What do you do when not even your wife believe You?

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What do you do when not even your wife/husband believe you?

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  • Profile picture of the author Lucky500
    I'll start by answering my own question:

    First:
    Make sure you believe on yourself.

    If your wife, your brother, husband, neighbor don't believe in you, is no biggie, sometimes even expected. BUT YOU MUST BELIEVE IN YOURSELF FIRST.

    Second:
    Take massive action and JUST DO IT! Conceive, Believe and Achieve...
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    • Profile picture of the author romolo
      ye man, you got the question and the answers, and your totally right, believe in yourself first of all, then take action and prove that what you said was right...
      but don't give her the daddy thing as that is Ego and is not needed, the proof will speak for it self..
      LOL, great post.
      Thanks
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  • Profile picture of the author mattlaclear
    I have been blessed with a wife that believed in me from the very onset of our relationship. There is no way I would be where I am today if it were not for her.
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  • Profile picture of the author jedediahd
    Well I have been there in a way, having a gf that wasn't all that supportive. Generally, I like to take the "don't talk about it, be about it" approach, and just do it, and they will come around, hopefully before you decide that you need someone positive and suportive in your life.
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  • Profile picture of the author Lucky500
    Thanks for the answers guys.

    Well my wife is supportive, but you do notice when someone doesn't believe in something with the same passion.

    There is alot of what ifs....
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    • Profile picture of the author JMac
      Just an FYI...

      Michael Jordan was cut form the high school basketball team and went home and cried in his room

      Lucille Ball was kicked out of drama school and told she could not act

      Walt Disney was fired from the New York Times because they said he lacked imagination

      Thomas Edison was told in school that he was not very smart and should seek a career in something better fitting his pleasant personality.

      You only need to believe in yourself and the rest will follow. Maybe not tomorrow or the next day but eventually.
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      • Profile picture of the author Lucky500
        Originally Posted by J-Mac View Post

        Just an FYI...

        Michael Jordan was cut form the high school basketball team and went home and cried in his room

        Lucille Ball was kicked out of drama school and told she could not act

        Walt Disney was fired from the New York Times because they said he lacked imagination

        Thomas Edison was told in school that he was not very smart and should seek a career in something better fitting his pleasant personality.

        You only need to believe in yourself and the rest will follow. Maybe not tomorrow or the next day but eventually.
        That says it all.
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      • Profile picture of the author BloggerDeen
        That's brilliant!!! Contrary to what most of people think most of the time its negativity of people that pushes a person forward. There is a reason why every successful person has story of getting bullied...in past...


        QUOTE=JMac;2628760]Just an FYI...

        Michael Jordan was cut form the high school basketball team and went home and cried in his room

        Lucille Ball was kicked out of drama school and told she could not act

        Walt Disney was fired from the New York Times because they said he lacked imagination

        Thomas Edison was told in school that he was not very smart and should seek a career in something better fitting his pleasant personality.

        You only need to believe in yourself and the rest will follow. Maybe not tomorrow or the next day but eventually.[/QUOTE]
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  • Profile picture of the author Tlox
    Like they said, you have to believe in yourself first and foremost. If you have no self confidence, then others will pick up on that right from the start. If everyone quit when naysayers or others didn't believe in them, then we would not have a history filled with great minds and great accomplishments.
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  • Profile picture of the author Vick S
    It's very important to surround yourself with winners. It be as simple as reading a good book that will put some fire under your &$%

    We become what we thing about and who we surround ourselves with. If your husband/wife does not believe you, I would suggest you avoid conversations that lead to you feeling bad about what you're doing.. focus on something that you are in agreement with and in the mean time do something that will 'prove' to your wife/husband that your idea is cool and you can do this
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  • Profile picture of the author C.J Rodriguez
    What is the most important part of doing anything is to believe in yourself first.If nobody believes in you prove them wrong.One of the best feelings in the world.
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  • Profile picture of the author Vijay M
    Find out the why. Why does she not believe?

    Have you been promising the $$$ for a long time?

    Have you been on the computer, spending time in the forums and other online time-sucking vampires, promising her that you are working on your online dreams, and yet not really doing anything productive or cash generating?

    The day you show her the paypal account with $$ in it, she will believe. There is no reason not to.
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    • Profile picture of the author LindseyRainwater
      People I talk to refer to this as "sleeping with the enemy." Knowing a lot of writers, internet marketers, and network marketers, I hear about this a lot.

      Viljay has an excellent point in finding out what the "why" is for an unsupportive spouse. If they insist on being negative about it, make them clearly verbalize why.

