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Men Have Dreams That Women Will Never Understand...

by Alfonso_Montenegro
44 replies
While watching a Japanese animation about two high school students that decided to achieve their dreams and began to actively pursue it by working after school, I felt inspired and pumped up because they were really working hard to balance working on their dreams and going to school.

Their dream was to create a popular Japanese comics series and live off it. In Japan, the famous comics authors are really rich so they wanted to become one of those.

One of the protagonists told his mother about his decision to pursue his dream. But the mother told him that it's rubbish and it will never work out. The protagonist eventually convinced his mother to at least mention this to his father since he usually doesn't see him because of the father's work.

Then the next day, his mother went to his son's room and the following dialogue took place:


Mom: Moritaka, I already spoke with your father.

Son: Really...? What did he say??

Mom: He said, "Let him be... Men have dreams that women will never
understand."



When I heard that, I just thought how true it is for me. My mother disapproving of my dream while my father being cool with it.


How about you guys? What are your opinions about this?? Thanks in advance!
#dreams #men #understand #women
  • Profile picture of the author bertyounger
    Not true, since my wife has been the biggest backer of my dreams. Some people encourage dreaming while others like nothing better than to wake other people up!
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    • Profile picture of the author AngelaGreen
      I think dreaming is useful. We should all dream, and not be ashamed of our dreams!
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  • Profile picture of the author Lazy
    I think that some people just don't get it.

    It's more accurate to say that the naysayers just haven't experienced what you have.

    When people think of the interenet, they think of LOLcats and chain emails. It's hard to convince people that there really is a thriving money making marketplace on here.
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    • Profile picture of the author Alfonso_Montenegro
      Originally Posted by bertyounger View Post

      Not true, since my wife has been the biggest backer of my dreams. Some people encourage dreaming while others like nothing better than to wake other people up!
      Oh, yeah I get you. The girl who liked me said that she believes in my dream and that I will succeed. She just knows it she says.



      Originally Posted by Lazy View Post

      I think that some people just don't get it.

      It's more accurate to say that the naysayers just haven't experienced what you have.

      When people think of the interenet, they think of LOLcats and chain emails. It's hard to convince people that there really is a thriving money making marketplace on here.

      I know, Lazy! Haha. Too bad for them though. Any successful entrepreneur would recognize the almighty power of the internet when it come to generating revenue. On our part, we just have to believe in ourselves and in our dreams day by day, moment by moment and breath by breath.

      Aye, the life of a swashbuckler says I.



      P.S. Just checked the dictionary on the definition of swashbuckler and it defines it as "A reckless impetuous irresponsible person." But I don't agree with it. I define it as someone who is lives life with passion and adventure.
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  • Profile picture of the author axelbrian
    Hi ,
    Mine think every women not have same thinking about their goals .Mine mother does not discourage my goals .
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  • Profile picture of the author Michael Lee
    Hi Alfonso,

    I think each person's perception of goals or dreams are not dependent on their gender. It is based more on their belief, their upbringing, their environment, and their perception of the world and their own capabilities.

    When I was growing up, most people have the perception that I would not amount to anything significant (I guess it's partly my fault as I was extremely introverted back then). When I was doing IM, most people think I'm wasting my time.

    But that didn't stop me from pursuing my dreams because I know what I truly want in my life. I have read books and courses, and fortunately met successful people, who changed my way of thinking.
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  • Profile picture of the author WD Mino
    I don't think it is a male or female issue it is a perception issue.

    To someone who has never made a dollar online the idea of it being a goldmine is the same as a sunken treasure ship adventure. Until THEY actually produce revenue or at least try they won't get it and the dream you may have will appear as a pie in the sky thing
    People are funny now if you were to say you know my dream is to be a millionaire before I a x yrs of age I already make money and to show you I am not chasing a dream I will show YOU how to make money too.

