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Keep Your Goals To Yourself...

by Jimmy Reilly
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A friend of mine sent me this video recently. It's short but it just made so much sense to me.


Every top producer I've ever known in any industry were always very humble and quiet about what they do and put in the most hours. At the same time you always had those guys who talked, and talked and dreamed and put pictures of Ferrari's on their desk only to do a fraction of the work the real producers do.
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  • Profile picture of the author JoseArmando
    I stopped talking about my goals primarily because people tend to put you down in subtle ways. And talking about goals is also a subconscious thing you do to start feeling good about something even before working on it.

    But yeah, I agree, the less you talk about your goals the better.
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    • Profile picture of the author webwriter
      I totally agree. Sharing goals just seems to take the fizz out of your intentions and results. It seems that once the cat is out of the bag, there's nothing left to motivate you to achieve those goals. You're better off focusing and working to meet your goals, rather than sharing them with whoever.
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      • Profile picture of the author gamefreak
        You got a great point but I want to add something to it.

        Sharing goals with like minded people will get you motivated whereas sharing goals with people who don't see your vision will largely affect you from achieving them.

        If your environment is negative, you have 2 options:
        - Look for a positive one.
        - OR keep the goal to yourself.

        That way, you can set yourself for achieving your goals.
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        • Profile picture of the author ucajack
          Yes exactly! It is always beneficial to declare your goals before those people whom your trust and who have same vision as yours.
          But sharing it with every tom, dick and harry is just not worth it.
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  • Profile picture of the author lavern
    very true its good to keep to self. its sort of a goodluck/badluck thing i think
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    • Profile picture of the author Trevor
      When I shared my goals with my friends, they were telling me that it is not achievable and so on... then I hadn't any success for a few months and it took me down a little bit... But then I started to make some money and it was a kind of satisfaction for me
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  • Profile picture of the author Mega B
    I dont even dislose to my wife by Goals in life for some reason after you have mentioned what you want to do they tend to try and pull you down i am not sure if this is jealousy or what but i have seen it happen so many times i tend not to mention it these days.
    One of the biggest problems with goals is that very few people actually carry them through hence "procrastination is the thief of fortune!"
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  • Profile picture of the author JustinDupre
    It also make sense to me after watching this video. Much more rewarding and priceless to yourself once you achieve it.
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  • Profile picture of the author williamrs
    Great video! Thank you for sharing!

    It seems to make a lot of sense in the practice. I don't have many friends, but, sometimes, I used to share my goals with my sister and, although I'm an action taker and I hardly have problems going to work, it seemed to decrease my motivation, my "adrenaline" a bit. Now, I talk to her (or anybody else) just after achieving my goal or at least getting very close to achieve it. I get anxious because I want to share my ideas and plans, and then I end up working really hard in order to get things done and open my mouth.


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  • Profile picture of the author PEIProfit_Katie
    I always share my goals with the ones I love, because they will do everything to empower you and understand when you can't always be there, or have had a day that hinders reaching your goals.

    Ultimately, the video is fantastic - but it's definitely worth sharing with one or two trusted amigos!
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    • Profile picture of the author Nate D
      I've read where Arnold Schwarzenegger did the exact opposite. Whenever he set a big goal he would tell as many people as he could, he said this way he had to reach his goals so people wouldn't think he was a loser.
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      • Profile picture of the author Jimmy Reilly
        Originally Posted by Crop Circle View Post

        I've read where Arnold Schwarzenegger did the exact opposite. Whenever he set a big goal he would tell as many people as he could, he said this way he had to reach his goals so people wouldn't think he was a loser.
        That has also been my philosophy for the longest time. After watching this video I realized there is some truth to it, I did get a small sense of accomplishment as people patted me on the back for wanting to be an entrepreneur. The motivation, came when I refused to let those people down.
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    • Profile picture of the author bizideas
      Originally Posted by PEIProfit_Katie View Post

      I always share my goals with the ones I love, because they will do everything to empower you and understand when you can't always be there, or have had a day that hinders reaching your goals.

      Ultimately, the video is fantastic - but it's definitely worth sharing with one or two trusted amigos!
      Yeah. I'm with you.
      I think what he is saying is tepid. I disagree with the video and the referenced psychologists' POV.

