Is the Secret to Living a Good Life this Simple ??

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Upending the negative neural pathways in your brain and replacing them with positive neural pathways through a focused and concerted effort ??

Is it that simple ?? ( noticed how I said "simple" not "easy" )
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  • Profile picture of the author GordonJ
    Originally Posted by discrat View Post

    Upending the negative neural pathways in your brain and replacing them with positive neural pathways through a focused and concerted effort ??

    Is it that simple ?? ( noticed how I said "simple" not "easy" )
    Yes.

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    • Profile picture of the author discrat
      Originally Posted by GordonJ View Post

      Yes.

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      Iam taking a snapshot of this. The first one word response from the great Gordon J in warrior forum history
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  • Originally Posted by discrat View Post

    Upending the negative neural pathways in your brain and replacing them with positive neural pathways through a focused and concerted effort ??
    Yeah, so I signed up for thit schwango an' here's what happined ...

    Guy was called SAM an' he dated Moi on out bcs he liked what I said despite my avatar clearly displayed I gaht the kinda titties ain't nevah gonna saveya if'n FLOODS FLOODS FLOODS demand all kindsa inflatabyools but if'n you wanna distract nowan on a srsly instantaneous ticket then blamo ...

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    So I lay down an' collected musself.

    Noomerous key parts missin' ... but ima fill 'em bettah next time.

    That is what happins whenya bleed to death an' only gaht tears at the start.

    (That is the T slowgin Sam gaht dun on Phrases 4 Gazes btw -- soon as I saw him wearin' it in the mall I punched him in the f*ckin' fayusse.)

    Burn & warmth & glow.

    Stuff hurts sumtimes, but thenya fill up with mojo -- an' go.
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  • Profile picture of the author entrepreneurjay
    It is a good way to look at things, and I agree having a positive mindset in whatever you do will always help you accomplish your goals quicker.
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    Attitude determines attitude .
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    • Originally Posted by Kay King View Post

      "Everything happens for the best. It is a matter of moving your point of view around until you can see it."
      Gonna swole up like a bloon at this rate.
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  • Profile picture of the author Claude Whitacre
    Originally Posted by discrat View Post

    Upending the negative neural pathways in your brain and replacing them with positive neural pathways through a focused and concerted effort ??

    Is it that simple ?? ( noticed how I said "simple" not "easy" )
    Please describe negative neural pathways and positive neural pathways.

    I mean tell me the difference between a negative and positive pathway.

    Your question could be interpreted lots of different ways.
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    • Profile picture of the author discrat
      Originally Posted by Claude Whitacre View Post

      Please describe negative neural pathways and positive neural pathways.

      I mean tell me the difference between a negative and positive pathway.

      Your question could be interpreted lots of different ways.
      It really subjective. Whatever emotions and experiences that elevate your state of being happy, joyful , and enriched. To me at least that is what i consider positive neural pathways i.e. building positive neural connections in the brain that correspond with those three particular states
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      • Profile picture of the author Claude Whitacre
        Originally Posted by discrat View Post

        It really subjective. Whatever emotions and experiences that elevate your state of being happy, joyful , and enriched. To me at least that is what i consider positive neural pathways i.e. building positive neural connections in the brain that correspond with those three particular states
        Thanks for explaining.

        This may not be in the exact same line, but I find these three ideas help me.

        In the last year, I've had a few "Worst days of my life". Genuinely horrific days. One idea that makes it a little easier is that I know that the next day will be better. Maybe not great, but less terrible. And that's generally true.

        At the end...nothing really matters. All my bad days, my regrets, any pain I've caused, any pain I've endured...and any of my accomplishments....won't matter at all.

        And no matter what happened, my first thought is usually, what do I gain from this? How do I use this as the next step?

        Nearly every event has lessons learned. Maybe that's what wisdom is.
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        • Profile picture of the author discrat
          Originally Posted by Claude Whitacre View Post


          Nearly every event has lessons learned. Maybe that's what wisdom is.
          So true, Claude. I have just briefly touched on this but back in the Summers of 2017 and 2018 I had crippling ,and I mean 'death knocking on your door' type crippling clinical depression. I mean for a month in each of those bouts I could not sleep, eat, or get out of bed,

          I had to be hospitalized for one week the first round of clinical depression in 2017 and for 3 weeks the second bout in 2018.

          It was so dark I cannot even begin to describe with words. I really did not think I would survive, seriously.