    It really all depends on the person perceiving your dream to begin with but that is a pretty good way to shut em down
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  • Profile picture of the author cookingdiva
    I think it is unfair to stereo type gender in to this. I think men and women equally can believe in something or could be pessimist. This was just one example. I know many men and women in my life who believe in following dreams and other men and women like to stay secured. It is not gender based, it is how you were raised that may make a difference. My 2 cents.
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    • Profile picture of the author Duy Nguyen
      Cool post Alfonso

      Me personally, my family is the biggest supporter for me, especially my little brother (he is taller than me LOL) 'cause he has the same mindset of achieving big things in life.

      To mention a broader range, I think we can say that "let them be, people have dreams that others will never understand"

      The tellers' sex is not important, the problem is in their mindset...
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  • Profile picture of the author bertyounger
    I will now trot out this golden oldie quote from Thoreau for all of the dreamers out there:

    "If you have built castles in the air, your work need not be lost; that is where they should be. Now put the foundations under them."

    Henry David Thoreau
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  • Profile picture of the author jonathan8
    My mother not only discourage my dreams about IM, but she even send me to boarding school to stop doing IM related stuff. She want me to become a doc, I hated that. So I left my home with my laptop and few bucks. Now I earn enough to pay my bills and planning to do my first launch.
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    • Profile picture of the author ServingThroughEmail
      If I were a feminist, I would probably kill you for making a topic like this. =P

      Anyway, I live my life with passion and determination. Gender has absolutely nothing to do with it. It's ALL about the mindset.
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      • Profile picture of the author Lazy
        Originally Posted by ServingThroughEmail View Post

        If I were a feminist, I would probably kill you for making a topic like this. =P

        Anyway, I live my life with passion and determination. Gender has absolutely nothing to do with it. It's ALL about the mindset.
        lol, don't feminists preach equality for all? killin seems like the opposite!
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        • Profile picture of the author ServingThroughEmail
          Originally Posted by WarriorIcon View Post

          I think the chick in the post above me is closer to the truth.
          However, I agree that girls are crazy.
          True enough. I should know! =D

          Originally Posted by Ernie Lonardo View Post

          It would be nice to read topics without them being ruined by females crying sexist. You hardly ever see males do that.

          Life is full of stereotypes its just how things are. I'm sure the OP doesnt seriously think that ALL women don't encourage dreams but in a general sense, it's true. More men are dreamers and go after them while females typically are more grounded (sensible) and like the safer path.

          There's a funny old saying which the feminists would love LOL "women do have dreams, but they want men to pay for them".

          (OK OK I just made that up, but it's fun to get feminists heated because most of them are very sexist themselves)
          So, men never cry sexist, huh? And that's exactly NOT what you're doing to me right now, right? =P

          I've actually always gotten along better with guys than with girls. I don't REALLY think all of us are crazy anymore, though. At least, not most of us. =P

          Originally Posted by Lazy View Post

          lol, don't feminists preach equality for all? killin seems like the opposite!
          Oops, I guess I meant to say "femi-nazi". I would be pretty terrible at that. I'm all for equality, though.

          Back to the topic at hand, I still say that it's all about the mindset. Sure, the different genders are brought up slightly differently. But of course, women (in most countries) are taught how to read now, so we have just as much chance of getting some good information as anybody else. In the end, it's all about how far you're willing to go to pursue your passion, while still remaining true to yourself.
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          • Profile picture of the author Ernie Lo
            Originally Posted by ServingThroughEmail View Post


            So, men never cry sexist, huh? And that's exactly NOT what you're doing to me right now, right? =P
            LOL I said most men don't.

            and no I'm crying about women crying over men being sexist, not about women being sexist in general.

            Hmm bit of a tongue twister
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            • Profile picture of the author Alfonso_Montenegro
              Originally Posted by Ernie Lonardo View Post

              LOL I said most men don't.

              and no I'm crying about women crying over men being sexist, not about women being sexist in general.

              Hmm bit of a tongue twister

              Lol! A tongue twister on-the-fly, huh?
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      • Profile picture of the author Alfonso_Montenegro
        Originally Posted by ServingThroughEmail View Post

        If I were a feminist, I would probably kill you for making a topic like this. =P

        Anyway, I live my life with passion and determination. Gender has absolutely nothing to do with it. It's ALL about the mindset.

