Best Method to Attain Happiness?

nuclear81

14 years ago

Not trying to keep up with everybody else and enjoying what you have.

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SilentX

14 years ago

Wow, that's quite the loaded question, lol.

I'm not going to be so audacious as to claim I have "the best" way to attain happiness, but I can at least give it a try. I think a great way to attain happiness is through introspection. Introspection is a great tool for self-improvement, and so I believe it is a really useful ability to have when seeking happiness. I'm not saying that dwelling on one's problems and the things we lack is good for happiness. What I'm saying is that happiness comes from bettering ourselves, and we cannot begin to better ourselves without having an understanding of how to better ourselves.

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billMarket

14 years ago

Originally Posted by SilentX

Wow, that's quite the loaded question, lol.

I'm not going to be so audacious as to claim I have "the best" way to attain happiness, but I can at least give it a try. I think a great way to attain happiness is through introspection. Introspection is a great tool for self-improvement, and so I believe it is a really useful ability to have when seeking happiness. I'm not saying that dwelling on one's problems and the things we lack is good for happiness. What I'm saying is that happiness comes from bettering ourselves, and we cannot begin to better ourselves without having an understanding of how to better ourselves.

Well, thats part of why I posted this. It is interesting that a government body is working towards "happiness policies" - which implies there is a "best way" and that the government can manufacture it through policy.

It will most likely lead to a "one size fits all" policy...I believe. Which seems to be incongruent with the concept of happiness.

But I hope it leads to a good discussion...

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SilentX

14 years ago

Originally Posted by billMarket

Well, thats part of why I posted this. It is interesting that a government body is working towards "happiness policies" - which implies there is a "best way" and that the government can manufacture it through policy.

It will most likely lead to a "one size fits all" policy...I believe. Which seems to be incongruent with the concept of happiness.

But I hope it leads to a good discussion...

What do you mean a government body? Where did I say that? :confused:

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billMarket 14 years ago

Originally Posted by SilentX

What do you mean a government body? Where did I say that? :confused:

The government part was referring to the link in the original post:

'They are Lord Layard, a founder director of the Centre for Economic Performance at the London School of Economics, who became known as the Government's "happiness czar" for his role in making his agenda part of government policy; Anthony Seldon, Master of Wellington College; and Geoff Mulgan, former head of policy at 10 Downing Street.'

I thought it would be interesting to discuss methods for happiness since governments are attempting to develop policies to create it.
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David Chung

14 years ago

Try this exercise.

No really try it, it'll only take a few seconds, and it will be much more effective if you follow along.

Take a good look around the room you are in. I want you to look out for anything that's red. Count them, make a mental list of them. Give it at least 10-15 seconds or so before you come back.

Done?

Okay, real simple, tell me how many black objects there are in the room.

Can't tell me? Why not? Because you weren't looking for black things, you were looking for red things.

If you make up your mind to be miserable, you'll condition yourself to constantly look for proof of misery, proof of unhappiness, proof that you are right. If someone asks you for proof that you're happy, you wouldn't be able to think of much, because you're always on the lookout for un-happy things. So you naturally come to the conclusion that you are unhappy.

And you'd be right.

Fortunately the reverse can also be true. If you really make up your mind to be happy, you'll find things to appreciate and be joyful for. You'll force your mind to seek out proof that you are happy. If someone asks you if you're happy, you'll have in your mind a whole laundry list of reasons to be happy. So you'd naturally come to the conclusion that you are happy.

And you'd be right.

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tyroneshum

14 years ago

Originally Posted by David Chung

Try this exercise.

No really try it, it'll only take a few seconds, and it will be much more effective if you follow along.

Take a good look around the room you are in. I want you to look out for anything that's red. Count them, make a mental list of them. Give it at least 10-15 seconds or so before you come back.

Done?

Okay, real simple, tell me how many black objects there are in the room.

Can't tell me? Why not? Because you weren't looking for black things, you were looking for red things.

If you make up your mind to be miserable, you'll condition yourself to constantly look for proof of misery, proof of unhappiness, proof that you are right. If someone asks you for proof that you're happy, you wouldn't be able to think of much, because you're always on the lookout for un-happy things. So you naturally come to the conclusion that you are unhappy.

Just like again attracting things to what your mind thinks!

Good job in here. It's really about thinking happy things to be happy. Teach yourself to be happy and you'll be all throughout.

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he_who_brings_order

14 years ago

I agree that happiness is not in money. But I think that this move, by itself, is unnecessary. No person in the world does not share the same set of values, beliefs, ideas and so on. Everyone is different. Attempt to gather it all in one "Movement" is unnecessary.

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billMarket

14 years ago

Originally Posted by he_who_brings_order

I agree that happiness is not in money. But I think that this move, by itself, is unnecessary. No person in the world does not share the same set of values, beliefs, ideas and so on. Everyone is different. Attempt to gather it all in one "Movement" is unnecessary.

I tend to agree with this.

