Don't think I can do it

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Yeah seriously... don't quit. Do you know how freakin rich I would be right now if I hadn't given up on the many ideas I started working on years ago?

Giving up only delays you. You have it in you to do whatever it is you want to do. Otherwise, you wouldn't have given it a try in the first place. If you give up now, you will one day come back full of motivation and wanting to do it all over again. When you do, you will say that same thing I always say "Damn... I should have kept doing what I was doing years ago."

Just keep doing it. Forget results. Forget the money. Forget all that. Just work on whatever it is you are trying to achieve and if you endure and keep with it, you WILL make some stupid money from your efforts.

Breezy, Breezy, Breezy ... listen okay? Just take a deep breath and listen.

First off, you wouldn't have posted such a message - especially on the WF and definitely not in the Mind, Body, Spirit section if that wasn't a cry from the heart for help. So listen ... I am also someone who thought I can't do it.

As I live in the UK I had to send in my tax accounts a couple of months ago. As I went through the figures, I was astonished to find I had turned over close to $20k last year. Okay, there wasn't a huge profit and I still have a day job, but what that means is people are buying my stuff.

I'm not a guru. I write self help stuff and I put up websites and then I write my own sales copy and then I try to figure out ways to get some traffic and then ... blah, blah, blah.

I joined this incredible forum because here is where the people who know how to tinker with the sales copy, get the traffic, pull the crowds, (even a little one), hang out.

I try to give something back from time to time - like now - because these folks mean something to me. Including you.

Okay, so now I'm going to put on my self help hat. Ready?

Stop beating yourself up with negative beliefs! You've told yourself it's "sad that you're a 23 year old ... who can't ... " You've told yourself you have to be VERY creative to make it here, (so you're not?) ... Even the headline of your post is a negative belief.

The joy of being human is that you can choose what to believe.

First, change your body language. Do it right now. I'm serious! Sit up, take a deep breath and S-M-I-L-E!!!

Yep, for no reason ... just grin a big toothy grin! (Why? Because it's IMPOSSIBLE to feel bad while you do that).

Okay ... now don't slump back ... think of a time - any time - when you thought you weren't going to make it and you pulled through. Might have been crossing the street, could've been taking an exam ... could be anything.

Think of times when you've been resourceful. Did you ever once allow yourself to think, "Don't think I can do it..." in those moments?

Think of times when you've been determined ... unstoppable even. Would you have dared to say, even to yourself, "isn't it sad that I'm only a ... "

NEVER DO THAT TO YOURSELF!

Let me tell you a true story.

In October 2008 a major source of my income started drying up. It dropped to around a third of what it had been for the previous eight years and it didn't look like it was going to pick up again.

My wife and I had the conversation you'd expect a couple to have during that time. It began with, "What are we going to do?"

We had that conversation several times over about three days.

On the third day I said to her, "Honey, you know what? We're asking the wrong question!"

She of course wanted to know what I thought we ought to ask.

I said, "We need to start with asking how we're going to be." And I explained, "Right now, we're coming from a place of worry and even fear. If we continue down this road that'll turn into panic. And in those states we will never come up with an answer."

(Did you know that Einstein said that you can never solve a problem in the same frame of mind that created it? Yep, Einstein!)

So my wife asked me how I thought we should be. And I said, "Resourceful."

And then I thought about times when I'd been smart or creative - even if it was a quick one-liner at a party - and I put my body in that physiology and I smiled - a big grin for no reason.

As I did that a new question entered my head. It had a completely different feel to it than when I was worrying that there was no way out. The question was, "How else could I bring in money?"

And just as soon as I thought the question, an answer popped into my brain: I could write.

Now, I've already told you I write a lot of my own stuff, but I'd never thought of writing for other people before. So that evening I opened an account on elance.com and put my writer's profile up there. I think it cost me around nine bucks.

In the morning - I kid you not - I had a contract for a thousand dollars.

Now, Breezy, that doesn't make me more creative than you - it just makes us different. You'll have your own resourcefulness. Allow it! Your uniqueness is precious, so find a way to express it!

Before I close, I'm going to give you the most important piece of practical advice I've ever had about how to do IM. I've heard it from all over the place and from people who really seem to know what they're doing online, and who've genuinely made it. I'm telling you all of that up front because I can also tell you it took me AGES before I would listen to it. Even now, I struggle at times.

So here it is: Find one method you like and stick to it like glue until it starts working.

It doesn't matter if it's article marketing or PPC or CPA or SEO or ... you name it - they ALL work - but not if you tinker and move on.

Finally, let me say this because no one else in this thread seems to have, including you.

If you truly wanted to give up you'd have done it. You wouldn't have bothered to post a thread on WF. By doing that very act you have shown that you are hanging in there - and I can tell you this:

On this forum at least, you are among friends. Trust them, (including me!), and above all, trust yourself.

You have far more inside you than you could ever possibly know.

Surprise yourself.

Take care and good luck!

Trevor.