          But god willing I did get the help I needed and arose out of these two bouts of depression.

          And looking back on it even though it was absolutely horrific to go through I find myself to be a much more sensitive and empathetic person when it comes to others' plights because of it. I find myself to be a much better father and husband, more patient ,and overall a stronger person because I went through these trying times.

          I think anything short of death you can always find the silver lining in , it's just a matter of searching for it
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          • Profile picture of the author Claude Whitacre
            Originally Posted by discrat View Post

            So true, Claude. I have just briefly touched on this but back in the Summers of 2017 and 2018 I had crippling ,and I mean 'death knocking on your door' type crippling clinical depression. I mean for a month in each of those bouts I could not sleep, eat, or get out of bed,

            Was there an external cause for such depression?
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            • Profile picture of the author discrat
              Originally Posted by Claude Whitacre View Post

              Was there an external cause for such depression?
              Well it was like a dark cloud that hovered above me. And having ocd didn't help the matter at all!!

              It's still too painful to share some of the thoughts going through my head that caused the eventual to happen : clinical depression.

              Maybe someday I will be able to share it more in depth.

              But I must say that anyone out there going through depression or anxiety and any other number of mental health issues... well there is ALWAYS hope. And I mean always !! So if it seems very hopeless and you are on your last leg ... well I have been there and know the feeling. There is help out there and you can get out of the "darkness". I promise you that !!!
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    Yeah well, having a positive attitude doesn't extend to living a good life. There are way more factors to consider
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    • Profile picture of the author discrat
      Originally Posted by majikk View Post

      Yeah well, having a positive attitude doesn't extend to living a good life. There are way more factors to consider
      Like what ??
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      • Profile picture of the author socialentry
        Originally Posted by discrat View Post

        Like what ??

        Yes .
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      • Profile picture of the author Odahh
        Originally Posted by discrat View Post

        Like what ??
        Having a personal grasp of what both the good life and enough are . that you either have or can work on and achieve.

        The comfort zone is not a bad thing if you are truly comfortable and not just coping with a numbing yourself to the suffering of life.
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      • Profile picture of the author majikk
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        Like health, for example, if you have a chronic terminal illness/condition holding a positive attitude isn't going to help really. It just makes it easier for you and the people around you to accept your fate. Another thing is that "good life" is very subjective as it's different to everyone, one can be happy with just enough to live, whilst others have everything+1 and have depression. I believe it has to do with the way you are used to see the world, being positive is going to help, yes, but not in every case
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        • Profile picture of the author Odahh
          Originally Posted by majikk View Post

          Like health, for example, if you have a chronic terminal illness/condition holding a positive attitude isn't going to help really. It just makes it easier for you and the people around you to accept your fate. Another thing is that "good life" is very subjective as it's different to everyone, one can be happy with just enough to live, whilst others have everything+1 and have depression. I believe it has to do with the way you are used to see the world, being positive is going to help, yes, but not in every case
          Family history and general male lifespan in the USA gives me another 30-35 years of lifespan. There is nothing wrong with going through depression or other negative emotional state. If you program in a course of healthy positive feedback loops the get you into a more positive condition.


          You are A human being. Much of the time you are just being human.Many of the drama games involved in negative emotional loops .tend to be a compulsive form of entertainment.When people have designed very boring and unrewarding lives.

          It's far easier to design a better life while you are happy than to attempt to design a better life that you hope will make you happy.Well if you understand the important basic things. That are required for your day to day Joy
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        • Profile picture of the author discrat
          Originally Posted by majikk View Post

          Like health, for example, if you have a chronic terminal illness/condition holding a positive attitude isn't going to help really. It just makes it easier for you and the people around you to accept your fate.
          I tend to disagree. There are many studies that suggest that having a really strong positive attitude increases the longevity in people with chronic illnesses. You're right though, a person with a higher than normal positive attitude still won't stand a chance against a gliablastoma brain cancer.,It's almost a guaranteed death sentence. But I guarantee you that with many other chronic illnesses having that great attitude will increase the odds a little bit in your favor!! Maybe just slightly but it can happen. Heart disease and high blood pressure come to mind
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          • Profile picture of the author Odahh
            Originally Posted by discrat View Post

            I tend to disagree. There are many studies that suggest that having a really strong positive attitude increases the longevity in people with chronic illnesses. You're right though, a person with a higher than normal positive attitude still won't stand a chance against a gliablastoma brain cancer.,It's almost a guaranteed death sentence. But I guarantee you that with many other chronic illnesses having that great attitude will increase the odds a little bit in your favor!! Maybe just slightly but it can happen. Heart disease and high blood pressure come to mind
            Heart diseas and high blood pressure can start to develop in teens and twenties. And has an effect on the function of the brain.