        HAHAHA!! I'm glad you didn't.
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    • Profile picture of the author Alfonso_Montenegro
      Originally Posted by Michael Lee View Post

      Hi Alfonso,

      I think each person's perception of goals or dreams are not dependent on their gender. It is based more on their belief, their upbringing, their environment, and their perception of the world and their own capabilities.

      When I was growing up, most people have the perception that I would not amount to anything significant (I guess it's partly my fault as I was extremely introverted back then). When I was doing IM, most people think I'm wasting my time.

      But that didn't stop me from pursuing my dreams because I know what I truly want in my life. I have read books and courses, and fortunately met successful people, who changed my way of thinking.
      Hello Sir Mike!

      Thanks for giving your opinion. I'm also glad I have a successful person like you for a friend. You're invaluable. Thanks for helping me in changing my
      way of thinking. God bless and more power!!




      Originally Posted by WD Mino View Post

      I don't think it is a male or female issue it is a perception issue.

      To someone who has never made a dollar online the idea of it being a goldmine is the same as a sunken treasure ship adventure. Until THEY actually produce revenue or at least try they won't get it and the dream you may have will appear as a pie in the sky thing
      People are funny now if you were to say you know my dream is to be a millionaire before I a x yrs of age I already make money and to show you I am not chasing a dream I will show YOU how to make money too.

      It really all depends on the person perceiving your dream to begin with but that is a pretty good way to shut em down
      cheers
      -Will
      Thanks, Will!

      Originally Posted by Duy Nguyen View Post

      Cool post Alfonso

      Me personally, my family is the biggest supporter for me, especially my little brother (he is taller than me LOL) 'cause he has the same mindset of achieving big things in life.

      To mention a broader range, I think we can say that "let them be, people have dreams that others will never understand"

      The tellers' sex is not important, the problem is in their mindset...
      Thanks for innovating the saying, Duy! It fits better into my mind now.

      Originally Posted by newnoob View Post

      I think it is unfair to stereo type gender in to this. I think men and women equally can believe in something or could be pessimist. This was just one example. I know many men and women in my life who believe in following dreams and other men and women like to stay secured. It is not gender based, it is how you were raised that may make a difference. My 2 cents.
      Yeah, I guess it's unfair. Thanks.

      Originally Posted by jonathan8 View Post

      My mother not only discourage my dreams about IM, but she even send me to boarding school to stop doing IM related stuff. She want me to become a doc, I hated that. So I left my home with my laptop and few bucks. Now I earn enough to pay my bills and planning to do my first launch.

      Wow, great one Jonathan! Your post encourages me!!!
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  • Profile picture of the author Scott Bandicoot
    I think the chick in the post above me is closer to the truth.
    However, I agree that girls are crazy.
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  • Profile picture of the author Ernie Lo
    It would be nice to read topics without them being ruined by females crying sexist. You hardly ever see males do that.

    Life is full of stereotypes its just how things are. I'm sure the OP doesnt seriously think that ALL women don't encourage dreams but in a general sense, it's true. More men are dreamers and go after them while females typically are more grounded (sensible) and like the safer path.

    There's a funny old saying which the feminists would love LOL "women do have dreams, but they want men to pay for them".

    (OK OK I just made that up, but it's fun to get feminists heated because most of them are very sexist themselves)
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    • Profile picture of the author Alfonso_Montenegro
      Originally Posted by Ernie Lonardo View Post

      It would be nice to read topics without them being ruined by females crying sexist. You hardly ever see males do that.

      Life is full of stereotypes its just how things are. I'm sure the OP doesnt seriously think that ALL women don't encourage dreams but in a general sense, it's true. More men are dreamers and go after them while females typically are more grounded (sensible) and like the safer path.

      There's a funny old saying which the feminists would love LOL "women do have dreams, but they want men to pay for them".

