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Ok.. Here is a scenario a friend presented to me. You have been pursuing something for years. Something really dear to you and which demands that you succeed doing it.

But all of a sudden it dawned on you that you actually have been pursuing the wrong thing all along. Now, you're at the verge of succeeding, but you just need to stop because it's all a waste of time. Do you quit?? Is this quitting
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  • Profile picture of the author JustinP
    HELLLLLLLLLL NO!!

    If you have been going after something for a long time and you are inches away from success, why would you ever want to give up?

    There is a story in Think and Grow Rich about a gold prospector who dug for gold and after trying over and over decided to give up. Turns out someone else went back and realized the first guy had stopped only a few feet short of the treasure.

    The KEY here is that you have been pursuing something that is important to your and you enjoy.

    Earl Nightingale said "Success is the progressive realization of a worthy ideal" and many people, including myself, think this is the best definition of "success".

    Its all about the journey, not the destination. If you are passionate, you have belief and it is important to you, in my opinion you never quit.
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    • Profile picture of the author thenextcameron
      Originally Posted by JustinP View Post


      Its all about the journey, not the destination. If you are passionate, you have belief and it is important to you, in my opinion you never quit.
      I agree with this. A winner dont quit.
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      • Profile picture of the author Crystal_
        The book, "Put Your Dream to the Test: 10 Questions that Will Help You See It and Seize It" by John C. Maxwell, includes the following quote by William Arthur Ward:

        Believe while others are doubting.
        Plan while others are playing.
        Study while others are sleeping.
        Decide while others are delaying.
        Prepare while others are daydreaming.
        Begin while others are procrastinating.
        Work while others are wishing.
        Save while others are wasting.
        Listen while others are talking.
        Smile while others are frowning.
        Commend while others are criticizing.
        Persist while others are quitting.


        and of course there's the Infamous Don't Quit poem:

        When things go wrong as they sometimes will;
        When the road you're trudging seems all uphill;
        When the funds are low, and the debts are high
        And you want to smile, but have to sigh;
        When care is pressing you down a bit -
        Rest if you must, but do not quit.

        Success is failure turned inside out;
        The silver tint of the clouds of doubt;
        And you can never tell how close you are
        It may be near when it seems so far;
        So stick to the fight when you're hardest hit -
        It's when things go wrong that you must not quit.

        These sentiments are great for those times when we're are committed to acheiving a specific outcome but are struggling to accomplish it.

        Being a Taurus I understand how one's stubborn determination can lead to success. On the other hand, digging ones heels in and refusing to go back to the drawing board or change directions when required may lead to great frustration, especially if far too much time passes in between.

        I don't think it's quitting when one takes the time to re-evaluate their situation and/or their business and if needed, changes course. I believe knowing when and how to do this is part of the journey to success.

        Crystal
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  • Profile picture of the author Ilya Feynberg
    Often times, we get our most serious and deepest of doubts when we're closer than we think. It's normal. Any one who has achieved anything will tell you the same. Seriously, if anyone tells you that they NEVER once doubted, were afraid, or concerned if this was what they really wanted is lying.

    Never quit so close to achievement. Achieve it first, then figure out if you really want it...I promise you you'll see things differently.
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  • Profile picture of the author SilentX
    This is too vague to give any real answer too. What is the thing that you were going after? How did you come to the realization that it isn't what you truly want? Were you mistaken? Misguided? Misinformed? Did someone lie to you? Did you values evolve over time? Or did you just realize that you had taken a false step early on?

    Maybe you can change your course slightly and still reach your new goal without throwing away everything you've been working on. Or, maybe you could throw it all away, but use the skills you gained through your strife to aim yourself at your new, true goal.

    Something like this needs a concrete example, because it's too circumstantial a question to answer, in my opinion. Give me a real example, and I'll give you a real example of my reaction.
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  • Profile picture of the author Nicholas Kemp
    If your friend is on the verge of succeeding then no. Maybe your friend is afraid to take the final step. It is quite common to freak out when you feel a massive change is about to occur.
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  • Profile picture of the author Hesaidblissfully
    Originally Posted by tpwilliams View Post

    Ok.. Here is a scenario a friend presented to me. You have been pursuing something for years. Something really dear to you and which demands that you succeed doing it.

