Beware of such people

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More than chemicals and pollution, I think a certain type of people are toxic for us too. These people are those who would have all the pleasures in their lives but will still roam around with a droopy face. Ask these people how was their 2 week long vacation in a five star resort in Bahamas and they will answer that the baggage collection line was too long on the airport.

They act sad and depressed and love to pull everyone down with themselves. Such people should be said good bye to, from a mile away.

I am sure, you must have encountered at least one such person in your life.

Tell me how you deal with them.
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  • Profile picture of the author Mr Bloggy
    From your post I say you are one of these people. So I just encountered one. I say forget about them and enjoy your own things in life
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    • Profile picture of the author jayden.fellze
      Originally Posted by Mr Bloggy View Post

      From your post I say you are one of these people. So I just encountered one. I say forget about them and enjoy your own things in life


      I don't know why you think that but as far as I am concerned, I think i am a positive person. I like people who are happy and have the courage to smile and stay calm even in the worst situation. But by this I don't mean that I like being frivolous. But I just don't see the point in being stressed about something that we can get in control easily.

      I also don't see the point of staying sad even in good times.:p I prefer people who can have fun and know how to be happy when they deserve it:p
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  • Profile picture of the author Jared Alberghini
    Originally Posted by jayden.fellze View Post

    Tell me how you deal with them.
    I avoid them

    Misery loves company.
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  • Profile picture of the author Old Goat
    SNL has a great one - Debbie Downer.

    Some call these people "Psychic Vampires" because being around them drains your energy. Many don't seem to realize they are doing it either.
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  • Profile picture of the author Alex1985
    I am quite concern about a lot of advertisement that some school are advertising in the newspaper enticing people to learn trading and I know from a trader who went for the T3B (stock) and the C2O (US options) that the trainer and mentors are not certified qualified in the finacial industry. They claim their system are 80% accurate but there is no live account to show any public nor any students can dare to open their accounts to show people if what they follow true to the strategies did make money. Dont believed me, please ask them to show you LIVE trade and not PAPER money trade.

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    • Profile picture of the author globalpro
      Like Jared said, it's best to avoid them. Misery is always looking for company and loves to find someone they can feed off of.

      Alex,

      Be careful of posting comments totally irrelevant to the thread. It could be construed as post stuffing.

      Originally Posted by Alex1985 View Post

      I am quite concern about a lot of advertisement that some school are advertising in the newspaper enticing people to learn trading and I know from a trader who went for the T3B (stock) and the C2O (US options) that the trainer and mentors are not certified qualified in the finacial industry. They claim their system are 80% accurate but there is no live account to show any public nor any students can dare to open their accounts to show people if what they follow true to the strategies did make money. Dont believed me, please ask them to show you LIVE trade and not PAPER money trade.
      Thanks,

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      • Profile picture of the author ryda
        Quick! Steer clear from this negative lot.

        The ones who see the dark clouds in every silver lining.

        Everyone has their down moments, but there are some people who are just so negative, you can almost see perpetual dark clouds hanging above their heads.

        Perhaps they are going through a rough patch, if I'm close to them, I'll try to cheer them up, make them snap out of it.

        Otherwise, there is only so much you can do before their negative vibes affect your beliefs and dreams.

        Ugh the naysayers, the gloomy, the moody and the sad, begone!
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  • Profile picture of the author John Derrick
    "Psychic Vampires" indeed.

    I used to avoid these people because I didn't want to be brought down, but now I have fun with them instead.

    Whatever they say, I react loud and excitedly.

    For example, I have a neighbor who is sullen about everything and ever conversation begins with a complaint about something.

    So when she said "I heard it is going to snow all week." in her sullen tone, I slapped both of my hands together and said "I know! I know... isn't it great!" as if I were a little kid about to open the first present at christmas.

    She went on to say "I probably wont be able to get out of my driveway" and I said "AWESOME! You wont have to go to that job you hate! Wow... you'll get the day off! Your so lucky".

    It doesn't seem to annoy her, but every once and awhile she becomes a bit upbeat. That, or she walks away.

    I have to admit, I really enjoy myself.
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    • Profile picture of the author RickGueli
      Originally Posted by John Derrick View Post

      "Psychic Vampires" indeed.

      I used to avoid these people because I didn't want to be brought down, but now I have fun with them instead.

      Whatever they say, I react loud and excitedly.

      For example, I have a neighbor who is sullen about everything and ever conversation begins with a complaint about something.

      So when she said "I heard it is going to snow all week." in her sullen tone, I slapped both of my hands together and said "I know! I know... isn't it great!" as if I were a little kid about to open the first present at christmas.

