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OK, so this thread is prompted by the miserable one I just read here:

http://www.warriorforum.com/mind-war...e-my-life.html

And I had to put out the opposite into the world because I'm OCD like that, and it felt a little unbalanced with all that hatin'. :p

I love my life! I have two boys who are gorgeous and sweet young men... I have a family and friends who care about me and support me... I have a business that pays my bills and then some, and allows me a bit of freedom in my life... I have two adoring dogs and a crazy cat that even loves me, purring on my lap as I type this... I have my own home albeit rented, my own car, and a life I can be proud of... I LOVE my life.

I am grateful each and every day for all of the good things I have in my life these days. Have I had dark days? Sure! Everyone does.

Do I still have dark days? Sure! But I tell myself to take a nap, and when I awake I'll feel 10 times better and things won't look so bleak. And guess what? They never look quite so bleak, and they always take an upward swing at some point.

That is just life. Fleeting moments of happiness, followed by dark valleys of less than happiness. The idea is to keep your focus on grabbing those fleeting moments, and hanging on to them during the dark times, secure in the knowledge that they ALWAYS find their way back to you, even in a moment as simple as enjoying a cup of hot chocolate on a cold day.

And if you STILL have a problem finding some gratitude and appreciating the good moments that you do experience, do what a good friend of mine does...

Hope in the damn shower and start saying thank you for all that clean, warm water washing over you, the fact that you have soap to wash with, electricity to see with, and a clean towel to dry with when you're done.

You know how many people don't even have clean water to DRINK? Much less enjoy a shower? Crikey. If you are on this forum, it's a guarantee that somebody on this planet has a life 10 times worse than yours. Recognize that, accept it, and be freakin' thankful it ain't you!

And if you really hate yourself and your life THAT much and you can't escape your misery... seek professional help.

::climbing down from the unintentional soap box I landed on..dustin' off my hands:: OK, done now!

Warm regards,
C
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  • Profile picture of the author UnstoppableJoy
    Excellent relief from negative posts. We have so much to be grateful for - no matter how big our challenges seem.
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    • Profile picture of the author winsonong
      Originally Posted by UnstoppableJoy View Post

      Excellent relief from negative posts. We have so much to be grateful for - no matter how big our challenges seem.
      hi UnstoppableJoy, I agree with you on the point that we have so much to be grateful for. Unfortunately, said always easier than done. Sometimes I just cannot stop thinking about those unhappy events or feel very unhappy when my problem not yet solve.

      Anyhow, I find a way to release my tension by reading book and come here to see those motivation thread.
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  • Profile picture of the author samlb
    Life is too short to be wasted on negative energies, but these do happen and it let's feel that we're alive. We all had days as such. But I noticed the level of positive response from the people in this community.

    That's rare and I'm grateful to part of one.
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  • Profile picture of the author mbrig
    The ratio of good things to bad things in most peoples lives far outweigh each other in favour of the good. We can all be victim to the company we keep and that negative influences can be all around. Especially, if we choose to going looking for them.

    Mind you, in a powerful and positive place (like this forum) with good people who post and give their time and expertise, negativity will surely be swept away.

    Thanks for starting this thread.

    best wishes

    Mark
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  • Profile picture of the author k0zm0zs0ul
    Agreed. This forum is often home to some very positive thoughts and people and likewise so is the rest of the world. And you really are the company you keep, so making a point to surround yourself with people who uplift you, help you grow, and focus on the good and positive in the world whenever possible is important to keep moving forward and evolving as a person.

    But going around saying I hate my life, or I hate myself, or I suck, or I can't do this or that because (insert excuse here) is a recipe for self destruction. You wouldn't let OTHER people talk to you that way... say they hate you...tell you you suck... say you can't do something for whatever reason..so why would you talk to YOURSELF that way? Just sayin'.

    C
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    • Profile picture of the author Jonathan 2.0
      Hey, bravo. Exceptional post, Cori.
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    nice video heheh=]
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  • Profile picture of the author RebeccaLongster
    You go, K0zm0zs0ul ~ I didn't see the original "I hate my life" post, but I've got to say I like your response to it. We all DO have dark days, and sometimes we can't help but say so ~ and I think when someone says something like that in a community setting like this, it's an out-crying for the kind of reminder you gave us. That the dark days do come to an end sooner or later and the sun returns. We just have to batten down and weather, and enjoy the sea spray in our faces as much as we can!