I think a lot of things are going on right now especially pressures from society and from his peers, he has to make money now because if not he is far behind and people will criticize him hard enough he will really feel depressed.

Just don't give up and in the end you will be successful

Find a method that works <affilliate marketing worked for me!>, stick to it longer than U would till the checks starts to rush in!...Good Luck!

Breezy, I've been where you are now... I got all stressed up with college and extra expenses... but I never really gave up, maybe just became less active, but one day I did my usual stuff online and found my motivation again. You too can find it, just don't give up for real. Take some time off, relax, then in a week or too, you'll see you are ready to learn some more.

Hi Breezy,

if you think IM is not for you, then you are right. You can stuck to your 9-5 job and one day you'll find your service is not require anymore. By then, what do you do?

maybe IM is not for you, but I would suggest, never give up to build a plan B for your income. I develop different type of income for myself. Like real estate, rental income, my own home office, and IM.

Think of how you can contribute to others, e.g. you probably have a lot of experience about cisco, try to think of how to use your knowledge to benefit others who know nothing about cisco and willing to learn. base on what you already know and use IM technique to share with others.

If you want to get someone to keep youself accountable, private message me

no matter what you choose, I respect your choice, and good luck.

Hey Breezy,

So many good inspiring words are told above! Try to listen to them and everything will clear up. Just take your time and good luck!

I'm going to take a different approach on this one.

We feel for you man, but listen.

Saying sh** like "I don't have the ability," and you have to be super creative to do this... is a surefire way to train your brain to believe that, literally.

How will you program your own mind? For failure? Or for outcomes?

Nothing worth while is ever going to be easy. Do you know how many times I failed before I started making money? Tons! It isn't easy, despite what some guru might tell you.

THIS IS PART OF IT.
Getting frustrated, feeling like you're not making any progress is all part of the game my friend. That only means one thing: you're closer to breaking through.

Stop with the self defeat, start being conscious of the way you're training your brain.

I'm in IM for 5 years, first two year I earn nothing.
Don't quit! The harder you work, the luckier you get...

@Breezy:

You are 23 years old and ready to give up on this? Really? I'm 48. I started IM as a hobby when things slowed down at my day job. It took me a year to make my first dollar in IM, and another 6 months to get to the $100 per month level, and I haven't quit my day job yet.

IM is my retirement plan -- or my semi-retirement plan. I like my day job and want to keep doing it, but because I want to, not because I have to. But I need some passive income as a backstop. So I do IM. You are right, it is hard. I will spend two or three days writing content just to try to get my site to climb ten positions higher in Google. That is just how it is, because I am fighting for some highly competitive keywords.

Two things: 1) Never give up; and 2) When you hit a wall in one place, work at something else for a while.

In the end, the final decision is yours only.

However, the economy is in very bad shape. That doesn't help and you may not have a choice but to work offline right now to make ends meet... at least for the time being. There is no shame in going to work every day to earn a living. Who knows in a couple years if there will be any jobs left...

I earn a living solely online and I can tell you that my income has dropped to record lows this winter, and I'm very good at what I do! This being my sole income, I have no other choice but to push ahead and work harder and smarter to make ends meet!

Your timing is off simply, but I'm looking forward on seeing better days in IM in a year or two and already started preparing for it...Hold on to your dreams and your job for now...Of course you can do both. I did both for almost 2 decades!

Bernard

Well My mom says ..

Never be a Quitter .. You do not fail when you keep trying because there is always a chance of success coming you way , God seeing you efforts..

But you fail when you quit , when you lose the effort and give up.

So never give up and keep trying hard

hi Everyone...

I haven't been on this site too much and therefore am not really sure how to make a new thread post, so I am going to just ask on here.

I have been using Sara Young's Easy Paycheck Formula....And, I have found it to be the best beginning affiliate program in comparison to many others I have tried. I have made a handful of sales over the past few months (mostly the Christmas season), and now I am at a dead stop.

I seem to have mostly trouble trying to find keywords and SEO in general. I asked Sara what I should do to help me generate more sales and what not and she recommended Deadbeat Affiliate.

I have read a number of posts on WF about this program which all seemed to be good. My question is:..... Is there anyone here that has had good success from this program when starting out struggling....?????

And, does anyone offer any kind of coaching??

Thank you

I am not a guru... I too am new to IM.

But I have over 25 years experience taking offline ideas and turning them into successful offline businesses. Some big... some small... some very big.

Here is my advice:

Quit working on IM.

Not permanently, but step away for both a break and a reset. It sounds to me like your something of a cubicle hermit. A techie who basically has zero sales, marketing or entrepreneurial experience. If this is the case, here is what I suggest you do.

Forget about how to get your IM business going.... and spend a bit of time training yourself relative to the core of entrepreneurial success. What you are suffering is not an inability to grasp the technical concepts associated with various IM strategies. Your problem is you lack the general skills required to take all the info on IM TOOLS swirling all over the place in your head and boil them down to a business strategy with which you can move forward in an action plan.