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AwesomePossum

14 years ago

For me right now...my leverage point to happiness is complete acceptance of myself and others.

Does that mean it's the best...no way. It's just the next step for me.

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farhangyar

14 years ago

I agree with what most people agree with.. and disagree with what most people disagree with... lol

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billMarket 14 years ago

Originally Posted by farhangyar

I agree with what most people agree with.. and disagree with what most people disagree with... lol

I tend to disagree with half of this, and tend to agree with the other half.
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- luckystepho 14 years ago
  
  I think happiness is a very individual thing, and there are some people who are never going to be happy, no matter what they have... and others who don't know what they need to be happy so won't attain it until they do.
  
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thenextcameron

14 years ago

Giving is one way to make you happy.

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Reena 14 years ago

Hi,

This is my first post on this forum :-) So hi everyone...!

The word, happiness, is loaded, and can lead one astray. Apart form working in internet marketing, I work as a Spiritual Counsellor, and in my experience, happiness is never acquired, it is who you are.

It's all the stuff that covers innate truth and happiness that makes us think it is far off, something we will 'get' when we achieve x,y or z. But this is the illusion. We already 'have' happiness, and once we realize that, it is simply a question of which game we want to play in life.

Thanks for the opportunity to share, great topic btw.

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quista

14 years ago

I believe you just have to make up in you mind that you will be happy. Every time I have ever felt happy was because I told myself I was.

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ucajack

14 years ago

"Your thoughts, speech and actions will bear a seal of full confidence if you are sincere in all your tasks."

I read this quote some where, and i think to have full confidence in yourself and your abilities is the supreme source of happiness.

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StacyHolmes

14 years ago

Well

This is pretty good:

Do not do to others what you would not like to be done to you.

But I also think that achieving things and accomplishing goals is pretty good, too. There's nothing better than the feeling of doing something you set your mind to. Experiencing success, overcoming obstacles, etc.

That always feels really great.

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Darren Hodgson

14 years ago

Everybody has something that they can be happy about. If you focus all of your thoughts on the good stuff in life you'll be happy and if you focus on all of the stuff that's s**t in your life you you'll be unhappy.

Focus and perception = emotions.

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caspara

14 years ago

Giving back. That is happiness. It will come back around to you.

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PreetiN

14 years ago

To be satisfied with what we have, and simply keep doing the work which we have to do in our day-to-day life, whether at home or office.

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patmiller27 13 years ago

Originally Posted by PreetiN

To be satisfied with what we have, and simply keep doing the work which we have to do in our day-to-day life, whether at home or office.

being satisfied doesn't make you happy i think there's a difference between happiness and satisfaction.
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kin_lau

14 years ago

get be happy is really a choice. and determine by what we think, how we act and the image we have in our mind.

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lamberw 14 years ago

An attitude of gratitude and live in the present moment. Easier said than done, I know.
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angel920

14 years ago

I believe happiness comes from within. Be grateful for all you have and remember to use the words I'm sorry religiously. Do things for other people. Most of all rely on your higher power at ALL times and you will never be disappointed.

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André Silverspoon

14 years ago

The best method for happiness is serve the happy True God...a God with a personal name. Look for his personal name in the dictionary (encyclopedia). The inspired word says "Happy is he who reads aloud and those who hear the words of this prophecy and who observe the things written in it, for the appointed time is near."

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grafx77

14 years ago

Happiness is simply being you. The real toddler you.

Simply doing what you want to do (within reason and lego-moral bounds), when you want to and how you want to- regardless.

Mine is seeing success. If success is in helping someone attain an objective or completing a sale, then I'm happy. It is the flavor of life.

Happiness is not an end in itself nor is it permanent.

It's what we strive for everyday and every minute of our lives.

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Reena 13 years ago

Just saw this thread and love the question.

However whilst questioning is good, it can also lock us into an elusive search.

I go along with what the Buddha supposedly said - there is no way to happiness, but happiness IS the way.

It means we only need to look at ourselves as we are (that's the tricky part ) and we will see that happiness is our nature.
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paulie888

13 years ago

I think happiness starts with an overall attitude of being grateful for everything we possess - including the things we have, the opportunities in front of us, and the people in our lives. By having this constant reflection on gratefulness, it creates a strong foundation for happiness.

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Michael Lee

13 years ago

One way to achieve happiness in life is to cheer someone up or make somebody else happy.

Whether it is someone you know or a stranger on the street doesn't matter. What's important is the feeling you get after making others smile and giving them joy. It could be as simple as treating your cousins to ice cream or giving someone a big help in a project.

Happiness is infectious and spreads easily. It works pretty much like the Christmas spirit. Believe me when I say that you're also doing yourself a big favor by spreading happiness.

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13 years ago

dont look to others but be satisfied what you have

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feiyin85

13 years ago

I personally think that happiness should start from within and create that blueprint of what happiness should be.Then work externally by helping others to be happy and be remembered of what you did.

