Do you suffer from a lack of motivation?

by nickb
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On an off for years I have suffered with a lack of motivation. Just wondering if you've suffered from the same thing and have ways of keeping the motivation levels high?

I see people that keep driving there business higher and higher and wonder what motivates them to do so. I seem to get content too easy. Is that a bad or good thing?

Thanks.

-Nick
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  • Profile picture of the author Scott Henderson
    Originally Posted by nickb View Post

    I seem to get content too easy. Is that a bad or good thing?

    Thanks.

    -Nick
    Well if you are content what difference does it make? Can't say without knowing your circumstances if it's good or bad. If your going to be losing the house soon for lack of cash then I would say it's a bad thing.

    Rule number one for any business, venture, job, or whatever...Have A Dream and think about it everyday. Vision you living that dream,, if it's important enough to you the rest will fall into place.
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  • Profile picture of the author Mohsin Rasool
    Hi Nick,

    For me reading the auto-biographies and success stories of successful people,
    and people who inspires me... I get back to the motivation level I need to work
    on my plans.

    So bring Reading in your day to day life to stay on track.
    Regards,
    Mohsin
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  • Profile picture of the author lyn_lee05
    Originally Posted by nickb View Post

    On an off for years I have suffered with a lack of motivation. Just wondering if you've suffered from the same thing and have ways of keeping the motivation levels high?

    I see people that keep driving there business higher and higher and wonder what motivates them to do so. I seem to get content too easy. Is that a bad or good thing?

    Thanks.

    -Nick
    As long as you are happy it is Okay in my opinion.
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    • Profile picture of the author nickb
      Ok, good replies. What if you're content but know that you're capable of so much more. Isn't that a waste?

      -Nick
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      • Profile picture of the author TheGreatestDay
        Originally Posted by nickb View Post

        Ok, good replies. What if you're content but know that you're capable of so much more. Isn't that a waste?

        -Nick
        If you are content but know you are capable of much more, perhaps you are looking in the wrong direction for success. I was like that for years and even took on a science degree (among other things) as I was 'capable' of it. It wasn't long before I gave it up because it wasn't what I actually wanted to be doing. Everyone was constantly telling me that I was clever and could do so much more and I looked in every direction to see 'what' that 'so much more' was.

        Since discovering IM, I know that is the direction for me and I am therefore motivated to keep at it and succeed. Nothing else before provided me with that kind of drive. It could well be that your lack of motivation comes down to something like that too.

        Basically, if you are doing something 'just because', you probably won't have motivation. Do something that fills you with excitement and you will have.

        And, is it a waste if you are capable of doing more? In my opinion... only if you think so.

        I hope you figure it out
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  • Profile picture of the author MayaLocke
    Being self-employed you have to have self-discipline. I build mini-rewards into my schedule, doing things I hate before allowing myself to do the "fun stuff". If I find myself unmotivated I take a step back do something like take a walk and find when I return to the work the motivation is back.
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  • Profile picture of the author SP11
    Hmmm - I sometimes feel unmotivated eg to do the housework ;-) but with regard to my online business sometimes it's not just lack of motivation but fear of the unknown or fear of failure or maybe it's fear of the unknown?? But I realise I can do so much better if I had faith in myself!! I had great exam results and have professional financial advice qualifications too so the ability is there - I just think it's my limiting beliefs that are holding me back. Has anyone tried time line therapy to get through limiting beliefs? I'm thinking of trying it.
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  • Profile picture of the author businessminder
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    • Profile picture of the author nickb
      You often hear stories of people having little amounts of money and being so sick of it they make a lot of money. I've been there done that. But some people keep going and going with making money whereas with me I got to a certain level and got content.

      What makes people keep going and going....trying to make more and more money?

      -Nick
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      • Profile picture of the author billMarket
        I havent read all the responses so I dont know if this has been mentioned yet:

        Motivation, and lack there of, can be impacted subconsciously.

        Here is how: Often our motivation is directly impacted by the people in our lives, our friends, family, partners, co-workers, and so on.

        If we are equally as successful or more successful on average than the people in our lives, then we can start to feel content with our current situation.

        This is what it causes: Even though we think (consciously) we are moving forward and are eager to reach what we define as success, we see the challenges ahead and start to make little rationalizations as to why we are ok where we are.

