Vital Life Skills - What are they?

by AdamD
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What life skills, if learned and became reasonably proficient in, would help in a variety of situations? I've thought of a few, but would like some suggestions from others that I might be missing.

So far I have:

Goal Setting - A critical skill to possess, regardless of career.

Negotiation - Everything from buying a new car to dealing with the phone or cable company to difficult neighbors. Work/business is where this significantly helps.

Critical/Analytical Thinking - With so many view points, the ability to systematically break them down to their root components. To cut through the bull####.

Learning/Memory - Technology and information is increasing at exponential rates. Being able to pick up a new language quickly, either spoken or computer, puts you ahead of most.

Leadership - Family, community, work/business, politics. People are starving for leadership.

Creativity - A very underrated skill. Yes, it is a skill. A set procedure of putting ideas together to form new ones. Example: Six Thinking Hats(google it)

Emotional Intelligence - Interpersonal skills. Sometimes defined as more important than raw IQ, EI helps with everyday human interaction

Persuasion - You may not be in sales per se, but the ability to determine when persuasion techniques are being used is essential.

Public Speaking - Being able to stand up in front of a few people or a few hundred people and communicate in a confidant, efficient manner. Public Speakers are some of the highest paid people in the world.

I am looking for those that can be taught in a reasonable amount of time. Self-defense, while a worthwhile skill to possess, takes a considerable amount of time to use proficiently. Self discipline/work ethic is an abstract idea/philosophy that cannot necessarily be 'taught' more than be 'instilled' into someone.

Thanks for any input!
#life #skills #vital
  • Profile picture of the author Stephen Root
    Eating. That's pretty vital I think.
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  • Profile picture of the author Loren Woirhaye
    Many of these skills, like leadership, may not be teachable
    at all. Learnable, yes, but teachable? perhaps not.

    I'd argue that emotional intelligence is not teachable at all,
    just look around at all the smart, well-read people you know
    who don't have much EI.

    I like to distinguish between virtues and skills. Musically speaking,
    for example, discipline is the virtue but ability to play the
    instrument well is a skill.

    I've been pretty influenced by the "Yoga Sutras of Patanjali" -
    perhaps the oldest codified system of personal development.
    Also "Think and Grow Rich", "The 12 Factors of Business Success",
    "How To Win Friends and Influence People". Fundamentally,
    I've observed, there has to be a burning desire in the person
    who wants to create change in his or her life. When stagnation/stasis
    is a habit, change is very hard. When ongoing change becomes
    the habit, self-improvement and skill development become
    much easier. Most folks are very much trapped in their old
    habits and perceptions of self... and while they may say they
    want more happiness, money, etc... in reality most folks are
    not willing to work on themselves very much or in a steady
    way. Support systems, like a community of others working
    towards similar goals, seems to me to be the most powerful
    factor in whether people can actually create change in their
    lives.

    Anyway - Adam, you need to break-down these concepts
    you're working with until they are as simple as possible.
    Don't make a huge list and think you can teach it. Your list
    needs to be like "7 Habits" or something. Stephen Covey's
    book is worth checking out too, though a little oriented
    towards corporate leadership concepts, imo.

    Cheers,
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    • Profile picture of the author nehaluck11
      Originally Posted by Loren Woirhaye View Post

      Many of these skills, like leadership, may not be teachable
      at all. Learnable, yes, but teachable? perhaps not.

      I'd argue that emotional intelligence is not teachable at all,
      just look around at all the smart, well-read people you know
      who don't have much EI.

      I like to distinguish between virtues and skills. Musically speaking,
      for example, discipline is the virtue but ability to play the
      instrument well is a skill.

      I've been pretty influenced by the "Yoga Sutras of Patanjali" -
      perhaps the oldest codified system of personal development.
      Also "Think and Grow Rich", "The 12 Factors of Business Success",
      "How To Win Friends and Influence People". Fundamentally,
      I've observed, there has to be a burning desire in the person
      who wants to create change in his or her life. When stagnation/stasis
      is a habit, change is very hard. When ongoing change becomes
      the habit, self-improvement and skill development become
      much easier. Most folks are very much trapped in their old
      habits and perceptions of self... and while they may say they
      want more happiness, money, etc... in reality most folks are
      not willing to work on themselves very much or in a steady
      way. Support systems, like a community of others working
      towards similar goals, seems to me to be the most powerful
      factor in whether people can actually create change in their
      lives.