    (I also like the shower idea. There isn't anything in the world so bad that a nice hot bath or shower can't make at least a little better. Thanks for the soapbox oratory, K. ~ keep on loving your life! ;-)

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    • Profile picture of the author k0zm0zs0ul
      Originally Posted by RebeccaLongster View Post

      You go, K0zm0zs0ul ~ I didn't see the original "I hate my life" post, but I've got to say I like your response to it. We all DO have dark days, and sometimes we can't help but say so ~ and I think when someone says something like that in a community setting like this, it's an out-crying for the kind of reminder you gave us. That the dark days do come to an end sooner or later and the sun returns. We just have to batten down and weather, and enjoy the sea spray in our faces as much as we can!

      (I also like the shower idea. There isn't anything in the world so bad that a nice hot bath or shower can't make at least a little better. Thanks for the soapbox oratory, K. ~ keep on loving your life! ;-)

      Rebecca
      Thanks hun...glad you liked the post. If it makes somebody stop and reconsider a bad day they may be having, then I've accomplished my goal. lol I think sometime people just get so sucked into a negative circling mind trap, that it's tough to get out, until you get some sort of wake-up call. Sad but true.

      C
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  • Profile picture of the author sandra.IMqueen
    I love the way this community comes together. When one person is down the rest play their part in helping to lift them up.

    thank you wf members for showing what makes being human so fabulous.
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  • Profile picture of the author 101millionAds
    Thank you for you great post.Life is a school and some of us goes the easy way and some learn the hard way.That`s what makes us human.

    I`ll tell you my secret that helped me overcome the worst tragedy in my life.
    10 years ago i came home to a empty house with the police standing outside.My boyfriend and father to our 3 month year old son had injured our son to death and ran off to Thailand.
    Dealing with this was impossible at first and i ran from it by starting doing drugs-A LOT OF DRUGS.Nobody thought i was going to survive.But i did and it is a miracle.

    The main reason was: that i was ready to deal with the pain,and you have to or you will never function again.

    So the secret to get on your feet again is to face the pain and accept that it hurts and accept that it takes time to heal.

    At this moment i am a happy single mom with a son who is 3 years old.I work full time as a Internet Marketer and i love my life again!




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    • Profile picture of the author safe as houses
      Originally Posted by 101millionAds View Post

      Thank you for you great post.Life is a school and some of us goes the easy way and some learn the hard way.That`s what makes us human.

      I`ll tell you my secret that helped me overcome the worst tragedy in my life.
      10 years ago i came home to a empty house with the police standing outside.My boyfriend and father to our 3 month year old son had injured our son to death and ran off to Thailand.
      Dealing with this was impossible at first and i ran from it by starting doing drugs-A LOT OF DRUGS.Nobody thought i was going to survive.But i did and it is a miracle.

      The main reason was: that i was ready to deal with the pain,and you have to or you will never function again.

      So the secret to get on your feet again is to face the pain and accept that it hurts and accept that it takes time to heal.

      At this moment i am a happy single mom with a son who is 3 years old.I work full time as a Internet Marketer and i love my life again!




      Annette
      I cant imagine the pain you went through, but after what you,ve endured you deserve all the happiness and success that is available, good luck with everything in the future.
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    • Profile picture of the author k0zm0zs0ul
      Originally Posted by 101millionAds View Post

      Thank you for you great post.Life is a school and some of us goes the easy way and some learn the hard way.That`s what makes us human.

      I`ll tell you my secret that helped me overcome the worst tragedy in my life.
      10 years ago i came home to a empty house with the police standing outside.My boyfriend and father to our 3 month year old son had injured our son to death and ran off to Thailand.
      Dealing with this was impossible at first and i ran from it by starting doing drugs-A LOT OF DRUGS.Nobody thought i was going to survive.But i did and it is a miracle.

      The main reason was: that i was ready to deal with the pain,and you have to or you will never function again.

      So the secret to get on your feet again is to face the pain and accept that it hurts and accept that it takes time to heal.

      At this moment i am a happy single mom with a son who is 3 years old.I work full time as a Internet Marketer and i love my life again!




      Annette
      Wow...thanks for your post Annette. And good for you that you made it through to a brighter day... I'm not sure I could have, so your strength is admirable.

      C
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    • Profile picture of the author SuzukiE
      Originally Posted by 101millionAds View Post

      Thank you for you great post.Life is a school and some of us goes the easy way and some learn the hard way.That`s what makes us human.