Go buy and read the following:

- How to Get Rich by Felix Dennis. Horrible book title... fantastic book
- Business Stripped Bare + Losing my Virginity both by Richard Branson
- The Magic of Thinking Big by David Schwartz
- How to Make Millions with your Ideas by Dan Kennedy

Take the time to read those 4 books.... I GUARANTY you that you will return to IM with an entirely different outlook.


Terry

You should stay at for a while longer.

I have been doing this for a total of three months and I am making a profit!

A good coach is essential.

Take care of yourself...

If you think you can't then nothing good happens but if you think positive whatever hard it is you can able to pursue to do it, motivate yourself.

... then quit

Seems an appropriate place to drop a quote from Henry Ford -

'If you think you can do a thing or think you can't do a thing, you're right.'

Success begins with belief, with having the right mindset to keep going until you get there. Don't have the right skills? Go learn some. It's not hard to craft reviews as an affiliate and make some commissions, and the simple act of getting some commissions under your belt will do wonders for your self-belief.

I have troubles getting income from my online business as well, but I made a promise that I will never ever give up. I have doubts all the time, but I often try to reframe it, because I know that other people are doing it (hell, I'm buying stuff from these people) so it is just a matter of time untill I figure it out. I would recommend this attitude to you as well.

I joined the IM world 5 years ago and I haven't made a penny yet... I believe in myself so will stick around until I make the MONEY... don't give up when the going gets tough...what the mind can believe it can achieve...

I started toying with IM last year and am still struggling with it. It just takes some people longer than others to find the right "formula" for them. It's hard when you have no help, which is why I joined this forum. I am trying to learn all I can from these threads. I've wanted to give up myself, but I know if others can do it, I can too. Don't give up.

PS... A big THANKS to all who are giving freebies and trying to help us newbies. It is very much appreciated!

This is going to sound harsh, but I'm looking at your post history and it looks like you haven't even tried anything. Have you? You joined the forum and over the course of two weeks decided that you can't make any money and then posted a thread like this? Are you trying to get someone to take pity and hold your hand, or what? :confused:

Seriously dude I was thinking this exact same thing last week, except I was unemployed so I didn't have the luxury of a full-time job.

Then a local dentist called me and said he'd like to have my SEO services for his business and I got a $500 check up front on Monday. So now I know it's definitely possible.

Just remember, everything seems impossible until it isn't.

It's all in your belief. All of it. If you believe you cannot do it, you will find a way to prove that. If you do believe you can do it, and do it Your Way, you WILL find a way to prove that to be true. But if you're battling against yourself, you're going to lose every single time. So just make up your mind, and go do it.

Breezy, I completely understand how you feel. I wouldn't have made it without the support from my parents.

My first three months was a total disaster. I spent all my savings on all the bs the gurus were selling and only made about $50 in that three months. I would have given up if it wasn't for the support from my family and friends.

Look, in every aspect of life, there are people who persevere and there are those who just give up and end up thinking what if he had persevered? You don't want to be them do you? You've only tried IM for a month come on. Give it another few more months and make sure you work hard at it. You can't expect results only after a month can you?

Sure, there might be the odd success story where someone just made it big after a week or so. But those people only come along every once in a while. Start thinking positively and you'll see that it makes a whole world of difference in your life not just IM.

I hope that you start looking at the world positively from now on and you'll realise that it is the best thing you've ever done regardless of whether you continue IM or not. Think of it this way, at least you're trying to make your life better by trying out IM. How many other people just work 9-5 at a lowly paid job and never ever thought of making more money?

You are already ahead of so many people in that aspect. I hope you will continue your IM journey like the rest of us here. But if you don't, just know that you are already better than so many others! Good luck!

I always thought that it's not the ideas that necessary in IM but the implementation. You can do what already works and make cash.

I just want you to go to bed with this quote in your mind:

'Whether you think you can, or you think you can't--you're right.' - Henry Ford.

"It is not the critic who counts: not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles or where the doer of deeds could have done better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood, who strives valiantly, who errs and comes up short again and again, because there is no effort without error or shortcoming, but who knows the great enthusiasms, the great devotions, who spends himself for a worthy cause; who, at the best, knows, in the end, the triumph of high achievement, and who, at the worst, if he fails, at least he fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who knew neither victory nor defeat."

Teddy Roosevelt
April 23, 1910

No matter you think you can do it or you can not! it doesn't matter, sometimes the result is not that important than you ever thought, if you want, just do it! and be happy ^ ^

You don't have to create websites full of content to be a success in internet marketing. Maybe you're a good writer and you could write eBooks. Maybe you're a good editor and you could edit other people's content. Maybe you know what makes a good ad and you could make Google Ads packages.

perhaps the OP has fallen into the trap of believing the 'instant riches gurus', like i did when i first started, like many did i'm sure, and that if he's not making '$13,734' per week then he's a failure. this line of work is so hard because you don't have the safety-net of a company/boss/mentor to train you, like in a normal 9-5 - you have to learn everything yourself, which is why i thank god theres resources like this site to call on.