Self esteem taking a bashing?

Hi Marcus,

That's a great idea. Thanks for sharing

I impress this idea on my mind: Anybody who criticizes you is miserable with themselves. Life is a mirror; what we see on the outside is the result of what's happening on the inside. Whatever a person complains over is not about you. We tend to take things personally but try to lose that habit. Remember this Wayne Dyer quote:

"How a person treats you is their karma. How you respond is yours."

I watch my feelings for a few minutes after running into an unhappy person, take a few deep breaths and let them go. With time this response comes a habit. You learn that miserable people are bathing in their own misery and not to jump in the tub with them.

It happens to me all the time.

People want to beat me up, steal my wallet, tear me up, punch me in the face... but they never tried as of yet!

I notice its most losers on other forums who have nothing better to do, and they don't even know you!

BUT.

I still keep making money and never let them knock me down. Always be confident in yourself and be successful

Hey Marcus,

Just remember that those who are judging you don't pay your bills, and really have no impact on how your life is or will turn out. Do what you do best, which is be you. You don't need approval from anyone, especially on a forum.

And besides, the nastiest and most rude ones are the ones that aren't destined to be great.. Surround yourself with the positive people, and your life will stay positive.

hehe, good luck to you in all your ventures my friend. I will see you at the finish line.

P.S. - You've paid all that money, wouldn't mind if you share some of that knowledge!

True! It's like pulling things in contrast because you have to tell yourself you're not like that because you're GREAT! The only man that perfectly knows oneself is himself and so no one could ever judge your weaknesses.

People who feel good about themselves have internalized a very personal decision to affirm and value themselves for who they are. Their self-regard is unconditional. It does not depend upon pleasing others, how much they possess, nor how well they perform. Therefore, we must prevail and not allow anyone to bring our self esteem down.

Some people were fortunate and able to make this decision, quite unconsciously, as children. They received positive messages which became the basis of their identities and self-worth.

Others made this decision as adults. They may have experienced a difficult childhood, but have since challenged earlier messages and redecided in favor of feeling good about themselves.

I try to never let others get me down as people who don't know me....don't know me!

Some just carry so much negative crap inside that it's amazing they make it out of bed in the morning.

I heard a couple of cool stories to this effect recently and I'll share one....

A guy jumps in a cab and the cab starts to drive away. Just as they get going down the street, a car races out in front of them, tires screeching and the driver yelling obscenities at the cab driver. The cab driver slams on the brakes and the other car narrowly misses the cab by about an inch and speeds away.

The cab driver smiles and calmly says "garbage truck..."

The passenger is amazed and asks the cab driver how he can be so calm and happy when the driver could have just killed them. How could he not be upset with the driver.

The cab driver replies "we are safe and I am not angry with the driver because some people carry around so much anger and frustration that they are like emotional garbage trucks, bound and determined to have a terrible day. I do not want to take on their garbage thinking and angst so I calmly say garbage truck to remind me to leave the burden with thos who seem to enjoy carrying it around."

Long story short, let others carry around the negativity and anger while you stay busy enjoying your life and all that you're fortunate enough to have in it....