High Self Esteem Linked to Criminality

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It is now clear that too high self esteem or 'High Self Esteem Disorder' is often more of a problem. (This is NOT merely a 'disguised' form of low self-esteem, as commonly thought). So, if you are the victim of a bully then you can rest assured you don't have to feel sorry for them.

Hundreds of pieces of reliable research now show that bullies and many criminals are much more likely to suffer from unrealistically high self esteem and impulse control problems than low self esteem. An exaggerated sense of entitlement - expecting much from many situations - is more likely to lead to frustration and aggressive, antisocial, or even criminal behaviour.
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  • Profile picture of the author johnny_h
    I think I know exactly the type of person you're talking about. They usually piss people off which is their undoing.
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    • Profile picture of the author BenAlberstadt
      There's a difference between "high self esteem" and, say, "narcissistic personality disorder" / "antisocial personality disorder"...
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      • Profile picture of the author johnny_h
        Originally Posted by BenAlberstadt View Post

        There's a difference between "high self esteem" and, say, "narcissistic personality disorder" / "antisocial personality disorder"...
        I definitely know antisocial... results from poor self esteem I think.

        Ex-girlfriend's father - real jerk - alcoholic - rippied on his wife and daughter constantly when in private - outside of home he was a real "social" person, but his idea of being social was making dirty jokes and flirting with underage girls at anime conventions (don't ask me, it was just a weird family)...

        I'm pretty sure you could call that antisocial (among other things) because he pushed people away, repulsed them, as a result of his own negative opinion of himself - creating this crap cycle that dominated his and his families life (I really hated this guy). It was all wrapped up in the guise of him being a really social person, but his actions were the opposite.

        Dunno about the narcissistic personality disorder, though
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        • Profile picture of the author sivante
          high self esteem may be the front, though its in reality an over-inflated ego.

          best thing we can do - keep working on ourselves. lead by example. raise our vibration so it'll rub off on others and have a greater ripple effect in the world. others will do what they will in their journeys, and we're just best off letting them be, working on ourselves, and aligning with others holding the same values as us...
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  • Profile picture of the author chrislreeb
    Treat other people better than you would treat yourself, help those less fortunate than you are, do good things to other people without expecting anything for yourself in return and you will find that your self-esteem will be higher than you ever expected it to be but it really won't be that important to you anymore.
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  • Profile picture of the author AwesomePossum
    I completely disagree with this statement....

    There are just as many criminals with low self esteem

    There's something that's not being taken into account:

    It's called lack of compassion and not understanding that there are actually other people that think and feel just as they do...that other lives are affected by their actions..

    They don't care about people in the slightest bit...only themselves.

    This isn't a result of high self esteem but a result of selfishness.

    Statistics can be misleading because they have variables....once you find a source without variable you have a cause.

    Does every criminal see himself as a god? Nope...

    The same goes with selfishness...but the variable is much smaller.

    Greed, fear, hope, desperation...all of these are in fact characteristics of criminality.

    I personally think it comes down to one thing in all of this:

    The negative effects of the crime aren't as important than the reason they're doing it.

    I don't see an exception do you?
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  • Profile picture of the author acrasial
    I was wondering recently, if self esteem and the ego go hand and hand. I was thinking about whether or not people with higher self esteem also had more of an ego.

    Curiously, I viewed this post not too long after having that thought...and my only real question here whether the OP can provide some of the evidence they were discussing, or not?
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  • Profile picture of the author Emily Meeks
    Even though those with narcissistic personality disorder have a strong sense of entitlement, any slight to their self esteem makes them go off like a time bomb.

    How do I know? My father has narcissistic personality disorder. Doctor's diagnosis, not my own amateur speculation.

    I won't go into all the messy details, but in a nutshell, he lead me to believe he was a good father for the first 11 years of my life, then I later discovered just how much of an aggressive, abusive liar he was, and that he is, by nature, completely incapable of empathizing with another human being. He and my mom divorced in 2002, he's been out of the picture ever since.

    Sense of entitlement? Yes. High self-esteem? Doubt it. If anything, I'd say fragile self-esteem provides a closer correlation.

    In all that you do, know your True INTENT...

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    • Profile picture of the author Daniel Rickfold
      The term "self-esteem" can be interpreted in many ways. It can be very much subjective and interpreted to anyone's own will. So when you interpret it otherwise, what I will say here, very much changes....

      Usually a "bully" is bullying other people because he wants to feel superior. That doesn't necessarily mean he FEELS superior, but most likely something is lacking.

      Any person with true high-self esteem wouldn't need to do anything in order to feel good about themselves.

      The act of "bullying" or "criminality" is, in fact, a rather complicated one. A person may do an "action", like I said, in order to feel superior, because deep inside he feels inferior. So that's why people with LOW self esteem always think they NEED to do something in order to compensate who they are. This can include bullying and even being a really nice guy/gal (over the top). Or, in another sence, it's their strategy for dealing with a certain aspect of their life (social, cultural, etc.)
      For example, if a typical husband wants their mother in law to shut up, but she won't, and he doesn't know what else to do, anger kicks in, aggression, and, ultimately he kills her. This is because his options of what he could do in that situation were very LIMITED, something low self-esteem people have in common, I believe. Now, he only wanted peace and harmony in his home, but that desire twisted and the only way he thought he could achieve that is by having his mother in law dead.

      So now, high self esteem doesn't necessarily mean thinking I am superior than you, it's more of a thinking I am a great guy/gal and I know it. Since I know it, I don't need to prove it to you, or anyone, hence I don't need to do any bullying.

      So, in conclusion, criminality/ bullying/ negative anti-social behavior isn't really about self-esteem at all.

      It's something far more complex and making a statement that high self-esteem people are criminals is false.

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  • Profile picture of the author Jonathan 2.0
    I've always liked this sentiment from H. Jackson Brown ("Life's Little Instruction Book"):

    "Let the refining and improving of your own life keep you so busy that you have little time to criticize others."

    It's easy to point the finger at another person- anyone can do that. (And, most people will because they don't want to see you succeed.)
    But it takes strength and courage to work on improving yourself, because that means acknowledging that there are many aspects of yourself that are less than perfect and require work.

    (That's my opinion, anyway ...)
    "Each problem has hidden in it an opportunity so powerful that it literally dwarfs the problem. The greatest success stories were created by people who recognized a problem and turned it into an opportunity."―Joseph Sugarman
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