        These rationalizations (and the contentment you speak of) are soooo much easier when the people in our lives are equally or less successful than we are.

        Now, if our friends, co-workers, JV partners, etc are way more successful than we are, our frame of reference shifts. We see all the benefits they have from their success, and we are inevitably motivated to reach that level.

        I saw this effect recently in my own life when I reconnected with some friend who are doing big things. After the 5 day vacation, I came back ridiculously motivated.

        I realized I was getting a little bit complacent and that I didnt realize it (since it was a subconscious thing). Being around extremely successful people woke me up.

        Hope this helps,

        Bill.

        PS This is why it is vitally important to be part of MASTER MIND GROUPS with people moving towards big things or way ahead of you in terms of success!!
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        • Profile picture of the author nickb
          Great post Bill. I think you've hit the nail on the head. We become like those we hang around even if we don't want to!
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  • Profile picture of the author Raygun
    I think that everyone is guilty of getting too lax with what they need to do. The secret is to always know what you are doing next. Have a plan of action and be sure to always be going through with it.
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    • Profile picture of the author webwriter
      That's a great point, Raygun, and something which has taken me a long time to learn. Now, having a clear path as to what to do next, I feel more motivated to take the next step.

      Thinking about what you should do in the next exact two or three steps, I think, is basic and the key to success later on. Vague items, such as "read an IM-related book" doesn't cut it, or does "write an article."
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  • Profile picture of the author FloridaRay
    It's all about the art of striving for better. If you have enough "you" days, you will find yourself. And that's the key. Know your weaknesses and your highs. If you are feeling a little stressed, it's time to call a "sick" day!

    I also agree with Raygun's tidbit of advice.
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  • Profile picture of the author DTallesen
    Your state of mind, not your current state, can be your motivation. For instance, you want to start an online business and you think about all the money you'll make and all the great things you'll have when you're successful.
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    • Profile picture of the author Steller
      @Bill I totally agree people around you can play a big part of your success and motivation.

      For me having clear goals that take time and hard work to accomplish are a big part of staying motivated. Other things I do:

      1. Give myself some kind of competition. Something someone to compete against.

      2. Learning new things keeps me interested. I always work to be the expert.

      3. Keeping balance in my life.

      Kind Regards,

      Steller
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  • Profile picture of the author myrtleian
    I think you asked what keeps people motivated. The biggest part of being motivated is doing what you love to do.

    It has to be something that you are always striving to do better at.

    Take a pro sportsman/woman (for the ladies). They do what they do not just for the money but to be the best at what they do. Win more championships, more trophies, competitions the most numbers of times.

    It is there desire and passion that drives them to achieve in their sport.

    So it should be in our lives as well. Find what you love to do and do it. Then plan to do it better. Achieve that and plan to do it even better.

    Read and apply the secrets learnt in autobiographies of successful people in whatever discipline they are in.

    Hope that gave you some thought food?
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  • Paying my bills is a great motivator. And, having a lifestyle business that allows me to do the things I love to do.

    A huge factor in my motivation is that I love what I do. Do I like every little detail of what needs to be done? Not necessarily. As I grew my business I listed those things I love to do, don't really like to do, what I most need to do, what I can outsource and what I can let go of.

    I put aside a budget for outsourcing. It was very small in the beginning, but with each thing I could take off my plate it allowed me to focus on those things I absolutely love to do.

    I also think about what my products and services are doing for the end user. I am thrilled when someone lets me know how much they gained and profited from what they learned from me. This is a HUGE motivator for me.

    Most of all, I love the freedom owning my own business gives me. This in no way means I don't have to work. It means I choose the direction of my business and can be as creative as I want.
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    • Profile picture of the author DeonKrey
      Originally Posted by KathleenGageSpeaks View Post

      Paying my bills is a great motivator. And, having a lifestyle business that allows me to do the things I love to do.

      A huge factor in my motivation is that I love what I do. Do I like every little detail of what needs to be done? Not necessarily. As I grew my business I listed those things I love to do, don't really like to do, what I most need to do, what I can outsource and what I can let go of.

      I put aside a budget for outsourcing. It was very small in the beginning, but with each thing I could take off my plate it allowed me to focus on those things I absolutely love to do.