    But all of a sudden it dawned on you that you actually have been pursuing the wrong thing all along. Now, you're at the verge of succeeding, but you just need to stop because it's all a waste of time. Do you quit?? Is this quitting
    How could it be "really dear to you" and simultaneously be the "wrong thing all along"? It seems like if he realized it's the wrong thing, then it wouldn't be dear to him anymore, in which case I'd say he should stop and focus his energies on whatever he/she feels is the right thing. It really depends on why your friend thinks they've been doing the wrong thing all this time. If it's a legitimate reason, then I think it's okay to stop, but if it's just fear or something like that, then perhaps they shold push forward.
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  • Profile picture of the author Kenster
    Originally Posted by JustinP View Post

    HELLLLLLLLLL NO!!

    If you have been going after something for a long time and you are inches away from success, why would you ever want to give up?

    There is a story in Think and Grow Rich about a gold prospector who dug for gold and after trying over and over decided to give up. Turns out someone else went back and realized the first guy had stopped only a few feet short of the treasure.

    The KEY here is that you have been pursuing something that is important to your and you enjoy.

    Earl Nightingale said "Success is the progressive realization of a worthy ideal" and many people, including myself, think this is the best definition of "success".

    Its all about the journey, not the destination. If you are passionate, you have belief and it is important to you, in my opinion you never quit.

    They say, the urge to quit is greatest jsut before success, just like the gold prospectors example. Thats why I never quit!



    Originally Posted by tpwilliams View Post

    Ok.. Here is a scenario a friend presented to me. You have been pursuing something for years. Something really dear to you and which demands that you succeed doing it.

    But all of a sudden it dawned on you that you actually have been pursuing the wrong thing all along. Now, you're at the verge of succeeding, but you just need to stop because it's all a waste of time. Do you quit?? Is this quitting

    What does pursuing the wrong thing mean? I like success, so wrong thing or right thing, I would keep going until I reached success. Thats just me. I dont like quitting.
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    Originally Posted by tpwilliams View Post

    Ok.. Here is a scenario a friend presented to me. You have been pursuing something for years. Something really dear to you and which demands that you succeed doing it.

    But all of a sudden it dawned on you that you actually have been pursuing the wrong thing all along. Now, you're at the verge of succeeding, but you just need to stop because it's all a waste of time. Do you quit?? Is this quitting

    My Warrior Forum friend,

    The answer to your question is within you, only YOU know what 'right' answer will fit with your current blueprint, beliefs and values...

    The best thing for you do to is to figure out what your blueprint is...maybe after all you might just simply be scared to succeed...which is very commun to all achievers on the verge of success.

    This book Think & Grow Rich will most definitely help you answer many questions (both conscious and subconscious ones) that you might have, and clarify, as well as establish, where it is you are standing on the ladder to success, what ever this may mean to YOU.

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  • Life goes on.

    But I always remember one thing:

    From every withdrawal I learn something new!
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  • Profile picture of the author PJ Harmsworth
    Originally Posted by tpwilliams View Post

    Ok.. Here is a scenario a friend presented to me. You have been pursuing something for years. Something really dear to you and which demands that you succeed doing it.

    But all of a sudden it dawned on you that you actually have been pursuing the wrong thing all along. Now, you're at the verge of succeeding, but you just need to stop because it's all a waste of time. Do you quit?? Is this quitting

    Never quit. You may have to adjust your expectations (outcome), but never quit.
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  • Profile picture of the author nando1125
    If you are on the verge of succeeding and you can pretty much taste the success, then no point in quitting!
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  • Profile picture of the author AwesomePossum
    It's always been said that once you can grasp your goal it always means something completely different...

    So you have two choices...

    1. Take it & use what you've learned to help yourself and others..

    2. Let it go and move on to something new..

    Both have their benefits...but here's my thought...

    Why the hell would you quit on something so important? Here's the fact of the matter...no matter how worthless it is now how much was it worth to you for all that time?

    In other words I think it's best to finish what you started...not always but on major goals I think it's huge...it has a great psychological effect to complete a major goal. Especially if it's one of your first major goals...

    I personally think that if it's a milestone you should finish it. It'll make the next milestone waaaay easier.

    Am I right or wrong? Both...it's only an interpretation. Take what you like and leave what you don't...

    Hope this helped

    Aaryn
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    • Profile picture of the author JRCarson
      It would be nice if you could take what you've learned and go after what you really want. So yes, quit. If you don't want to do that anymore.

      It doesn't really make sense to just continue doing something because you feel like you've invested too much time in it, or because you are too close to success to give up.
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  • Profile picture of the author Macksheppard
    If your friend has realized he's doing the wrong thing then he will never reach true success. Why would you continue to pursue something when you know it's not what you want?

    Is he really on "the verge" of success or is he future pacing himself? Sometimes we are so focused on the end result that we don't look at the price we are paying right now to get there. Having had a lot of experience in this type of self delusion for years, I knew success was just around the corner. I pursued my goal for 7 years before I came to the conclusion your friend is struggling with.

