Money Struggle?

Are you sure it is the money and not what it stands for?

Breaking free of the "money=happiness" frame of thought can be extremely difficult. Especially living in the United States. If there was ever a more misrepresented notion that is reproduced in virtually every part of modern day society, it is money=happiness. I think the way you describe your situation is probably very similar to most people. As amo992 stated, money means a lot of things to different people. First and foremost it means security and not having to worry about engaging in basic survival needs such as finding a warm place to stay and having enough food. Beyond that, money means success to most people. Explaining to someone that you are poor but have been incredibly successful would probably make their eyebrow raise. These are all norms that have been ingrained into us. Take a step back and appreciate life for all of the free things and how you would find happiness if you were broke. Appreciate the warm sun on your back, the unconditional love from your pet, being in good health or whatever you are blessed with. If you are able to appreciate the finer points of life, the ups and downs of your finances will not have such control over you.

One thing that may help is to try and detach your emotions with materialistics things. You want personal influences to determine emotional state, not materialistic influences.

Money is nothing. Its threads and metal. What you really need to focus on is your emotional intelligence. Understanding where your emotions are coming from, how to control them as best as possible, how to re-associate different emotions with different things, etc


It can be done with some training. Best of luck!

Awesome guys thanks. Money for me is success, and freedom. If I could have freedom without money I would do it in a heart beat. But I can't fly to Spain with zero dollars. So it's more about freedom for me. I feel limited when there's no money around. But yea i'm working on detaching this dumb problem.

I'm obliged to a British entrepreneur, (who is a millionaire as it happens), for this way of looking at money and your emotional attachment to it:

He asks a simple question. If I offered you a million pounds - or dollars, I don't care - right now, would you take it?

Of course you would! There is only one condition, and if you accept the condition, he says he will give you another million every year for as long as you accept this, okay?

The condition is that you must live completely alone on a desert island. You will have all the food and shelter you need, but there will be no means of making contact with anyone else and incidentally, nothing to buy!

The point is, it isn't money you want. It's the resulting lifestyle - and perhaps power - that it brings, but it is useless if you have no way or intention of contributing with it - even if that's just your spending power, (which keeps people in jobs!).

Money doesn't make you happy. Being free to give of yourself is what does that, and when you have plenty in the bank you are so much freer to do just that.

I believe that's where the confusion lies.

Hope that helps!

Yes it helps much. I just got back from the Big Seminar in Las Vegas really pumped. Thanks guys. Some things really snapped today good stuff.

Money is nothing. Its threads and metal. but i need money to buy something