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My mother has played an important role in my character building. I have learned sacrifice, adjustment, managing crisis situation from her. All these are now helping me to handle situations in my professional life.

Between father and mother who played the pivotal role in your life, the most? would you like to share?
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    • Profile picture of the author Alex Hanson
      Originally Posted by CharismaticMannequin View Post

      My dad left when I was very young. As a result, my mother has had the dominant, most influential role in my life. Pretty clear cut to me.
      I wish I had have had a father figure, a role model so to speak, but you have to go with what you're given I suppose. It's just harder to figure out how to be a man when you're living with 2 women

      Mannequin
      My upbringing was the same dude. I agree that it made it harder to figure out how to be a man and I believe I over compensated for quite a while. Nevertheless, my mum was great and continues to be and I have vast amount to thank her for.

      Alex
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  • Profile picture of the author babureddy
    Both played an equally important role in my life, and today what I am is because of them.
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  • Profile picture of the author pethanks008
    Both of them. You are not here in this world without them. Put an equal value to your mother and father.
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    • Profile picture of the author Susovan
      Originally Posted by pethanks008 View Post

      Both of them. You are not here in this world without them. Put an equal value to your mother and father.

      Dear pethanks008, I appreciate your view. But point was not of priority but of role playing. Both are valuable gifts to us but not both play equally strong role in building our sole.

      Thanks
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    • Profile picture of the author Sheryl Polomka
      Originally Posted by pethanks008 View Post

      Both of them. You are not here in this world without them. Put an equal value to your mother and father.
      I would never put an equal value on my mother and father.

      My mother raised us alone - my father hasn't bothered to see us since I was 5 years old - why in the world would I even consider holding him anywhere near as high in value as my mother.

      I can very easily say that it was my mother that played the biggest role in my life.
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  • Profile picture of the author cliftonkirk
    Both of them. They both have their responsibilities in molding their child's character.
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    • Profile picture of the author SmileKenya
      Its hard to pick one, both played significant roles. The roles each played was distinct and valuable. I owe a lot to them both :confused:and cant pick one and leave the other.
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      • Profile picture of the author JOleng
        Even though my parents divorced when I was young and I lived with my mother, I think I'm more like my dad than mom, but in my opinion those are just genes.

        In fact I have been trying to differ from my father as much as I can, not because he has a bad life or is terrible human, but I just want my life to be different. But it seems the more I try to be different, the more similar I become.
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        • Profile picture of the author DesignDevelopment
          Originally Posted by JOleng View Post

          Even though my parents divorced when I was young and I lived with my mother, I think I'm more like my dad than mom, but in my opinion those are just genes.

          In fact I have been trying to differ from my father as much as I can, not because he has a bad life or is terrible human, but I just want my life to be different. But it seems the more I try to be different, the more similar I become.
          You dont have to push hard to be different from you Father, your trying to be a better human this is what counts. In the End of the day the urge to be better defines who you are.
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  • Profile picture of the author Forcefactor
    Both my parents played a strong role in my life. I wouldn't change a thing in the way I was raised as well.
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    • Profile picture of the author adsense786
      My mother. I love my mother ..
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      • Profile picture of the author toponewebresult
        Originally Posted by kaleelkr View Post

        My mother. I love my mother ..
        I agree the mother is the best because the mother is the only person who can understand us best than father. Mother take care us always.. But we also consider the father because the father is the one who works to food, clothes and shelter.
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  • Profile picture of the author Blossom Fluck
    When a human being grows up, the most influential and dedicated part of their life is their parents. Both of them are loving, kind, caring for their kids. Above all, mother deserves the most respect as she is the one who usually take care of her child for 24 hours.
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  • Profile picture of the author GregSilva
    Both of my parents have played a role and shaped me to become the independent person I am today. Although I believe I have the mindset that is more similar to my fathers.
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  • Profile picture of the author Affiguy
    Both. In some questions father shaped my opinion, in particular regarding independence (financial and emotional), in some life situations I listen to what my mother says.
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  • Profile picture of the author Jenny4u1
    My mother played key role in my life. Her love and affection is amazing. I give respect to my mother even more than god.
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    • Profile picture of the author noobjet
      My mother because they got divorced when I was 3 so he wasn't around much :rolleyes:
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  • Profile picture of the author Doug Hewitt
    When I was really young my mother, but after I became a teenager my father.
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  • Profile picture of the author jordanberg2311
    Both, though I lost my father when I was 4
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  • Profile picture of the author augustusrome17
    Both, since i can't say which hand you like the most. we need both the hands to do our work, to lift something and to pray.
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  • Profile picture of the author powell747
    my Mother, she is a strong woman, first because she had the courage to leave my abusive dad, and not put up with his crap when i was only 3 years old. She did not want us children to grow up in an abusive envirionment.

