The New Formula For Success

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I wrote a post a couple of days ago about the old ineffective formula. Now, anyone can sit on their couch and regurgitate the old success formula. Anyone can tell you "be motivated," and "stay resilient," but the truth really is, if we don't know how to do that, those things are useless!

I've studied neuroscience for quite some time, to understand how our brains work. Because they shape our lives, knowing about them and how powerful they are is a pretty cool thing! Anyway, I started looking at how people's minds get conditioned and I realized that the new formula for success, is basically the ability to condition your own mind.

Training your mind daily, gets you to LEARN motivation. Installing new beliefs intentionally gets your to automatically move to action. Knowing that successful people have developed a great ability to withstand massive amounts of discomfort, and then deliberately placing that ability into the operation of your mind, is part of the new formula for success. Knowing that things like meditation help strengthen the parts of your brain that deal with emotion regulation is another factor (from my model of the world) in the new formula for success.

Lastly, the ability to manage your own state. State is everything to me! If I don't feel good, guess what? Low Performance! If my brain isn't firing off, good luck Ryan! I need to be in Peak States to massively and consistently engage. Repeating phrases is a great way to get into peak states. Giving a speech, to yourself, about something you're passionate about or adept in (for you guys, internet marketing, and I'm sure thousands of other things), in your place, is a great way to get into a peak state. Making yourself feel competent in any way is another awesome way to deliberately alter your state.

I believe that all of these things, and a couple other key distinctions combine to form the new formula for success. The old paradigm is over! We're evolving! Add to this.
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  • Profile picture of the author pethanks
    My formula for success is hardwork plus dependence on God = Success.
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    • Profile picture of the author rcritchett
      Originally Posted by pethanks View Post

      My formula for success is hardwork plus dependence on God = Success.
      Great! If it works for you, it's golden!
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  • Profile picture of the author donhx
    Originally Posted by rcritchett View Post

    I realized that the new formula for success, is basically the ability to condition your own mind....

    Training your mind daily, gets you to LEARN motivation....

    Lastly, the ability to manage your own state...
    I hear you and don't disagree with your concerns. However, each of the key ideas you present is the old formula for success...which is a person learning to control their will and channeling it in positive ways.

    The will seeks to wander. Sometimes it leads people to do things they regret. People cannot handle their own will, so they seek to do God's will.

    I think minds are constantly in the process of being conditioned in many ways and any concerted effort to condition it is a pebble in a pool.

    I would question wherher people can learn motivation. Of all things humans, that is the hardest one to manufacture. It's easier to fake sincerity.

    You can manage your own state to some degree, but it is hard to do for any length of time. The human mind seems to settle to its own level.

    I'm not sure humans can harness their own minds, at least for very long. It's a very interesting field of endeavor, but if it were possible on any consistent level, we would have all been better than we are by now.
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    • Profile picture of the author rcritchett
      Originally Posted by donhx View Post

      I hear you and don't disagree with your concerns. However, each of the key ideas you present is the old formula for success...which is a person learning to control their will and channeling it in positive ways.

      The will seeks to wander. Sometimes it leads people to do things they regret. People cannot handle their own will, so they seek to do God's will.

      I think minds are constantly in the process of being conditioned in many ways and any concerted effort to condition it is a pebble in a pool.

      I would question wherher people can learn motivation. Of all things humans, that is the hardest one to manufacture. It's easier to fake sincerity.

      You can manage your own state to some degree, but it is hard to do for any length of time. The human mind seems to settle to its own level.

      I'm not sure humans can harness their own minds, at least for very long. It's a very interesting field of endeavor, but if it were possible on any consistent level, we would have all been better than we are by now.
      Great comment! Maybe you would question people learning motivation, because you've not really learned motivation. Maybe you have but don't understand the neural basis of it. Managing your state is something that you can literally train your neurology to do, to a better degree than what it appears you're implying. The truth really is, the old paradigm still lives in many people, obviously. I appreciate the way you feel about this!

      It is possible on a consistent level, and the exact reason it hasn't been practiced collectively is because we just hit the tip of the iceberg as to what's possible for the brain. Read up on cortical remapping and brain plasticity. Give yourself 6 months to completely re-train yourself, and then create an opinion. This is my study. Controlling how you feel is not some inherent gene. Remember to differentiate between your model of the world, and what's really happening out there. Thanks for commenting! Great reply.
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      • Profile picture of the author donhx
        Originally Posted by rcritchett View Post

        Great comment! Maybe you would question people learning motivation, because you've not really learned motivation. Maybe you have but don't understand the neural basis of it. Managing your state is something that you can literally train your neurology to do, to a better degree than what it appears you're implying. The truth really is, the old paradigm still lives in many people, obviously. I appreciate the way you feel about this!

