How Do You Handle Compliments?

13 years ago

If received compliments from my clients I make sure that I answer back to them via email or personal calls. Compliments inspire me to do better on what I do. But on the other hand, if the compliments came from my friends or business partner I always take it with a grain of salt, I make sure that their not just sucking up because that could make me complacent on what I do and not try to do better.

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ryanbiddulph

13 years ago

Good advice maclustig.

I make sure to return a compliment with a heart felt thank you, no matter the source. Even if it's not 100% genuine I block out any resentment or negative energy and revel in the feeling of appreciation, since gratitude is a conduit to good.

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G.W.

13 years ago

A compliment is to be appreciated and acknowledged for the value of that moment, no more no less
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webwriter 13 years ago

I say "thank you" and let things go at that. That's probably all the person needs to hear anyway. No drama is needed, unless you want to be perceived as a phoney.
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luckyone2day 13 years ago

I definetly agree with you on this
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Megan Elizabeth

13 years ago

I always try to return a compliment with a compliment and a heartfelt "thank you"! Yes you should know your self worth, and know that YOU are as great as YOU feel you are. However, if you don't accept compliments or you toss them to the side, you are subconsciously effecting your overall outlook on yourself!

Very simply, don't get too "gassed up" when you are complimented, but always try to remain humble by thanking someone and returning the favor!

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ryanbiddulph

13 years ago

Hi Megan Elizabeth,

In theory it's a great idea but I wouldn't return a compliment unless it's warranted.

Honesty is a big thing with me. I wouldn't want to pump someone up out of obligation, feeling that I need to return a compliment even if it isn't warranted.

I leave it at the Thank You and move on to the next moment. Never let compliments of criticism get into your head, and never feel that you obligated to return a compliment with one, unless it's warranted. Be honest above all else.

Ryan Biddulph

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lduan2009

13 years ago

I think that it's OK to momentarily feel good, but let go of that feeling quickly.

I agree on this point, and plus, be grateful always.

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Optimus Lime

13 years ago

thank people lol

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tryinhere

13 years ago

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Optimus Lime 13 years ago

lololololololol
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Christine2011 11 years ago

Originally Posted by tryinhere

YouTube - ANZ - "Customer Service"

LOL at least not too bad at all...haha
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Joe Benjamin

13 years ago

If feels freaking awesome. I usually say "Thank You! I
REALLY appreciate it!"...because I really do. No need to
hide how you feel in the moment when someone goes
out on the limb to feel good about themselves for telling
you what they like about you.

Because in the end, that's what compliments really are...

a way for the complimentor to feel good about themselves.

And that's okay because in wanting feel good about giving
someone good feelings, they in turn help you feel good, too.

It's a win-win.

Never return a compliment because you're kinda ruining
their moment to feel good about themselves in giving
something to you.

I enjoy them, and I love giving them. So to the OP...well,
it's not about lack of self-esteem...but it's ALWAYS nice
to hear how you FEEL come from someone elses mouth.

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slk

13 years ago

I think compliments are great and they do motivate me to do better and work harder. Sometimes people will want to flatter people, which does not motivate.

Compliments are needed. I am thankful for compliments.

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Daniel Jones

13 years ago

Compliments are tricky. It always feels safer to give them than to receive them. Good Post!

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ryanbiddulph

13 years ago

Thanks for the feedback guys.

The most important thing to remember about compliments is that you were wonderful before the compliment. Never let someone's opinion of you define you because when harsh criticism sets in you're doomed. You're wonderful no matter what other people think of you.

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Gary Pettit

13 years ago

With humility. And not false.
"Thank you. That is so nice of you to say."
And that's it.

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Optimus Lime 13 years ago

Originally Posted by sparkie2260

With humility. And not false.
"Thank you. That is so nice of you to say."
And that's it.

well said.
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abundantlife

11 years ago

As kids we probably learned to say, "Thank You", for a kindness or a compliment. That still seems appropriate to me.

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Banned 11 years ago

Acknowledge compliments; the worst thing you can do is ignore them thinking you are being humble!

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Justin Says

11 years ago

Originally Posted by ryanbiddulph

I try not to, meaning I let them go.

Become too juiced up from a compliment and you derive your self worth from somebody else's opinion.

I think that it's OK to momentarily feel good, but let go of that feeling quickly. Don't get too hyped up because you know your worth...you don't need somebody else to tell you how wonderful you are, because you know it.

I mean, you do know that you are wonderful, right? If not it's time to develop confidence from the inside out, otherwise known as self-confidence.

How do you handle compliments?

Ryan Biddulph

@Ryan,

Dude, I definitely agree.

It's funny, sometimes I don't even react to compliments. I'm not trying to be mean or anything, nor am I trying to be concieded, but I do hear them quite a bit and they can become quite repetative.

I have nothing against compliments, if anything, they are motivational and I really do appreciate them.

I couldn't image how someone like Will Smith would take compliments after releasing a film. Every single person he talked to would just compliment him on the film.

Compliments are great, and I agree you shouldn't let them get to your head. You know everything about yourself more than anyone else, if you don't deserve the compliment you'll know, but if you do, then well... you just do

I'm going to compliment you for posting this because I think about it all the time, so thanks a lot Ryan and keep up the great work!

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neeralt

11 years ago

Originally Posted by ryanbiddulph

I try not to, meaning I let them go.

Become too juiced up from a compliment and you derive your self worth from somebody else's opinion.

I think that it's OK to momentarily feel good, but let go of that feeling quickly. Don't get too hyped up because you know your worth...you don't need somebody else to tell you how wonderful you are, because you know it.

I mean, you do know that you are wonderful, right? If not it's time to develop confidence from the inside out, otherwise known as self-confidence.

How do you handle compliments?

Ryan Biddulph

It is normal for us human to feel good of ourselves when someone gives us compliments. Like other people, I will give them my heartful thank you. But once I felt very good and think I'm good enough and results in being less productive. Until one day I found out about it myself, I treat compliments as my motivations to do better.

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hardraysnight 11 years ago

gracefully? or is that old fashioned?
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footbag_man

11 years ago

well when someone appreciate me, i smile and say thank to that person.

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Tommy Smith

11 years ago

Compliments makes my heart grow. I handle compliment/s in returning in a sincere "Thank You" and a smile. A compliment must be acknowledge and appreciated may it be small or big.

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scsheldon33

11 years ago

A sincere "Thank You" to every compliment received. But just like what the other warrior said, do not allow it to make your head grow big...LOL

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SlapTiger

11 years ago

Encouragement is helpful, to be happy about receiving a compliment doesn't suggest that you needed it. Like you're waiting at the gas station to be fueled up. It seems a little insecure to force yourself to not allow a compliment to influence you.

If someone encourages you with a compliment, it doesn't have to mean to you that you needed it to understand your self-worth. Self worth issues are not maintained by the amount of outside stimuli.

I know myself, but that doesnt make by understanding of myself infallible. If a compliment, or criticism from another is something I didn't see in myself, but is reasonable and makes sense it may very well become part of my self-concept. Thats nothing to do with insecurity. The same goes for if the compliment or criticism makes no sense to me, I do not value it.