How Quickly Can a person recover from the lost of a love one?

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How quickly can a person recover from the lost of a love one and begin to feel differently?

The answer is....Physically they can do it the next morning...
But why they don't?
Because we grow a set of beliefs...that we need to grief for a certain period of time..

How long do we grief?..Think this way..if the next day after you lost a loved one,and you didn't grieve..woul'dnt that cause a great deal of pain in your life?
First People would immediately believe you didn't care..for the person...

The fact that we choose the pain of grieving..rather than changing our emotions,until we're satisfied..that our standard of rules and cultural standards..about what's appropriate have been met..

In Fact there are ..cultures where people celebrate and laugh when someone dies !!!!!

I DONT SAY GRIEVING IS BAD OR WRONG...I JUST WANT TO MAKE IT CLEAR I'TS ..I'TS OUR BELIEFS..THAT THE EMOTIONAL PAIN..TAKES LONG TO RECOVER...EVEN A LIFE TIME

Thanks
Gino
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  • Profile picture of the author xInd
    Feelings are always your own decision subconsciously.
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  • Profile picture of the author PeterDunin
    I don't think you ever get over the LOSS of a loved one,you just learn to live with it.
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  • Profile picture of the author tacoverhoef
    According to psychiatric it would take about one year, and than still about 6 months after that it is acceptable. It has to do with the chemicals of our brain.
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  • Profile picture of the author ryanbiddulph
    It's a function of your attachment to the person.

    If a relative dies yet you weren't that close to them, you would mourn their passing for a period of time, then proceed with your life because you weren't that attached to them. Same deal with anybody you aren't too attached too. You note it, think about it and move forward.

    If you are deeply attached to your spouse, parents, etc - and most of us are - the grieving process usually takes years, if it ever ends. It's a product of emotional attachment and few of us are enlightened enough to deal with our deep emotions in a time frame less than years, if ever.

    Enlightened beings like Christ broke up funerals because they lost all attachment to form. When others grieved Christ couldn't understand because he knew those people were Going Home.

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    • Profile picture of the author mikrei75
      It does take time to get over someone that pass away, that you are very close to, like me losing my mother in 2006, when she pass away.. I had lost my focus in business that I did not do well, and because trying to get over it, is very hard to do, but I had to learn to get over it, and live my own life and take the actions to become successful. And having God in your life to help you through things, and it does feel good to think of the good things you had with your lost one that had pass away.

      D. Trump - "Never, Never, Never Give up, what his father always told him"
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    THAT THE EMOTIONAL PAIN..TAKES LONG TO RECOVER...EVEN A LIFE TIME
    ok..Never, Never, Never Give up,
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  • Profile picture of the author opiniones
    It depends on one's spiritual development.

    I find it very lacking in spiritual maturity for people to not be able to get past the loss of a loved one. In fact it is rather selfish.

    Selfish in the way that you wish for someone to have stayed rather than gone on to a higher plane of existence.

    There's nothing pretty about getting up in the morning to go to work to feed your family, nothing pretty about all the poor people that are dying while billionares are swimming in money, nothing pretty about the diseases, wars, violence and death all around us.

    In the past death was celebrated as the graduation from one level onto the next. Now i'm expected to cry for those that will be at peace not having to put up with all the garbage that is the system we live on.
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