Communication And Public Speaking

by Jonathan 2.0 Banned
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Hey MindWarriros

Can you recommend some good books/information products/resources for improving communication (maybe "persuasion") and public speaking skills?

Thank You.
#communication #public #speaking
  • Profile picture of the author Newbie11
    Google Toastmasters and find a club near you. It is an international public speaking organization that will help you develop your communication, leadership, and listening skills.
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    • Profile picture of the author Jonathan 2.0
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      @ Ryan and Newbie.

      Thanks. :-)

      I think starting off by talking to a small group of people would be a good first step. (Thank you for the recommendation.)

      I'm also looking for "techniques" to improve my communication, persuasion, and public speaking. So if anyone can recommend a book or course that would be awesome too.

      @ P. Sharma and ButterFlyGarden

      Thank you for the suggestions. (I'll re-read "How To Win Friends ..." And check out the articles.)

      Cheers.
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  • Profile picture of the author rcritchett
    Jonathan,

    Toastmasters is pretty cool, if you want to take the normal route. I went to a total of 1 toastmasters meeting and realized it wasn't for me. It's great if you want to learn how to not say AND and UM when you talk, and get attuned to speaking in front of.. about 10-20 people.

    I've taken a different route and that is to speak at as many events as possible and force myself to get better. I didn't want to wait until I was good at speaking to go ship, and put myself out there.

    Practice in your living room

    Study effective speakers

    Use the internet as a tool to watch people give presentations and keynotes (Youtube and related sites)

    Develop a style

    Feel good about how you deliver

    Refine.

    I just got invited to judge a speaking contest for an international organization, yesterday. It's not because I went to toastmasters, it's because I aggressively went out there and spoke, people heard me and like what I had to say and how I said it. Then I got invited to judge other speakers.

    Be unorthodox.
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  • Profile picture of the author P.Sharma
    If you want to learn persuasion then you just need to keep it simple and read : HOW TO WIN FRIENDS AND INFLUENCE PEOPLE - TWICE + BASIC NLP - TWICE
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  • Profile picture of the author ButterflyGarden
    Here are some tips to help you:

    Tips for Public Speaking
    Tips for Public Speaking and Presenting

    Tips for Powerful Presentations
    Tips to Powerful PowerPoint Presentations

    More Presentation Tips
    PowerPoint Tips
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  • Profile picture of the author la dominatrix
    Don't forget that public speaking is more than just speaking. It involves your total presentation, and you cant learn that from books. Video yourself speaking and watch critically how your are standing if you are nodding your head a lot it is disttracting for your listener's. Also tape your voice, you can do that for free wiht audacity, do you speak clearly, enunciate your words. If you have room set up a stage in your home and practise.
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  • Profile picture of the author HeySal
    P. Sharma has it right - Dale Carnegie. I can't remember the name of his book on public speaking right now, but that is the one that the Ivy League schools use.

    I used to teach public speaking and suggest him first. First you learn all the rules -- then you learn how to effectively break them. When you get to a point you can break any rule of speaking and wow the audience, that's when you become a great speaker.
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    • Profile picture of the author assertiveone
      Originally Posted by HeySal View Post

      P. Sharma has it right - Dale Carnegie. I can't remember the name of his book on public speaking right now, but that is the one that the Ivy League schools use.

      I used to teach public speaking and suggest him first. First you learn all the rules -- then you learn how to effectively break them. When you get to a point you can break any rule of speaking and wow the audience, that's when you become a great speaker.
      It's a great book.Everyone should read it.
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    • Profile picture of the author Jonathan 2.0
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      Originally Posted by HeySal View Post

      P. Sharma has it right - Dale Carnegie. I can't remember the name of his book on public speaking right now, but that is the one that the Ivy League schools use.
      Heysal.


      Thanks for the recommendation. :-) Please can you tell me which of these following books is the one you were referring to.

      Amazon.com: dale carnegie public speaking: Books

      Cheers.
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      • Profile picture of the author HeySal
        Originally Posted by Jonathan 2.0 View Post

        Heysal.


        Thanks for the recommendation. :-) Please can you tell me which of these following books is the one you were referring to.

        Amazon.com: dale carnegie public speaking: Books

        Cheers.
        Frankly - I've never even seen the second one. It looks like a "lite" version of the Speaking and Influencing book.