    So she was a single mom raising two kids, my hats off to single mom's, you are amazing!
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  • Profile picture of the author Justin Says
    I would say my mom played the most important role. But not so much as a kid growing up.

    I feel now she is way more important than ever as she really shows me what motivation is all about. She used to drink quite a bit, but now she is just amazing. She hasn't drank in more than 3 years, she rides a bicycle nonstop everyday (next week she's riding on a 40 mile trip!) and she goes to the gym all the time. She's really blown me away with how much she has changed.

    And with that change, comes my self-change. I used to be very shy, I didn't have friend, nor did I even want any friends. Honestly I was the "nerd" that did bad in school. I hated everything around me. But over the last few years I have majorly changed in many ways and I can say my mom has helped out a lot in that process

    P.S. I don't like using the word "mother" as she is a "mom". A "mother" in my eyes is more biological, whilst a "mom" is that person you love and care dearly for.

    @Powell747, single moms for the win!
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  • Profile picture of the author sdbagley
    My mom spent years telling me that I was a worthless pathetic stupid loser, and I thank her for it.. because I know what NOT to say to my kids! She told me i would never amount to anything, and I am dead set and determined to prove her wrong.
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  • Profile picture of the author Justin Says
    @sdbagley,

    I am sorry to hear that. I can actually relate.

    When I was in high school I was introduced to a career counselor. Instead of pushing me and saying that I could do anything, it was suggested that I should take a job doing labor, construction, or working for a restaraunt.

    My teachers never expected me to get anywhere (well a few were supportive, but the majority weren't), they continually pushed me into thinking I wasn't worth anything. And I began to believe them.

    During middle school and onto the end of high school I had an extremely low self esteem. I actually hated my life to be honest. I never thought I would ever succeed at anything because of how people looked down on me.

    I graduated in 2008 with one of the lowest GPA's in my entire class. Heck, I barely passed.

    Now I can say I dealt with 2 major life changing events. My first brother passed away with cancer in my junior year of high school, while my second brother passed away 2 days after my graduation. I was really screwed up for quite a while too.

    But in time I began to realize that little things don't matter. I stopped worrying so much about what people think about me. I started helping people and pushing others to be better.

    Unlike those that put me down and bullied me in high school, I rose up and I try to make others feel awesome about themselves.

    If you tell me you aren't anything, you're wrong. You probably have so much more to offer this world. So I definitely want to see you succeed dude Don't EVER let anyone put you down or make you feel bad for what you believe in.

    Oh and just to clarify, even with everything I dealt with in high school (there were many other things as well effecting my life), I now own multiple business's and have built a foundation of more than 130 sites (have to update my Warrior forum status, ha!).

    So never give up. Keep pushing. And again. NEVER let anyone put you down. But if they do, don't worry You'll prove them wrong in due time.
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  • Profile picture of the author faysal969
    My mother is my main teacher. I learned from her how to lead life and be a complete genteel man. My father also me helped me for becoming successful in my life.
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    • Profile picture of the author hardraysnight
      I must be old fashioned

      I believe children need to be raised in a home with both a father and a mother

      it is becoming a rarity nowadays, keeping astride with the breakdown of the family
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  • Profile picture of the author wburgos72
    My mother played an important part in teaching me about hard honest work, but my uncle is the one that drove me to become who I am.
    All my dad did was teach me who not to be.
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  • Profile picture of the author Johnny Nguyen
    I would have to say both, I know most of the time the Father always leave the Mother and it's really sad... Although, having a dad he can be very hard on you but having a Father around tells you that you have to be a man. Your dad is basically the head of the house, then comes your mom she shows affection. Without your parents, they wouldn't have you and there's nothing above them!
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  • Profile picture of the author melltonroper
    I can say my mother becuase most of the time she really understand me how I feel, what my needs...
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  • Profile picture of the author DIGITALCHAMELEON
    I am more close to my mother becuase she is more sensitive about my feelings than my father.
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  • Profile picture of the author hireava
    Both....they equally play the important role in my life. I can't be with what and who I am now without their love and support.
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  • Profile picture of the author michaelcorvin
    Originally Posted by Susovan View Post

    My mother has played an important role in my character building. I have learned sacrifice, adjustment, managing crisis situation from her. All these are now helping me to handle situations in my professional life.