            The entire body is a functional ecosystem . physical fitness good cardio and strength training. Heart healthy behavior, building a healthy gut Flora. Then taking care of the brain . All work together in a virtual cycle.

            Even if you have abused Evey part of the system for decades. It may take years but you can eventually improve the quality of your life dramatically.

            Then once you start that positive neural network starts to replace the current one . There is a point of no return though if there is disease in that system already.
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          • Profile picture of the author Claude Whitacre
            Originally Posted by discrat View Post

            But I guarantee you that with many other chronic illnesses having that great attitude will increase the odds a little bit in your favor!! Maybe just slightly but it can happen. Heart disease and high blood pressure come to mind
            I think I know a little about this.

            It seems that people with a happy demeanor....a good attitude....a joy for life....are healthier.

            There are a couple reasons for that. They avoid many of the destructive habits (especially lack of sleep) that are the result of anxiety....or a bad outlook on life.

            But I think the main reason we see happy people as healthier is that they simply don't complain as much about their health problems.

            For example, a nurse asks my wife to tell her how much pain she is feeling...on a scale of one to ten. Cheryl says "2".

            I suspect that if I had the same level of pain, I would say "5".

            They also don't talk about their problems as much..Some people just don't complain as much, or want someone worrying about them. They don't want to be a burden.

            In my experience, the people who seem the happiest and healthiest are the ones who don't see everything as being about them....their problems, their pain.

            Just a thought.

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            • Profile picture of the author discrat
              Originally Posted by Claude Whitacre View Post


              But I think the main reason we see happy people as healthier is that they simply don't complain as much about their health

              They also don't talk about their problems as much..Some people just don't complain as much, or want someone worrying about them.
              I consider myself a very upbeat , glass is half full type guy!! And I don't want to sound like a braggart but in a group of people I just do not care about talking about my problems. Even one on one I don't. I think it is boring to talk about one self. And iam thinking that other individuals just don't care anyway lol
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              • Profile picture of the author Odahh
                Originally Posted by discrat View Post

                I consider myself a very upbeat , glass is half full type guy!! And I don't want to sound like a braggart but in a group of people I just do not care about talking about my problems. Even one on one I don't. I think it is boring to talk about one self. And iam thinking that other individuals just don't care anyway lol
                I generally avoid complaining about my health issues. Because if anything is listening it's the heal issues and it just makes it hurt worse.

                The problem with complaining is the people willing to listen are paying attention for the moment it's their turn to complain .

                It's fine to mention issues that qualify as complaining if you are taking actions to fix the issues. Or someone messed up and you are attempting to get them to fix their mistake.

                I have never had to sleep on a sidewalk or dealt with real hunger where I had no idea when I would eat again. And all my health issues happened at a young enough age I could learn what I needed to do to heal over time.

                I have made at least a half dozen friends in the last ten years who would be about my age if they where still alive.

                Treat a number of the issues you have that other people would complain about as odd blessings.

                The three months I was in the Philippines ten years ago changed my view in a critical way. The default state many people had was happy.
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    Well many people said now that your life its a reflexion of your own thoughts
    I wish that would be true as life it was like magic but i dont know what to think
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    Originally Posted by discrat View Post

    It really subjective. Whatever emotions and experiences that elevate your state of being happy, joyful , and enriched. To me at least that is what i consider positive neural pathways i.e. building positive neural connections in the brain that correspond with those three particular states
    As Claude is most likely leaning to a psychopath in what he said someone can destroy a person town or country and feel good about it.

    Oppenheimer felt guilty developing the first atomic bomb while Harry S. Truman, when Oppenh told him he "had blood on his hands" Harry told his aid to not allow that wimp back in the Oval office.

    I is all viewpoint!

    I guess it is easier to stay positive when you have more money. But a real Bitch when you are trying to make more money. Or it is far better to cry in a Mercedes than a rust bucket.
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    She is like a wet fish down there, that ole foot, till'n you shake her around an' git her swimmin' out with her sistah like evry depth is a shallow.

    On evry morn of morns, say HALLO.

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    Like the medieval "Ode to the Princessly, Of Choices Two" says

    peas do the servants banish --
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    and its sickying taste
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