DEALING WITH FEAR

Exactly Kay !! I know for instance with intrusive ocd thoughts the best thing you can do is ; drumroll please NOTHING !! Because when you try to desperately stop the thought or 'think it through' you assign it to be a high value thought and it will just get worse and worse!

A favorite YT psychologist says to invite the intrusive thoughts to your little party and tell him is welcome to stay lol I really got a kick out of that.

Basically , just casually observe and watch the "floats" go by as they continue on down the street
out of sight and out of Mind

If you are unhealthy with a diet of modern ultra processed food. All those chemicals in the food along with the chemicals given off by your gut Flora. Will be more in control of your thoughts and behaviors . Than what you can pull off from affirmations.

Then people tend to say their affirmations when in the most negative mood. When part of your consious mind is calling bulls#$_$. After you say the affirmations the little voice in your head adds a butt..

If you go the affirmations route before you say your affirmations get your self in the best mood you can. Then ate the end of the affirmations add a because and let the little voice explain.

I'd go also with throwing out to do list and starting a done list. If you are into that.

The main actual fear people are dealing with is the fear of criticism of others. The eazy way to deal with that fear is not to tell anyone when you are trying something new to improve your self . Don't talk about it with everyone and seek approval or support just start working on it. And no need to find the best or most effective way just start.


I'll explain later why I have come to this view in the last 6-10 months.

Here is different. The mind forum use to be the place to do it. And I still make the mistake of doing that every few ewhen we have the rare time s a thread is active.

The DSM the book with the list of all medical and mental disorder. Does it actually have a mental disorder the fits this appearent wide spread or common condition of fear of failure.

Or is that one of those things we can talk about in the mind warrior section and the motivational community. Because it actually does not exist.

Are people over weight and obese because of fear of failure. Or because diet after diet fails as it does for close t 99 present of people in the long term.

But if I am telling someone trying to get me to join their MLM why I'm not interested. It apparently is because of a fear of failure.

Gotta figure how fear ain't no kinda mindset or mental event; nor is it always focused on the here an' now.

It is evidenced in the ravage ofya mortal flesh as wrenchesa gut, diminishmenta momentum, an' loopsydoopsy base survival chemickyools squirtin' through yr veins like free cocktails in a dream bar.

That is why I speak so freely of my love for Yogic flahpout.

Ain't bcs I lazy or no speshly blitzed out kinda ditz.

It is bcs if'n I can still muh muscles to like semi-jelly, they cain't be twangin' like horrah movie myoosic plucked on the Zithah of Terror.

Feels less like fear bcs the material fearstuffs are stilled to inconsequence 'longside the mental turmoil.

Course'n, when I 60sumthin', could be the forces of evil dun BANNED yogah bcs intrinsickly Satanic or nuthin'.

So that FREE FLOW would invite RISK ... an' you would have all kindsa existential uncertainty gowin' on.

Which reminds me: which kinda fear is the greatah fear?

Recoil from the (distinctly horrible) inevitabyool?

Or panic in the face of the (unseen ... intangible ... uncertain) unknown?

Always when we are frightened we are frightened OF sumthin' -- an' it may be 100% defined or 100% undefined.

That is why funeral parlors play their advertisin' straight, an' anywan tellsya you LOST AS A HOOMAN without OUR MIRACLE PRODUCT/SERVICE X gaht more freedom to shit you out.

You would wish always for your fear to be CLEAR.

Evry guru, evry celeb, evry perfect person who says they perfect -- yurps, they brownin' out their thongs real regulah simply bcs they imperfect hoomans in an evolvin Caaahsmaaahs.

Thing is to say IMA SHITTIN' MUSSELF BCS ...

Bcs even this diresta proto-oblivions is preferable to the actschwl oblivion wherein youwain't gaht no clue what is happnin'.

I guess that is why all advertisin', all friendships, all meaningful linkups, thrive on REASSURANCE.

You seen the charity ads for people figurin' sooicide.

An' you seen alla the stuff 'bout how the next noo Smartwatch can keepya breathin' undah control asya pound through the neighborhood like sum possessed frickin' moron.

Fear is kinda paralysis regardin' any an' all fyootyoore steps.

Evry successful ad you evah seen givesya a glimmah of hope.

Into the hapless void of your suffrin' an' terrah comes ... myoosical shoes.

Anywan bought a pair?

Tellya, they are so frickin' cool.

Style. Heels. USB.

I gaht sumthin' orchestral gowin' on now.

Dunno what it is, but there are plenty flutes an' stuff.

An' I love that so much.

