Experiments have shown how peer pressure can influence individuals to change their minds from what they know for sure is acceptable behaviour to unacceptable behaviour just because everybody else in their peer group is doing it.
- You probably started to smoke because your friends had tried it or smoked themselves.
- You joined activities because everybody in your circle was doing it.
Here are three questions that you should ask yourself about your friends and peer groups:
1. Do They BELIEVE That They CREATE Their Life Or Life Just Happens To Them?
We all have friends who are professional excuse makers. They hate their jobsbut can't leave because... [fill the blank]. They can't find a partner because all the good members of the opposite sex have already been taken. Of course, **** happens and I'm not telling you that I never suffered from bad luck myself. But, my motto always is "how do I create that in the first place?" I learn my lessons and then move on. If your peer group is adept at blaming everything but themselves for their lack of success, wealth, accomplishment or happiness, then it's time to think about another group.
2. Are They Anti-Commercial?
Let's be honest. As entrepreneurs we have to develop a reasonable desire for money, profit and growth. It's hard to keep a positive outlook on business and money when your friends keep trashing about rich people, corporations and give you a 100 reasons why "the rich get richer and the poor get poorer". I used to have a great friend who kept telling me that he was "disgusted" by my headlines and that outsourcing was a sign of "laziness". I'm not even talking about the idea of making hundreds of dollars in a day. I had to progressively let him go. It's just logic 101. You can't run a business with people around you resenting the idea of making money, promotion and leverage.
3. Do They do What They Say They Will Do, When They Say They Will?
We all know people who have track records, keep their word and do what they say they'll do, when they say they'll do it. They're people I respect. You'll certainly expect this behaviour in business or at work. So, why do you accept it with your friends? Lack of integrity is the shortest route to mediocrity and poverty. Don't associate yourself with these kinds of people.
It takes courage to let go of unproductive and/or toxic relationships. We're all hard-wired to be desperately liked and to fit in. Do it progressively by reducing the amount of time spent with them and revealing less and less about your life to these people.
As you move forward, and your business grows, your peer group will change and you will attract people in harmony with your goals and values.