Do you Thrive on negativity and pessimism?

by NoviIM
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Hey Everyone hope all is well with you guys!!

I was just wondering how you guys deal with negative people and their outlook and your business and success?

When I started my journey in online marketing, people constantly wanted to put their 2 cents of negativity and devaluing comments about what I was pursuing.
At the beginning I did take it to heart and it kind of discouraged me, but as time went and I became more focused and determined, their words went in one ear and out the next.

I just wanted to see how you guys deal with it and if you still have those people in your life?

Take care!

Yury
#faith #negativity #online business #pessimism #thrive
  • Profile picture of the author Joe Mobley
    Get away from them!

    Minimize or eliminate contact with them. Pay attention to what you say around them.

    Get away from them!

    Be prepared to respond to their question of why you are minimizing contact with them.

    "Hey Joe, I've noticed that we don't hang around much anymore. And when we do, you don't share like you used to?"

    [NAME] = Insert name of emotionally needy, socially and financially under-preforming person here.

    (In a very even tone of voice...)

    "NAME, I've noticed that when I share something with you, you often deride me about it. I've noticed that you even make it a point of contention between me and my family or friends. That is no longer acceptable to me in my life.

    So, how's the job going?..."


    Get away from them!


    Don't fall into the trap of trying to "fix" them.

    Get away from them!

    Just my opinion.


    Joe Mobley





    Originally Posted by NoviIM View Post

    Hey Everyone hope all is well with you guys!!

    I was just wondering how you guys deal with negative people and their outlook and your business and success?

    When I started my journey in online marketing, people constantly wanted to put their 2 cents of negativity and devaluing comments about what I was pursuing.
    At the beginning I did take it to heart and it kind of discouraged me, but as time went and I became more focused and determined, their words went in one ear and out the next.

    I just wanted to see how you guys deal with it and if you still have those people in your life?

    Take care!

    Yury
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    • Profile picture of the author NoviIM
      Well said!!


      Originally Posted by Joe Mobley View Post

      Get away from them!

      Minimize or eliminate contact with them. Pay attention to what you say around them.

      Get away from them!

      Be prepared to respond to their question of why you are minimizing contact with them.

      "Hey Joe, I've noticed that we don't hang around much anymore. And when we do, you don't share like you used to?"

      [NAME] = Insert name of emotionally needy, socially and financially under-preforming person here.

      (In a very even tone of voice...)

      "NAME, I've noticed that when I share something with you, you often deride me about it. I've noticed that you even make it a point of contention between me and my family or friends. That is no longer acceptable to me in my life.

      So, how's the job going?..."


      Get away from them!


      Don't fall into the trap of trying to "fix" them.

      Get away from them!

      Just my opinion.


      Joe Mobley
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  • Profile picture of the author happyme
    Life is all about striving through the negativity that the world throws on you. Only then does success kiss your feet.
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  • Profile picture of the author gregmchir
    Hi perhaps I can offer some help , You are going to experience negativity no matter where you are or what you do. I experienced this at a job and quit.After going through a learning phase I learnt a very valuable lesson from a wayne dyer cd. No one has the power to make you feel anything that you don't believe yourself. This helped me immensely because if you think you will succeed you will eventually and what other people say should have no effect on your goals . It does hurt when they are close to you ,however lots of famous people succeeded when others did not believe in them
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  • Profile picture of the author rich8169
    Hi NoviIM, I view that people become negative because of insecurity, prior experience or lack of understanding/knowledge, my first action towards such friends/people is trying to change their mindset (help them turn negativity to positivity if possible). If I failed (which quite often), then, I will leave them alone and continue my venture, still.

    Cheers!
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  • Profile picture of the author watty12
    No, I don't thrive on negativitiy and pessimism.

    I think the only reason people do try to bring you down to their level is that they are totally insecure, as Rich says. I agree with him. If you don't have anything good to say to anyone, don't say it.

    Why be negative. Where does it get you? No one wants to be around people complaining all the time, they are a drain on your energies. Focus on the positive, it has a much greater effect on how you do business. Successful people aren't interested in negativity. It's a form of gossip which and all they are trying to do is bring you down to their level.

    Hope that helps!
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  • Profile picture of the author ephame
    I wouldn't say i thrive on negativity i like to listen to peoples arguments quietly take it in stride and continue doing what i choose to do. I distance myself from people who don't offer encouragement as well as creative criticism.
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    • Profile picture of the author watty12
      Yeah, creative criticism is a good one. There is a difference between negativity and creative criticism. So long as it's criticism that can help in your project then it's worth listening to.
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  • Profile picture of the author Goliath
    i kept my distance away from them for awhile... UNTIL I SUCCEEDED OF COZ!

    After that, i came back, went to that particular low life friend of mine, and flash my new iPad in his face saying... WHAT NOW, B***H!

    HAHAHA! it felt pretty darn good
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    "Perfectionism is just fear of failure in disguise..."

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  • Profile picture of the author nasuryono
    You can view it as a TEST.

    It is a TEST whether you want to stay on this business and make it happen.

    It is a TEST of your commitment.

    And it is a TEST if you really deserve the gold at the end of the journey.

    All the negative people in your life are the one who failed the TEST.

    Do not listen to them and stay focused.

    Surround yourself with winners and not losers.

    -Andrew
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  • Profile picture of the author NoviIM
    Hey Guys Thanks for your feedback. Even to this day, 2 years into my internet marketing career, I still get people coming at me with their constant negativity. It is much easier nowadays to deal with this nonsense than it was when I just started.
    I am waiting until the day when I could completely ignore it.
    I guess this is just the nature of the beast

    Thanks again Fellas!
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  • Profile picture of the author Matthew Shelton
    One of the things you try to figure out in NLP training is if you are more motivated by moving away from pain or moving toward your visions. Personally at this time quite often I am more motivated and energized by people/circumstances/happenings in my life that are negative/make me mad. If you don't already, you can transform the negativity in your life this way also. If you want to learn more about this then check out some of the old Tony Robbins training CDs.
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  • Profile picture of the author tk226
    NoviIM : Hi tk226, a good idea came to my mind and that is ... I think, I'll make good money by selling that idea.

    tk226: Nice, but, you know there are lot of competition, buyers are smart, industry is struggling and so on...

    NoviM: Thanks, but, still I'll try and experience my idea because I believe it will create a value by giving me a decent profit or a valuable lesson.
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    Move like a door to door salesman who first 'check' and then 'move' from prospect to prospect until an actual sale happens.
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  • Profile picture of the author lootbags2010
    I don't really have too many negative people in my circle but if by thrive you mean use it as motivation then I could say yes.
    I sometimes have a quiet determination to prove the nay-sayers wrong. I found out that this could actually work for me when i had the chance to listen to this story of how this guy had one of his teacher write that he would drop out of high-school and become an alcoholic in his permanent record and how he used it to get two PHD's and become a world-champion public speaker. He mentioned how gratifying it was to be able to show the teacher how wrong he was about him.
    I like the idea of being able to show the people who didn't believe that it is possible and even be able show them how to be successful
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