      I also think about what my products and services are doing for the end user. I am thrilled when someone lets me know how much they gained and profited from what they learned from me. This is a HUGE motivator for me.

      Most of all, I love the freedom owning my own business gives me. This in no way means I don't have to work. It means I choose the direction of my business and can be as creative as I want.
      I liked pointing this idea up to motivation. Well, expenses has been one of the most pressuring schemes in life and having it as a motivational factor can work as long as you manage them. And, outsourcing as a way to manage and grow your earning even you're investing some to pay for services, still I do believe it's better to take some responsibility off and leave that to whom will provide larger ways to exert effort on that "targeted" task. That way, I can plan for few other aspects of my business which in turn will motivate me the more I can see all plans are working in place.
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  • Profile picture of the author Christian York
    Hi Nick,

    The reason why you are not motivated is because you do not have goals or desires that truly excite you.

    The "why" is not big enough.

    Let me explain. You don't want to work extra hard or push your business because you don't see any reason in doing so. Any reason worth while.

    For me I have ambitions to become a millionaire before I am 22. That alone is not enough of a motivator. I have to look at "why" i want to achieve this. And for me the answer is

    1. The freedom
    2. to be someone my friends admire
    3. So that i can truly make a difference in other peoples lives
    4. So i can experience the best things in life

    etc etc

    These are the true reasons that motivate me to work hard and make my business and my life successful.

    If you want more motivation then get clear about what it is you really want.

    Being content is a terrible. Why wouldn't you always want to achieve more?
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  • Profile picture of the author peepin2me
    Set a financial target. If you reach it, retire, and hit the beaches. This should be a good enough motivation factor for most people.
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  • Profile picture of the author myrtleian
    Hi Nick,

    You become content because you are comfortable with what you have. It is your comfort zone.
    Therefore to become none content you have to move out of your comfort zone. The motivation is like these guys and gals here are saying and that is to bettr what you have for whatever reason you want.
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    • Profile picture of the author cthutt
      This is a great thread because a lack of motivation can strike at any time, and multiple times in one's life. Knowing how to deal with this condition when it does strike can help you get through it faster and with less pain.

      In my experience, a lack of motivation means that I am in a state of disconnect between what I am doing/thinking/saying/believing and what makes me feel happy at a deep level. Sometimes we go down the wrong path or we should have branched off a path long ago to keep ourselves aligned. I don't want to get too "woo-woo" here, so 'nuff said.

      Tip: Take some solitary time to simply contemplate.

      Aristotle is credited with saying that, contemplation is the single, greatest creative activity that man can engage in. Take some time by yourself. I go to nature; the beach, the state park, somewhere where I can be alone in nature. I bring no agenda. I think, I feel, and see what shows up. It's a powerful exercise.

      Good luck, Nick, et al. Hope some of you will find this as rewarding an exercise as I do.
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    "Do what you LOVE and LOVE what you do!"
    Otherwise find what you really LOVE and do that instead.. YOU gotta get Passionate.
    I really Love having the FREEDOM to work in my own time frame... It means I don't have to work on Mondays... I really love not working on Mondays...
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  • Profile picture of the author Lasse Borg
    Hi Nick.
    Great question - a situation i think almost everyone must face on the journey towards success.
    The way I read it, I think maybe you should work on your dream. In order to stay focus and hungry (hunger is key), your dream needs to be BIG and JUICY, something you really can't live without.
    Write it down, find pictures on Google to put on a visionboard and refer to it on a daily basis - morning and evening. Read it out loud and feel how it is, when you have accomplished your dream.
    In my opinion, you should have the following written down in present tense:
    Your big and juicy dream
    Vision - 20 years, 10 years, 5 years, 3 years and this year
    Personal mission statement (read "7 Habits" by Stephen Covey)
    Your SMART goals - 5 years, 3 years, 1 years, 6 months, 3 months, this month, this week
    Write down your Daily Action Step - what to do on a daily basis in order to get where you want and keep track in a success journal/dairy.
    Daily Affirmations that keep you motivated og hungry for a better life (maybe from The Secret)

    Hope it helps - good luck.

    Your friend, Lasse Borg from Denmark.
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