Whatever Annoys You Is a Blessing

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Be thankful for people who annoy you. They revealed you to yourself.

Your feelings serve as a mirror. By feeling good or bad you gain an understanding of how you perceive a situation. The individual decides how to perceive the situation. What I may view as annoying may not bother you.

A person with low self-esteem may view someone to be arrogant. A person with self-confidence might view the same "arrogant" person as being self-assured. It's all in the eyes of the perceiver. This is why people who generally see others in a negative light best look in the mirror because they are the genesis of their negative experiences.

The next time you encounter an annoying person, thank them. It has nothing to do with them and everything to do with you.

Ryan Biddulph
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  • Profile picture of the author BrettQ
    Nice distinction, Ryan.

    That moment of annoyance is a very obvious moment of freedom or choice also. You get to choose how to deal with whatever just annoyed you. Most people will simply plug in their auto-pilot response(sarcastic comment for example), rather than make a deliberate choice in how to handle it.

    -Brett
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  • Profile picture of the author xInd
    If you ask 'god' (or whatever) for patience, do you think it is granted to you unequivocally or do you think you are presented with ample opportunities to practice and hone your patience?
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    • Profile picture of the author ryanbiddulph
      Originally Posted by Xception-Industries View Post

      If you ask 'god' (or whatever) for patience, do you think it is granted to you unequivocally or do you think you are presented with ample opportunities to practice and hone your patience?
      Hi,

      Life is ample opportunity after ample opportunity, continuing unfolding. The perceiver chooses what to do with it. I might receive 6000 opportunities to be patient today, one of which is writing this response to your post. I could rush or be patient and provide a thoughtful response.

      The universe might bring you patience immediately if you don't block it. Some people meditate on a word - ie = patience = and they embody the word rather quickly. Of course these folks have serious mental discipline and remove all blockages through deep meditation. Eventually being patient becomes a habit for them, meaning that they no longer suffer from impatience.

      So to answer your question, yes, and yes

      Ryan Biddulph
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  • Profile picture of the author xInd
    It's only when you stop asking and you grant your own request that you can stop practicing. Asking for it will only give you more opportunity.
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    Ask and ye shall receive.
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  • Profile picture of the author RandallPaulPipes
    Originally Posted by ryanbiddulph View Post

    Be thankful for people who annoy you. They revealed you to yourself.

    Your feelings serve as a mirror. By feeling good or bad you gain an understanding of how you perceive a situation. The individual decides how to perceive the situation. What I may view as annoying may not bother you.

    A person with low self-esteem may view someone to be arrogant. A person with self-confidence might view the same "arrogant" person as being self-assured. It's all in the eyes of the perceiver. This is why people who generally see others in a negative light best look in the mirror because they are the genesis of their negative experiences.

    The next time you encounter an annoying person, thank them. It has nothing to do with them and everything to do with you.

    Ryan Biddulph
    Good insight Ryan...Our self image does create the filter through which we perceive all of life around us. We could learn much my monitoring our feelings toward others, as if to use them as a special mirror into the condition of our own soul.
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  • Profile picture of the author King Shiloh
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    Ryan,

    It's all about different strokes for different folks huh?

    I agree with you but some folks have a special "gift" or talent of getting on people's nerves.
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    • Profile picture of the author ryanbiddulph
      Originally Posted by King Shiloh View Post

      Ryan,

      It's all about different strokes for different folks huh?

      I agree with you but some folks have a special "gift" or talent of getting on people's nerves.
      This is true King S, but as Kris noted it's all our perception. Some people who greatly annoy people around me don't agitate me at all. But some people who seem to agitate me don't bother others

      RB
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  • Profile picture of the author Kris Weber
    It's all in how you perceive the world and the actions of others, just like a fan sees the Superbowl as a fun event, the marketer sees it as a money making opportunity.
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  • Profile picture of the author Gino Robin
    Hi
    Very good topic...NEGATIVE attracts POSITIVE.........
    The emotional muscles....Needs such people to make us stronger ...& wiser

    Thanks I Apreciate
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  • Profile picture of the author JustinDupre
    This is another great post from you. Someone once told me that.. the best time of his life were the worst time when he had to deal with countless challenges.. it was when he learned the most!
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  • Profile picture of the author paulie888
    I like where this is going, and I feel we should strive to turn every encounter with people we come across into a positive experience, or at least something that we can learn from. Sometimes just changing your perception of someone can also change how they treat you, so be very careful about how you perceive people.
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  • Profile picture of the author The Vizier
    This is a timely and much needed reminder Ryan.

    So often it is easy for us to point the finger at others and lay the blame on them. But we forget that our perceptions play a part as well.

    If we can learn to detach ourselves and shrug off annoyances like water off a duck's back, we could do a whole lot more in our lives. I believe that part of this depends on how we nourish our minds as well as having our sights on a strong purpose so that we can overlook annoyances and remember the big picture.
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  • Profile picture of the author Dean Jackson
    What about The Annoying Orange?


    Kidding

    But seriously I do understand where you are coming from. Many people view my friends as loud arrogant fools. But really, they are great guys to get along with if you yourself are extraverted.

    Introverts may find such people intimidating and view them negatively.

    - Dean
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