Starting the Day with a Choice

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One of the main differences that I've noticed between happy people and negative people is not in the number of bad circumstances they have but in the choices that they make. Circumstances do not define us; our attitudes define us. When a negative circumstance occurs, I can either feel badly about it, or I can figure out how to change it. It's a choice, and in some situations, it is the only true control we have.

Each morning, we have a choice -- Good day or bad day. It's not what's going to happen that day that will make it good or bad, but how we react to those circumstances. I am learning that this is not always easy to remember, but, boy, does it make a difference!

What choice did you make today?
#choice #day #optimism #starting
  • Profile picture of the author Kenster
    AWESOME POINT Kristie


    Happiness and and emotions ultimately come from the inside...not from external factors. They are a choice. Of course there are things like chemicals (foods, drugs, etc), circumstances, events, and other external factors that can influence our emotions, but the emotion is ultimately within our control (unless we have a disorder).

    Waking up with a smile and telling yourself in the mirror "todays going to be a good day" takes three seconds (I counted) and can help change our perspective of that day...and every day.

    I'm having a good day

    Are you?
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  • Profile picture of the author Ruth P
    Great post. I strongly agree with you, as I stopped choosing for things to be unhappy a few years ago and became so much happier as a result. I'm not perfect, but I know it works.

    Today is definitely going to be a good day
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    • Profile picture of the author Kenster
      Originally Posted by Ruth P View Post

      Great post. I strongly agree with you, as I stopped choosing for things to be unhappy a few years ago and became so much happier as a result. I'm not perfect, but I know it works.

      Today is definitely going to be a good day

      Very cool Ruth.

      The interesting thing is how many choices we actually make in a day. Does anybody else ever think about that or is it just me? We make hundreds, thousands, perhaps more individual choices each and every day. Those choices directly affect how we feel, how we look, what we do, where we go, when we go.

      Each of those choices is within our control so we essentially have soo much control over how we feel. The choices we consciously and subconsciously make directly determine how happy we are that moment, that hour, that day.

      Crazy to think about.

      Or maybe I'm just crazy for thinking about it :confused:
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      • Profile picture of the author Ruth P
        Originally Posted by Kenster View Post

        Very cool Ruth.

        The interesting thing is how many choices we actually make in a day. Does anybody else ever think about that or is it just me? We make hundreds, thousands, perhaps more individual choices each and every day. Those choices directly affect how we feel, how we look, what we do, where we go, when we go.

        Each of those choices is within our control so we essentially have soo much control over how we feel. The choices we consciously and subconsciously make directly determine how happy we are that moment, that hour, that day.

        Crazy to think about.

        Or maybe I'm just crazy for thinking about it :confused:
        You're not crazy for thinking about it - but I think a lot of people don't even think about it. They don't realise the power of choice. And like I said, I am not perfect either and still make "bad" choices. Sometimes I even knowingly choose to be miserable! We are only human But at least realising that we've got the choice is a big part of it.
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        • Profile picture of the author jaydeee
          perfectly agree with it!
          a book said that we have sometime to think how we will react to different circumstances and that will determine the the result of the circumstances to us.
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      • Profile picture of the author KristieDean
        I agree with you. We have a lot of control over our choices and we do have so many choices each day.


        Originally Posted by Kenster View Post

        Very cool Ruth.

        The interesting thing is how many choices we actually make in a day. Does anybody else ever think about that or is it just me? We make hundreds, thousands, perhaps more individual choices each and every day. Those choices directly affect how we feel, how we look, what we do, where we go, when we go.

        Each of those choices is within our control so we essentially have soo much control over how we feel. The choices we consciously and subconsciously make directly determine how happy we are that moment, that hour, that day.

        Crazy to think about.

        Or maybe I'm just crazy for thinking about it :confused:
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  • Profile picture of the author magnates
    @kenster ... sometimes because we have repeated so many times we are not even thinking when we make the choices

    And somebody these choices might be really harmful to the person you want to be

    we take control by watching what we do ... taking a time log for a week and asking looking at the consequences of continuing in the action for the next 10 years

    If the consequences are not great , will not get you to where you want to go then it is important that you change your choices
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  • Profile picture of the author David Ford
    Hi Kristie
    It is surprising what happens when you wake up and even before you get out of bed, you say to yourself, "Today is the best day of my life so far", never say "going to be" or "will be" because that is not in the present. Any affirmation has to be in the present to be effective, and you know what, it will be the best day of your life....
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    • Profile picture of the author ldbjr
      Awesome post. Here is my problem. I often choose to have a great day and guess what happens? Someone trys to ruin it by talking about how bad their day is. So, I have tried to steer clear of the negative people I work around as best as I can. Sometimes it's just hard work having a great day!
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      • Profile picture of the author KristieDean
        Originally Posted by ldbjr View Post

