very day.

IDK, there's something rewarding in facing fear, humility, and failure... I don't think we should dwell in our past failures too long, but... there is almost always a lesson to be learned when we examine those experiences with honesty and a certain ability to admit; when we are wrong. (*Some people BS their way through life and I for one have no time for those who say they're going to do something and then ignore the responsibility of actually doing it!) - I raised my kids by these same principle - don't lie to me, don't say you're going to do something and then not try to do it, and don't screw the one's who love you! (*Those were my 3 primary rules in life. And, still people struggle with those simple ideals - almost equally to the 10 Commandments, lol.)

I LOVE Frank Kern's "Don't Be a P*SSY" video on YouTube... he lays it out as a boxer who doesn't want to get hit... it's hilarious, and dead-on point to how life works, it's brilliant! (*"You're going to get hit, you're going to get knocked on your @$$, BUT... if you get back up... you might just tap into those massive oil wells!"

Perhaps, breaking the routine of failure is harder than the failure itself... fear can be paralyzing and traumatic, and still, those who face those fears often go on to do great things and set a better example for others to either avoid or at avert the need to fail repeating someone else's mistakes. Maybe the teachers who understand failure become the greater teachers, and in my opinion, there are no greater Professor's than Professor's of Failure & Humility!

We should take notes and apply all-in-which others have shared throughout history, otherwise we may still be wondering why wiping our backside with "poison ivy" didn't produce the results one hoped to achieve... and still, we itch for success, LOL.

So... the answer to the question; change your mindset - take the heightened view and raise your conscious-awareness to the idea; there are formulas, blueprints, and proven methods to produce specific results... most of us, including myself STRUGGLE with the idea of COPYING someone else's success - as it often FEELS like we are cheating the system, AND, WE ARE!!! (*We mirror the examples and the influences of those before us and in our current company, it is nearly a scientific FACT!)

In life, I've had a few failures. In internet marketing, no failure - just a few things that didn't work.


The 'failure/success' talk is 'dark/light' and dramatic. But success is often the result of more things going right than went wrong. I can't always control LIFE but internet marketing doesn't hold that much drama for me.


If I do something right online, it usually works...and the question becomes whether it works well enough to continue or expand that practice. If I miss a step or make a misjudgement online, 'it' doesn't work so I move on to something else or tweak and try again.



There are degrees of success and failure - and often they aren't that far apart.

I feel like if one has failed at a business a few times then it is them not the product they are selling. just hire someone that knows what they are doing and seat back. people use their brains differently and different working method, what you haven't thought about... someone else will.