      Over and over I've seen the un-supportive spouse gape, make odd noises, and then come up with some B.S. that has nothing to do with anything. It doesn't always happen, sometimes they do have a good reason, but those who have a crummy reason usually start seeing their spouses "stupid plan" in a little different light after that.

      But I'm kind of ruthless when it comes to things like that. People with closed minds shouldn't open their mouths.

      I wish good luck to anyone who has a spouse or significant other who is resistant to their plans and dreams. Keep your chin up and make it work. You'll be getting lots of praise and affection on the other side.
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  • Profile picture of the author tj0575
    Like Lucky500 said, you must believe in yourself first. I definitely do. Also I have been blessed with a wife who believes in me as well, so that makes it so much easier to succeed, and stay focused. I honestly could not imagine how hard it must be to try and succeed with a spouse who does not believe in you.
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  • Profile picture of the author JasonParker
    Originally Posted by Lucky500 View Post

    Well, let's keep this a democratic thread shall we?

    What do you do when not even your wife/husband believe you?

    Just wait until you're successful... then they'll be acting like they were behind you all along =P
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  • Profile picture of the author sambreaker20
    make some money and she/he will believe you.
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  • Profile picture of the author ryanbiddulph
    Hi Lucky,

    I've been down this road a few times. When the entire world feels like it's against you it can be a tough feeling to embrace.

    Ultimately this opposition gave me more fuel for my fire. This is when the term "Believe In Yourself" can be fully realized.

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  • Profile picture of the author randerson
    I just hid everything from him until I had some results, and then showed him what I'd been doing. I always act first, apologize later (if I have to).
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    • Profile picture of the author Gino Robin
      Hi,...Sadly to Say..Your wive don't LOVE you

      Believe means Trust...

      Trust is the Foundation of LOVE
      without trust...there no love...

      Communication is the PILLAR of LOVE

      Without trust and communication....you meet alot of ARGUMENTS
      or disagreements...and at the end,no problems..can be solve.

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      • Profile picture of the author Lucky500
        Originally Posted by Gino Robin View Post

        Hi,...Sadly to Say..Your wive don't LOVE you

        Believe means Trust...

        Trust is the Foundation of LOVE
        without trust...there no love...

        Communication is the PILLAR of LOVE

        Without trust and communication....you meet alot of ARGUMENTS
        or disagreements...and at the end,no problems..can be solve.

        Gino
        whoa, whoa, whoa....

        Gino let's hope you are not a marriage counselor, otherwhise the divorce rate will double in the country!

        I did not say that my wife is not supportive. she is. but you know when someone is not believing it 100%. as a matter fact is not just my wife, but anybody pretty much that I know. when I talk about internet marketing I get so excited I start shakin' sometimes. I really have a passion for this. But I have yet to find someone with the same intensity "about Internet Marketing".

        I am trying to recruit a partner on my internet ventures, and no one feel the same way I do. Even my younger brother, which I thought would get right on board is a bit skeptical.

        Oh well, I guess when I am a millionaire, they won't be my partners, they will have to get on line and buy my ebook, just like everybody else.:rolleyes:
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        • Profile picture of the author heavysm
          Originally Posted by Lucky500 View Post

          whoa, whoa, whoa....

          Gino let's hope you are not a marriage counselor, otherwhise the divorce rate will double in the country!

          I did not say that my wife is not supportive. she is. but you know when someone is not believing it 100%. as a matter fact is not just my wife, but anybody pretty much that I know. when I talk about internet marketing I get so excited I start shakin' sometimes. I really have a passion for this. But I have yet to find someone with the same intensity "about Internet Marketing".

          I am trying to recruit a partner on my internet ventures, and no one feel the same way I do. Even my younger brother, which I thought would get right on board is a bit skeptical.

          Oh well, I guess when I am a millionaire, they won't be my partners, they will have to get on line and buy my ebook, just like everybody else.:rolleyes:
          The conversational intensity thing is something i have to work on. I'm generally easy going and quiet in public but when a question comes up about my business i can't shut up lol

          I recall a friend in university asking my opinion about facebook. That was a rant she did NOT expect

          About 1% of the people i talk to understand what I do after an in-depth explanation. I know they understand because they soon after ask a very relevant question whereas if they don't understand I just deal with a relatively blank stare and a change of subject.

          My gf initially lost hope in me after two years of not really going any where with IM. But I had managed to make a little $$ just after she confronted me and things just snowballed from there (with $$, not her).

