The 'Inner Game' of Goal Setting

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Hi my fellow warriors,

I feel that it's more appropriate for a start that I share some of my thought in this great forum.

I would like share a topic related to setting our goals ...

Goals are a very important aspect of our life. We are rationally thinking creatures; we don't live by instinct. That is the reason we need goals that can help us take from one point to another in our lives.

When we are at school, our goals could be to achieve a particular grade; when we are in college, our goal might be to score a particular mark to get admission in a certain professional course; when we are able to work, our goal could be to get into a particular organization and so on. We are always setting goals for ourselves, and trying to reach them.

If you aren't establishing goals already, you are leading an unplanned life. Your life lacks direction. You aren't living; you are merely existing. You are merely taking life as it comes.

However, a person who has goals in life has one very important benefit. They come to know what they are really worth. If you have set a particular goal for yourself and you achieve it, you know you are capable of that. This makes you surer about yourself.

You know now that this was something you could do and you did. This is not just something on your résumé; it is something that is etched into your life - it has become a part of yourself. And it will reinforce the belief you have in yourself.

To be continue .... (I will continue some more of my sharing later).

Please do leave some comments and you guys may also share some of your thoughts related to this topic. I do really appreciate it
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  • Profile picture of the author AndrewMurray
    Inner drive is more powerful than external goals, IMHO.
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    • Profile picture of the author Khairul Hazwan
      Originally Posted by AndrewMurray View Post

      Inner drive is more powerful than external goals, IMHO.
      You're right Andrew. Thanks for your opinion. I do agree also that motivation from the 'inside' of ourself is also important.
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  • Profile picture of the author ryanbiddulph
    Hi Khairul,

    Without goals one goes through life rudderless.

    Inner drive is important, but if you have no goals, where are you driving?

    The idea is to find the "Why" of the goal. You might want to achieve certain things, but why? I call this the invisible Why in the visible What, for the Why is the emotions you feel you will experience when you've reached your goal.

    The best part about the Why? You can generate those feelings now, and need to if your goal is to be attained.

    Thanks for sharing!

    RB
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    • Profile picture of the author Khairul Hazwan
      Hi guys,

      Just would like to add-on my thoughts on this topic ...

      Consider this. You set a goal to earn a hundred thousand in the first three months of your business. When you are setting the goal, you are only shooting in the dark, whatever the factors that influence your goal-setting might be. But then you really strike this achievement.

      Now, you know that wasn't shooting in the dark. You know you are capable of such a thing. It has made you believe in yourself and you can go and plan bigger things.

      This is what goals do. They concretize something that's just a hazy picture, a vague idea. Goal achievement makes you realize your strengths and helps your belief in an enormous way.
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    • Profile picture of the author Khairul Hazwan
      Originally Posted by ryanbiddulph View Post

      The idea is to find the "Why" of the goal. You might want to achieve certain things, but why? I call this the invisible Why in the visible What, for the Why is the emotions you feel you will experience when you've reached your goal.

      The best part about the Why? You can generate those feelings now, and need to if your goal is to be attained.

      Thanks for sharing!

      RB
      Totally agreed with you RB. In other words, it all started also within the inside (invisible Why), not just focus on external factors (such as goals for this situation).
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    • Profile picture of the author mypiapo
      Originally Posted by ryanbiddulph View Post


      The idea is to find the "Why" of the goal. You might want to achieve certain things, but why? I call this the invisible Why in the visible What, for the Why is the emotions you feel you will experience when you've reached your goal.

      The best part about the Why? You can generate those feelings now, and need to if your goal is to be attained.


      RB

      This is something i have trouble with. I know its the truth, but sometimes i have a hard time developing the feeling and emotion. Say for example, i have a certain desire or goal. But what if i have never experienced it before? How would i produce the feeling of already having it???
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  • Profile picture of the author tomkane
    I agree on the importance of goals. Nevertheless, I believe there is one thing that is more important and bigger: A Vision.
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  • Profile picture of the author amo992
    Hey guys,

    I am currently writing an eBook on choices and goals through psychological principles, so I thought I could contribute a few words.

