How to Make New Year's Resolutions That Stick

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Hey Warriors,

I just wanted to share one of the most helpful things I've learned about success and self improvement:

Learn to *how* to set well defined goals.

A lot of people will sit down this time of year and come up with goals such as:

"I will lose weight"
"I will start my own business"
"I will get a girlfriend/boyfriend"

These are all great things to have in the new year, but if these are your goals, you have already set yourself up for failure. You need to learn how to set goals that turn in to results.

Here are 2 things that I consider when setting any goal:

1. Make sure there are well defined steps that can be taken

The number one thing that prevents most people from succeeding at their goals is that they set goals that don't involve well defined steps that they themselves can take.

If your goal can't be broken down in to actions that you can take, come up with a new goal. Take the old goal and break it down as far as you can, then stop.

2. Know how you will know when your goal is completed

With every goal ask your self, "How will I know when my goal is completed". For example, if your goal is "to start a business", you might answer the question like this, "I will know when my goal is completed when I have at least 3 well researched websites live and SEOed".

Notice how I didn't say , "...when I am making $5000 a month in profit". Even if this is what I really want, when setting a well defined goal it is important to confine it to actions that *you* can take. Making profit depends on the actions of others.

The trick is to define your goal so well that if you follow the step you have laid out for yourself you will be likely to see the kind of profit you want. But, the profit itself is not the goal.

I hope this helps all of you who are setting goals for the new year. Do any of you have some more tips for goal setting?
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  • Profile picture of the author MacS09
    Great post, thank you. It goes with what I came across recently:

    5 steps to making sure you keep you new year's resolution:

    "People who kept their resolutions tended to have broken their goal into smaller steps and rewarded themselves when they achieved one of these. They also told their friends about their goals, focused on the benefits of success and kept a diary of their progress.


    "People who planned a series of smaller goals had an average success rate of 35%, while those who followed all five of the above strategies had a 50% chance of success."

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    • Profile picture of the author RichPirate
      Originally Posted by MacS09 View Post


      "People who kept their resolutions tended to have broken their goal into smaller steps and rewarded themselves when they achieved one of these. They also told their friends about their goals, focused on the benefits of success and kept a diary of their progress.
      Yes. Tell Your Friends About Your Goals. This is very important. Tell your co workers, tell everyone. While you're at it, you should also tell them that it's ok for them to speak up if they see you not sticking to it.

      Ultimately the motivation has to come from within, but having other people on your side and more importantly knowing that failing at your goal would mean failing publicly, makes a huge difference.
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  • Profile picture of the author ngseosept
    Another tip you can add to the list is to never set a goal that's too high and not achievable. You might only get disappointed in the end and might not encourage you to come up with another New Year's resolution altogether.
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    Set the bar high ~ and start jumping ~
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  • Profile picture of the author webwriter
    [QUOTE=RichPirate;1556215]Hey Warriors,

    I just wanted to share one of the most helpful things I've learned about success and self improvement:

    Learn to *how* to set well defined goals.

    A lot of people will sit down this time of year and come up with goals such as:

    "I will lose weight"
    "I will start my own business"
    "I will get a girlfriend/boyfriend"

    These are all great things to have in the new year, but if these are your goals, you have already set yourself up for failure. You need to learn how to set goals that turn in to results.

    Here are 2 things that I consider when setting any goal:

    1. Make sure there are well defined steps that can be taken

    The number one thing that prevents most people from succeeding at their goals is that they set goals that don't involve well defined steps that they themselves can take.

    If your goal can't be broken down in to actions that you can take, come up with a new goal. Take the old goal and break it down as far as you can, then stop.

    2. Know how you will know when your goal is completed

    With every goal ask your self, "How will I know when my goal is completed". For example, if your goal is "to start a business", you might answer the question like this, "I will know when my goal is completed when I have at least 3 well researched websites live and SEOed".

    Notice how I didn't say , "...when I am making $5000 a month in profit". Even if this is what I really want, when setting a well defined goal it is important to confine it to actions that *you* can take. Making profit depends on the actions of others.

    The trick is to define your goal so well that if you follow the step you have laid out for yourself you will be likely to see the kind of profit you want. But, the profit itself is not the goal.

