The Mirror Principle

Abarton, I like your insight. I've been chatting about the Mirror Principle recently and my last youtube video talks about it.

If someone has a problem, they have the problem. The feelings experienced are a mirror, reflecting back to the individual some feeling they have about themselves.

Someone get you angry? Guess who has the problem?

Does someone appear cocky or arrogant? Guess who might have a self-esteem problem?

It's always about you and never about the other person. This is a difficult concept to apply because we tend to react emotionally instead of thinking things through.

Someone challenging you? Well, if your belief system was as strong as you say that it is, you would never feel challenged and dismiss that person.

The challenging feeling used to be a real issue with me. I feel the tendency to defend myself sometimes, so I calm myself, watch my feelings and decide there's nothing to defend. Just some blockage in the confidence department in me which needs to be cleared.

Ryan Biddulph

I like this idea.

Something I also do is ask myself "Is this an inside problem or an outside problem?" I look around, and usually it's just a mindset fix that's needed.

If there is a problem in your life, you do one thing. You address the creator of all things in your life; YOU. You have to take full responsibility of your life If you want things to change. Nothing will change unless we do. So If this guys wants confidence. Tell him to go out and do things that builds confidence.

For Example: take a communications class or attend effective speech lessons or even a relationships seminar can help. There are so many things this man can do, it's crazy. Tell him to get off his A** and take some action. Complaining doesn't do anything but reinforce the event. Creating the same thing in the future. Prevent the horror now, by doing one thing each day that will increase mental fitness. And within a short period of time, you'll be asking him for advice.

Because there are two types of people in this world. Those who get along and those who go along.If he wants to truly enjoy life, He must get along. And it all starts with his thoughts, his beliefs and how he envisions himself as a persons. Tell him to read a few books on confidence, create several affirmations, repeat them at night, start to take action.

Then Repeat, Reuse and Recycle.

It's your choice!

Jonathan Figaro, The Dropout Kid.

To take it to the next level, here is something that will most positively turn your life around: become aware of your own SHADOW. This is easier said than done however. Do some research on "shadow work" and work on it. The basic idea being that: everything we hate or feel strongly about is in reality about our own self or more specifically the denied parts of us we are ashamed to take responsibility for.

I can guarantee you this: if you are able to discover and work on your shadow, it will feel like a 20KG load has been dropped off your back.

I too agree with this. what you call it is not important... you call it mirror principle or self examination or something else. the fact is true that one has to get into himself/herself periodically to get an overview of how things are going outside world.

This is a great insight of yours...

I do agree in this..how can you criticize others if you haven't criticize yourself..how will you be able to accept others if you haven't accepted yourself...

Above anything else..the truth about ourselves are hurting most of the times but learning to accept and forgive ourselves would be the key for better decision making in the future and it will help us open our eyes to the reality behind what is happening around us...



Best regards,
Bob

Ahhhh, this is so true. Thank you for this!

Setting up goals and learning more about ourselves is very important. Take a few minutes a day to evaluate the direction your going is a great idea. I have heard a few philosophy concepts that are similar to this.

Great insight on this thread.

The challenge lies in going within. When experiencing a negative feeling the instinct is to look for something outside of yourself as the cause of the feeling. It's like playing the Blame Game 24-7.

I like to visualize a mirror in front of me. When I look outside of myself...boom....the mirror is there, I stare back at myself. Yep, I'm the root of the problem, and the feeling. I caused it on some level and I can't escape that fact.

This practice can be agitating but it teaches you how to take responsibility for everything that happens in your life. This doesn't mean you wanted certain things to happen, but they happened and you must take ownership of them if you want to progress in life.

Ryan Biddulph