Why I've Been MIA: I Left an Emotionally Abusive Relationship. (WARNING: EXTREMELY PERSONAL)

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For safety reasons I deleted this. Thanks to everyone though.
#abusive #emotionally #extremely #left #mia #personal #relationship #warning
  • Profile picture of the author BrettQ
    That's a pretty wild ride, but it sounds like you learned from it and will hopefully move on in a better way. You certainly have your hands full for a while with all those projects.

    Just don't stay buried in work for too long. It's a healthy distraction for a while and can help keep your mind off some of the raw pain. Set some goals and balance things out before too long though. Good luck, hopefully things will go well for you.

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  • Profile picture of the author Ruth P
    I don't blame you for being MIA. That's so much to go through but it already looks like you've come out stronger. And you're doing the right thing taking the time out for yourself, that's really important. Personal space is so important, especially when you've been through such a huge emotional upheaval. I'm glad at the end you have come out with something positive.
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  • Profile picture of the author paulie888
    I was actually just wondering about that your long absence from this forum in August, but this post reveals a lot. The wounds of a long-term relationship that ended as bitterly as yours will take time to heal, and I'm glad that you're taking your time and seem to be doing all the right things in terms of recuperating. It's great that you're not closing yourself off emotionally and that you haven't cloistered yourself in seclusion. Just take it one day at a time, things will definitely get better if you let them.
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  • Profile picture of the author Jonathan 2.0
    Hi Emily.

    Nice to see you back. I think this is worth repeating:

    I'm deserving of love and respect. No one is perfect, so no guy will be able to fulfill every last one of my needs, but if I'm in a relationship, it should be because it's healthy, fulfilling and fun for both of us, not merely because of the length of time spent together or any preconceived ideas I have for the future.
    Promise never again to enter or endure a destructive, unhealthy relationship, Emily, because like you said, you deserve better. Much better.
    "Each problem has hidden in it an opportunity so powerful that it literally dwarfs the problem. The greatest success stories were created by people who recognized a problem and turned it into an opportunity."―Joseph Sugarman
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  • Profile picture of the author FJRoy_o
    Emily - welcome back.

    Your learnings that you shared will serve you in your life in ways you cannot yet imagine.

    The experience will also strengthen you - and increase your ability to discern intent, and the true person that stands before you.

    Thank you for the courage to post to your fellow warriors.

    The pain of this experience will serve as fertilizer, and with you, probably rocket fuel to propel you forward with a new warrior strength.

    When you are ready, may you find the one that will cherish you, unconditionally, and appreciate the gift you are to the world.


    John & Frances
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