      I`ll tell you my secret that helped me overcome the worst tragedy in my life.
      10 years ago i came home to a empty house with the police standing outside.My boyfriend and father to our 3 month year old son had injured our son to death and ran off to Thailand.
      Dealing with this was impossible at first and i ran from it by starting doing drugs-A LOT OF DRUGS.Nobody thought i was going to survive.But i did and it is a miracle.

      The main reason was: that i was ready to deal with the pain,and you have to or you will never function again.

      So the secret to get on your feet again is to face the pain and accept that it hurts and accept that it takes time to heal.

      At this moment i am a happy single mom with a son who is 3 years old.I work full time as a Internet Marketer and i love my life again!




      Annette
      I am amazed and inspired by your strength and courage to press on and move forward. I don't know what I would have done had I been you.
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  • Profile picture of the author k0zm0zs0ul
    Originally Posted by honestbizpro View Post

    I am out of the country right at this moment (USA) but I can just tell you that your perspective really changes everytime you leave home.

    I have always been thankful...always...but now I just feel like so many people are living in abundance and do not even know it.

    When you see people selling just to eat that day it really hits home.
    Amen.. I don't get to travel much, but even just considering things like the tragedy in Haiti, or the many folks who are homeless, jobless, and foodless right here in my own state, it's hard to not be grateful for what I DO have, even on bad days.

    And like I said, my good friend does the shower trick when it's hard for her, and I've tried it too. Works like a charm.

    People, feel blessed for the things you DO have in this life, no matter how small or insignificant they may seem. It's almost guaranteed that someone in this world has it just as hard, if not harder than you.

    The goal is to lift people up and support each other. Threads like the 'I hate my life' one above just serve to collectively bring people down further... sure if you're having a hard day, and need a little uplift from your forum friends, by all means tell us about your day, and how we can help.

    But simply stating your life sucks, not giving us a way to help, and making repeated negative comments about how you're no good no matter what you do.. it's not going to help you move forward and into the light at the end of the tunnel. It's only going to drag you deeper.

    Just sayin.

    C
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    • Profile picture of the author MissTerraK
      Thanks for the encouragement!

      I totally agree with you! I always say when bad situations arrive at my feet...there is a silver lining to every cloud and I won't stop searching til I find it!

      And, I always do!

      MissTerraK
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  • Profile picture of the author rainspeak
    After all that is said and done, what is the ultimate prize in life? Think about it.
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    • Profile picture of the author MissTerraK
      Originally Posted by rainspeak View Post

      After all that is said and done, what is the ultimate prize in life? Think about it.
      I have and it is the reason behind my post!

      MissTerraK
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      • Profile picture of the author SuzukiE
        Yes, be grateful for clean water and hot showers! A friend who served in Iraq under the blazing sun couldn't take a shower for 4 months and was only provided with baby wipes to clean himself.
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      • Profile picture of the author rainspeak
        Thank you. If others don't have that answer readily available in their mind I encourage the placing of some thought effort into figuring that out. Ask yourself what is the one thing everyone seeks (outside of more time,) is free and can be had right now.
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  • Profile picture of the author f4ll3rs
    Me too! No matter how hard life can be sometimes, but I really love my life. When I think about all the things that I haven't achieved yet, that's when I know that I really love my life.
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  • Profile picture of the author stevefall
    Originally Posted by k0zm0zs0ul View Post

    OK, so this thread is prompted by the miserable one I just read here:

    http://www.warriorforum.com/mind-war...e-my-life.html

    And I had to put out the opposite into the world because I'm OCD like that, and it felt a little unbalanced with all that hatin'. :p

    I love my life! I have two boys who are gorgeous and sweet young men... I have a family and friends who care about me and support me... I have a business that pays my bills and then some, and allows me a bit of freedom in my life... I have two adoring dogs and a crazy cat that even loves me, purring on my lap as I type this... I have my own home albeit rented, my own car, and a life I can be proud of... I LOVE my life.

    I am grateful each and every day for all of the good things I have in my life these days. Have I had dark days? Sure! Everyone does.

    Do I still have dark days? Sure! But I tell myself to take a nap, and when I awake I'll feel 10 times better and things won't look so bleak. And guess what? They never look quite so bleak, and they always take an upward swing at some point.

    That is just life. Fleeting moments of happiness, followed by dark valleys of less than happiness. The idea is to keep your focus on grabbing those fleeting moments, and hanging on to them during the dark times, secure in the knowledge that they ALWAYS find their way back to you, even in a moment as simple as enjoying a cup of hot chocolate on a cold day.

    And if you STILL have a problem finding some gratitude and appreciating the good moments that you do experience, do what a good friend of mine does...