        Awesome post. Here is my problem. I often choose to have a great day and guess what happens? Someone trys to ruin it by talking about how bad their day is. So, I have tried to steer clear of the negative people I work around as best as I can. Sometimes it's just hard work having a great day!
        True. Not all people look at things in quite the same way. And there are some people we just can't avoid, but like you, we must work around it! Our happiness is a decision we make.
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      • Profile picture of the author Ryan Dodson
        Originally Posted by ldbjr View Post

        Awesome post. Here is my problem. I often choose to have a great day and guess what happens? Someone trys to ruin it by talking about how bad their day is. So, I have tried to steer clear of the negative people I work around as best as I can. Sometimes it's just hard work having a great day!
        Now turn that into a positive affirmation by saying something like, "today is easily the best day of my life and the people around me make it even better". See if that changes anything
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        • Profile picture of the author doingwrite
          Ryan - you made your day greater than it could have been if you hadn't been motivated to make it so. You are right, we all get negative stuff thrown at us all the time. But we can choose to duck or to just go around the roadblocks. It's not a matter of looking at how the roadblocks were there, but rather congratulations that you got around/or ducked!

          I learned this when in a group where a woman was frantically bemoaning her childhood and a sexual overture from a relative that she fought off when she was 14. The facilitator helped her look at it differently by congratulating her over and over again for having the courage as a young teen to successfully fight the predator off. It made a huge difference for her, and for those of us listening. It's about making the choice to see things differently.
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    • Profile picture of the author KristieDean
      Originally Posted by David Ford View Post

      Hi Kristie
      It is surprising what happens when you wake up and even before you get out of bed, you say to yourself, "Today is the best day of my life so far", never say "going to be" or "will be" because that is not in the present. Any affirmation has to be in the present to be effective, and you know what, it will be the best day of your life....
      David, I agree. Present tense focuses our brain and makes our subconscious realize we mean business! Thanks for your addition.
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  • Profile picture of the author Scott Skinner
    Great post Kristie. Our power to choose is one of the few things in this life we can truly control. We should all choose wisely, moment by moment
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  • Profile picture of the author AnneE
    I chose Good Day. They are MUCH more fun!
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  • Profile picture of the author PeterDunin
    I choose Great day!
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  • Profile picture of the author jointaldc
    Yes, you're right, we allow things and people to affect us. Yes it's hard for us not to let it happen, but that skill is acquired over a lifetime. I don't let people or things bother me, but there are certain days where I forget what I'm supposed to do when things or people get to me. And I allow my emotions to get the better of me, and I realize after my emotional tirade... this was all a choice. And I chose the easy way out, to be affected, instead of fight the natural reaction.
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  • Profile picture of the author jesus72knight
    What did I chose? I chose to live. And everything is history.
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  • Profile picture of the author believemarketing
    yeap good one... Joel Osteen speaks on this alot

    "This is the day that The Lord has made, I will rejoice and be glad in it"..... its a decision...
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  • Profile picture of the author ColdFire123
    Originally Posted by KristieDean View Post

    One of the main differences that I've noticed between happy people and negative people is not in the number of bad circumstances they have but in the choices that they make. Circumstances do not define us; our attitudes define us. When a negative circumstance occurs, I can either feel badly about it, or I can figure out how to change it. It's a choice, and in some situations, it is the only true control we have.

    Each morning, we have a choice -- Good day or bad day. It's not what's going to happen that day that will make it good or bad, but how we react to those circumstances. I am learning that this is not always easy to remember, but, boy, does it make a difference!

    What choice did you make today?

    Wow great post. Thanks for sharing
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  • Profile picture of the author focused
    But it is difficult to make a positive decision is one is suffering from depression,
    or has received news of a family loss or of cancer, etc.
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    • Profile picture of the author ladywriter
      Originally Posted by beep beep View Post

      But it is difficult to make a positive decision is one is suffering from depression,
      or has received news of a family loss or of cancer, etc.
      Exactly what I was going to say. I am dealing with a health issue that makes itself known every morning, in fact it's usually what wakes me up.