      She went on to say "I probably wont be able to get out of my driveway" and I said "AWESOME! You wont have to go to that job you hate! Wow... you'll get the day off! Your so lucky".

      It doesn't seem to annoy her, but every once and awhile she becomes a bit upbeat. That, or she walks away.

      I have to admit, I really enjoy myself.
      Hahahahaha - awesome.
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      • Profile picture of the author jmidas
        Dave, you answered it yourself with that guy - a fifth a day - no one who does that is a very happy person.
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    • Profile picture of the author HowToBeHappyGal
      Originally Posted by John Derrick View Post

      "Psychic Vampires" indeed.

      I used to avoid these people because I didn't want to be brought down, but now I have fun with them instead.

      Whatever they say, I react loud and excitedly.

      For example, I have a neighbor who is sullen about everything and ever conversation begins with a complaint about something.

      So when she said "I heard it is going to snow all week." in her sullen tone, I slapped both of my hands together and said "I know! I know... isn't it great!" as if I were a little kid about to open the first present at christmas.

      She went on to say "I probably wont be able to get out of my driveway" and I said "AWESOME! You wont have to go to that job you hate! Wow... you'll get the day off! Your so lucky".

      It doesn't seem to annoy her, but every once and awhile she becomes a bit upbeat. That, or she walks away.

      I have to admit, I really enjoy myself.
      Brilliant! LOL. I usually just distance myself from negative people, but there is someone I come into contact every work day and can't avoid. I'll definitely try this approach. Thanks.
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    • Profile picture of the author morwanneg
      Originally Posted by John Derrick View Post

      "Psychic Vampires" indeed.

      I used to avoid these people because I didn't want to be brought down, but now I have fun with them instead.

      Whatever they say, I react loud and excitedly.

      For example, I have a neighbor who is sullen about everything and ever conversation begins with a complaint about something.

      So when she said "I heard it is going to snow all week." in her sullen tone, I slapped both of my hands together and said "I know! I know... isn't it great!" as if I were a little kid about to open the first present at christmas.

      She went on to say "I probably wont be able to get out of my driveway" and I said "AWESOME! You wont have to go to that job you hate! Wow... you'll get the day off! Your so lucky".

      It doesn't seem to annoy her, but every once and awhile she becomes a bit upbeat. That, or she walks away.

      I have to admit, I really enjoy myself.
      You're lucky you are not an Empath. Or you probably are because you know what a Psychic vampire is.
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  • Profile picture of the author themessenger
    definitely.. people influence you no matter what you think. I definitely agree with this and I know it to be true.
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  • Profile picture of the author persistence
    "Psychic Vampires?" Reminds me of a book that I read. It is called "Emotional Vampires". A pretty interesting read. I simply avoid those people who do not have the same frequency as me.
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  • Profile picture of the author lina08
    I normally stay away from them, having the belief in myself that when I do get to their position of wealth and freedom, number one,I would be fulfilled because I would have set out positive intentions to get there eg with financial freedom, I would set up a trust fund for autistic kids, give my family a better life and number two, I would forever express gratitude for my abundance and look forward to encouraging others to achieve theirs.
    that's my philosophy in life
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  • Profile picture of the author Spike SpiegelIM
    Definitely got that kind of people around me, but sure as hell I avoid them like th e plague, don't want the negativity passed on to me..
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  • Profile picture of the author dowa16
    Urgh! I hate people like that...I think they are the way there are because they don't look at the finer things in life, they just look at the ugly and bad things. They have so much yet they still complain, so blessed yet they still feel as if they are suffering! It makes me sick sometimes, I have a friend like that. Her parents are filthy rich, they give her everything she wants but if it's a wrong color and has a little tiny problem she throws a fit! Sometimes I want to slap her and tell her to stop acting like a spoiled brat!
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    • Profile picture of the author Jonathan 2.0
      Originally Posted by dowa16 View Post

      Urgh! I hate people like that...I think they are the way there are because they don't look at the finer things in life, they just look at the ugly and bad things. They have so much yet they still complain, so blessed yet they still feel as if they are suffering! It makes me sick sometimes, I have a friend like that. Her parents are filthy rich, they give her everything she wants but if it's a wrong color and has a little tiny problem she throws a fit! Sometimes I want to slap her and tell her to stop acting like a spoiled brat!
      When I have feelings like that I look at it as an opportunity to be better able to deal with people who are negative. That's a good skill to have in my opinion. Personally I like becoming a stronger and more positive person.