          If you really want to make it do whatever you have to do to keep going. The belief that you will make it is the strongest weapon you have. Having others believe in you is sort of just a bonus
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  • Profile picture of the author JaredMathews
    Well first U need to be true to yourself.But still if Ur wife or husband does not believe U its time to change Ur spouse.......
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    • Profile picture of the author Gino Robin
      Gino let's hope you are not a marriage counselor, otherwhise the divorce rate will double in the country!
      Hi, Not at all i'm a marriage counselor...The best marriage counselors is the ones that experience marriage it self.

      whoa, whoa, whoa....
      -------->lol..a marriage have three rings...a marriage-ring....engagement-ring ..........& and a suffer-ring

      I did not say that my wife is not supportive. she is. but you know when someone is not believing it 100%. as a matter fact is not just my wife, but anybody pretty much that I know. when I talk about internet marketing I get so excited I start shakin' sometimes. I really have a passion for this. But I have yet to find someone with the same intensity "about Internet Marketing".
      You have a goal in life to be succesful online,your wive must back you 200%....On the other side i'ts not all about you.......Do you believe in your wive,and what see wants.....To just focus what you want and not what your wive want ...than respectively you are typically "selfish"....You certainly take alot of time in front of the pc...So your wive want your attention also..."REMEMBER A WOMAN NEEDS AFFECTION" see want to feel good about herself...........

      That you lack in your marriage........What if for instance,see go outdoor & a other man fullfill that GAP (affection)...and see feel good about herself...I don't say cheat..but a mean by a decent conversation,hug...or just give her a good compliment.......................In time see will get attracted to that man...and will want to be in that presence...while you ..sit infront of your pc....a other man give your wive affection..

      Belief mean Trust.....without trust..jealousy (mental abuse) comes in...after that communication breaks..that lead to dirty arguments (verbal Abuse)...show it go further and further....that's why most man abuse woman( physically)....cause of belief(trust)...............The woman strike with the tongue...and that the hardest (emotional abuse)........that break a man for a life time........emotional abuse...is like a sword cut through the HEART...... ..


      The woman gender are far different from man...They can multi-task and a man cannot multi-task.......that one of the zillions of small differences..we differ from them.. This is a also a good internet marketing strategy to attract woman to buy products..

      A woman want AFFECTION & ........a man wants SEX........

      Give her affection and see will start belief in you........200%

      Thanks I Apreciate
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  • Profile picture of the author definis
    Leave her
    first i will clear her if no then leave her. Bcoz after some time she will back to me. we love very much.
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  • Profile picture of the author ThisIzFifty
    depend on nobody.
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  • Profile picture of the author MrWhistler
    Keep doing what you know is right. One day - maybe - she/they will see what you are doing and believe.
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  • Profile picture of the author Smyth Danielson
    Show them a path of how you plan to be successful. If you can lay it out for them visually using logic, stats and your plan; that could help. Also, and most importantly don't try to go it alone...get them involved. That was my biggest mistake...it will go easier if you get them involved and excited also.
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  • Profile picture of the author TheSEOSniper
    Believe in your self they will eventually believe you. If not, well get a new wife haha
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  • Profile picture of the author williamrs
    No one believed me in the beginning.

    No one believed me when I quit my job and stopped going to the college.

    No one believed me when I made my first sale online.

    No one believed me when I made my first $1K online.

    Everybody believed me when I earned in 1 month at the age of 18 what some of my realatives earn in 1 year at 40+.

    You are the only one who needs to believe.


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  • Profile picture of the author InternetWriter
    I know I am young, but I say screw the disbelievers, I am not doing this to make them believe. I am hustlin' to make my future, not theirs.

    My family, my friends, my girlfriend, my neighbor can all wait, I won't become a millionaire waiting for them to approve.


    I dropped out of highschool in April of this year.

    My family gave me grief, grief, and more of it. They care but they don't know the potential of a creative mind. Lets just say they are quiet now
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    • Profile picture of the author Tommy Perez
      I have been blessed with a wife that believed in me from the very onset of our relationship. There is no way I would be where I am today if it were not for her.
      SAME HERE

      With that said...for those who are experiencing "lack of belief" problems...maybe think about producing results to prove that you can do what you believed in yourself.

      Sometimes...people, no matter how close they are to us...are limited by what they themselves think is possible. It's not their fault...just we are all raised differently, and not everyone is open to new ideas and taking risks in order obtain a positive result.

      What it comes down to is how much YOU believe in yourself. The most successful people in life influence others to believe in them - simply by how much they believe in themselves.

      Think Bill Gates, Steve Jobs, Richard Branson etc.
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    • Profile picture of the author fxprofitmountain
      Can you get a new wife?

      OK, maybe not, then what about making a case for your success?

