Had you ever said these sentences before?
1. My teacher stinks, that is why my results are failing.
2. My parents always made me mad.
3. My boss is a miser, he is paying me too little.
Have you notice the similarity of the above examples? They are said in a reactive point of view. Everything that is happening to them is not their mistake and they are blaming everybody for it instead.
If you ever want to be successful in life, you must be proactive and take responsibility of your own life. Nobody care about how you fare in life and you must take your own life into your own hand and this is the only way you can be successful.
"Whether I fail or succeed shall be no man's doing but my own. I am the force"
The Choice Is Yours
Everyday we have hundreds or thousands of opportunity to choose to be reactive or be proactive. People cutting your queue, weather is bad for your soccer game or your sister borrowed your blouse without asking for your permission. There are so many scenarios which you can just react to them which most people do.
Is it really necessary to react to it? Not really. We have the choice to choose. Reactive people will react to every single events and waste their energy on it. They made the choices without any effort put into thinking.
Proactive people think before they act. They are clear and concise about what they want and they are always in control.
Benefits Of Being Proactive
Some benefits of being proactive...
2.Not easily offended
3.Think before they act
4.In control of themselves
5.Focus on things that they can control
Proactive people only worry about things they can control and this is a very important trait to have in order to be successful. They don't worry about who will win the Premier League or the NBA finals. No matter who won, their life goes on and it is not in their circle of control.
They control things such as their work attitude, their mindset and habits. These are the things they spend most of their effort on and also reap the highest benefits.
Example: Oprah Winfrey had a really bad childhood but she does not focus on the negative side of her story. Instead she focus on inspiring others with her stories.
How To Be Proactive
Take Responsibility for Your Own Life
For now, decide that you will take the responsibility for your own life. Believe that everything that happen to you is because of your own action and stop blaming others.
Can Do Attitude
Having a can do attitude will help you to take the initiative to make things happen. This mean taking actions and the ability to take action will help you to accomplish more things in life.
Go for your dream job, find your dream date and just take action to accomplish whatever you want to achieve. Let no self doubt hold you back.
Control Your Emotions
Whenever people cut in front of your car in the high way, do you have the power to resist cursing and swearing back at them? Designate a pause button to help you control your emotion to resist. Whenever someone offend you and you have the urge to react, push your pause button and make the smarter decision.
Personal Development Blogger
**P.S**Are you in control of your life? Do you react to almost everything that is not important?