A Belief That Keeps me Poor

I know its in the mind. Do you feel OK with charging others for your services? How do you justify it in your head?

It all depends on whom you are helping. If you are helping poor people you are absolutely great. If that is not the case, there is no meaning in your current thinking.

The mind such a powerful tool, that many fail to utilize properly to bring about the success we really want.

I agree,great advice!

it's just all in your thought man. think positive..be happy and have a wonderful life.

This is a very important topic that many new entrepreneurs struggle with:
Let Dr. Meg (psychologist) chime in here (for free )

If you have something of value (your knowledge, your skills, something you created)and that thing of value will help someone else and they want what you have, you can trade it to them for something they have of value.

In our world as we know it, the thing of value most people use to trade for other things of value, is called "money". Simply a tool used for buying some thing that is of value to the buyer. Sometimes people trade for other things of value and that's called "bartering".

However you do it, selling and buying or bartering, humans have been doing it since there were humans. Some humans are better at it than others, because of many variables and of course the most potent of those variables are what your parents or caretakers "modeled" (fancy psych word for what they were doing every day). What they did and said laid down a neurologically ingrained set of beliefs in your mind.

So to create new beliefs and behaviors takes a bit of effort but it is very do-able. Everyone who has already commented have made some great suggestions for you. Here's my 2 cents:

1. Do your inner "re-modeling" work. In other words you have to actively work to create a new set of beliefs around the concept of receiving money from people for what you have to offer. How you go about doing this can take the form of going to therapy individually to get support with the changes you want to achieve, join a support group, do your own reading, journaling, meditating, listening to affirmations, vision boards, going to events etc, etc

How you do the inner work is up to you but you'll have to do it if you want to change your beliefs around money.

2. Act "as if". Your daily behavior will also help your beliefs change. If you charged $10 for a product or service, next time charge $20. See if that price works (this is called market testing). Then charge $30 etc until the market tells you what your service or product is worth. Market testing takes the burden off of you having to decide if your services or products have value.

Go ahead and just act "as if" what you have to offer is of value, whether you fully believe it yet or not. If people buy it or use your service and are satisfied (find out by conducting post service/sales interviews, ask them what they liked and what they would want different) then they are telling you that your service/product is valuable and they were happy to pay for it.

When you experience this, then you will probably feel proud of yourself and engage in this selling a valuable service/product some more and more and then you'll have the proverbial "snowball effect"!

Mind and behavior change go hand in hand so I encourage you to keep at it and trust us when we all say, you are valuable, your skills and knowledge are valuable and if you're an affiliate for other people, they're products and services are valuable. When you provide people with value at a good price you have been of service.

Sorry for being long winded, comes with my programming as a psych!

Meg

Thanks so much Mind Warriors!

I really appreciate all of the input.

I just realized one more thing, my parents got divorced right around the time when my father started his own business and began to make decent money, so I probably connected the two together.

I was able to alter my believes before, in order to overcome my addiction, but this subject is new to me. Since I couldn't really point my finger on exactly what is causing me to be poor.

That is why I needed your help. Thank you very much for it!

Great stuff! This book is totally going in my list. I think breaking bad habit and changing your mind setting is hard but practice practice practice to be better each day will totally help you become rich.

Not at all, what I am asking is how can I begging to feel comfortable about charging others, just like you do.

Are you providing a service that others want or are looking for?
Are you providing a service that saves others time or money?
Have you carefully considered what YOUR time is worth per hour?
Are you charging a fair price for a good service?

If the answers are "yes" you are providing something that others WANT and are willing to pay for. You are giving them your time in exchange for money they are willing to spend.

It's a fair trade for both sides - and nothing to feel bad about. It is an honest transaction and is how business is done around the world.

kay

I like what Deepak Chopra says on this...

To paraphrase him, terribly..."Switching from 'What's in it for me' to 'How can I help' frees up your thinking and quiets the negative inner dialogue". (or whatever he says)

But it makes sense and makes things more fulfilling when you think about it.

I would recommend the audio books by Deepak called "Creating Affluence" and "The 7 Spiritual Laws to Success".