    If your friends goals or values have changed along the way and he hasn't adjusted his goals or business venture to match he will never be happy or fulfilled or even truly enjoy what he does.
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  • Profile picture of the author tbone3
    No it's not quitting. Life is too short to do something you don't wanna do. If you stop because it's too hard, that's quitting.
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    • Profile picture of the author Geoff A
      Originally Posted by tbone3 View Post

      Life is too short to do something you don't wanna do. If you stop because it's too hard, that's quitting.
      Great point tbonb3. That is the way I think of it. I have found that taking the approach of "some things are achievable, some aren't" (while possibly true) can lead to a less effective mindset.

      I am now leaning back towards the approach " I can do anything I set my mind to" - and then being very persistent.

      However if you really really aren't enjoying the goal anymore, moving on to something else is not quitting


      All just my opinion
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  • Profile picture of the author mpbiz
    NEVER QUIT
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    • Profile picture of the author Mikael-C
      That's the most important part of the game - be able to keep focus and never give it up if you really want to reach your goal...otherwise sure you can quit, but it's your choice - and your choice=your result=your destiny...and finally your lifestyle....
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      • Profile picture of the author povchef
        How does he know he's on the verge of succeeding? and if he knows he's about to why would you consider quitting?

        My only conclusion is that there is some external influence pushing him to quit. In this case its a hard choice potential of loosing out on your potential success or sacrificing something as important.

        I personally wouldn't quit but simply divert some of my attention efforts to more pressing matters.

        I know of only one thing for me that would make me consider quitting and that would be my family but even then I would still hold on to my business at the least in presence. Until such 'matters/situations or what not' where resolved and I could once again ignite my gaols again and grab hold;d of my waiting success with both hands.

        The other option I can think of is that 'your friend' has decided that his current business venture is no longer a ethical/moral option for him. He may have thought in the beginning that his goals where justified by the event of success but has come to realise that success and the cost of personal respect and reputation isn't worth as much as he thought.

        In this case I would suggest closing the current venture and taking all the knowledge and skills moulding them into something that is more to his taste and interest.


        Success is an easy goal to achieve when your heart and mind are both working towards it.

        Then again I'm probably reading to much into a rather vague question.
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  • Profile picture of the author BillWilson
    To make matters worse, what if you found the thing that you were finally succeeding in that is in your mind now the "wrong" thing, is actually hurting someone else....Ever see the movie "war games"...sometimes the only way to win is not to play. When quitting is the right thing, it is the right thing...Only you know that.
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  • Profile picture of the author Emily Meeks
    Just as people are afraid of failure, many of these same people are also afraid of success. When it comes down to it, it's about fear of change - succeeding is outside their typical comfort zones. Let's face it - so many people are starving for money, but quite a few wouldn't know what to do if suddenly, one day, those efforts "clicked".
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  • Profile picture of the author chattervine
    should not give up man..

    success always come AFTER FAIL...
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  • why in the world you decide to quit when you are on the verge of success? wouldn't you like to see the fruit of your hard labor? that is for years...you say? go for it friend
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  • Profile picture of the author StacyHolmes
    I would say if the scenario is this: you discovered that the organization you are about to breakthrough with is actually unethical and is responsible for knowingly throwing thousands of gallons of poison into the water system while appearing to be responsible and highly-principled, I'd say that's not quitting. That's called seeing the light.

    If the scenario is: you're caving just because you've worked your bum off for so long, yet you're right at the finish line, then you'd better muster up some endurance and get on with it.

    This question is impossible to answer without details.
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  • Profile picture of the author betsyanne
    StacyHolmes has a good point. There is a huge difference between quitting and "seeing the light". And I agree with other posters that it would all depend on the situation. Sometimes it looks like quitting from the outside but really it isn't, because all somebody is doing is cutting their losses.

    There are lots of definitions of success. I think real success is living the life you want to live, helping others along the way, and being happy. Putting some free time in there to just relax or pursue a hobby is also part of my definition of success.

    So "quitting" what other people think is a great job or career could really be going on a new path that will make you happier with your life. So really there is a lot of grey area inside that question.
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    • Profile picture of the author Chucks Ihebuzor
      I have got to say Stacy is Spot on.

      It all depends on what your friend is close to be successful at.

      If from your friends view, it does not resonate with his philosophies and principles and decides to drop it, then it's not Quitting, it's more of Realisation and a strengthening decision psychologically

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      • Notice that you said, "You have been pursuing something for years. Something really dear to you and which demands that you succeed doing it".

