Folks, Here's Why You Should Be Happy At All Times

by King Shiloh Banned
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You should be happy because you are not the first to be broke.
You are not the first to have a bad day.

You are not the first to lose money.
You are not the first to be ill.

You are not the first to lose his or her job.
You are not the first to make no sales after a day, a week, a month, a year, 10 years...

And you will not be the last.

Nothing is new under the sun. If you have failed before someone else have failed even more than you did.

If you have succeeded before, oh there are people that have succeeded before you even learned how to say the word "success".

Certainly, you are not the first and you won't be the last.

Be happy at all times.

Best wishes.
#folks #happy #times
  • Profile picture of the author fasteasysuccess
    Fantastic King I Agree-

    Live life to the fullest and take action and don't keep thinking what If and I don't do it, you'll always loose if you don't play.
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  • Profile picture of the author Mr. Enthusiastic
    Brilliant reminder to put life in perspective. Thanks!
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    • Profile picture of the author webwriter
      Great point! Being happy all of the time, you are more likely to attract positive vibes and increase your chances of success in whatever you choose to do. This is not to say that you should ignore the so-called "down" days. Solving problems can lead to a profitable future.
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  • Profile picture of the author Ruth P
    This is a great post. It really put things into perspective. For me, it also helps me to realise that the things I'm scared of aren't so scary after all
    ~Ruth
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  • Profile picture of the author Nicola Lane
    Unfortunately I have to disagree.

    Being happy when something bad happens is the sign of someone who is disturbed.

    By all means try to find a positive aspect of adversity, and get over your "bad mood" as quickly as you can, using whatever method works best.

    But remember, the appropriate response to something bad happening is to be unhappy!

    Suggesting that someone should "be happy" all the time will often be counter productive.

    I could go into a long rant here - but I think I will stop - and trust psychiatric professionals a little more than a guy on a forum.
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    • Profile picture of the author King Shiloh
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      Originally Posted by Nicola Lane View Post

      Unfortunately I have to disagree.

      Being happy when something bad happens is the sign of someone who is disturbed.

      By all means try to find a positive aspect of adversity, and get over your "bad mood" as quickly as you can, using whatever method works best.

      But remember, the appropriate response to something bad happening is to be unhappy!

      Suggesting that someone should "be happy" all the time will often be counter productive.

      I could go into a long rant here - but I think I will stop - and trust psychiatric professionals a little more than a guy on a forum.
      I understand you perfectly and I appreciate your response.

      However, I still believe that I should be happy even if I lost something because after all I did not lose everything.
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      • Profile picture of the author turntwo21
        I've messed up so many times in my previous life that now, the success I'm having, is twice as sweet.

        Some of the poor decisions you make when you're young are not mistakes, but lessons to be learned.

        Every time I'm feeling low...I remind myself it's a lot better now than it could be.
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        • Profile picture of the author Tiffany Holbrook
          You should always find something good out of a bad situation. It is there you just have to have an open mind.
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    • Profile picture of the author jjreview
      Originally Posted by Nicola Lane View Post

      Unfortunately I have to disagree.

      Being happy when something bad happens is the sign of someone who is disturbed.

      By all means try to find a positive aspect of adversity, and get over your "bad mood" as quickly as you can, using whatever method works best.

      But remember, the appropriate response to something bad happening is to be unhappy!

      Suggesting that someone should "be happy" all the time will often be counter productive.

      I could go into a long rant here - but I think I will stop - and trust psychiatric professionals a little more than a guy on a forum.
      I have a lot of experience with unhappiness and I can tell you this. Being happy when the chips are down are not the sign of someone who is "disturbed", it's the sign of someone who knows that complaining or reacting to it unhappily ... won't help!

      This optimism ... this being happy all the time in spite of everything ... is in all major religions. That I know of. And it's a sign of someone who TRUSTS that things will get better.

      I liken life to chess. In chess, okay, unhappiness or frustration will screw up your game every time. You'll be missing all the solutions to your problems if you react this way. He's not saying to stop playing the game, or start making stupid moves! He's saying to be happy while you're doing that.
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    • Profile picture of the author Emily Meeks
      Originally Posted by Nicola Lane View Post

      Unfortunately I have to disagree.

      Being happy when something bad happens is the sign of someone who is disturbed.

      By all means try to find a positive aspect of adversity, and get over your "bad mood" as quickly as you can, using whatever method works best.

      But remember, the appropriate response to something bad happening is to be unhappy!

      Suggesting that someone should "be happy" all the time will often be counter productive.

      I could go into a long rant here - but I think I will stop - and trust psychiatric professionals a little more than a guy on a forum.
      I don't think that's what Shiloh was getting at.

