I Just Want to Make Them Happy

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How many times have you heard that statement? Either from another person, or yourself?

This is a toughie for most. We want to change someone, change conditions when all change for an individual must come from within.

Are you in a "make someone happy" situation? How can you release on the urge to control?

RB
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  • Profile picture of the author King Shiloh
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    Life is a choice. If the person you want to change has not made a choice or decision to change, you will hit a brick wall.
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  • Profile picture of the author ComputerGirl
    I think that we cannot change anyone, no matter how much we would want to do that. So I am not saying that statement that I would like to change someone, because it is not possible, you have to take people as they are!

    But for myself I do say, that I would like to change things that are happening around me, I know that I want and hopefully also change something about it, but that does not include of changing others!
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  • Profile picture of the author AvD555
    I think we can not change we are like we are and we can change only for a day week not for always . But i agree we can change this and make them better
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  • Profile picture of the author rockstaradi
    I agree with Shiloh. You can't color a black blanket. The other person needs to think about change before you can actually change him.
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  • Profile picture of the author The Vizier
    For me it helps to realize that the greatest harm can come from the best of intentions. This halts me in my tracks and causes me to ponder if my help is really what is needed. Also as many of the others have commented, I have to see if the person I am trying to change wants to change in the first place. Unless the student is ready to learn, the teacher teaches in vain.
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  • Profile picture of the author Kenster
    Originally Posted by ryanbiddulph View Post

    How many times have you heard that statement? Either from another person, or yourself?

    This is a toughie for most. We want to change someone, change conditions when all change for an individual must come from within.

    Are you in a "make someone happy" situation? How can you release on the urge to control?

    RB


    If you can selflessly make yourself happy, it will rub off on those around you as well. That's all you can really do...have a positive aura and radiation and thats all you can aim for!
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  • Profile picture of the author ryanbiddulph
    Good feedback guys, I appreciate it

    When you can fully love and accept yourself, you won't be concerned with trying to make people happy. You will naturally attract like-minded, happy people who realize that happiness is always an inside job.

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  • Profile picture of the author Mike Murphy
    Yep, I agree with Kenster....be as happy as you can be and it will catch on. I know people that are VERY unhappy and always will be...all bad things in their life is someone elses fault.
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  • Profile picture of the author shahriyar
    It also depends on their own situation, environment etc. I find it hard to be happy when i m in a tough situation.
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  • Profile picture of the author fayehines
    Oh my, in the business I'm in everyone controls everything! Very few are into making others happy. It's sad really because most individuals are into their own bonuses and nothing else.
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  • Profile picture of the author dansevigny
    You can't "make" anyone happy. Happiness is a choice they have to make for themselves. I definitely get what you're getting at though... all you can do is try to realize that their emotions are their own and are not tied up with yours. Let them have their own experience and be there for them when they need you. You hit the nail on the head when you said "all change for an individual must come from within." -- Goes for both parties (ourselves and the unhappy or dissatisfied person) in those situations.
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    • Profile picture of the author papillon_blanc
      Hi
      When people say :"I Just Want to Make Them Happy" it means they actually want to make happy themselves first.
      They want to change other people or something around them because they are not happy with it.
      We can hear a lot when parents say to his grown up youngsters "You should be a Doctor" or "You should be a Solicitor", or "You should be a ..." "Everything i do for is just to make you happy" and so on.
      It s actually what will make parents happy. It's their dream that they want to become true.
      Or anybody gives an advise such as "Don't do that..it s not good for you" etc..
      I want everybody be happy but i can't change people and don't want to change. Everybody has own life and own choice.
      But i work on making happy myself on everything even something which can be very upsetting...
      Did anyone watch the movie "Pollyanna"? So many things to learn from this little girl...
      Let's be grateful
      Love to you all
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  • Profile picture of the author Gary Pettit
    Actually, my first thought while reading your post, ryan (excellent as always), was my brother, who (like many men) almost lost his marriage because he was working so hard and such long hours. His reasoning: "I'm doing this for my wife and kids." That obviously was not quite accurate, as they didn't want the things he was working so hard for. They wanted HIM. He learned, just in time, cut his hours in half, and has enjoyed a much happier family. (Incidentally, as yet another plug for Integrity, he now makes twice as much money as he did when he was working twice the hours.)
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  • Profile picture of the author Dwight Anthony
    Although the other person means well, it can also come off as offensive. You need to learn to live in the now with congruent lives and note what makes that person unique and how to embrace it would what i would say.
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