        It is possible on a consistent level, and the exact reason it hasn't been practiced collectively is because we just hit the tip of the iceberg as to what's possible for the brain. Read up on cortical remapping and brain plasticity. Give yourself 6 months to completely re-train yourself, and then create an opinion. This is my study. Controlling how you feel is not some inherent gene. Remember to differentiate between your model of the world, and what's really happening out there. Thanks for commenting! Great reply.

        This is an interesting topic. You sound like you're into NLP.

        I totally agree about our knowledge and understanding being the "tip of the iceberg as to what's possible for the brain." But I am coming at this from a somewhat different angle. I wrote a book for a client on autism and learned a great deal about cognitive functions (outside the NLP paradigm).

        If your model (as I understand it) worked, there would be no autistic children... they could free themselves by "right" thinking. Of course, I am oversimplifying, but I am saying this because I think all people have cognitive dysfunction. The unmotivated person would be at one end of the scale, the autistic person at the far end. Cognitive distortion affects us all on some level.

        Have you read up on "Executive Function?" There is much to be learned in that field, especial from Miller & Cohen. These are scientists, not motivational people. I think so much of the NLP is a kind of "super-wishing" and is not rooted in trying to heal the human mind as is the work of so many others. The super-wishing idea is seen in your comment: "Give yourself 6 months to completely re-train yourself..." That implies someone has the will to give themselves 6 months. Most don't and of those who do, results will not be as they hoped.

        I'm not shooting your ideas out of the water, just thinking about them with you from another perspective. I'd say that any program that requires will is likely to fail, considering the weak wills of most of humanity. If you have a strong will by nature, you don't need the program.
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        • Profile picture of the author sethczerepak
          The idea that it takes more motivation to succeed is comical to me...most of us are so bloody motivated we don't have time to breath. Who needs more motivation? What people need is to have their life properly aligned with who they really are...which starts with self-awareness.

          In my ten plus years of coaching, I've found that people's knowledge of themselves is SO limited...and mainly because we assume we already understand ourselves because we've been around ourselves so long.

          Starting with self-awareness and alignment, you can make room in your life for the things which really matter, then work on finding your unique contribution and sense of purpose...only then does it make sense to develop perseverance.

          This is the process of growth, and it's the key to success in anything...that's why I always tell clients: "You have to grow for the life you want, not the life you already have."

          I could go on, but I've already written a lot about it...if you're interested, sign up for my free mini-course here....

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          • Profile picture of the author rcritchett
            Originally Posted by sethczerepak View Post

            The idea that it takes more motivation to succeed is comical to me...most of us are so bloody motivated we don't have time to breath. Who needs more motivation? What people need is to have their life properly aligned with who they really are...which starts with self-awareness.

            In my ten plus years of coaching, I've found that people's knowledge of themselves is SO limited...and mainly because we assume we already understand ourselves because we've been around ourselves so long.

            Starting with self-awareness and alignment, you can make room in your life for the things which really matter, then work on finding your unique contribution and sense of purpose...only then does it make sense to develop perseverance.

            This is the process of growth, and it's the key to success in anything...that's why I always tell clients: "You have to grow for the life you want, not the life you already have."

            I could go on, but I've already written a lot about it...if you're interested, sign up for my free mini-course here....

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            You're absolutely right! I couldn't have said it better myself. That's my main mission. To get people to learn themselves, so that they can actually learn how to drive themselves to action, be brain conscious and understand internal language patterns. Great comment!
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          • Profile picture of the author ObsidianKnight
            Originally Posted by sethczerepak View Post

            The idea that it takes more motivation to succeed is comical to me...most of us are so bloody motivated we don't have time to breath. Who needs more motivation? What people need is to have their life properly aligned with who they really are...which starts with self-awareness.

            In my ten plus years of coaching, I've found that people's knowledge of themselves is SO limited...and mainly because we assume we already understand ourselves because we've been around ourselves so long.

            Starting with self-awareness and alignment, you can make room in your life for the things which really matter, then work on finding your unique contribution and sense of purpose...only then does it make sense to develop perseverance.

            This is the process of growth, and it's the key to success in anything...that's why I always tell clients: "You have to grow for the life you want, not the life you already have."

            I could go on, but I've already written a lot about it...if you're interested, sign up for my free mini-course here....

