Some people who responded thought the original poster needed an attitude transplant. Some tried to give specific how-to's within the poster's original strategy. Some tried to get the original poster to rethink the entire strategy.
The original poster seemed increasingly frustrated that there wasn't respect for the efforts made so far, nor sympathy for the poster's frustration. Eventually the thread was discarded.
My question: What would have been a wiser way for everyone to enjoy a positive, constructive conversation? Without specific names or finger-pointing, what are the principles that we can use to more effectively deal with someone that seems to be stuck in a fixed mindset?