      S**t happens, and when it does, yes, you'll need to deal with it. You need to process that emotion. Denying it or blocking it out will only cause more problems later. At the same time, while you need to deal with it, you need to deal and move on. You have to keep life in perspective - sure it sucks now, but how much is it going to matter next week, a year from now, 10 years from now?

      You weren't the first it happened to, and it won't be the last. Just because you're going through a bad situation, doesn't necessarily mean you can't be content with life in general.

      BTW, that last sentence sounded really condescending and I don't think it was warranted for the point he was trying to make.
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      • Profile picture of the author King Shiloh
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        Originally Posted by moneysoapbox View Post

        I don't think that's what Shiloh was getting at.

        S**t happens, and when it does, yes, you'll need to deal with it. You need to process that emotion. Denying it or blocking it out will only cause more problems later. At the same time, while you need to deal with it, you need to deal and move on. You have to keep life in perspective - sure it sucks now, but how much is it going to matter next week, a year from now, 10 years from now?

        You weren't the first it happened to, and it won't be the last. Just because you're going through a bad situation, doesn't necessarily mean you can't be content with life in general.

        BTW, that last sentence sounded really condescending and I don't think it was warranted for the point he was trying to make.
        Emily,

        Thanks for giving a wonderful explanation of what I had in mind at the time of starting this thread.

        As for the highlighted statement, it's all about different strokes for different folks. Maybe he had a really very bad day.
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    • Profile picture of the author jestershaw
      I don't agree with these statements. I believe in the saying "This too shall pass". I am not saying you should be cold or callous when negative events happen in your life, but I do feel you have to see it for what it is. If someone dies, which we all do, see it as a progression for them into a new world of light, if that is in your belief structure.

      The emotions will hit you, let them pass. The situation "is what it is" and can not be changed by your suffering.

      Just my two cents.

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      Originally Posted by Nicola Lane View Post

      Unfortunately I have to disagree.

      Being happy when something bad happens is the sign of someone who is disturbed.

      By all means try to find a positive aspect of adversity, and get over your "bad mood" as quickly as you can, using whatever method works best.

      But remember, the appropriate response to something bad happening is to be unhappy!

      Suggesting that someone should "be happy" all the time will often be counter productive.

      I could go into a long rant here - but I think I will stop - and trust psychiatric professionals a little more than a guy on a forum.
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  • Profile picture of the author Mr. Enthusiastic
    Nicola, I took the comment as a pep talk for ordinary life.

    Of course a little forum pep talk is not a substitute for appropriate help and insight when that's necessary. It's foolish to ignore problems, and foolhardy to ignore available wisdom from experts. Sometimes wounds require healing. Sometimes injustice requires vigilant correction. Sometimes sadness requires full expression.

    I think the appropriate response to something bad happening is to be realistic. There may well be something important lost, to be mourned. There may well be something necessary to fight for, with passion. And there may well be something else that's still valuable, to be celebrated with happiness. I think this is what King was suggesting we don't forget.

    In general, if there is something to be happy about, that will engender a more satisfying present moment and a more empowering next moment than if one dwells on what one can't change anyway.

    A pep talk can sometimes help people remember there's something positive and empowering about the situation. Perhaps there's something good, or something that could be made good, that might be overlooked without perspective.

    From that point of view, I think King doesn't need to add any disclaimer here.

    In another couple of decades, perhaps King will mellow enough into middle age to say, "Here's why you should, at all times, look for a spark of happiness even amidst life's woes." That kind of reflective thought typically comes with age, introspection and some blows from fate. Given King's age and the little I know about the hardships in Nigeria, I'm inspired that he wants to be a resourceful optimist. I think it's enough to acknowledge that, without wishing that he was also a trained therapist.

    In other words, why not chill out a bit?
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    Everyone NEEDS to read this. It's a good "quote of the day".
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  • Profile picture of the author simplenfun
    Great sharing. And my ambition is to be happy.
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    • Profile picture of the author philsquires
      Gratitude is something that will reward over and over... especially in challenging times

      Know that you have it all and you alone control those thoughts, that vibration, that reality

      There's one major guarantee in life - Things Will Change

      Nice Post ;-)
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  • Profile picture of the author robrave
    Nice point. Keep positive and get moving!!

    I'm happy
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  • Profile picture of the author CrackCopy
    "You just can't think in that negative way, make way for the positive day!"

    -Bob Marley

    Another good one is:

    "The Sage Is IMMUNE To Misfortune" Not sure who said it, but the point is that being unhappy is ALWAYS a choice.

    Great advice, King Shiloh!
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  • Profile picture of the author Mike Linley
    Thanks Shiloh,

    Great motivation and keeps things in perspective.
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