    But, before we go into goals, I would like to explain choices--after all you cannot achieve goals without making choices.

    We make choices every day, sometimes every few seconds. Unlike other animals, we make those choices based on the meaning of the outcome of our choices. The meaning or the "Why," as ryanbiddulph put it, shape and define what we are going to choose and how we feel about what we choose.

    So, lets move on to goals. Goals are ideas, specific or vague, of some desired future state. They are the meaningful link between value and action. In other words, goals give us our actions meaning by uniting them with a value or belief that we hold. As internet marketers, we do what we do for a reason, it may be as simple as "to make money" or to "support my family". The goal previously mentioned, make $100,000 in three months, ties our actions (internet marketing stuff) to our beliefs (making money, supporting the family, etc.)

    As to the 'inner' aspects of goal setting, goals are regulated by the duplex mind: the conscious and the automatic (subconscious). The conscious mind helps create the goal. It establishes the goal with realistic tendencies, with an open attitude, and answers the most meaningful question "Why am I going to do this?" It provides alternative strategies and plans your overall execution of the goal. Think about when you set your schedule or think about what you want to do for the day. People in this state usually measure the good and bad aspects of the goals they plan to pursue and they tend to be quite accurate about their abilities (i.e. I can complete the grocery shopping OR I am able to complete this report).

    The automatic on the other hand, goes into the specifics. It decides how to execute the goal and then DOES it! The automatic is closed-minded and its focuses on how to overcome obstacles, and best of all, it's optimistic. The automatic has more effect on the success of the goal than the conscious. It helps build confidence for positive performance and makes thoughts of the goal dominate the mind. It is in constant search of opportunities to make the goal succeed. If you set the $100,000 a in three months goal, you might find yourself not wanting to stop reading about internet marketing!

    But what about when goals compete?...ah well, I'm out of time
    There's so much more information for me to relate to you, so I am going back to writing the eBook .
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    • Profile picture of the author kin_lau
      Originally Posted by amo992 View Post

      Hey guys,

      I am currently writing an eBook on choices and goals through psychological principles, so I thought I could contribute a few words.

      But, before we go into goals, I would like to explain choices--after all you cannot achieve goals without making choices.

      We make choices every day, sometimes every few seconds. Unlike other animals, we make those choices based on the meaning of the outcome of our choices. The meaning or the "Why," as ryanbiddulph put it, shape and define what we are going to choose and how we feel about what we choose.

      So, lets move on to goals. Goals are ideas, specific or vague, of some desired future state. They are the meaningful link between value and action. In other words, goals give us our actions meaning by uniting them with a value or belief that we hold. As internet marketers, we do what we do for a reason, it may be as simple as "to make money" or to "support my family". The goal previously mentioned, make $100,000 in three months, ties our actions (internet marketing stuff) to our beliefs (making money, supporting the family, etc.)

      As to the 'inner' aspects of goal setting, goals are regulated by the duplex mind: the conscious and the automatic (subconscious). The conscious mind helps create the goal. It establishes the goal with realistic tendencies, with an open attitude, and answers the most meaningful question "Why am I going to do this?" It provides alternative strategies and plans your overall execution of the goal. Think about when you set your schedule or think about what you want to do for the day. People in this state usually measure the good and bad aspects of the goals they plan to pursue and they tend to be quite accurate about their abilities (i.e. I can complete the grocery shopping OR I am able to complete this report).

      The automatic on the other hand, goes into the specifics. It decides how to execute the goal and then DOES it! The automatic is closed-minded and its focuses on how to overcome obstacles, and best of all, it's optimistic. The automatic has more effect on the success of the goal than the conscious. It helps build confidence for positive performance and makes thoughts of the goal dominate the mind. It is in constant search of opportunities to make the goal succeed. If you set the $100,000 a in three months goal, you might find yourself not wanting to stop reading about internet marketing!

      But what about when goals compete?...ah well, I'm out of time
      There's so much more information for me to relate to you, so I am going back to writing the eBook .
      Very well written. Do you have strategies to help people achieving their goals? Especially related to the subconscious mind. When will you finish the book, I'm so looking forward to read it.
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