      Anyway - Adam, you need to break-down these concepts
      you're working with until they are as simple as possible.
      Don't make a huge list and think you can teach it. Your list
      needs to be like "7 Habits" or something. Stephen Covey's
      book is worth checking out too, though a little oriented
      towards corporate leadership concepts, imo.

      Cheers,
      Nice post. Thanks for shairing it with us
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  • Profile picture of the author hally0301
    How about 'communication'?
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  • Profile picture of the author mbrig
    That's quite a list that you have put up for yourself before the suggestions of the poster's, if you can master the suggestions you are well on the way.

    Think I'd add this; follow a system/process through to a conclusion and be able to start again and do more of the same without distraction and boredom setting in.

    Thanks

    mbrig
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  • Profile picture of the author sandra.IMqueen
    The willingness to look at yourself and be prepared to improve.
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  • Profile picture of the author kendrickyi
    Money Management.

    You can win the lottery one day but if you don't manage the cheese you could splurge on stuff you don't need and you'll be back to where to were at before you hit the jackpot.
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    • Profile picture of the author Kay King
      common sense
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      • Profile picture of the author Mr. Subtle
        Networking.
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  • Profile picture of the author Dennis Gaskill
    The ability to adapt to change is critical in life and in business. Without this skill we'd all be dead. The better you are able to adapt, the more you will prosper (and that isn't just in a monetary sense).
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    Just when you think you've got it all figured out, someone changes the rules.

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  • Profile picture of the author AwesomePossum
    Build an online business : )

    Focus on success and business Management: Knowing how and when to make your moves when building your net worth is crucial. Learn about loans and how to exploit them in an effective manner(but without risking much of your capital : 0). This will save years of work to build net worth quickly.
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  • Profile picture of the author Sandy Cormack
    I'm going to go back to Jung on this one and give you eight. These aren't skills per se - they are the cognitive processes that everyone uses, but they aren't developed the same in everyone. You'll find that you use a couple of them more than others. Develop the others to become more 'complete.'

    1. The ability to connect the information you gather with your senses into what is going on NOW to get a clear view of your external world.

    2. The ability to connect the information you gather with your senses into what happened IN THE PAST.

    3. The ability to discern the meaning behind the things you gather with your senses and come up with POSSIBILTIES for the future.

    4. The ability to discern the meaning behind the things you gather with your senses and acquire a CLEAR VISION on what WILL happen in the future.

    5. The ability to organize your external world based on facts and logic, in a critical fashion.

    6. The ability to analyze facts and data in a systematic fashion.

    7. The ability to achieve consensus and focus on the needs of others in your decision making.

    8. The ability to use your deeply held personal values in your decision making.

    Then to complete this, learn to see how others use these processes, so you can relate with them better.

    These are all directly linked with creativity, learning, problem solving, change management, leadership, and even things like sales.
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    Sandy Cormack

    Creativity Training, Strategic Planning, Personal Development, Organizational Development, and Lead Guitar
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    • Profile picture of the author MissTerraK
      To know, understand and act upon the truth that there is a difference between discussion and argument. A discussion airs the issues, but an argument alleges charges and appoints blame!

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  • Profile picture of the author AwesomePossum
    Don't know why I didn't say this before but Time Management is one of the most useful skills you can develop. That's a very good area of focus
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  • Profile picture of the author f4ll3rs
    How about self-motivation? I think it's very important...
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  • Profile picture of the author Tonio Smith
    All my life I've been going
    to business meetings picking
    up: nuggets here and there
    in slowly devising my plan
    of how to best implement all
    of the strategies into one big
    system that works for me in
    end you realize that all comes
    down to developing your skills.
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    • Profile picture of the author Serenity090
      Originally Posted by Tonio Smith View Post

      All my life I've been going
      to business meetings picking
      up: nuggets here and there
      in slowly devising my plan
      of how to best implement all
      of the strategies into one big
      system that works for me in
      end you realize that all comes
      down to developing your skills.

      I liked it..
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      Love the Humanity...:)

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  • Profile picture of the author JanTorsvik
    The most vital Life Skill One can learn must be to go "Up current".

    You're on the road to success when you pass people and see them in the face and not in the neck
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