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Anyone offer any insight on this?

by jasdon
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I've recently had a worrying realisation; I think the 'idea' of success is more attractive to my subconscious than 'actual' success. I feel as though I'm stuck in a cycle of underachieving despite my desire for success remaining strong - am I addicted to 'wanting' success rather than being successful?

Can anyone identify with that?

More importantly, can anyone suggest how to break this cycle?
#insight #offer
  • Profile picture of the author JimFromNY
    It's hard to put into words, but I think I know what you mean. For me, it comes down to laziness and setting goals.
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    • Profile picture of the author naruq
      You Must Program Your Mind Daily To Achieve Success. You may want success on a conscious level, however if you are not programming your mind daily for success you will not achieve your goals.
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  • Profile picture of the author jasdon
    Thanks for your input guys.

    Another way of looking at it, is that when I visualise my goals, they are perfect. Is my subconscious telling me that when I acheive my goals they won't be quite so perfect, and is therefore stopping me achieving them?

    In my past when I had achieved quite a lot at my chosen sport, it seemed like an anticlimax; the thrill of winning was very short lived. Are those old experiences causing me to stop short of the winning post financially?
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  • Profile picture of the author grannywriteswell
    Sounds like you love the journey more than the destination I can totally relate and even though there are some that would say both you and I were successful now, it is the adrenalin that comes with a new idea or a different take on an old idea that keeps me young and moving forward. I sometimes think that if I actually "made it" then I would get bored and wonder what to do next.

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  • Profile picture of the author Brian Kerr
    I know exactly how you feel. Remember to not fill yourself with knowledge, as a way to be lazy productive. Reading can only help soo much. Think of what you are doing that is providing real progress towards your goals and enhance it.
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  • Profile picture of the author Valtan
    Eventually you have to stop wanting and start doing.
    Stop learning and start applying.
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    • Profile picture of the author jasdon
      Originally Posted by Valtan View Post

      Eventually you have to stop wanting and start doing.
      Stop learning and start applying.
      Thanks everyone!

      Valtan, I like that last line - just going to change it a bit; 'stop learning - start earning'.
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      • Profile picture of the author rickcast66
        Yes, it seems that at some point you have to start doing rather than just learning. I'm still trying to soak alot in. At some point, I'm going to have to start taking action.
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  • Profile picture of the author talfighel
    You must program your mind to success but if you don't take the right actions, you will not succeed.
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  • Profile picture of the author Tony Tikos
    I can relate to this. I am always consumed by the desire for success, it somewhat drives my subconscious mind. I always feel like I am coming up short and feeling under achieved, yet I still feel driven to be successful
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  • Profile picture of the author Avesel
    Just get into action. The more you do the more you feel like doing.
    Conversely, you can also get into the habit of doing nothing.
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  • Profile picture of the author jasdon
    Ok, I think I've come across the answer, or at least something that really helps - at least it's helping me.

    The thing is to stop focusing your mind on what you want, as you will always have the feelings of 'wanting' - instead, start feeling gratitude prior to receiving it. Now this on it's own isn't anything new to me, but one sentence brought it into focus; sort of woke me up, reduced my fear of potential dissapointment. It's simple and you've likely heard it before, but once you start doing it, it really helps:

    'Live in the moment'.

    That's it. Simple but effective. It's made me more productive, given me more clarity, and stopped some fears that I previously wasn't aware of.

    Live in the moment. Not the past; not the future.

    Hope this helps you like it's helping me.
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