      (OK OK I just made that up, but it's fun to get feminists heated because most of them are very sexist themselves)

      Wow. Pretty bold post, Ernie! I love it. I don't really think that ALL women discourage dreams. It's just that when I watched that anime episode, it resonated with me because it was happening to me at that time.
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  • Profile picture of the author donhx
    Originally Posted by Alfonso_Montenegro View Post


    Mom: He said, "Let him be... Men have dreams that women will never
    understand."

    When I heard that, I just thought how true it is for me. My mother disapproving of my dream while my father being cool with it.


    How about you guys? What are your opinions about this?? Thanks in advance!

    I agree. Men not only have dreams that women will never understand, but thoughts, feelings, ideas, expectations and words.

    And vice versa.

    There's a great book about this, now a little old but still relevant. It's "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus" by John Gray.
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    • Profile picture of the author KatyaSenina
      Trust me, girls have dreams too!!! :p Most smart women don't go through life with no direction what so ever, that is ofcourse if they care about their life and themselves.
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    • Profile picture of the author Alfonso_Montenegro
      Originally Posted by donhx View Post

      I agree. Men not only have dreams that women will never understand, but thoughts, feelings, ideas, expectations and words.

      And vice versa.

      There's a great book about this, now a little old but still relevant. It's "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus" by John Gray.

      Yeah, I've heard that it's really a great book! Thanks, Don!
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  • Profile picture of the author InternetWriter
    You just have to remember most people don't think of the big picture. They are content with there lives the way it is and don't want change, so when you start thinking about big things, they disapprove because it's not the normal.

    This is where internet marketing comes into play haha, your sales pitch to convince them(show them photoshopped bank statements)
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    • Profile picture of the author Alfonso_Montenegro
      Originally Posted by InternetWriter View Post


      This is where internet marketing comes into play haha, your sales pitch to convince them(show them photoshopped bank statements)


      Hahaha! I recently read a blog post on how to do fake screenshots of absurd amounts. I think and feel it's fun but it's very unethical.
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  • Profile picture of the author pethanks
    Well, I agree with what you said. Many times also we cannot understand the women. They are very unique.
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    • Profile picture of the author Lazy
      Originally Posted by pethanks View Post

      Well, I agree with what you said. Many times also we cannot understand the women. They are very unique.
      I think a lot of the time we just have a hard time understanding anyone, regardless of gender.

      rational discourse is a must when convincing people that our line of work really does produce results.
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  • Profile picture of the author kwazi
    A lot of people are skeptical over the internet and technology as well. The best we can do is just teach'em and ease them through it.
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  • Profile picture of the author humili
    It is not the gender issue. '

    A lot of women around me have great inspiration about goals setting.

    It really has to do with personality!
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    • Profile picture of the author Alfonso_Montenegro
      Originally Posted by humili View Post

      It is not the gender issue. '

      A lot of women around me have great inspiration about goals setting.

      It really has to do with personality!

      Not to mention their experiences and upbringing.
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    I don't think it's a male/female thing. People are just different.
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  • Profile picture of the author success1618
    I have dreams that I don't even understand lol, I have read esoterically different topics in dreams have different meanings.

    Like a dream about flying, is connected to a desire to explore yourself or the world, a need to be set free.

    I don't know enough on the topic, but I know there are many people who study dreams very seriously and scientifically for understanding of oneself and others.
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    • Profile picture of the author Raiel Schwartz
      I loved what the internet has done for the world.

      It has opened up limitless amount of opportunities
      for entrepreneurs around the world.

      All you need is an idea, and $7.99 for a domain name,

      50 years ago, you couldn't start a business without
      having at least $20,000 as a starting investment.

      Now, with the internet, a 16 year old teen in the
      Philippines can begin earning an income from the
      internet by writing articles.

      I love it because it creates a path for people to
      actively create their incomes themselves.

      Sometimes the deepest truths, are the most valid.

      Quite simply: "if there is a will, there is a way".

      Truly,
      Craig Michaels
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      • Profile picture of the author Alfonso_Montenegro
        Originally Posted by Craig.Michaels View Post

        I loved what the internet has done for the world.