        Now if it is dear to you - then why would you stop right before you were about to succeed? It would be better to go ahead and finish it since you are so close, that way later on in life you won't have another problem - and that problem would be WISHING YOU HAD FINISHED.
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  • Profile picture of the author DoktorBraun
    I was told by a really successful person that you got
    to actually try something for 3 years, and if your not a success
    in that time then it should be a pretty good time to
    call it quites.
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    • Profile picture of the author LindseyRainwater
      How can you KNOW it was the wrong thing all along if you are so close to succeeding? Everyone else here who has said that you will give yourself the most resistance right before you succeed is right.

      Following through with this is the best way for your friend to know whether they should or should not change their direction. Getting to the verge of success only to turn away from it sounds like fear of success to me. Follow through! Once you're successful with one thing there is no telling what you can go on to do!
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    Originally Posted by tpwilliams View Post

    Ok.. Here is a scenario a friend presented to me. You have been pursuing something for years. Something really dear to you and which demands that you succeed doing it.

    But all of a sudden it dawned on you that you actually have been pursuing the wrong thing all along. Now, you're at the verge of succeeding, but you just need to stop because it's all a waste of time. Do you quit?? Is this quitting
    If you're close to the end, my thought is that you see it to fruition. You might as well, you almost there. Then decide if you want it or not. Perhaps you can make a tidy sum selling the business/idea off to someone who really wants to take it from where you're at and run with it. It's never a lost endeavor that way
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    • Profile picture of the author dorothydot
      A friend of mine said it best:

      "It's always too soon to quit."
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      • Profile picture of the author kincontrol
        Originally Posted by dorothydot View Post

        A friend of mine said it best:

        "It's always too soon to quit."
        Awesome. I have to remember that one!
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  • Profile picture of the author Mike Murphy
    There are a couple ways to look at this...beating on something that is just NEVER going to bear fruit is foolish.

    ...but

    quitting may mean giving up right before you achieve great results.

    I say find a way to track your efforts and see what is bringing you closer to the goal and what is bringing you further away from it.

    This isn't always easy especially if the goal isn't something that can easily be tracked.

    If you're grinding towar something and not achieving it, re-examine your goals as well as your action plan to reach them. There may be one little thing out of whack....fix it and BOOM...progress.

    Good luck!
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  • Profile picture of the author lakshaybehl
    There's one time in life one must quit immediately:

    When you wake up and you do not feel like jumping out of bed to get started with your work...

    When you are just dragging along and not having serious, fierce fun...

    When you are not passionate about what you do...

    When you are keeping track of time while you are at it...

    When you can no longer be fully immersed in what you are doing so much so that you lose all track of time, space and even food...

    That's when you know its time to move on.

    Remember: Your life. You are not only the actor in it. You run the entire show. Decide how its gonna be wisely!
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  • Profile picture of the author michaelbnielsen
    Personal the question would come down to "Is the success that I have persuade aligned with who I am?"

    If success is measured in money, go ahead... it hardly matter where the money come from. If success is measured in who you became, then it would be time to look at what you really want to be and become.

    Way too many people climb the biggest ladders, spending all their energy in the process, only to realise it is leaning against wrong wall.

    Aligned => continue
    Not aligned => get out of there.

    Michael
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  • Profile picture of the author sky2010
    It's difficult to decide,But I think I will insist to do if I encounter that.
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  • Profile picture of the author marklyford
    If it was important to your friend to do something for so long and they are close to succeeding then they should not quit in my opinion..

    You should never quit !
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  • Profile picture of the author tk226
    Analyses of all critical factors is the key before you quit the dream of achieving something just because it's not what you want. You should stop and take into account the years you spent on that thing and your current age and the other choice which you want to make and the time it may consume to materialize into fulfillment. The loss of energy and money which occurred in pursuing the earlier dream and the resultant loss of not carrying it further are all essentials to think through the matter in a logical way instead of getting cheated emotionally.
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  • Profile picture of the author Kirimanjaro
    I think not!! You should never quite on something that you have been at for a long time and are just about to succeed at it. Simply make it work and then after you have it under wraps you can pursue the other interests. this way you do not waste the resources, including time that you have invested in the pursuance of the goal. Finish the race and then turn to the other interest you think might be more fulfilling to you. That what i think.
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  • Profile picture of the author TwoCupsConnect
    What do you mean by "you have pursuing the wrong thing all along"? Do you mean that it's not something that you're passionate about?

    If you're on the verge of succeeding, by all means keep going. You wouldn't want to throw all your hard work out the window, would you?

    Once you have achieved the success, use that success in order to work on the thing that you really want.
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