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            Seth,

            While I agree that people may have "more motivation then they know what to do with", I think there is an aspect of "not having the right motivations".

            Not all people handle all motivations factors the same way. Someone who is overly money concious may be highly motivated by a possible foreclosure to work themselve to the bone to avoid it. While a person who has been through a foreclosure and "survived" the ordeal will not likely be as motivated when facing the same problem again.

            Like I mentioned earlier with exercise, we all have "motivational triggers" that can cause us to act upon them, but without the right trigger, they are "false motivators".

            I do agree that one must grow into their life. More over, this growth requires change. As someone else mentioned, people like their comfort zones and are quite resistent to change. Even when that change is for the better.
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    • Profile picture of the author ObsidianKnight
      Originally Posted by donhx View Post

      I hear you and don't disagree with your concerns. However, each of the key ideas you present is the old formula for success...which is a person learning to control their will and channeling it in positive ways.

      The will seeks to wander. Sometimes it leads people to do things they regret. People cannot handle their own will, so they seek to do God's will.

      I think minds are constantly in the process of being conditioned in many ways and any concerted effort to condition it is a pebble in a pool.
      Donhx,

      I agree with one aspect of this, in that minds are constantly being conditioned. Think of training the brain as the same as training the body.

      People know that exercise can improve their health, increase their lifespan, give them more energy and a host of other benefits. However, as obesity studies will show, people do not actively pursue a healthy lifestyle.



      I would question wherher people can learn motivation. Of all things humans, that is the hardest one to manufacture. It's easier to fake sincerity.
      Anything can be "learned", including motivation. For instance, why do people entering a new relationship often do more "nice" things for the prospective mate then those people who have been married for years. The motivations are different.

      Motivation comes in many forms. I might be motivated to sell stuff to earn money for a new home, a new car, or just to avoid bankruptcy.

      I disagree that of all things "human" that motivation is the hardest to learn. Motivation itself is easy to learn, in that anyone can "see why they should do something". While the harder part to learn is the process by which to follow through with it.



      You can manage your own state to some degree, but it is hard to do for any length of time. The human mind seems to settle to its own level.
      No one said managing your state of mind was easy to do. However, like most things, it all starts with a choice. If you make a concious choice on your state of mind, and then apply that state of mind, then there is little reason not to be able to maintain it.

      IF something bad happens, you can choose to let it bother you or not. You make up your own mind on how things must affect you.


      I'm not sure humans can harness their own minds, at least for very long. It's a very interesting field of endeavor, but if it were possible on any consistent level, we would have all been better than we are by now.
      Please see the point I made about exercise. No matter what the endeavor is, people are lazy. A body at rest, blah blah you know the rest.

      Alaska has tons of unmined gold still in the ground. How come everyone does not go out and mine it? Because it is hard work.

      People want to make money on the internet and yet not everyone does: hard work.

      People want to quit smoking: hard to do.

      The truth is that people will often put more effort into "avoiding hard work" then the amount of effort needed to "do the hard work".

      Perhaps you are not capable of harnessing your own mind. However, other humans, many of more notable reference, such as Einstien, Aristotle, Bell, Hawkins, and probably hundreds more would likely disagree with your assessment regarding "harnessing the mind".

      Perhaps we may never use 100% of our brains, at least within our lietimes. But I doubt that anytime soon "humans" still stop trying to excel, grow and reach new heights of technology and understanding.
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  • Profile picture of the author Vincenzo Oliva
    Complacency is a big problem. People settle for less than their dreams and one time goals.
    People have a natural aversion to change. Change is often painful thus people avoid change.
    Robbins is big on positive affirmations and they do work wonders if done consistently.
    You're absolutely correct when you say people need to reprogram their brains for success. You need to identify old, failed, negative patterns and replace them with new, positive, action inducing patterns.
    Positive states can be created by anchoring great thoughts and feelings to induce a positive state and setting a trigger word to activate the state.
    But the desire for change is the biggest hurdle to begin.

    If I were coaching someone I would begin by slowly introducing acceptable facts then introduce a new world of possibilities by using contrast between how things are and how they could be.
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  • Profile picture of the author DIGITALCHAMELEON
    My formula is passion + planning + action and believe in yourself and in God as well. But anyway I was amazed with your share, inspirational indeed.
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  • According to me formula for success is Honesty, Sincerity with work and true believe on God. Success touch your feet if follow this formula.
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  • Profile picture of the author scortillion
    As I read the comments I believe we all believe we can control our outcome but I believe the point is to create focus.

    Donhx, what you mention about autism is a physical brain disability, what Ryan it talking about is for normal physical brains.