    Hope in the damn shower and start saying thank you for all that clean, warm water washing over you, the fact that you have soap to wash with, electricity to see with, and a clean towel to dry with when you're done.

    You know how many people don't even have clean water to DRINK? Much less enjoy a shower? Crikey. If you are on this forum, it's a guarantee that somebody on this planet has a life 10 times worse than yours. Recognize that, accept it, and be freakin' thankful it ain't you!

    And if you really hate yourself and your life THAT much and you can't escape your misery... seek professional help.

    ::climbing down from the unintentional soap box I landed on..dustin' off my hands:: OK, done now!

    Warm regards,
    C
    Yes! I just read the other post and it made me want to help but quickly relized I can't help! I'm glad someone else in here knows what life is really all about
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  • Profile picture of the author livehappy5
    Cori --
    I love your post! thank you for this much needed positivity. I totally agree that even if your business growth is slower than you like, there is still so much to be grateful for in our lives.

    may this week bring you much success!
    All the best-
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  • Profile picture of the author Jimian
    There's a lot to be grateful... all you have to do is just think of Haiti and you realize how much most of us take for granted. It's great to be alive!!
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  • Profile picture of the author mikey21
    Great thread! I believe that life is our creator's greatest gift to us. Life is an awesome journey when you live it with purpose.
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  • Profile picture of the author RebeccaLongster
    Hey C ~

    I read this last month and loved it ~ and I still love it. Glad to see it back at the top again ~ keep putting that positive energy into the universe!

    Rebecca
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  • Profile picture of the author DougHughes
    Wow...hate life...Yikes. Of course we all have bad days, but overall, life is a beautiful thing.

    I live near the coast and last night I took a walk. The scent of jasmine was in the air mixing with the cool, damp ocean breeze. It was lovely.

    Life is pretty darn good and based on what I know beats the altrnative.
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    • Profile picture of the author gregsie74
      I love my life too - more grateful than anything else. But check this guy out - I bet he has a huge chip on his shoulder..man talk about negative

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  • Profile picture of the author veeronica
    Thanks for the post, and yr right everyone has allot to be grateful for.
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  • Profile picture of the author mrmoonlight
    As Tony Robbins says, "Live every day with an attitude of gratitude".
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  • Profile picture of the author gsgoh
    Excellent post! Made my day just reading that!

    It's wonderful to see how much people value their lives.
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  • Profile picture of the author don21stc
    You can't help loving your life provided you regard it as just one long adventure holiday where you meet great people all the time.

    Anyone can have a great life because your feelings are controlled by your mind not your circumstances.

    Fabulously rich people can easily make themselves seriously unhappy in the company of other rich people just as poor people can be fantastically happy with the companionship of others just like them.

    It just depends how your mind works.
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  • Profile picture of the author binjai15
    Do you remember Kurt Cobain's "I hate my life and hope to die" ? No wonder he shot himself... he's nuts.
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  • Profile picture of the author Ruth P
    What a fantastic post, and some amazing responses too!

    And what these responses go to show is that we really can choose happiness. Yes bad things happen, and we will be down from time to time, but it is a choice to be positive. You choose to be grateful for those things you have in life, you choose to acknowledge them rather than thinking about what you haven't got - fantastic message.

    ~Ruth
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  • Profile picture of the author GSX Enterprises
    Cheers to all this happy energy and the animated Unicorn. Absolutely made my day! You get back from the universe what you put into it. I don't personally believe in luck but I do believe in the karmic synergy that is our world. Good spawns good, bad spawns bad. It becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy, but you have the choice of which prophecy you want.

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  • Profile picture of the author Simon Lim
    Wow...I LOVE this thread!

    It's so true. No matter how tough our challenges are, or how difficult the problems are that we face, there are millions of people right now who have a lot worse. We should all be grateful everyday of everything we have in our lives.

    Have you ever imagined what your life would be like if you weren't living where you are now? If you woke up and had to rummage through the rubbish tip for some food? It's crazy that so many of us can live in relative affluence yet still complain about how bad things are in their lives.

    Each of our lives is amazing and we should appreciate everything we have.

    Thanks for this thread!

    Simon
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  • Profile picture of the author leri
    Good thread! It's an art to love life!
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  • Profile picture of the author jushuaburnham
    I love mah life too, and want to spend it worthy!
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  • Profile picture of the author adamdaly
    There are actually a lot of reason to be happy and to enjoy life. We are granted with the the very precious accommodation in life - time - make it count!
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    I love my life! I am grateful for all the people that helped to make today, today!
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