Folks, Here's Why You Should Be Happy At All Times

16 years ago

Fantastic King I Agree-

Live life to the fullest and take action and don't keep thinking what If and I don't do it, you'll always loose if you don't play.

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Mr. Enthusiastic

16 years ago

Brilliant reminder to put life in perspective. Thanks!

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webwriter 16 years ago

Great point! Being happy all of the time, you are more likely to attract positive vibes and increase your chances of success in whatever you choose to do. This is not to say that you should ignore the so-called "down" days. Solving problems can lead to a profitable future.
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Ruth P

16 years ago

This is a great post. It really put things into perspective. For me, it also helps me to realise that the things I'm scared of aren't so scary after all

~Ruth

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Nicola Lane

16 years ago

Unfortunately I have to disagree.

Being happy when something bad happens is the sign of someone who is disturbed.

By all means try to find a positive aspect of adversity, and get over your "bad mood" as quickly as you can, using whatever method works best.

But remember, the appropriate response to something bad happening is to be unhappy!

Suggesting that someone should "be happy" all the time will often be counter productive.

I could go into a long rant here - but I think I will stop - and trust psychiatric professionals a little more than a guy on a forum.

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King Shiloh

Banned 16 years ago

Originally Posted by Nicola Lane

Unfortunately I have to disagree.

Being happy when something bad happens is the sign of someone who is disturbed.

By all means try to find a positive aspect of adversity, and get over your "bad mood" as quickly as you can, using whatever method works best.

But remember, the appropriate response to something bad happening is to be unhappy!

Suggesting that someone should "be happy" all the time will often be counter productive.

I could go into a long rant here - but I think I will stop - and trust psychiatric professionals a little more than a guy on a forum.

I understand you perfectly and I appreciate your response.

However, I still believe that I should be happy even if I lost something because after all I did not lose everything.

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turntwo21 16 years ago

I've messed up so many times in my previous life that now, the success I'm having, is twice as sweet.

Some of the poor decisions you make when you're young are not mistakes, but lessons to be learned.

Every time I'm feeling low...I remind myself it's a lot better now than it could be.
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Jonathan 2.0 Banned 16 years ago

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- Tiffany Holbrook 16 years ago
  
  You should always find something good out of a bad situation. It is there you just have to have an open mind.
  
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jjreview

16 years ago

Originally Posted by Nicola Lane

Unfortunately I have to disagree.

Being happy when something bad happens is the sign of someone who is disturbed.

By all means try to find a positive aspect of adversity, and get over your "bad mood" as quickly as you can, using whatever method works best.

But remember, the appropriate response to something bad happening is to be unhappy!

Suggesting that someone should "be happy" all the time will often be counter productive.

I could go into a long rant here - but I think I will stop - and trust psychiatric professionals a little more than a guy on a forum.

I have a lot of experience with unhappiness

and I can tell you this. Being happy when the chips are down are not the sign of someone who is "disturbed", it's the sign of someone who knows that complaining or reacting to it unhappily ... won't help!

This optimism ... this being happy all the time in spite of everything ... is in all major religions. That I know of. And it's a sign of someone who TRUSTS that things will get better.

I liken life to chess. In chess, okay, unhappiness or frustration will screw up your game every time. You'll be missing all the solutions to your problems if you react this way. He's not saying to stop playing the game, or start making stupid moves! He's saying to be happy while you're doing that.

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Emily Meeks

16 years ago

Originally Posted by Nicola Lane

Unfortunately I have to disagree.

Being happy when something bad happens is the sign of someone who is disturbed.

By all means try to find a positive aspect of adversity, and get over your "bad mood" as quickly as you can, using whatever method works best.

But remember, the appropriate response to something bad happening is to be unhappy!

Suggesting that someone should "be happy" all the time will often be counter productive.

I could go into a long rant here - but I think I will stop - and trust psychiatric professionals a little more than a guy on a forum.

I don't think that's what Shiloh was getting at.

S**t happens, and when it does, yes, you'll need to deal with it. You need to process that emotion. Denying it or blocking it out will only cause more problems later. At the same time, while you need to deal with it, you need to deal and move on. You have to keep life in perspective - sure it sucks now, but how much is it going to matter next week, a year from now, 10 years from now?