      I've met a lot of people who were negative and I don't have a bad word to say about any of them. Because underneath their negativity they're awesome people.

      Some people have been through terrible things which they weren't perpered to deal with. And if you're stronger than them then you should be helping them or at least being more accepting.

      Usually people who are negative to other people are expressing something negative themselves. That's been my experience anyway. And calling people "Psycic Vampires", "Dream Stealers," "Negative People," and the like is bang out of order.
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      • Profile picture of the author oboi2121
        Hello Omari Taylor here,

        Great post and a good point. You should remove the toxic people from your life if it is possible. If they are a family member you must limit the time you spend with at certain family member.

        If someone is in a bad mood I always try to to cheer that person up and get them thinking positive but I only try once. You can only try to help others but you can fight there battles and if they don't want to take you advice, then you know what to do. Say good bye and move on with your life.
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  • Profile picture of the author Jonathan 2.0
    Both of my parents were often negative. And as much as I love them and everything they gave me I couldn't stand the constant negativity. That's partly why I decided to become a more positive person. Here's what worked for me:

    1) Being higher self-esteem: You can't really argue with someone when they're more positive and more accurate in conversation
    2) Having strong boundaries: Sometimes I would say "I don't want to hear about your problems. Please don't use me to vent" which they'd be OK about because they know that unloading their bad day on me isn't a good thing to do
    3) Knowledge and understanding: Underneath my Mother's constant criticism, over-warning of danger, and general negativity, there was love and she was doing the best she could with what she had
    Unless they're family or close friends I'd add another one
    4) Don't spend too much time with them

    I'm not going to call people "Psychic Vampires" or anything equally preposterous just because they're negative--especially my wonderful Mother and Father. Labeling people something negative doesn't help them. It just makes you feel superior. Generally my parents did and amazing job. We have a good relationship. And I love them. It definitely wasn't their fault life wasn't as kind to them as it could have been.

    You may want to spend your time around more positive people (and I think that's a good idea) but that doesn't mean you have to be judgmental. Try practicing some understanding and emphaphy.
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  • Profile picture of the author kingofcash
    Hello :

    You need to ignore such people and not let yourself get affected by them.

    God Bless.
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  • Profile picture of the author Habitat
    Meh you don't have to ignore them. Just don't pay any mind to them. You'll find people like that in the workplace. Remember to thank God for everyday and to live it to the best of your ability. While they're wasting time being depressed you can be productive and happy.
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  • Profile picture of the author Christie Love
    I do my best to avoid negative people as much as I can. I know negative people bring me down. Instead, I tend to stay by myself a lot and work on surrounding myself with positive thoughts and things that make me happy.
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  • Profile picture of the author MemberWing
    Let the feeling of negativity go. This is the best way to eliminate the real cause of negative encounters.
    Avoiding them would just keep them popping in your life again and again. Positive thinking is "putting good stuff on top of bad stuff".

    They are not bringing negativity in your life. They just showing what's already inside us.
    It might be a challenging concept to grasp though for our blame-trained ("they are bad") minds.

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  • Profile picture of the author bigcashking
    You will bound to encounter them...they can be your partners, colleagues, friends or even family members.

    You can try to avoid them as far as possible, as they can easily pass the negativity to you. If you have to work together with them, just do your work and 'block out the negative' and concentrate on being positive and try to inject 'positivity' in the conversation. Only be with them when needed, and not mix with them all the time when there is no need to.

    As for family member, you probably can't avoid them totally...but you can probably 'shut your mind' when they speak 'negative things', ignore what they say that are negative. Speak positive. Some will think you are crazy when you speak positive and do the things (which you must do to succeed). They think what you do is a waste of time and you may be hurting yourself, so they speak negative (out of love). Just keep your faith and be persistent in doing.

    Your family members (even friends) want to protect you from harm (some may do it out of jealousy too if they see you getting ahead of them) and hence they will try to stop you by speaking negative on what you are doing. Understand where they are coming from but still love them as they do not know what they are doing (even though they think they know!)

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    • Profile picture of the author Ricky Martin
      a lot of great answers here.

      I just dont buy in to the pitty party. If they wish to be down they will, it will not include me.

      I focus on what is good in my life , and draw to me the goodness I want.
      I say a silent prayer for these people in hopes that they can find peace.

      thanks for the question....Ricky
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  • Profile picture of the author MelodyInFlorida
    Originally Posted by jayden.fellze View Post

    More than chemicals and pollution, I think a certain type of people are toxic for us too. These people are those who would have all the pleasures in their lives but will still roam around with a droopy face. Ask these people how was their 2 week long vacation in a five star resort in Bahamas and they will answer that the baggage collection line was too long on the airport.

