I'm Struggling To Find My True Passion

Wasim,

You make some good point,s and most iomportantlty, only you can decide what you really want.

I was in a similar situation, in that I relocated to a new country, and had to start over again, and did that online.

It is not easy, but I suggest taking the time to sit queitly, alone, with a note pad, and just jot down all your ideas, and desires.

Think what you really want, and just start writing.

It doesn't matter how long you take, even if you have to write a little 'nonsense' just to get started.

Do not assume an idea is too big either.

If you want it, do not wiorry about the how, just write it.

This way, you are letting your creativity fliow, and be yourself.

I always say in my various blogs, that no matter what you have to do, do not worry about the details yet. Just plan your desired end points, and the rest will fall into place.

I explain this more in my success site , as per the dig below, and know that once you start writing,. you could go for pages, Give youreself the chance to do this.

Your true creativity will flow.

Keep up the blogging, and you will find that in timne, you can moneize it, and always ensure you are offering value to your readers.

Hope this helps.

Martin

Hi Wasim

What an honest and open post!

I can relate to your predicament. After all, we all know of people who seem to know from day one what they're about while others struggle to 'find their bliss' let alone follow it.

I love reading the stories of how some of our 'greatest' (most famous, most noted) achievers, whether in music, art, literature, business, spirituality etc 'found their passion' or 'were found' by their passion

Some were nurtured by their parents and/or significant others, some stumbled upon it early or late in life and some appeared to have been hauled towards it by the sheer force of rejecting everything else!

But even within these narratives, there are threads that weave in and out somewhat haphazardly, idiosyncratically, rather than linearly and with 'internal consistency'!

In other words, we (and they) get to see and tell some of the story but never all of it simply because there are always unseen, unnoticed, unclear parts to it, multi-layered and forever 'becoming'.

I have observed that for those of us who have struggled with this, our main obstacle is our beliefs.

We believe that there must be this one 'thing' that we must become so completely consumed by and that will thereafter gloriously define who we are.

I have come to realize that such thinking is erroneous. It mistakes 'the thing' for passion. Passion is not what we do. It is what we feel which is why Joseph Campbell's quote is so often misinterpreted, I think.

It's not about finding what you love doing and then doing it, not to start with at any rate. Rather it is bringing or allowing joy and enthusiasm in your life and in the things you do which will then lead you to the thing (or things) that enables more and more of that joy and enthusiasm (that passion) to be expressed.

If you believe that your 'passion' (a 'thing' that you want to be consumed with) is eluding you, well that is what you will experience and you will be forever chasing after this phantom.

On the other hand, if you simply relax and commit to experiencing joy and enthusiasm (for now, it might be better to forget the word 'passion' altogether) in whatever it is you happen to be doing, sooner or later (and sooner rather than later), you will find that the 'bliss' you begin to experience will lead you to whatever it is you most want to do in life.

That, I think, is what 'following your bliss' really means. Like passion, bliss is not the thing in itself but how you feel. Be guided by your feelings of joy and enthusiasm which you must allow rather than hold back until the 'thing' you most want to do (what you're calling your passion) appears.

I hope this helps. For what it's worth, you're already on your path. You've never not been!

To the op, if you did not have to work tomorrow to earn a living and money was no longer an object, what would you choose to do ? that would be a good starting point to finding your passion.

A professional might be able to help you focus. A trained listener (eg. a psychologist) can sometimes hear things that you may not even realize that you have said.

BTW, I have no connection to that profession.

What do you do when you are free?

What will be the first thing you do if I say you can do whatever you want for the next one month?

When you switch on the TV, what do you watch all the time?

When you are free online, what do you do? Which blogs do you read? Which videos do you watch?

What do you always think about or have conversation with others for a long time with enthusiasm?

That is most likely to be your passion

Wasim,

Everyone struggles at some time, so don't let it get you down. You may feel like you are struggling at the moment, but you have taken a very positive step in reaching out for support in the community by posting your feelings and concerns. Thank you for sharing!

There has been some very good advice given already about finding your passion, so I won't venture to give any more. I'll tell you instead how I discovered my own passion for writing.

When I was in Year 8 or 9 at school (middle high school), my English teacher set a task that most of the students HATED! It was to write a "novel" of at least 10 chapters and present it as a novel. I loved this project and that was when I first thought, "I am a writer".

I became determined to become a writer and studied journalism at university. I thought that was the only form of writing that could make money. I worked as a journalist for several years, but eventually it got to be boring. I hated working the long hours and I became disenchanted with whole writing about crime and for front page honours thing. I gave up being a writer.

My creative side still needed a writing outlet and I began journalling and writing poetry (but not consistently) while working as several other things - a marketing manager, technical writer, and trainer (all focused on some sort of communications and all using writing in one style or another, but very different jobs to work at).

Then one day, my mother joined the University of the Third Age and started a short story class. She would send me the class assignments and I would write the short stories. We'd then read each other's stories. I loved it and rediscovered my lost passion for writing. However, the short stories were not always my cup of tea, and I couldn't sell them, so I started looking for an outlet where I could make money from my hobby of writing for pleasure.

I discovered Constant Content where I could write articles on every topic I wanted to, and could make a decent return per article. Now, I am so passionate about writing that I want to tell the world "I AM a WRITER!" My passion for writing overflows and I want to help others realise the dream of writing too. I have a website with free articles about writing, just because I am so passionate about it myself.

I think I have always been passionate about writing, but like a tide the feeling ebbs and flows. Sometimes, I can't be bothered, and other times I can't wait to write. I'm learning that writing is part of who I am and I can't ignore it for too long. However, there are other things that bring me joy in my life too - such as my loving husband. I have a passion for Christ's people in the world, and for sharing good times with my friends too. Whenever passion seems far away in one area, I always find another to feel passionate about. If passion still eludes me, I gather contentment and know that the fires of passion will ignite again soon.

Hope this helps,

Hayley

Find one thing you're great at and do it - this will motivate you due to the icnreased confidence and allow you to find your passion and succeed!

Great thread Wasim.
Best I could advise is to try to get copy of Jack M Zufelt book.
His "The DNA of Success" covers these topics on highest level.
Highly recommended.

You are a good writer. Right now you're like a rifle without bullets. Once you pick a target, the bullets will come.

Then it's ready, fire, aim!

It took me a long time and many years of indecisiveness before I got on the right path. Actually it happened only this year when I made a conscious decision and chose a path. I didn't even know how I'd accomplish it, I just said it, prayed it, and the next week I found an unexpected deposit in my bank account which allowed me to pursue my dreams!

Explore your spiritual side and align your desires and interests with your Calling. Only you can know your calling and you may slowly realize it over time, or you may have an instant "eureka!" type moment.

For now, continue to use your creative and writing talents to help others.
You're on the right path. Don't worry. Just move forward and trust that things will fall into place. You will perform and be at your best when you are calm and confident.