      It's still a choice to not let it bother me, and there are millions who make the choice to be happy with much less and much more pain than I have. Still, I gotta admit I'm a little jealous of some others (which I'm trying to release). It's easy to choose a good day when everything is going well for you. Have to start affirming that everything is going well for me, lol.
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  • Profile picture of the author mattbarnham
    Optimism is usually a skill of emotional intelligence, which translates to a more rewarding career and greater success in life. Every day life is short to become miserable, so start turning your thinking around! Positive thoughts, a good outlook, and overall happiness can advance your prospects for work, relationships and other life experiences.
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  • Profile picture of the author jlandells
    I heard a quote recently (not sure who it's from originally) that put a whole new perspective on this:

    "Pain is inevitable; suffering is optional"

    -John.
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  • Profile picture of the author JimRohades
    yes i like it..that when you think positively then positive things will happen to you...and positive results as well...its really your choice if you want to be negative about everything then you are attracting negative vibes for sure you'd get negative results
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  • Profile picture of the author Gilearn
    that is quite true...i have intention chose how i want my day to be and has worked like magic for me.
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  • Profile picture of the author ericelkins
    Very true. It is always a matter of choice.
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    • Profile picture of the author Matt Briggs
      I always will choose great day as well..Awesome post!
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  • Profile picture of the author Porter
    Sometimes it's not about an entire day. If the best you can convince yourself to do is a moment then take it. Start connecting all those little momets you allowed yourself to be OK and a funny things happens. You soon have entire days within your grasp.
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  • Profile picture of the author Affiguy
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    and yes! there is no DAY BACK option.

    So choose wisely how to feel about smth.
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  • Profile picture of the author KAYEKINNEY
    This is a great thread because I woke up this morning.. posted a link to my favorite Cheap Trick song and then a cover of it and just decided that today will end with me saying "wow... I got a lot done!"
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  • Profile picture of the author LErinator
    I completely agree with this, it is all about the choices you make and often times the problem people have is they never think even a step ahead of that choice. Most people wake up happy or sad based on previous choices...which does not factor into the thinking ahead, they just react and either are happy or sad. If you actually take a little time and think through each of your choices, then you have a better comfort zone with your feelings, and ultimately will be happy because you accept it.
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    • Profile picture of the author abond
      Excellent point.
      Negative people just tend to be lazy and have poor self image. Even worse, they vent their lack of success of loved ones. Perhaps they hung around negative people too long themselves?

      So as a side note, beware of what you associate with.
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  • Profile picture of the author bank1010
    great observation ... and very true
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  • Profile picture of the author stopper
    Today I have a bad beginning but as the day went on, I decided that the day will be positive so far so good.
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  • Profile picture of the author Joshua526
    I choose to wake up early today. So that I can finish my tasks earlier and with minimal distractions, and for the rest of the day, I will spend with my loved ones.
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  • Profile picture of the author thanhlan
    yeah it makes a huge difference! people really don't understand how much power they have in their own life!
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    • Profile picture of the author ENJ Media
      Good thread! This reminds me of the saying "Start the day on the right foot". Its really all about how we view things, do we consider the new day a blessing or just a big blah. The answer can be the starting guide for the rest of our day.
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  • Profile picture of the author richsox
    Thank you for a bit of inspiration on a morning in which I am feeling a little down.
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  • Profile picture of the author Nereah
    I am having fun, am working hard and learning to work smarter! It is a choice I have made and am enjoying the journey. Thanks
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  • Profile picture of the author doingwrite
    Great thread. It's all about personal responsibility too. Every choice we make is our responsibility. Sometimes we need help (i.e. medication or authorities) but as a general rule every moment is a choice. It's especially true when it comes to our attitude. We can choose to change at any time. Many times I get overwhelmed when I am trying to absorb all of this IM stuff, and I can get to the point where I think I can't do it, but I make the choice to shift outta there.

    I am in my 60's, starting a new venture. I got my doctorate in my 50's. I am of the opinion it is not only never too late, but always a good choice to jump into new ventures!
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  • Profile picture of the author Zanen22
    I love the fact that this thread came to the top today.

    I'm a huge believer in making the choice to have a great day. Too many friends hate their jobs, struggle with decisions they make, consistently sit in a slump.

    It's a good day! I'm breathing, able to talk to friends and family, the sun is out, and I'm sitting here typing, because I choose to and it's what I like to do.
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  • Profile picture of the author rossmore
    Starting the day with a positive choice is a great way to kickstart your creativity
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    • Profile picture of the author Moneyperk
      Good insightful post.

      I agree that we all face some sort of bad circumstance through out the day and our lives. There is no way to avoid bad circumstances and the negative people are the ones that just make it worse.

      If you have a positive attitude for anything you do, you can achieve, conquer, and over-come any challenges you might face.

      I enjoyed reading your post.
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  • Profile picture of the author emasaa
    This is a great thread.
    Every day I choose to be successful in what I'm doing no matter how challenging. A winning attitude is my first choice of the day!
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