    We as a people settle for the easy state, but what is the easy state? It differs for each and every one of us. If I lift weights moving around 20 pound boxes all day would be easy, but for someone that is not in shape it would be hard.

    What I find relaxing is a great workout, others may not. What is normal for one person is so because of the way they conditioned their brain.

    Everyone can change if they WANT to, you just need to find the leverage you need to make it happen.
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    • Profile picture of the author rcritchett
      Originally Posted by scortillion View Post

      As I read the comments I believe we all believe we can control our outcome but I believe the point is to create focus.

      Donhx, what you mention about autism is a physical brain disability, what Ryan it talking about is for normal physical brains.

      We as a people settle for the easy state, but what is the easy state? It differs for each and every one of us. If I lift weights moving around 20 pound boxes all day would be easy, but for someone that is not in shape it would be hard.

      What I find relaxing is a great workout, others may not. What is normal for one person is so because of the way they conditioned their brain.

      Everyone can change if they WANT to, you just need to find the leverage you need to make it happen.
      Sharp! Great reply. Definitely on point.
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    • Profile picture of the author donhx
      Originally Posted by scortillion View Post


      Donhx, what you mention about autism is a physical brain disability, what Ryan it talking about is for normal physical brains.
      I think this comment says it all, and why my path might have greater leverage. There is no such thing as "normal physical brains." People are only "Neuro-typical" and that category is very wide ranging.

      You miss the mark when you call autism a "physical brain disability." Nothing could be further from the truth, and you're going to have the whole autism community banging at your door over that one! Autism is a cognitive dysfunction. It is developmental in nature. People who emerge to any degree from autism do so as a result of cognitive training, the same kind you and others are speaking about here. But, of course, it's not NLP.

      Here is a short but fair definition of autism: "A neurological disorder which affects how a person interacts with their world. Some sensory deficits involving sight, sound, taste, smell, and touch will be involved in varying amounts. Receptive language and difficulties with social interaction exist as well."

      These are the same issues Neuro-typical people face (say, your average businessman or IM person), except on a less extreme level. Of course, if a business person can't succeed things get pretty extreme for him or her.

      Earlier, rcritchett talked about "we just hit the tip of the iceberg as to what's possible for the brain" and he makes a good point. Best not to limit the science that has come out of the study of autism. It's touches us all. It can be used to help all people live more satisfying, productive lives.
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      • Profile picture of the author rcritchett
        Originally Posted by donhx View Post

        I think this comment says it all, and why my path might have greater leverage. There is no such thing as "normal physical brains." People are only "Neuro-typical" and that category is very wide ranging.

        You miss the mark when you call autism a "physical brain disability." Nothing could be further from the truth, and you're going to have the whole autism community banging at your door over that one! Autism is a cognitive dysfunction. It is developmental in nature. People who emerge to any degree from autism do so as a result of cognitive training, the same kind you and others are speaking about here. But, of course, it's not NLP.

        Here is a short but fair deinition of autism: "A neurological disorder which affects how a person interacts with their world. Some sensory deficits involving sight, sound, taste, smell, and touch will be involved in varying amounts. Receptive language and difficulties with social interaction exist as well."

        These are the same issues Neuro-typical people face (say, your average businessman or IM person), except on a less extreme level. Of course, if a business person can't succeed things get pretty extreme for him or her.

        Earlier, rcritchett talked about "we just hit the tip of the iceberg as to what's possible for the brain" and he makes a good point. Best not to limit the science that has come out of the study of autism. It's touches us all. It can be used to help all people live more satisfying, productive lives.
        Great reply Donhx!
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      • Profile picture of the author ObsidianKnight
        Originally Posted by donhx View Post

        I think this comment says it all, and why my path might have greater leverage. There is no such thing as "normal physical brains." People are only "Neuro-typical" and that category is very wide ranging.

        You miss the mark when you call autism a "physical brain disability." Nothing could be further from the truth, and you're going to have the whole autism community banging at your door over that one! Autism is a cognitive dysfunction. It is developmental in nature. People who emerge to any degree from autism do so as a result of cognitive training, the same kind you and others are speaking about here. But, of course, it's not NLP.

        Here is a short but fair deinition of autism: "A neurological disorder which affects how a person interacts with their world. Some sensory deficits involving sight, sound, taste, smell, and touch will be involved in varying amounts. Receptive language and difficulties with social interaction exist as well."

        These are the same issues Neuro-typical people face (say, your average businessman or IM person), except on a less extreme level. Of course, if a business person can't succeed things get pretty extreme for him or her.