You weren't the first it happened to, and it won't be the last. Just because you're going through a bad situation, doesn't necessarily mean you can't be content with life in general.

BTW, that last sentence sounded really condescending and I don't think it was warranted for the point he was trying to make.

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King Shiloh

Banned 16 years ago

Originally Posted by moneysoapbox

I don't think that's what Shiloh was getting at.

S**t happens, and when it does, yes, you'll need to deal with it. You need to process that emotion. Denying it or blocking it out will only cause more problems later. At the same time, while you need to deal with it, you need to deal and move on. You have to keep life in perspective - sure it sucks now, but how much is it going to matter next week, a year from now, 10 years from now?

You weren't the first it happened to, and it won't be the last. Just because you're going through a bad situation, doesn't necessarily mean you can't be content with life in general.

BTW, that last sentence sounded really condescending and I don't think it was warranted for the point he was trying to make.

Emily,

Thanks for giving a wonderful explanation of what I had in mind at the time of starting this thread.

As for the highlighted statement, it's all about different strokes for different folks. Maybe he had a really very bad day.

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jestershaw

16 years ago

I don't agree with these statements. I believe in the saying "This too shall pass". I am not saying you should be cold or callous when negative events happen in your life, but I do feel you have to see it for what it is. If someone dies, which we all do, see it as a progression for them into a new world of light, if that is in your belief structure.

The emotions will hit you, let them pass. The situation "is what it is" and can not be changed by your suffering.

Just my two cents.

Shawn Tester

Originally Posted by Nicola Lane

Unfortunately I have to disagree.

Being happy when something bad happens is the sign of someone who is disturbed.

By all means try to find a positive aspect of adversity, and get over your "bad mood" as quickly as you can, using whatever method works best.

But remember, the appropriate response to something bad happening is to be unhappy!

Suggesting that someone should "be happy" all the time will often be counter productive.

I could go into a long rant here - but I think I will stop - and trust psychiatric professionals a little more than a guy on a forum.

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Mr. Enthusiastic

16 years ago

Nicola, I took the comment as a pep talk for ordinary life.

Of course a little forum pep talk is not a substitute for appropriate help and insight when that's necessary. It's foolish to ignore problems, and foolhardy to ignore available wisdom from experts. Sometimes wounds require healing. Sometimes injustice requires vigilant correction. Sometimes sadness requires full expression.

I think the appropriate response to something bad happening is to be realistic. There may well be something important lost, to be mourned. There may well be something necessary to fight for, with passion. And there may well be something else that's still valuable, to be celebrated with happiness. I think this is what King was suggesting we don't forget.

In general, if there is something to be happy about, that will engender a more satisfying present moment and a more empowering next moment than if one dwells on what one can't change anyway.

A pep talk can sometimes help people remember there's something positive and empowering about the situation. Perhaps there's something good, or something that could be made good, that might be overlooked without perspective.

From that point of view, I think King doesn't need to add any disclaimer here.

In another couple of decades, perhaps King will mellow enough into middle age to say, "Here's why you should, at all times, look for a spark of happiness even amidst life's woes." That kind of reflective thought typically comes with age, introspection and some blows from fate. Given King's age and the little I know about the hardships in Nigeria, I'm inspired that he wants to be a resourceful optimist. I think it's enough to acknowledge that, without wishing that he was also a trained therapist.

In other words, why not chill out a bit?

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FloridaRay

16 years ago

Everyone NEEDS to read this. It's a good "quote of the day".

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simplenfun

16 years ago

Great sharing. And my ambition is to be happy.

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philsquires 16 years ago

Gratitude is something that will reward over and over... especially in challenging times

Know that you have it all and you alone control those thoughts, that vibration, that reality

There's one major guarantee in life - Things Will Change

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robrave

16 years ago

Nice point. Keep positive and get moving!!

I'm happy

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CrackCopy

16 years ago

"You just can't think in that negative way, make way for the positive day!"

-Bob Marley

Another good one is:

"The Sage Is IMMUNE To Misfortune" Not sure who said it, but the point is that being unhappy is ALWAYS a choice.

Great advice, King Shiloh!

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Mike Linley

16 years ago

Thanks Shiloh,

Great motivation and keeps things in perspective.

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