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  By doing what's best for YOU. No one else can tell you how to be happy. It's all individual preference.
  
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13 years ago

The best method for happiness is realizing how amazingly beautiful the illusion of reality is...

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Geoff Carter

13 years ago

It's simple...

Do the things that you love to do...

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Wizardofwisdom

13 years ago

You don't "attain" happiness - it isn't a trophy you can win or earn! You choose in any moment you like to be happy.

Just find three things to be grateful for right now and try being miserable at the same time - you can't do it!

Happiness is something you are, not something you can "get." It is, however, something you can give.

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jushuaburnham

13 years ago

The best method of happiness is that you know to be contented of what you have.

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PLR Basket 13 years ago

Originally Posted by jushuaburnham

The best method of happiness is that you know to be contented of what you have.

I have to agree with that one. You have to be thankful for the things you have now.
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angelguy

13 years ago

I found out happiness comes from within and it is you who decides to be happy or not.

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oliviasmith

13 years ago

Well to help a needy person is one of the best method to attain happiness.

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Duncan Macleod

13 years ago

Just wanted to echo what Reena has already quoted.

"There is no way to happiness, happiness is the Way!"

I remember Tony Robbins talking about coming to this distinction and how it was such an "a-ha" moment for him. Rather than trying to achieve happiness, he asked himself "what if I happily achieve?" That key distinction made the world of difference for him.

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rcritchett

13 years ago

Great thread, great replies.

I believe, both from my perspective of brain science, and my "installation" of happiness into my life, that you have to train your brain to learn to love all of the things you're doing.

Most people are looking forward to something that isn't even there. Always looking for the next thing.. and rarely enjoying right now. You can teach yourself to focus on and experience joy.. not conceptually, but viscerally (actual feeling sensations) with just about anything.

If you can learn your brain, you can learn happiness. If you think happiness is somewhere else, good luck!

Great post, thanks for hearing my opinion, great replies.

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csrpj

13 years ago

so far i've noticed that really seeking happiness is itself thwarting happiness, which is something that seems to arise naturally from within... honestly i'm not sure, and haven't mastered this. but in pursuing happiness one must be careful to pursue without pursing. i suppose along the lines of the famous quote duncan just mentioned: "there is no way to happiness; happiness is the way."

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HugoG

13 years ago

Happiness is not something to attain... It is a state that comes from within. And the only way you can live happy is accept everything as it is... In other words... BE PRESENT

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Sandra Martinez 13 years ago

you mean happiness as in joy carried on in time?

when the heart chakra awakens you are in the limbo all the time. The challenge is to come back and actually have a life.
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dmaz Inc.

13 years ago

It is incredible the amount of influence just our thoughts can have on the way we view the world. If you want to be a positive, happy person, learn how to look for the good in everything and keep those positive thoughts flowing!

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MrAngelov

13 years ago

Happiness is strongly individual - i will be happy with a Ford Mustang, other with a Prius xD

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ce2gain

13 years ago

Happiness is a decision. I agree with Abraham Lincoln, "Most people are about as happy as they make up their minds to be."

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cashins

13 years ago

The Happiness Recipe seems to be the ultimate goal for everyone of us. Whether it's making a lot of money, traveling or succeeding in some way. That's the goal in everything we do. As Tony Robbins says: "The brain will do everything to gain pleasure and avoid pain". There are also six human needs that needs to be fulfilled to feel totally fulfilled. These principles is not something we would like to have, they are needs.

1.) Certainty/comfort: To be certain that you will feel comfort. Knowing that you have enough money. That's why people like routines.
2.) Uncertainty/variety: This is why we like adventure. If we experience the same surroundings and situations all the time, we get what? Bored.
3.) Love/connection: We need to love and to be loved.
4.) Significance: We need recognition.
5.) Growth: No matter how much money you make, how successful you are, you always want it to grow and get better.
6.) Contribution: Doing something meaningful is so emotionally rewarding. "Making the world a better place".

Some say you the decision of being happy is the key to happiness. Breath the way you breath when you're happy, sit, stand or walk the way you do these actions when you're happy, and smile. These steps will make you happy instantly.

"The best vitamin to happiness is b1" - don't remember this funny/smart guy's name

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loganquinn

13 years ago

Helping other people succeed. There's no other feeling of happiness quite like it when you can help someone who doesn't believe in himself/herself succeed.

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13 years ago

HELPING OTHERS.... Thought you may like this joke :-)

A priest is walking down the street one day when he notices a very small boy trying to press a doorbell on a house across the street.

However, the boy is very small and the doorbell is too high for him to reach.

After watching the boys efforts for some time, the priest moves closer to the boy's position.

He steps smartly across the street, walks up behind the little fellow and, placing his hand kindly on the child's shoulder leans over and gives the doorbell a solid ring.

Crouching down to the child's level, the priest smiles benevolently and asks, "And now what, my little man?"

To which the boy replies, "Now we run!"