        Earlier, rcritchett talked about "we just hit the tip of the iceberg as to what's possible for the brain" and he makes a good point. Best not to limit the science that has come out of the study of autism. It's touches us all. It can be used to help all people live more satisfying, productive lives.
        Donhx,

        Excellent and well said point on autism. This condition should not be minimulized in any way.
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      • Profile picture of the author scortillion
        Originally Posted by donhx View Post

        I think this comment says it all, and why my path might have greater leverage. There is no such thing as "normal physical brains." People are only "Neuro-typical" and that category is very wide ranging.

        You miss the mark when you call autism a "physical brain disability." Nothing could be further from the truth, and you're going to have the whole autism community banging at your door over that one! Autism is a cognitive dysfunction. It is developmental in nature. People who emerge to any degree from autism do so as a result of cognitive training, the same kind you and others are speaking about here. But, of course, it's not NLP.

        Here is a short but fair deinition of autism: "A neurological disorder which affects how a person interacts with their world. Some sensory deficits involving sight, sound, taste, smell, and touch will be involved in varying amounts. Receptive language and difficulties with social interaction exist as well."

        These are the same issues Neuro-typical people face (say, your average businessman or IM person), except on a less extreme level. Of course, if a business person can't succeed things get pretty extreme for him or her.

        Earlier, rcritchett talked about "we just hit the tip of the iceberg as to what's possible for the brain" and he makes a good point. Best not to limit the science that has come out of the study of autism. It's touches us all. It can be used to help all people live more satisfying, productive lives.
        By no means did I belittle people that suffer from autism and by “normal” I meant the majority of people. The people that suffer from autism do have a physical difference in their brains.

        From the Autism Society website itself:

        “There is no known single cause for autism, but it is generally accepted that it is caused by abnormalities in brain structure or function. Brain scans show differences in the shape and structure of the brain in children with autism versus neuro-typical children.”

        If that’s not physical then what is? I’m not putting people down that suffer from it nor saying they cannot be helped. If I offended you I did not mean to do so.
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        • Profile picture of the author donhx
          Originally Posted by scortillion View Post

          By no means did I belittle people that suffer from autism and by "normal" I meant the majority of people. The people that suffer from autism do have a physical difference in their brains.

          From the Autism Society website itself:

          "There is no known single cause for autism, but it is generally accepted that it is caused by abnormalities in brain structure or function. Brain scans show differences in the shape and structure of the brain in children with autism versus neuro-typical children."

          If that's not physical then what is? I'm not putting people down that suffer from it nor saying they cannot be helped. If I offended you I did not mean to do so.
          There is a lot dispute within a portion of the autism community about the cause of autism. Even the Autism Society holds a social and political view not embraced by a large number of autism families who embrace emerging science. For example, there are extremist who think it is caused by kids getting inoculations, but studies (and studies of studies) in many countries have proven that false. There are those who think autism is caused by a bad diet. There are even those who have their children undergo "chelation therapy" to remove heavy metals from their body, but this is considered unethical by many.

          You are right when you say the exact cause is unknown, so far. However, the only real documented improvements come though cognitive therapy. That's where the science is.
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          • Profile picture of the author scortillion
            Originally Posted by donhx View Post

            There is a lot dispute within a portion of the autism community about the cause of autism. Even the Autism Society holds a social and political view not embraced by a large number of autism families who embrace emerging science. For example, there are extremist who think it is caused by kids getting inoculations, but studies (and studies of studies) in many countries have proven that false. There are those who think autism is caused by a bad diet. There are even those who have their children undergo "chelation therapy" to remove heavy metals from their body, but this is considered unethical by many.

            You are right when you say the exact cause is unknown, so far. However, the only real documented improvements come though cognitive therapy. That's where the science is.
            Glad for your input on the subject. It's great to be able to discuss a topic with someone that is open to other opinions and then share their own.

            Have a very Merry Christmas!
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  • Profile picture of the author rcritchett
    Great Replies everyone! The point really is, as a species, we're changing. The old signs in conference rooms that said "persistence, motivation, bla bla.." don't work anymore. Paradigms have shifted. Now, to get ahead, you've got to know how to do all of those things in your head. You've got to be brain conscious, have the strategies to train your mind and know that your performance is in direct proportion to your own mental conditioning. This wasn't an invitation for an argument, or a chance to defend limitation, but more a great opportunity for us to share awesome knowledge about how we can collectively and individually expand massively in life! Thanks for all of your comments! Add to my list!
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    I should have added Daily Meditation to the new formula!
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