        It has opened up limitless amount of opportunities
        for entrepreneurs around the world.

        All you need is an idea, and $7.99 for a domain name,

        50 years ago, you couldn't start a business without
        having at least $20,000 as a starting investment.

        Now, with the internet, a 16 year old teen in the
        Philippines can begin earning an income from the
        internet by writing articles.

        I love it because it creates a path for people to
        actively create their incomes themselves.

        Sometimes the deepest truths, are the most valid.

        Quite simply: "if there is a will, there is a way".

        Truly,
        Craig Michaels

        I never thought of it that way, Craig. Thank you very much for sharing your perspective. It helped me a lot. You forgot $7.95/month for high-quality hosting.
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  • Profile picture of the author Aira Bongco
    Ironically, in my relationship, I am the one doing all the dreaming and my guy just wants to go along with whatever I want to do. So I don't think that sex has anything to do with it. As Ronald said, it is all about upbringing. I am raised as an achiever in a highly hectic city setting while my boyfriend is raised in a passive family that goes along with whatever life brings them. Just my 2 cents.
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    • Profile picture of the author Alfonso_Montenegro
      Originally Posted by airabongco View Post

      Ironically, in my relationship, I am the one doing all the dreaming and my guy just wants to go along with whatever I want to do. So I don't think that sex has anything to do with it. As Ronald said, it is all about upbringing. I am raised as an achiever in a highly hectic city setting while my boyfriend is raised in a passive family that goes along with whatever life brings them. Just my 2 cents.
      I think you've got a good boyfriend. He is supportive, right?
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  • Profile picture of the author Marcus Johnston
    Hmm in my situation it was completely the opposite. It was my mother who encouraged me to chase my dreams and it was my father who was worried and said I had to get a 'serious' job before I threw myself in to society. He wanted me to do things I never really wanted.

    At the same time my mother said: As long as you are happy, I am happy!
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    • Profile picture of the author Alfonso_Montenegro
      Originally Posted by Marcus Johnston View Post

      Hmm in my situation it was completely the opposite. It was my mother who encouraged me to chase my dreams and it was my father who was worried and said I had to get a 'serious' job before I threw myself in to society. He wanted me to do things I never really wanted.

      At the same time my mother said: As long as you are happy, I am happy!
      Very touching, Marcus. I was touched! Thank you very much for your input, man!
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    It would be unfair to make such a bold statement. After all, not men and women are alike.
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  • Profile picture of the author Jeremy Barker
    I say AMEN to that!

    I have dreams that my wife does not and never will understand. Frankly, she thinks I am on a losing battle but I KNOW that I am fighting hard and persistence will win this battle and even the war for me.

    To all of the men out there with dreams and little or no support I have one thing to say to you:

    KEEP FIGHTING!
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    • Profile picture of the author Alfonso_Montenegro
      Originally Posted by Jeremy Barker View Post

      I say AMEN to that!

      I have dreams that my wife does not and never will understand. Frankly, she thinks I am on a losing battle but I KNOW that I am fighting hard and persistence will win this battle and even the war for me.

      To all of the men out there with dreams and little or no support I have one thing to say to you:

      KEEP FIGHTING!
      Thank you for sharing your current experience, Jeremy. Good luck with creating 100 millionaires! I know that you will succeed!!!
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  • Profile picture of the author rammonster
    Well my girlfriend totally supports me and even helps me get some work done(free outsourcing ) While my other guy friend's used to make fun of me until one day i showed them my paypal. (Wasnt easy getting there but it was totally worth all the countless hour's doing useless seo work and never realizing what i had been missing and then finally getting it right ) It's different people with different opinion's, not a gender thing for sure... At the end of the day, it's upto you to decide your direction in life...And don't let other people let you down, i mean they have their opinion and you have yours, They wont listen to yours and you wont listen to theirs...End of the story!
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  • Profile picture of the author Brian Kerr
    While I hate to agree with gender boxes, gender definitely creates a divide. I personally need time to myself, and time away from others, which my gf cannot understand and feels uncomfortable whenever I want time away.
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