    I hope this helps all of you who are setting goals for the new year. Do any of you have some more tips for goal setting?[/QUOTE


    I really appreciated this post. It helped me to understand why my resolutions were a miserable failure and included great suggestions for making them effective. Thanks so much!
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    • Profile picture of the author Trey Walter
      Hi RichPirate,

      I'd like to mention another thing explicitly:

      Write down your goals! This really works wonders. Write them down so they literally "stick" to the paper. Unchangeable and present.

      Other tips on goal setting would be:
      - Don't use negotations.
      - Set deadlines.
      - Act now or set precise dates.

      I don't want to explain all of that stuff here, because I wrote an article about it some time ago which can be found on my blog MuscularBrain.com. (Title: "Succesful Goal Setting Explained". I'm not allowed to post links yet...)

      Trey
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  • Profile picture of the author lloydy14
    "People with goals succeed because they know where they're going." - Earl Nightingale
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  • Profile picture of the author Nick Barton
    Originally Posted by RichPirate View Post

    Hey Warriors,

    I just wanted to share one of the most helpful things I've learned about success and self improvement:

    Learn to *how* to set well defined goals.

    A lot of people will sit down this time of year and come up with goals such as:

    "I will lose weight"
    "I will start my own business"
    "I will get a girlfriend/boyfriend"

    These are all great things to have in the new year, but if these are your goals, you have already set yourself up for failure. You need to learn how to set goals that turn in to results.

    Here are 2 things that I consider when setting any goal:

    1. Make sure there are well defined steps that can be taken

    The number one thing that prevents most people from succeeding at their goals is that they set goals that don't involve well defined steps that they themselves can take.

    If your goal can't be broken down in to actions that you can take, come up with a new goal. Take the old goal and break it down as far as you can, then stop.

    2. Know how you will know when your goal is completed

    With every goal ask your self, "How will I know when my goal is completed". For example, if your goal is "to start a business", you might answer the question like this, "I will know when my goal is completed when I have at least 3 well researched websites live and SEOed".

    Notice how I didn't say , "...when I am making $5000 a month in profit". Even if this is what I really want, when setting a well defined goal it is important to confine it to actions that *you* can take. Making profit depends on the actions of others.

    The trick is to define your goal so well that if you follow the step you have laid out for yourself you will be likely to see the kind of profit you want. But, the profit itself is not the goal.

    I hope this helps all of you who are setting goals for the new year. Do any of you have some more tips for goal setting?
    That's not goal setting, that's project management and a sure way of limiting your success.
    Goals should seem impossible dreams. If you believe that you will achieve them, you will. You may not know how, but the answer will appear often from the most unlikely source.

    If you are driven and hit a problem, a solution will appear. Perhaps from a chance encounter, or a book lying in the dentist waiting room.

    Read some of the myriad of info about "The Law Of Attraction". That is goal setting and it works. The first lesson is dream big!

    People fail with New Year resolutions simply because they make them things they feel they should do, rather than things they want to do and they don't express them in a positive manner. I will lose weight would be better expressed as I will become fitter and more attractive looking. Thats nice and positive and something worth working towards.
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    • Profile picture of the author RichPirate
      Originally Posted by Nick Barton View Post


      Read some of the myriad of info about "The Law Of Attraction". That is goal setting and it works. The first lesson is dream big!
      Only really big difference between what i'm saying and the Law of Attraction, is that the LoA advocates magical thinking. Magical thinking is taking responsibility for things that are out of your control.

      When I set goals I like to define them in a way in which I am in control of my success, but i'm always open to good things happening as a result of my actions. For example, if one of my steps is to spend some time every day looking around me for new product ideas then I will be more likely to find one in a book at the dentist's office than if I didn't spend the time to focus my attention.

      Originally Posted by Nick Barton View Post

      I will lose weight would be better expressed as I will become fitter and more attractive looking. Thats nice and positive and something worth working towards.
      and "I will become fitter and more attractive looking" would be better expressed, "I will join my local gym and do a 20 - 30 min exercise routine at least twice a week for 6 months"
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  • Profile picture of the author MichelleGreene
    I agree about new year's resolutions. They should stick. I created a free report that was inspired by my appearance on the Dr. Oz show about the 7 deadly habits of setting new year's resolutions.

    You can get a copy here: New Year's Resolutions | Life Makeover | Michelle Greene International
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  • Profile picture of the author regman5
    I think you have to be honest with yourself and make realistic goals
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