      Point out all of the positive aspects and the ground that is being made. It is obviously easier to do this with an optimist, but....... it may help.
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  • Profile picture of the author JustinDupre
    I always personally feel like someone close to me such as family or friends always try to somehow talk me out of things.. I never let it get to me though! Focus and prove them wrong.
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  • Profile picture of the author PeterDunin
    that's a tough one,If she's your wife she should have faith and belief in you anyway.I think you need to question the relationship in general.
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  • Profile picture of the author helenaldin
    Don't let dreamstealers or tirekickers derail you from what you know to be true!
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  • Profile picture of the author Lemy Yusento
    This is a reality post...

    All i can say that, first thing first. You make sure that you believe in your self first.

    If you do, others (family, friends, etc.) FINALLY will do to.

    I don't say it's gonna be instantly, but anyway, don't waste your time to convince them. Convince them later with your results.

    Even if you're not trying to convince anyone, but if you have results, and you're love at what you're doing, they will honour you..

    Hope this help,

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    • Profile picture of the author allisylvestre
      Originally Posted by Lemy Yusento View Post

      This is a reality post...

      All i can say that, first thing first. You make sure that you believe in your self first.

      If you do, others (family, friends, etc.) FINALLY will do to.

      I don't say it's gonna be instantly, but anyway, don't waste your time to convince them. Convince them later with your results.

      Even if you're not trying to convince anyone, but if you have results, and you're love at what you're doing, they will honour you..

      Hope this help,

      -Lemy
      What if you don't have results but you still love what you are doing?
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  • Profile picture of the author DrMeg
    Check out my Monday Must Do post in Mind Warriors I posted today. Tell your lovely wife you'd like her support by holding you accountable for your Must Do actions each week, then 3 things will happen...

    1. She'll feel included (guys, the ladies love to feel included in what you're doing even if from a distance)
    2. You'll be more productive which will in turn....
    3. Create more monetary results which is where the rubber meets the road in getting anyone to believe in your entrepreneurial adventures!

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  • Profile picture of the author ColdFire123
    Well if your wife doesn't believe in you then your is that you must have a proof/evidence in everything you will do and present it to her.
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  • Profile picture of the author allisylvestre
    My husband doesn't believe in my business. He thinks I have been scammed. I'm at the point where I don't want to discuss what I am doing which is kinda sad :p
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  • Profile picture of the author jay walters
    My wife is all out supportive to me. I love my wife.
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  • Profile picture of the author Theo Encarnado
    I've been down that path and I know how you feel, however, there's no revenge like massive success...
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  • Profile picture of the author datingworld
    Ignore her / him
    and keep doing what you think is the best.
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  • Profile picture of the author eddynaser
    Woman are unpredictable, they don't care and creat messy action..Man always ego but woman need man..No woman no cry, No Man Woman will dry...the winner are Man. just go to
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  • Profile picture of the author f5mtadas
    believe in yourself is not easy as it can look first time - because you believe what you receive for hard work. If you work hard and don't get any single results you desired after some period of time you will stop believe in yourself.

    Many many online people, whose earn money understands only what to do, but if they make some cash they start ignoring "Why and how it worked!" They think like "I made money and I don't care why it worked and how it worked", they why they will fail and will start teaching others "what to do" even they made thousands, but ignorance made them back where they started.

    Never ignore why and how it happened in you life and in your business what ever results you achieved
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  • Profile picture of the author celebcaleb
    If any loved one doesn't believe in you, it is time to reconsider the relationship. It is easy for people to stand by you when things are hunky dory but when things are tough, you really begin to see the real friends and the people who love you.

    I have seen many people come and go but few stuck by me through my business ups and downs. I say that if your spouse does not believe you, you got some serious thinking to do.
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  • I say carry on with what ever you have been doing before the controversy and continue to do what you believe is the correct course of action all the while expressing kindness and consideration to your spouse.

    If you do what is right all the rest of it will sort itself out in time.

    LLS
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  • Profile picture of the author KnightOnboard
    No matter what you got to believe in yourself. If you donĀ“t, do not expect to get the respect and love that you deserve it.
    Love start from yourself.
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  • Profile picture of the author Holyhero
    There will really be times when you are your only friend...It is one of the sad truths in life

    The solution here is to BELIEVE IN YOURSELF as the OP said. Make yourself the reason for continuing to fight, do it for yourself and make them regret not believing in you LOL!
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  • Profile picture of the author mjoyd
    I would try my best to convince him. If he still doesn't believe me then it's definitely his loss, I know myself better. I will still continue to do what I think is right though. Maybe in time he will come to his senses, especially if there will come a time that he will realize his mistakes.
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  • Profile picture of the author Mbuanza
    If no one said it, f#%k her is the only right answer
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