      Everyone is different.

      If you're the kind of person who gets this sort "false start" satisfaction, then yes, what the speaker is saying applies to you.

      If you're the kind of person who habitually does what he/she says you're gonna do then of course this doesn't apply.

      If your goal is to lose 5 lbs. in two weeks, figure out how, then do it.
      It really doesn't matter whether you broadcast it or keep it to yourself.

      Imagine when Vince Lombardi announced to his opponent(s) in their face that his guys are gonna score by "running the ball" straight down the field and there's nothing they can do to stop it!
      No opponent, No commentator, Not one in the stadium will stand in the way.

      Think about how contrasty that is to this guy Derek Sivers' approach.

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  • Profile picture of the author tronicscribe
    Wow I'm glad I watched that. So many things make sense to me now. I would always get over excited about my goals, and share them with friends and family, and almost never accomplish them. The story of my life evolves around setting goals that never get done, and no I wonder if they all had this fatal mistake in common.
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  • Profile picture of the author WebPen
    I think it comes down to who you're sharing your goals with.

    For example my parents and my wife may not understand why I have some of my goals, but a like-minded person (for example fellow Warriors) might understand and help push me to get to that point.

    Just like having a workout buddy helps keep you accountable with getting your butt in the gym, having an IM buddy can help keep you accountable with working on your online business.
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  • Profile picture of the author 6secrets
    This just makes sense. I'll do my best to keep my goals to myself from now on.

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  • Profile picture of the author slk
    I write out my goals and share them with my closest friends so they help to keep me on target. This way I am accountable. The when I achieve them, we rejoice together.
    Great ideas from all of you. Thanks
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  • Profile picture of the author marketinggremlin
    ive always kind of seen "goal sharing" as a sticky situation lol...i could go either way...never know what people will think but you also kind of get to find out who your friends are so to speak...those that love and support you succeed or fail are the ones you want to keep by you at all times anyway...so maybe "goal sharing" can be looked at as kind of a cleansing process lol...
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  • Profile picture of the author Gary Pettit
    Thank you, gamefreak, for hitting the nail on the head.
    Yes, it depends on whom you share your goals with.
    But it is on you to make that determination and be judicious.
    (And remember, as the Arnold Schwarnegger anecdote implied: "It ain't bragging if you can do it!") :-)
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  • Profile picture of the author PeterDunin
    sound advice,cheers for sharing.
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    • Profile picture of the author naruq
      I believe you should Share your goals with Like Minded people. Sort of like a mastermind group.
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  • Profile picture of the author BrianDowns
    That is a thought that I pondered in the past... Although I didn't know the reason at the time, it seemed to hold true in my own life.

    When ever I talked excitedly about what I was going to do, I would lose my steam and quit before completion.

    This is great advice!
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  • Profile picture of the author BBryanB
    Hi, Hate to be the fly in the ointment BUT,

    I have been working with people for almost 40 years on helping them build the frame work from which they will be able to actually turn dreams into reality.

    My experience is that 98% of the people who actually acheive their dreams are the ones that share and include other people in the process.

    Sharing and including other people in the process does not mean that you are boastful, arrogant or just like to talk with little or no back up action, actually the opposite is true.

    Including other people in your process means that you are open to input suggestions and help and achieving what is important to you.

    For example, i have a goal that I am working on and would like your help, if you would spend a few moments visiting my product page, i would appreciate your insight, help and suggestions on making the page and the product better. For your time, i would be happy to send you a free program for your efforts.

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    Have a great day, Bryan from Canada
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  • Profile picture of the author darkwizard7
    What A ausome Video and so very true in a sense... some are very different to others people wise that is and some just need to keep thier goals safe to achieve them ,the other half need to shout it out to the world so they can accomplish thier goals and its a smashing video and can be looked at in many ways ULTIMATELY the GOAL is to REACH your goal without giving up new inventions and ways to do it if that is not successfull try another way the more you shout it out to be heard the more people become intrigued by all the Fuss eventually anyway

    thanks for sharing - truelly is remarkable

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