Stop Making Excuses - The Only Way to Succeed

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Here's something that I learned recently... It takes a bit of self reflection but once you realize what's really happening, it's extremely enlightening. I hope this type of revelation helps someone out there to get to the next step in your business or any area of your life.

It's about making excuses.

I used to be terrible when it came to making excuses. I'm still working on it too. It's almost like suffering from a condition that keeps getting worse. Once you let yourself excuse something, you start to train your brain to allow it to excuse other things and then you're an infected; you're an addict. Step one is to admit it.

It can be about anything.

"I can't make more money because I'm not qualified or smart enough..."
"I can't lose weight because I don't have time to exercise."
"I shouldn't talk to that person because they won't like me." etc...

The basic structure is:

"I can't do {something I want} because {something I believe is limiting me}."

These are often called limiting beliefs and they are controllable and you can change the way you think. A recent excuse (which is simple, but a good example) was that I caught myself constantly using was to choose white bread over whole grain. My excuse was that it's slightly cheaper, and only a few more calories per slice. But that's not in line with my goals is it? Every calorie counts, and honestly if $0.25 - $0.50 is a real decision maker, I have bigger problems. It's just an excuse. I'm convincing myself that one option is better than another even though I KNOW that the opposite is true.
Usually these types of excuses cause people to never achieve what they truly want to and it's time to STOP MAKING EXCUSES. It's important to overcome these limiting beliefs weather they are "what's the difference" type excuses or caused by fear or discomfort.

The only way to change, is to actually change.

The first time this truly sunk in, I knew I was really onto something and once you can change the default patterns that your brain jumps to while in certain situations, you will feel it too. Try to catch yourself making an excuse to do something that is totally outside your goal list.

Let's say you're overall goal is to lose weight before the summer... Your excuse might be the next time you're at the Bar with your friends and you make an excuse to have another drink.. in your mind it's, "Well... what's one more, I already had 3..." but the difference is 100 - 200+ calories!

Maybe your goal is to get a new landing page up to generate more leads but there's a Law & Order marathon on TV and you'd rather do that instead...

Or your goal is to launch a new Adwords campaign that could generate some quick traffic to your site, but you make some excuse like, "it's too expensive..." or "it won't work anyway..." or "i don't have the time...".

See what I'm getting at?

Don't make excuses to avoid progress.

Try to catch yourself while you are misaligned with your goals and you'll see nearly instant improvement in nearly any area of your life!

Hope this helps!

Now Go Take action!
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  • Profile picture of the author roger123
    Agree. The landmark education training teaches you this for a hefty fee
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  • Profile picture of the author anthonylatona
    One of my biggest motivators and inspiration is Tony Robbins... One of my favorite speeches of his is this TED talk about resourcefulness. It's right along the lines of not making excuses. Enjoy!

    Tony Robbins asks why we do what we do | Video on TED.com

    I tried embedding it but it wouldn't work... anyway, definitely take the 20 min and give it a watch.
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    • Profile picture of the author rcritchett
      Originally Posted by anthonylatona View Post

      One of my biggest motivators and inspiration is Tony Robbins... One of my favorite speeches of his is this TED talk about resourcefulness. It's right along the lines of not making excuses. Enjoy!

      Tony Robbins asks why we do what we do | Video on TED.com

      I tried embedding it but it wouldn't work... anyway, definitely take the 20 min and give it a watch.
      Yea, Great video. Tony is a genius! I follow all of his work
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      • Profile picture of the author FreshPLR
        Years ago I used to take sugar in my tea, then one day I decided to stop and take tea without any sugar.

        Then a couple of years ago I decided to go further, and I stopped taking milk in tea, and the same with butter.

        You think it will be difficult but it isn't if you set your mind to it.

        There again, I have never smoked and I know a lot of people who have real problems trying to quit smoking.

        Making the decision to change sets you free.
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  • Profile picture of the author rcritchett
    Great Post! I am in support of that very message. It's amazing what we do in our brains right away when we think of something we should do, or something that we want to make happen in our lives. Human beings can increase their effectiveness by scores if they understood this principle. Additionally, noticing the patterns of thought that limit you, and then consciously altering them, creating new patterns and giving yourself new choices is the pathway to conditioning, which is the pathway to change! Awesome stuff
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    i can i can i can - w000t great post!
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  • Profile picture of the author JustinDupre
    I remember one of Kevin Garnett billboard around my town.. It said something like change your way of thinking from IMPOSSIBLE to I'm possible. Believe in yourself is huge.
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  • Profile picture of the author neil_k
    I agree, we ought to choose to live a life FREE FROM EXCUSES. Life will always have challenges, that is a given, but making excuses is a choice we make. We can also choice NOT to make excuses and to keep going no matter what.

    Not making excuses means that we have to start taking responsibility for our own actions, and to also to accept that some things are out of our control, and to do our best to control the factors that ARE within our control.
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  • Profile picture of the author omajoe
    Nice post. We are each responsible for the results we get, the good and the bad. Making excuses might make someone feel better about themselves because they push the responsibility onto someone or something else. However, you can't succeed until you admit you are the one responsible for your circumstances and you are the one who can make it better.
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  • Profile picture of the author Kenster
    I used to be just like you. Always found a way why I couldnt do something. Always justified it in a rational and logical way and so I was comfortable with it.

    As I began to actually meet more and more successful entrepreneurs I realized they didnt have anything more than I had. They made mistakes, they werent brilliant, they couldnt write and speak any better than I could. Thats when the epiphany happended to me and I started justifying why I COULD do something.

    This slight difference is gigantic in terms of achieving success.

    Justify in your head why you can do something great not why you cant!
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  • Profile picture of the author cadenmi562
    hi anthony thanks for sharing such an inspirational and motivating article. I am completely agree with you that the only way to succeed is stop giving excuses and its a real fact. We all should break all those chains which prevents us from doing something. We all should live an independent life and if we do whatever we want then success will definitely find you.
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  • Profile picture of the author swilliams09
    I read a great quote by Norman Schwarzkopf the other day.
    “The truth of the matter is that you always know the right thing to do. The hard part is doing it.”
    Limiting beliefs are a great way of "not doing it".
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  • Profile picture of the author olivia751
    Hello,

    Nice information you have shared here. Thanks for such a nice article post here.



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  • Profile picture of the author JustinDupre
    Yeah! Great replies here. Thanks for sharing..
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  • Profile picture of the author Gail Grannum
    Anthony,

    Nice thoughts and motivation to avoid the excuses. It is always tempting to let that nagging voice creep into your day.

    As Barney Fife would say "Nip it in the bud..." before the excuses take root and create procrastination.

    Taking positive action now,
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  • Profile picture of the author ellewong
    There is no 'right' time to get started. You just have to get started! A lot of people wants to read every course in the world and find the 'perfect' time to start the engine rolling. But that is just an excuse you've put your mindset into.

    Just get started guys. Once you do, only then the ball gets rolling
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