Who Wins The War, When You Are Fighting It With Yourself!

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When you have conflict within, you have end up with two utterly opposing thoughts, ideas, and feelings coming in and clashing.


In this instance, you will find yourself also disliking many things around you in your external world, suddenly, because those very things DIRECTLY remind you of this conflict within.


Since you are fighting a war with yourself within, this war then manifests itself outside, and you start putting up walls, and suppressing your emotions, and you even start lying to yourself.


You may even deny it, since you think that you are acting on the outside, which PROVES all of the above wrong. But the fact of the matter is, that you are using the suppressing of everything as an excuse to act on the outside, because you think that by getting things done on the outside, the inside will feel better!


What I mean by this, is for example:


You think, oh, if I make it to my goal of 200$ a day, I will not feel so bad, because I will be able to do this and that ...

or you think oh, if I work out some more, I will feel better, because I will be more healthy...


And it continues on like this, but then you end up reaching your goals, and you STILL don't feel better. So you act MORE, and become even more withdrawn from others. Now you are really frustrated, so you are really starting to begin to hate what others do around you, because it only reminds you even more of the fact that you have an inner conflict going on.


So this war just gets worse and worse and worse....and you become so crafty, that you keep on developing new tools and new walls to make right what is actually wrong.


So who really wins the war, when the war is with yourself? Who truly wins here?
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  • Profile picture of the author KenThompson
    If you continue to wage it- no one.

    If you decide to figure out why the war is going on, and take
    action to settle it - then you do.

    The war is an opportunity. Hell, most people have no clue there
    IS a war.

    So if you know it's happening, then you're half way there.
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    • Profile picture of the author acrasial
      Originally Posted by KenThompson View Post


      The war is an opportunity. Hell, most people have no clue there
      IS a war.

      So if you know it's happening, then you're half way there.

      Exactly. Why don't they have a clue? They don't have a clue, because they become so crafty and effective at lying to themselves, that they can make fiction appear to be fact.


      They also start using everything and anything as an excuse NOT to have to address whatever is within, such as taking massive action on the outside.


      They will sit there and justify the WRONG things as being the RIGHT in the situation, by suggesting this action is massive proof itself that they are right, and that they are successful, and that they are perfectly fine.


      But my god, whoever believes any of that CRAP is seriously not looking at the ENTIRE picture!
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      • Profile picture of the author KenThompson
        Originally Posted by acrasial View Post

        Exactly. Why don't they have a clue? They don't have a clue, because they become so crafty and effective at lying to themselves, that they can make fiction appear to be fact.
        Well yes, but in many ways it's a defense mechanism. A way of protecting themselves
        from things that are too painful, at the moment.

        They also start using everything and anything as an excuse NOT to have to address whatever is within, such as taking massive action on the outside.
        Can't disagree with you. Self-deception does accomplish a goal, though. In a very real
        way it is taking action, but rather for a different end that satisfies or gives them what
        they need at that time in life.

        But my god, whoever believes any of that CRAP is seriously not looking at the ENTIRE picture!
        The entire picture that is more truth than what they're currently viewing.

        I read something kinda neat the other day. Nothing new or earth-shattering, necessarily. But
        for whatever reason it caught my eye.

        "One of the greatest paradoxes of your physical senses is that your eyes actually show
        you what you believe, not what you see."
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        • Profile picture of the author acrasial
          Originally Posted by KenThompson View Post


          "One of the greatest paradoxes of your physical senses is that your eyes actually show
          you what you believe, not what you see."


          I just realized that too, that we will see things as they appear to be, not as they truly are. We will even accept action and the results of action (such as physical wealth, or a good physique), as proof, but it's not really proof at all!


          It's just the reality of someone struggling within to make things better. It's just the opposite of what that person truly is.
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          • Profile picture of the author KenThompson
            Originally Posted by acrasial View Post

            I just realized that too, that we will see things as they appear to be, not as they truly are. We will even accept action and the results of action (such as physical wealth, or a good physique), as proof, but it's not really proof at all!
            Yes, quite right. But it's a natural thing to do. We all want to be right about the things we
            believe. Millions have died doing just that.

            And that's another thing we do, we're always trying to justify what we do because it's part
            of the quest to believe we're right. No one's immune to it.

            But it can be really helpful to at least be aware of the things we all always tend to do. And
            maintaining an awareness so we can really see and not just believe what we see is truth
            when maybe it really is not.

            It's just the reality of someone struggling within to make things better. It's just the opposite of what that person truly is.
            And that's life. Right? Trying to make things better as we know it. Many do not do that.
            They just respond and react to make things stable and secure. But that is not a criticism.
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  • Profile picture of the author AwesomePossum
    Your self image wins unless your conscious can win out....you could learn how to release. Then the side you want to win will

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  • Profile picture of the author KrisMainieri
    Many of us are constantly fighting our demons, wrestling with issues, putting on a brave face to the world. While we carry around tons of problems.

    I think the first step is to take One slow deep breath.... aaahhhh.....

    Second step is to think about what small step can you take next?

    There is no looser here - just winners. As if we take the war and use it as a learning experience. Then there can only be winners.

    Just my humble opinion,

    Kris
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  • Profile picture of the author MichaelGk
    At the end of the movie Lord Of War Nicholas Cage looks at the camera and says
    "Never go to war, especially with yourself"
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  • Profile picture of the author ucajack
    Its the internal war, which takes the greatest toll.And winning this war also gives the greatest pleasure and contributes to out greatest growth.Fighting our inner demons, persisting when we feel like giving up.
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  • Profile picture of the author tryinhere
    loosen a load for sure, stop placing so much pressure on yourself, and be happy with who you are now not some future expectation.
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