    They act sad and depressed and love to pull everyone down with themselves. Such people should be said good bye to, from a mile away.

    I am sure, you must have encountered at least one such person in your life.

    Tell me how you deal with them.
    Yep! Well said..misery loves company! Nothing ever makes them happy! Just plain sad. Then don't forget the users that drain people just so they can use them up to make themselves feel good. While thinking they are doing you the favor! Life is crazy!
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  • Profile picture of the author thelastmuse
    I absolutely agree! I have a friend who's so depressive. When talking to him, it's like he's sucking up my energy and eventually find myself depressed too, by the end of the day.

    Now, I stay away from them. I love people who are joyful and always have the zest for life :-)
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  • Profile picture of the author Earl Smith
    You cant let these type of people take you down to there level of haterism...

    Yes haterism is a contagious disease that is caught by falling in to peoples negativity. The common cure of Haterism is to hit them back with something positive. Im not saying this is gonna make them change their thought process but it will help fight that poisoneous haterism they put in the air. You cant change people you can only prevent them from changing you.
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  • Profile picture of the author sante
    Originally Posted by jayden.fellze View Post

    More than chemicals and pollution, I think a certain type of people are toxic for us too. These people are those who would have all the pleasures in their lives but will still roam around with a droopy face. Ask these people how was their 2 week long vacation in a five star resort in Bahamas and they will answer that the baggage collection line was too long on the airport.

    They act sad and depressed and love to pull everyone down with themselves. Such people should be said good bye to, from a mile away.

    I am sure, you must have encountered at least one such person in your life.

    Tell me how you deal with them.
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    • Profile picture of the author sante
      Animals react. People observe.

      Cheers!
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    • Profile picture of the author ayuwarr
      I agree with you. Just IGNORE period.
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  • Profile picture of the author joshtheman
    If you think you can counter the negative energies of these people then help them. Sometimes all they need is an uplifting energy from a happy person who does not get affected by negative energies easily.
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  • Profile picture of the author Saul
    I agree with John Derrick: a positive upbeat confrontation is better than ignoring these
    unfortunate negative people. Ignoring is much easier... but not very generous...

    I agree one shouldn't devote his life to help others at the expense of one's own
    life quality... but -really- how much effort and time does it take to smile?? not much more
    than it takes to ignore someone... with the difference that smiling is healthier

    I work with one such person... unfortunately for 8 hours a day I have to deal with her.
    The most negative person I've ever met. Ever. We've been having fights (I'm her boss)
    until I decided I cannot afford to be seen behaving so "unprofessionally" by her collegues,
    even though she really drove me up the walls with her negativity. I manage the customer
    service for mopeds and bikes and most of the customers who call us don't do it because
    they don't have anything better to do: they call to complain. We NEED to have a positive
    working environment to provide a better service and she doesn't help one bit by complaining
    about anything and everything at any time...

    So we've been fighting because of her negativity UNTIL I decided not to fight anymore.
    No magic tricks, special ways, fancy techniques... We are masters of our destiny... and
    also of our behaviour and how we relate with other people.

    I'm a very positive person (one must be to work in customer care ;-) and I decided I don't
    need to be brought down and angered by her. So from that moment I've always smiled
    and treated her with so much courtesy and kindness that she... hates me even more ;-)
    eheheh, she's so negative that she hates my kindness and positivity... but I won't ignore
    her. Even if I could I wouldn't ignore her. Instead I'm trying to help her see how useless
    her behaviour is by giving the best example of a positive approach to all her collegues
    (who now think like me that she's emotionally unbalanced), which also gives a great
    example of how patient they must be with our customers - and in fact I've been told more
    than once (by people in my team) that if I can tolerate her and be polite they should be
    able to handle even the maddest of customers ;°)

    Basically I turned a critical situation in a positive example of how difficult and negative
    people should be handled: very few of them can resist extreme hardcore kindness ;°)

    So don't ignore people who are so negative: treat them with even more positivity, courtesy
    and smile as much as you can.

    They either learn that being positive is so much smarter than being negative, or they'll
    hate your smile so much that it will be them who will avoid you, so you won't need to
    ignore them ;-)

    ciao,
    Saul

    Ps. but yeah, if you don't need to relate with them and they are not part of your life
    just forget about them and "ignore" them... if instead you feel more generous share a
    smile with them... even if it's just to piss them off ...eheheh
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