    Between father and mother who played the pivotal role in your life, the most? would you like to share?
    My mother and my grandmother actually. They always told me when I was a kid that I was going to be a millionaire someday...self fulfilling prophecy? Maybe

    Michael
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  • Profile picture of the author stopper
    Both played a significant role. Maybe still playing roles behind the scene.
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  • Profile picture of the author best2u
    Both did, however, mom did play more significant.
    Now I am a father myself
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  • Profile picture of the author Dynamike
    My father is my #1 mentor. He was a business owner since I was born. He always put in a lot of hard work. He is the one who inspired me the most. "Thanks Dad".
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  • Profile picture of the author Debra Barrow
    My Mother was always supportive of what I wanted to do. My Father, on the other hand, believed that you get a good job at a big company and stay there until you retire. He couldn't understand why I wanted to go to college when I had such a good job. He eventually came around and accepted that I wanted more out of life.

    He meant well; those were his beliefs. He was a good provider, and my mother was my greatest ally. I miss them both.
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  • Profile picture of the author Newview
    My Father was the one who really made the biggest impact on my life. Although I was just a teenager when he died, I can remember one conversation that totally changed my way of viewing things forever. He taught me not to be part of the problem, but to be part of the solution. He taught me one very huge skill, and that was to take action. It was not merely enough to be upset over a situation, you had to find the answer, take action, and then the outcome could be different. He always strived to be a better person and challenge himself to learn more. He was quite a man, and I am sorry that we did not get more time together, as I am sure there would have been a great deal to learn from him. But I will be forever grateful for the seeds he planted in my brain, and for giving me the tools I needed to lead a productive life.
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  • Profile picture of the author mrmarketer1
    I once would have said my Mother....but the older I get, the more I realize the impact my Father had on my character....strange.
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  • Profile picture of the author DominiquePrentiss
    My parents were young when they got married and were forced by their parents to do so because my mother was pregnant with me.

    They never got along but they each showed me a tremendous amount of love growing up and still today.

    When they divorced I was relieved instead of sad. I knew early on that they were happier apart than they were together.

    I still saw my dad every day and I spent the weekends with him. He put forth the effort to be present in my life.

    He never missed a birthday, graduation or any other special event.

    So, if I had to choose, I'd have to say my dad probably strengthened my character the most.
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  • Profile picture of the author emmndi
    Parents play a big role in every individuals life. Each individual have got something to pick from both parents (dad / mums).
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  • Profile picture of the author Hazardous
    i think both of them.. cant tell only one...
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  • Profile picture of the author golflook
    i love my father
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  • Profile picture of the author scsheldon33
    mom and dad...because they are both around to guide and teach me a lot about life...
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    • Profile picture of the author divingfenix
      Pivotal...I think this word is such a relative term for me when it deals with this question...My mother raised us and as a caregiver (one that clothed and fed us) was pivotal in that regard. As an emotional entity, she was however non-existent. I grew up hearing how I was supposed to be an abortion and was left to wonder why I was alive at all and hence struggled with suicidal attempts at every turn. I actually began to research how to do it right because I felt like such a failure that I couldn't even succeed at completing my own demise. My father really was not involved in my life and having his own 'new' family, left little opportunity for any change in his level of interaction in my life. I did make a conscious effort to get to know him when I was in my mid twenties. He ended up dying not too long after and I will always remain grateful I found closure in that relationship. I found new understanding of all the events that had transpired during my formative years and was finally able to have a relationship with my father. I learned so much from all the events in my life. Although there are things I still struggle with in wanting to be loved and accepted, I think they both played a pivotal role in my life.
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  • Profile picture of the author Renavon
    Father, although my mother taught me most about right and wrong, politeness etc my father taught my most about surviving in life. Whether it be means of money, or emotionally.
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    Hi,

