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This is something that i'm trying to get better at, and something no doubt that we can all benefit from.

How many times have you worried for no reason ?

Whether it was a job interview, a social speech or about things not happening for your website.

The answer is an awful lot, when the actual outcome is never really that bad, in fact no where near what your minds power had forecasted.

It's because for some reason, we have the natural ability to dwell on the negative things in life, the more dwelling, then the more the idea grows and becomes something of a reality, be it in your head.

Now imagine placing these wasted thoughts, because that's what they are, on the more positive things in life and in your business.

Try to look forward to things whether or not you can see them clearly in the now. You'll find that a strange thing can happen, more concentration, more ideas, more inspiration suddenly comes into fruit.

Put as much effort into your possibilities than you did to those worries, and i believe we can all benefit.

A worry worried about is wasted.

You don't worry about breaking down on the freeway until your fuel light comes on.

It should be the same in real life, unless you really really do have a problem, clearly in front of you, something that is about to happen, has happened and is inevitable.

Then do not waste time on worry, use it on other things, like marketing, working, positivity, expectation and creativity.

There's no harm in trying.
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  • Profile picture of the author 0b1
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    Hi James,

    Yes Worrying too much doesn't solve anything, or even thinking too much about an IM plan you have in mind and being defeated by your own mind thinking it wont work!!

    When you begin anything, not just IM, this thoughts of worry and negativity of not being able to achieve what you want is just ntg but a complete mental block, utterly pointless worrying!

    I learn that each time I overcome this and actually put action into my plan instead of spending the time worrying about something I always seem to benefit.

    -Brandon
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  • Profile picture of the author Wally Conger
    This'll sound kinda woo-woo to a lot of you, but I was taught an anti-worry technique by a practitioner of Jin Shin Jyutsu, a type of accupressure. And it sure works for me.

    What you do is hold your thumbs.

    Wrap the fingers of your left hand around your right thumb. Don't squeeze hard or do anything special. Just hold your thumb. After a minute or so -- or maybe after just a few seconds -- you should feel a "shift" and feel the worry kind of drain off.

    Repeat with the other thumb -- right fingers around your left thumb.

    Yeah, yeah. It sounds goofy. But I've had great results from this practice (and it sure helps me get to sleep when I'm wide awake with worry).
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  • Profile picture of the author browse15
    There was this guy who was on his dead bed who said that 90% of his life he worried about things that didn't took place at all.
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  • Profile picture of the author tobyR
    Only worry about something that you can do something about - thats my motto. Otherwise its wasted energy getting you no where. You hear people going on about price of petrol, inflation etc i cant influence those factors so i just get on hopefully to make more money to ba able to pay for those things
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  • Profile picture of the author ninjawarrior
    There's a saying that goes: Worrying is like sitting in a rocking chair; you're moving, but going nowhere.

    I'm basically a worrier - my day isn't complete if I can't find something to worry about! But it's true, worrying isn't healthy. So to wconger, I'm giving that anti-worry technique a shot!
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  • Profile picture of the author securelogy
    One thing I learnt a while back about worrying for chronic worriers (I don't remember where) is to setup time for worrying daily. You set schedule of 15 min a day to worry about things. Write it down with other things-to-do list. Your brain will skip the worrying all day to the time setup for the job. You worry for about 15 minutes and complete the task. I know it sound crazy but it saves you tons of hours and heart issues if you can only worry 15 minutes a day instead of all day.
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    • Profile picture of the author Brian Douglas
      Has anyone read Steven Covey's 7 Habits of Highly Effective People in which he writes about the Circle of Concern and the Circle of Influence?

      His theory is that all the stuff you worry about, but can't do anything to change, fall into your Circle of Concern, but the stuff you worry about but you can change will go into your Circle of Influence.

      The idea is to write down all the things in your Circle of Concern, decide whether you can do anything to resolve them and if you can, move them to your Circle of Influence. Then you take whatever remedial action you can to make the situation better/remove the worry.

      The very action of focusing on resolving your problems should make you feel better than simply focusing on the problems themselves.

      Anyhow, as the amount of stuff in your Circle of Concern reduces, so should your worries.

      That said, I'm definitely going to give wconger's anti-worry technique a shot next time I've got things on my mind. You can never have too many ways to shake off the blues!

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      • Profile picture of the author naruq
        Yes Worrying is a Waste of Energy and time.
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        • Profile picture of the author WikiWarrior
          Great Message James, thanks, and I love the analogy with the freeway and the fuel light. I sometimes worry about things even when I know I can solve the problem but get caught up thinking about how the journey will be tough or emotionally draining.

          I find regular excercise helps me worry less and also just getting stuck in and focusing on whatever I'm working on. Worrying is such a waste of time and energy, best spent channeling into something productive instead.

          Originally Posted by jamescovert View Post

          Now imagine placing these wasted thoughts, because that's what they are, on the more positive things in life and in your business.

          Put as much effort into your possibilities than you did to those worries, and i believe we can all benefit.

          You don't worry about breaking down on the freeway until your fuel light comes on.

          Then do not waste time on worry, use it on other things, like marketing, working, positivity, expectation and creativity.
          I tried it Wally, felt very goofy but had a smile on my face the whole time and it definitely did the trick Thanks for the technique.
          Originally Posted by wconger View Post

          What you do is hold your thumbs.

          Wrap the fingers of your left hand around your right thumb. Don't squeeze hard or do anything special. Just hold your thumb.
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  • Profile picture of the author jushuaburnham
    Got it James, why worry? We have given a lot of opportunities and and we have the ability to do.
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  • Profile picture of the author signity2
    yes James you are truly correct we dont have the time to waste on worrying We just have to do it !
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  • Profile picture of the author feiyin85
    If you got the time to worry,why don't spend the time wisely to do more productive stuff?
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  • Profile picture of the author flowbee77
    Just move on quickly; you are going to run into a lot of people who want to slow you down or stop you. Don't respond to those people, move on, smile and say "next".

    I agree about not worrying. Just do your best and be happy. Happiness is a choice not a burden.

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