Are you aware of your inner dialogue?
Let's try something now...Be aware of it at this moment.
Just get quiet and listen, there is a voice inside you that is constantly talking to you all the time.
If you have ignored the power of this little voice, you have been missing a great tool for developing your personal power.
Your inner dialogue can be good or bad. If you have a positive thinking habit, your inner dialogue most likely is positive, and you will be very fortunate in having the joy of positive living. Unfortunately, most people don't have a positive thinking habit; their inner dialogues are negative. Although they are working hard to improve their situation, they are literally pulling themselves back all the time, and wondering why there seems to be no progress.
How much success and how much fulfillment you get in your life is directly proportional to the quality of your inner dialogue.
Since your inner dialogues are so important to your personal development, we really need to have a better understanding of the roles they play.
Our inner dialogue is constantly judging and evaluating. Whatever we see, hear or sense, our inner dialogue will give us a judgment of good or bad, right or wrong, based on our past experiences. This is very important for our survival. If you see a snake, your inner dialogue will tell you it is dangerous; if you see a flower, your inner dialogue will tell you it is beautiful. Your inner dialogue plays the role of guardian, protecting you from danger.
However this inner dialogue is not always helpful when it comes to developing your personal power. Do you have a habit of saying the word "can't"? If you do, I suggest you eliminate this word from your language. This may be the most valuable suggestion I can give you. BE CAREFUL when your inner dialogue is telling you that you can't do something.
To protect you from danger, your inner dialogue has the tendency to avoid doing new things. Its intention is good, it is trying to protect you, but at the same time, it limits you too much . In order to grow, you must take on new challenges, learn to do new things. Suppose you want to make a million dollars but you've never done this before. You search the entire database of the past experiences stored in your mind, and can't succeed in finding a way. Your inner dialogue will conclude "You Can't". It will try hard to convince you that what it says is true, because it does not want you to be in danger. However, in reality you must learn new skills and the new mindset of a millionaire in order to have the new experience of making a million dollars. You will never find the solution in your old database.
Replace negative inner dialogue with positive ones. Don't take for granted whatever your inner dialogue tells you. Think it one step further. Is what it says really true? Be aware of your negative inner dialogue, and replace it with a positive one. That is all you have to do to achieve a successful and more fulfilled life.
If it is so simple, why isn't everybody doing it?
There is only one reason and that is, not everyone knows what is good and what is not good. This may sound like non-sense, but it is true. The majority of people don't know what is good for them and what is not. When people have a problem, they go out to seek for solutions. They buy books, go to seminars, seek for mentor ships, and hopefully these will solve their problems. Unfortunately, these things will never solve all their problems, unless they...
Change their approach. Only when they realize that the solution is not outside of them, but inside of them, will they start to solve their problems. If you forget everything remember this: "There is a solution inside you to every one of your problems". You don't have to go outside to seek for solutions; the solution is already inside you. There is a part of you that is eternal, which knows the answers to all your problems. You only need to get connected to it. Listen to this eternal part of you and you will never have any problems. This part of you knows what is good for you and what is not. You probably would call it your intuition.
By listening to your true self more and more, you will know the right answers more and more. Eventually, you will replace your negative inner dialogue with a positive one. You don't have to work hard on this, it happens automatically once you get into the habit of listening to your true self.
You can speed up this process. Here's a technique from Dr. Deepak Chopra:
Here's a positive inner dialogue exercise. Every time you look into a mirror, make eye contact with your image, and repeat silently the following sentences.
- I am totally independent of the good or bad opinions of others.
- I am beneath no one.
- I am fearless in the face of any and all challenges.
These are some of the best inner dialogues you can have.
Repeat them often; make them deeply embedded in your subconscious mind. You will see your life change automatically.