    My mother helped me to achieve the destination goal.
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  • Profile picture of the author charidemos
    I think both of my parents are awesome in their own style. They both contributed to my life and I am grateful to them for as long as I live
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  • Profile picture of the author taniharjo
    Both play equally important role for me
    Father is on the goal, time management, ways of thinking stuff
    and mother is on the moral stuff
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    Both, they have strong characters and that has made me what I am today. I love both so much.
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  • Profile picture of the author Carmelia Brown
    Unconditional love of both parents in very important. I think my dad has influenced me far more than mom. May be that's because me being male was more attached to father, want to be like him etc...
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  • Profile picture of the author marlinbaker
    i think my mom...SHE IS THE ONE WHO LEADS US ALL THE WAY...
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    MY MOM BCOZ MY FATHER LEFT ME..
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    Both but Mum can be singled out
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  • Profile picture of the author uebomoyi
    Both parents are pretty equal but I have to hand it down to my father. My dad has pushed me through a lot of hard times when I felt like giving up or not trying at all and if it wasn't for him, I don't know if I'd be where I am today. Mother's usually play the role of the nice parent and then fathers are usually the strict ones who apply discipline and that's basically the type of household I grew up in. But yeah my dad has really inspired me to strive and be a successful individual.
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  • Profile picture of the author mariazz
    For me, both of them. They've been my hero. countless time I can proved that they have mush inspiration to my life. Because of them I would not be here where I am now.
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    I appreaciate and love both of them I would not be who i am without them
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  • Profile picture of the author Kom
    I love my mom and my dad.
    what ever I am now, will never happen without Them,

    Both of them have the same high value, what ever make it differrent because the situation, remember they are become you,

    dont go so far, think like this with one is more importan us, your right hand or left hand

    kom
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  • Profile picture of the author aishadunn
    Both of them do play a very important role in our lives. But upon reading other comments here, I saw that most say hat it's their mother who has greater influence in them. Well, I also agree with you all.
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  • Profile picture of the author elexmedia
    My mother give big impact to my life...

    He always says short advice, but I dobn;t know why, her short advice always have deep impact in me.
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  • Profile picture of the author webexperts666
    Both of them do a great role. I learned so many things from both managing, self improvement.
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    for me both of them...i am not be here on this earth without them...
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  • Profile picture of the author Illuminart
    I say both. No matter what or how much are the shortcomings of any of our parents, the point is that without one of them, we would have never existed.
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  • Profile picture of the author jameswatson2002
    In my case it was mostly my mother, she has truly inspirational and motivated me in everything that I do!
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    My mother has been the voice of reason for me. She has a lot of life experience and is like the "YODA" in MY life.
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  • Profile picture of the author WiFi
    Father taught me all about taking risks while the mother was very protective and sheltered my siblings and I. We had balance.
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  • Profile picture of the author iDesigners
    Well, both of them have different roles in our life. While my mother showed me what real love is father was an ever lasting inspiration to taught me to compete and win the race!
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  • Profile picture of the author phoenixseo
    I would say father.He teached me how to write,how to speak,how to eat everything today am is because of my father.
    I love my mother also!
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    • Profile picture of the author Chris1212
      Hard to choose. I was very close to both growing up and so I learned so much from them I could never begin to write/tell it all.

      Both were born in the very early 1930's, so that was a different generation, growing up in the depression era. I learned how to stretch things, money, food, material things, whatever, to the point that I can live happily and comfortably on FAR less than most would believe possible. It's common sense to me to not be wasteful, because I was taught that growing up.

      They believed in honesty and hard work, and treating others with respect. We spent time together. We didn't waste our time on reality shows and video games and it was a completely different life than kids see today. Very sad, I think.

      I would have to say that every good quality I have today was learned from them. Money was really tight, and I didn't get presents on birthdays and xmas, etc.. but I never went hungry (as my parents had growing up) and had everything I needed, plus a 75 acre farm to play on which was heaven to me. So even though I didn't have a lot of material things growing up.. I had more wealth than most because I had so much that really meant something. It shaped who I am and for that I am so grateful.

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  • Profile picture of the author HairyPoppins
    My mother would have out of the two but I find that I'm more akin to my grandparents then I am my parents. I would say I've learned the most from my Grandparents and Television. I know that may sound a little of but it's true. My parents had me young and they just weren't ready to have a kid so I got left i front of a T.V. from day one pretty much. My cable raised me.
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  • Profile picture of the author Greeks
    Both my mother and father played an important role in my life, but i love me mother most.
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  • Profile picture of the author uppergrade
    I agree with pethanks008. Both father and mother play their roles very well in our life. so we have to pay same respect to both of them.
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