        You got some good tips already in here......but from what I've witnessed some people are just more naturally comfortable with speaking than others. It's a lot easier to describe confident speaking than to feel it. I always tell people not to forget that the audience is there because they want to know something. You just happen to be the guy that can tell them what they want to know.

        As long as your information is what they came to get, you are going to be forgiven for a lot of stuff you might do to mess up a bit. Know your subject inside and out - you can keep a note card - but just keywords, because you need to be able to deliver that info whether you have a card in your hand or not. As long as you know what you're talking about, you can keep going no matter what. So put your technique second - and your info first. You can work on becoming the most captivating speaker as you go - but if you aren't informed when you are speaking.....you'll never get a chance to get great at it.
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        • Profile picture of the author Roy Naim
          Hey.

          Here's a great site that talks about Public Speaking. You will find articles, books reviews and resources for speakers.

          Six Minutes: Public Speaking and Presentation Skills Blog

          When it comes to persuasion, it really comes down to understanding people's pattern.

          As a person who studies NLP and Hypnosis, I learned to study and respond according to people's pattern. It takes work but it is fun.

          Again, though I am not on the level to totally "take advantage" of people and don't ever plan on that G-d forbid, I would like to get to the point where I can understand what they are doing. My NLP/Hypnosis Trainer, Steve Leeds and Rachel Hott teach with integrity and teaches us that with these understanding (and with a lot of practice) one can do wonderful things.

          But here is a book I am about to read that Brendon Burchard of Experts Academy recommended on persuasion:

          Amazon.com: How to Argue & Win Every Time: At...Amazon.com: How to Argue & Win Every Time: At... (if this is not the book he mentioned, then my bad).

          And then you have the book INFLUENCE:

          Amazon.com: Influence: The Psychology of...Amazon.com: Influence: The Psychology of...
          End of the day, it comes down to communication really (doesn't it all, whether self communication or others).

          Hope this helped
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          • Profile picture of the author Jonathan 2.0
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            Thank You everyone :-) (I've documented everything.) That's enough to keep me going for now.

            Cheers.
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  • Profile picture of the author Emmanuel C
    20daypersuasion from michael lee. great nlp techniques
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  • Profile picture of the author Michael Newman
    I'm a public speaker, and I read a lot. But, nothing beats practice.

    I have a few tips, first, I'll recommend, Million Dollar Speaking by Allan Weiss.

    The tips: Be completely focused on the needs of the audience. My first experience of PS was at age 14, ages ago, and I learnt that lesson. I was a Jehovah's Witness.

    It's vital. Forget yourself. Your fears and insecurities. Craft and deliver your presentations with confidence, and with the goal of blessing your audience, not to impress. Most of the lessons in COPYWRITING apply to PS, too.

    The second, use refreshing and simple metaphors. You'll hold their attentions better.

    Simple tips, right?

    I wish you the best in your PS engagements.
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    • Profile picture of the author Jonathan 2.0
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      Hey -
      Thanks Michael, that's brilliant. :-)

      Since were here I learned something cool from copywriter Gary Bencivenga that can be applied to copywriting as well.

      Marketing Bullets | Bullet #24
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    • Profile picture of the author Roy Naim
      Originally Posted by Michael Newman View Post


      The second, use refreshing and simple metaphors. You'll hold their attentions better.

      Simple tips, right?

      I wish you the best in your PS engagements.
      Ah, the power of stories.

      In his book, Tell To Win, Peter Guber speaks about how stories got him to where he is (he is in the entertainment business). He talks about how stories influences people to make decisions, how one own story can play a part in how they respond to others and how to use stories to get what you want.

      Though the book has a lot of names dropping of people he met and knows, and a lot of stories (which i really enjoy), less about the How-To, I say it is a solid book to just see how "stories" play a part of our world.

      Amazon.com: Tell to Win: Connect, Persuade, and...Amazon.com: Tell to Win: Connect, Persuade, and...
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  • Profile picture of the author donnarn
    The movie "The Secret" the movie "Pay it foward"
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  • Profile picture of the author LeadBoltBrian
    NeuromarketingNeuromarketing really helped me gain a new perspective on how to deliver presentations that stick. How to "push the buy buttons", if you will.

    Diagnose the Pain - Demonstrate the Gain - Differentiate the Claim - Cater to the "Old Brain" (the "old brain" being the emotional element; "new brain" being the rational).

    I loved the story about faking a frozen computer during an actual presentation, only to claim that's what could happen with a lower-quality technology.
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