"Why trudge around your apartment in a state of terminal despair when you can reconnect with your happiness and purpose c/o MUSICAL SHOES?"

Could be 99.9%a evrywan don't give no frick 'bout no kinda SHOES.

But do these babies spare you FEAR?

Whenya slip 'em on ... ain't life gonna be OK?

How canya evah be paralyzed with fear when you dancin' out in shoes perfectly fit your skipsy feet?

Reassurance is life energy gold dust.

Let it flow outta ya till'n yr bones turn to ash.

Likely it is sweet always to posit a genrs response to bein' surprised, if'n you can.

The whisperspace between surprises an' shocks is so deafeningly terribyool.

That is why I so Intrinsic Smoochie Gal.

I ain't no whore; jus' don't wanna we all cast into oblivion bcs'n we fearsy a-holes.

Gotta figure fear persists as a natchrl consequence of bein' no mortal an' vulnrbyool hooman ...

same as PRIDE figures we may also wish to be impossibly reckless sumtimes ...

so you gotta stance it out, I guess.

Like Satan husself once said, "95% of terror is mostly admin. Anyways, gotta sleep now, so if folks are looking for more stupid quotes, get the imps on this till morning, k?"

Time and money.

Today the snow plows and snow blowers are loud and busy in Northeast Ohio, and a lot of the country. I see a social media war between the "pros" who charge 30 to 50 bux for their drives to be cleared vs. the cheap guys, for 10 or 15...the difference is usually the insurance, licensed, bonded issue where the pros DO have insurance and the guys just wanting to make some cash, don't.

But, right now, it is a FEAST T I M E for the snow removal folks.

Everyone is working around the clock to get the snow removed, Buffalo has a volunteer force of thousands to clear their football stadium, I wonder if they have to sign waivers? Hmm.

As long as the planes are flying, I'm good, about to head to warmer climes where NO ONE is making any moolah with snow stuff. Only skiing I want is a jet ski and a beach full of bikinis.

Over the last couple of decades it is clear to see these CYCLES that so many Warriors go through, the feast or famine cycle is just one.

IF doing is the business model and there isn't any leverage (other people doing), it becomes a cycle of grind and making money while the sun shines, which is quite literal in this case. It is a common thing in almost all contract work.

Contractors like to book jobs to keep busy, and often overbook, because they have to...and unless there is a time deadline built into the contract, and the job gets done and done right, not usually a problem.

If there is any sort of a secret, and there isn't one...just all in the choice made as to the money making vehicle to begin with...but it might be considered a better option would be to get businesses that have built in repeat business, and/or get leverage on the efforts.

The path to having more free time and more money is pretty beaten down and clearly marked. It just requires clear eyes and a steady march in the right direction.

Time. Can't make more of it, it is a finite supply, can only spend it, not sack it away for the future.

GordonJ

Blame it on the SEEKERS: Hulks behind the games, kept me out of the fun houses, and fluffy bunnies gave me a rash.

And although We change along with the shite, the carny never does, I swear the bearded lady is the same one from the 50's.

And it is indeed, the TOUCHPOINT where we either converge or are thrown in different directions as opposing forces may do to one another.

We see it here, the young Warrior has a touchpoint of TV InforGurus with boats laden with bikini clads, and a Rolls in the mansion driveway...or a grotto in the backyard (gosh, I miss my days with Hugh and the girls next door).

A Warrior with many years of work under their belt relates more to the treadmill and endless circles of effort getting him nowhere.
Joe Karbo wrote, "most people are too busy earning a living, they don't have any time to make money"...and we see it here...again and again.

We have Warriors coming back after a decade to once again begin their journey, and maybe having been dulled in the tumbler of time, may be a bit less ambitious than they once were, because, well we change, shit changes...along with touchpoints.
.What doesn't change is the concept of TIME vs. MONEY.

Having money expedites the quest for more of it. Having money is really the only shortcut to getting more of it. The how much is needed to free the time, depends on...how much time you want freed, and what will you do with it?

Which is why so many people believe in pursuing passions, knowing at least, they will get some time satisfaction if the monetary goal isn't working.

Most people know it. They see it. Have seen it in their parents, friends, society in general...the trading of time for dollars. Mostly without any leverage. And it creates a hand to mouth existence, without getting ahead as the past generations were able to do maybe because they didn't have the desire for a lifestyle??

Money comes to anyone via transactions; size and shape are within our control.

All the answers are found in the questions which should be asked surrounding those things; transactions, size and shape..

Even as a kid, it was my preference to BUY the bunny (or shoot it for food) than to try to deal with Carny folk (they felt too much like relatives).

GordonJ